Too Much, Apparently

Alice Tew and Carly Radford

A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

  1. 20 hr ago

    45. Too Tired to Record - Walking our talk and taking a break

    Ever felt like you're too tired to rest?Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, it's just Alice (one of two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) sharing that we're taking a short break. This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): needing a rest, feeling guilty for taking one, doing it anyway 👀 What it looks like in real life: stopping feels like falling behind or letting everyone down but it's still necessary 🧠 Why our brains do it: worth tied to output, rest that has to be earned first, neurodivergent changeable capacity 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: taking on too much, not having downtime, feeling too guilty to stop, enjoying the work and not wanting to stop the flow 🧰 Coping mechanisms: join us for reflective journal prompts on Substack or get the Summit VIP Pass for our talk and talks on sustainable practice 🌱 How to make peace with it: take the break, stay connected on Substack, come back rested Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 Resources mentioned Substack: Too Much, Apparently Prosper in Private Practice Summit (lifetime access closes Wed 1st July) 💬 New episodes every Monday (paused during the break).🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    2 min
  2. 44. Too Old to Make Friends - Why Adult Friendships Feel So Hard (And What Actually Helps)

    22 Jun

    44. Too Old to Make Friends - Why Adult Friendships Feel So Hard (And What Actually Helps)

    Ever felt like you’re too awkward to make friends as an adult? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists navigating connection in a world that doesn’t make it easy) get real about why making friends in adulthood can feel so confusing, exposing, and genuinely difficult. We explore the gap between wanting connection and actually knowing how to create it — from social anxiety and overthinking to modern life, time pressures, and the loss of built-in community. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello hovering over messages, wanting friends but not knowing how to start, and feeling like everyone else already has their people. 👀 What it looks like in real life: Struggling with small talk, not knowing how to turn one interaction into a friendship, feeling out of place in social settings, and connections that fizzle out before they deepen. 🧠 Why our brains do it: Fear of rejection, lack of modelling, social anxiety, past experiences, and the reality that adult life doesn’t naturally create repeated, meaningful contact. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Avoiding reaching out, overthinking every interaction, freezing in conversations, relying on online connection, or convincing yourself it’s “too late.” 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Staying in your comfort zone, withdrawing, telling yourself you’re “just not good at it,” or waiting for friendships to happen naturally (even when they don’t). 🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe it’s not that you’re bad at friendship — maybe it’s that adult friendship requires intention, courage, and small, imperfect steps. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. -------------------------------------------------------------------- adult friendship podcast, loneliness podcast, making friends podcast, social anxiety podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, neurodivergent podcast, connection podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    46 min
  3. 43. Too Many Tabs Open in My Brain - Task Overwhelm, Curiosity Spirals and Letting Go of Wasted Potential

    15 Jun

    43. Too Many Tabs Open in My Brain - Task Overwhelm, Curiosity Spirals and Letting Go of Wasted Potential

    Ever felt like you're too full of ideas and tasks to ever switch off and rest?Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about having a brain with far too many tabs open. The kind that has five Chrome windows, 92 tabs on your phone, three notebooks on the go, and hands you a brilliant new idea right when you're already drowning in the last ten.We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to make something honest while also being scared it might be boring / cringe / too much / not enough. This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello five Chrome windows, the 11pm "further versus farther" deep dive, and the book idea you've pitched your partner six different times👀 What it looks like in real life: counting your actual open tabs, deep diving the mechanics of drowning at half ten at night, building elaborate systems you never use🧠 Why our brains do it: curiosity that won't quit, ideas as fantasy and avoidance, externalising everything because you can't hold it in your head anymore🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Alice's spreadsheet brain full of tasks, Carly's blank canvas covered in paint splatters, the fear that you're wasting your potential🧰 Coping mechanisms: colour-coded calendars, the two-bowl task picker, the Eisenhower Matrix, gamified to-do apps, a Bright Shiny Things notebook, and getting okay with quitting🌱 How to make peace with it: you'll never clear the list, and that's allowed, some ideas are just sparks you get to enjoy rather than tasks you failed to finish Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡 Resources mentioned The Prosper in Private Practice Summit - Join Here! (Affiliate link - It's completely free to join and we get commission if you upgrade to the VIP package)Meditations for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanThe Eisenhower Matrix (urgent / important method)Finch (gamified self-care and to-do app)💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice Join us at the Prosper in Private Practice Summit! (Affiliate link - It's completely free to join and we get commission if you upgrade to the VIP package) 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    53 min
  4. 42. Too Loyal To Let Go - The Hidden Cost of Always Being the “Good Friend”

    8 Jun

    42. Too Loyal To Let Go - The Hidden Cost of Always Being the “Good Friend”

    Ever felt like you’re too loyal to walk away from people who hurt you? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists navigating very different experiences of friendship and connection) get real about loyalty — when it’s beautiful, when it’s painful, and when it quietly keeps you stuck in relationships that aren’t good for you. We explore what it means to be the one who always shows up, always gives, always stays — and why letting go can feel so much harder than staying, even when staying hurts. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello being the 3am friend, giving endless chances, over-giving in relationships, and struggling to stop caring even when you’ve been hurt. 👀 What it looks like in real life: One-sided friendships, doing all the emotional labour, staying too long, overlooking hurtful behaviour, and feeling like you’re always the one trying to hold the relationship together. 🧠 Why our brains do it: Attachment patterns, fear of rejection, low self-worth, people-pleasing, and the belief that if you just love people enough, they’ll love you back the same way. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Clinging, over-functioning in friendships, avoiding conflict, rationalising behaviour, and struggling to leave even when you know something isn’t right. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Over-giving, staying silent about hurt, explaining others’ behaviour away, lowering your needs, and prioritising connection over your own wellbeing. 🌱 How to make peace with it: Your loyalty isn’t the problem — but it deserves to land somewhere safe, mutual, and valued. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. sensitivity podcast, friendship podcast, people pleasing podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, emotional podcast, boundaries podcast, relationship podcast, trauma podcast, neurodivergent podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    52 min
  5. 41. Too Opinionated to Be Liked - When You Have Strong Opinions and Rejection Sensitivity

    1 Jun

    41. Too Opinionated to Be Liked - When You Have Strong Opinions and Rejection Sensitivity

    Ever felt like you're too opinionated to be liked? Like the moment you share an actual opinion, you're already replaying it in your head wondering if you've ruined something? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about what it's like to be someone with strong views AND a nervous system that takes rejection like a full-body event. The double bind of caring enough to have opinions, and caring enough to be devastated when those opinions aren't received well. We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to be honest while also being scared it might be too much, too intense, too political, too feminist, too angry. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too: burning opinions stuck in your throat, the 3-day spiral after speaking up, the car ride home rehearsing what you should have said instead👀 What it looks like in real life: biting your tongue at family dinners, drafting messages you never send, going quiet at work and feeling like a fraud, crying in the car after a dinner party🧠 Why our brains do it: rejection sensitivity, how women get called "opinionated" when men get called "passionate," and the way new rejections hook back into old ones🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the impulsive blurter, the 300-years-of-thinking-then-saying-it person, the one who's gone so quiet she's lost track of what she thinks🧰 Coping mechanisms: choosing your rooms, finding people who can hold complexity, checking in with people afterwards instead of catastrophising on your own🌱 How to make peace with it: your opinions aren't the problem - the rooms you've been sharing them in might beThanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    49 min
  6. 40. Too Complex to Function - Overthinking, Labels, AI & Why Understanding Yourself Isn’t Fixing It

    25 May

    40. Too Complex to Function - Overthinking, Labels, AI & Why Understanding Yourself Isn’t Fixing It

    Ever felt like you’re too complex to function like everyone else? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who know what it’s like to overthink yourself into a corner) get real about what happens when trying to understand yourself actually leaves you feeling more stuck, more broken, and further away from who you are. We talk about the endless loop of self-analysis — books, labels, diagnoses, AI, late-night Googling — and why more information doesn’t always bring clarity. Sometimes, it just creates more noise. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello 2am deep dives, collecting labels, over-analysing every thought, and still feeling like you don’t quite make sense. 👀 What it looks like in real life: Endless researching, asking AI for answers, replaying conversations, trying to “figure yourself out”, and feeling more confused the more you try. 🧠 Why our brains do it: Trauma, self-doubt, a need for certainty, and the belief that if you can just understand yourself enough, you’ll finally fix what feels wrong. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Over-identifying with labels, feeling boxed in by diagnoses, relying on external answers, and losing connection with your own sense of self. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Researching, intellectualising, using AI for reassurance, analysing your patterns, and trying to “solve” yourself. 🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe the answer isn’t more understanding — maybe it’s learning to be with yourself without needing to fix anything. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. --------------------------------------------------------------------sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, self discovery podcast, anxiety podcast, emotional podcast, neurodivergent podcast, trauma podcast, burnout podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    54 min
  7. 39. Too Sensitive For This Body - Chronic Illness, Sensitive Nervous Systems and Fighting to be Believed

    18 May

    39. Too Sensitive For This Body - Chronic Illness, Sensitive Nervous Systems and Fighting to be Believed

    Ever felt like your body is too reactive, too unpredictable, too sensitive to just get on with life? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about what it's actually like to live in a sensitive body. The chronic illness nobody connects to your nervous system, the medical appointments that leave you feeling dismissed, and the exhausting gap between how you look and how you actually feel. We unpack our own experiences, spiral in real time, and talk honestly about what it's like to know something is wrong and not be believed. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello hanging your head out the car window because of someone's hairspray, breaking your foot by standing up, and spending years with back pain you never mentioned to a doctor because what's the point 👀 What it looks like in real life: sensory sensitivities, medication reactions, temperature changes, gut issues, fatigue that doesn't lift, and bodies that just respond to everything more 🧠 Why our brains do it: the nervous system doesn't live in your mind, it runs through your entire body, and a sensitive nervous system means a sensitive everything 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: fibromyalgia, hypermobility, EDS, POTS, MCAS, chronic fatigue, ME/CFS, PCOS, PMDD, pain sensitivity, proprioception, and more conditions that cluster in neurodivergent and sensitive people than medicine likes to admit 🧰 Coping mechanisms: believing yourself first, advocating in appointments, pacing, spoon theory, working with your body instead of against it, and knowing when to push for more 🌱 How to make peace with it: your body isn't the problem, it's trying to communicate with you, and learning to respond with curiosity instead of criticism changes everything Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    43 min
  8. 38. Too Invalidated to Trust Myself - Chronic Invalidation, Self-Doubt and Learning to Trust Your Feelings Again

    11 May

    38. Too Invalidated to Trust Myself - Chronic Invalidation, Self-Doubt and Learning to Trust Your Feelings Again

    Ever felt like you’re too uncertain to trust your own feelings?Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who know what it’s like to question everything you feel) get real about chronic invalidation — what happens when you’ve been told, directly or subtly, that your thoughts, feelings, and experiences aren’t quite right. We explore how that drip, drip, drip of being dismissed, corrected, or misunderstood can slowly erode your ability to trust yourself — and why so many sensitive and neurodivergent people end up over-analysing everything, checking with others, and wondering if they’re “allowed” to feel the way they do. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello second-guessing everything, asking “am I allowed to feel like this?”, and needing other people’s opinions to figure out your own. 👀 What it looks like in real life: Feeling confused in conversations, going into shutdown or overwhelm when you’re not understood, replaying interactions, and carrying a quiet sense of “maybe I’m wrong.” 🧠 Why our brains do it: Chronic invalidation, gaslighting-like experiences, trauma, and years of being told — in big and small ways — that your internal experience can’t be trusted. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: People-pleasing, over-analysing, withdrawing from relationships, struggling to speak up, or feeling disconnected from your own intuition and gut. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Seeking reassurance, scanning for the “right” answer, suppressing emotions, or trying to override your feelings with logic. 🌱 How to make peace with it: You feel how you feel — and learning to trust yourself again starts with letting your experience be real. Thanks for listening      💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- sensitivity podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, self doubt podcast, emotional validation, trauma podcast, neurodivergent podcast, overthinking podcast, trust yourself, gaslighting effects, Too Much Apparently podcast

    52 min
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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

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  • Creator
    Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    46
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Show Website
    Too Much, Apparently

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