Too Much, Apparently

Alice Tew and Carly Radford
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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

  1. 25. Too Busy to Have Fun — Burnout, Productivity Guilt and Learning to Rest Without Earning It

    3 DAYS AGO

    25. Too Busy to Have Fun — Burnout, Productivity Guilt and Learning to Rest Without Earning It

    Ever feel too busy to have fun? Too tired to rest? Too responsible to slow down? Yeah, us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, therapists Carly and Alice talk honestly about burnout, overworking, productivity guilt and why so many of us struggle to rest without feeling lazy, selfish or “behind”. We explore how anxiety, trauma, perfectionism and nervous system dysregulation keep us stuck in constant doing mode and why “just slow down” is rarely helpful advice. If you’re always overwhelmed, exhausted, cancelling plans, putting yourself last or feeling guilty for taking time off, this episode is for you. We unpack our own patterns, reflect in real time and share practical, compassionate insights into building a healthier relationship with rest, fun and balance. This time we talked about: 🎙️ Feeling too busy to restOverworking, emotional exhaustion, cancelling plans, saving energy for work 👀 How burnout shows upAlways being “on”, struggling to relax, choosing chores over joy, avoiding downtime 🧠 Why we get stuck in productivity modeAnxiety, hypervigilance, childhood conditioning, hustle culture, fear of stillness 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 Different burnout patternsQuiet vs loud fun, intellectual busyness, time blindness, people pleasing, control through doing 🧰 Common coping strategiesStaying busy, overplanning, scrolling, “earning” rest, emotional avoidance 🌱 Learning to rest without guiltYou don’t have to earn rest. Fun is not a luxury. Slowing down is part of healing. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    57 min
  2. 24. Too Honest for My Own Good - The Line Between Being Truthful and Being Hurtful

    2 FEB

    24. Too Honest for My Own Good - The Line Between Being Truthful and Being Hurtful

    Ever been told you’re “too blunt” when you were just being honest? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who value honesty deeply) talk about what it means to be too honest for your own good — when being direct, truthful, or blunt gets you labelled rude, difficult, or inappropriate. We explore the messy middle ground between honesty and kindness, intent and impact, and why some of us feel physically unable to sugar-coat things — especially when masking, trauma, neurodivergence, power dynamics, and gendered expectations are in the mix. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): being told “you could’ve worded that better,” saying the thing everyone’s thinking, and replaying conversations on loop afterwards 👀 What it looks like in real life: workplace emails without “fluff,” family dynamics, friendship ruptures, and being chronically misunderstood 🧠 Why our brains do it: values around truth-telling, autism and masking, trauma responses, power dynamics, and social conditioning 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: bluntness under stress, over-filtering, people-pleasing, or saying nothing at all 🧰 Coping mechanisms: checking intent vs impact, compassion-led honesty, timing, and repairing when things land badly 🌱 How to make peace with it: honesty without compassion is cruelty — but honesty with care can be a form of trust Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram + TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- honesty podcast, blunt communication, being too honest, neurodivergent communication, autism podcast, masking podcast, people pleasing, sensitivity podcast, therapy podcast, trauma and communication, power dynamics, emotional honesty, Too Much Apparently podcast

    54 min
  3. 23. Too Much to Share - From Trauma Dumping to Truth Telling

    19 JAN

    23. Too Much to Share - From Trauma Dumping to Truth Telling

    Ever felt like you're too open to keep your mouth shut when you "should"? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about oversharing, trauma dumping, and why some of us can't help but say the thing everyone else is thinking but won't say out loud. We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want genuine connection while also being terrified you've just ruined everything by being… yourself. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): The vulnerability hangover, replaying conversations for days, and that sinking "why did I say that?" feeling 👀 What it looks like in real life: Sharing your divorce at book club, asking "too personal" questions, talking about periods/poo/bodies without shame, telling your dentist about that weird growth 🧠 Why our brains do it: Growing up with critical or emotionally unavailable parents, desperate attempts to be understood, trauma responses disguised as "no filter," and the generational shame around being a woman with a body 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: The difference between sharing for connection vs. sharing for validation, oversharing vs. over-explaining, being "brutally honest" vs. being unkind, and how AuDHD can play a role 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Withdrawing after being humiliated, only sharing with "safe" people, performing a version of yourself, or leaning into the "I just say what everyone's thinking" persona 🌱 How to make peace with it: Focus on finding safe people to share with instead of shaming yourself for sharing at all Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we're here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn't therapy, and it's not a substitute for professional support. We're here to share ideas and experiences, but if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. Keywords: oversharing podcast, vulnerability hangover, trauma dumping explained, emotionally unavailable parents, critical parents podcast, no filter personality, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast, belonging podcast, mental health podcast, deep chat podcast, neurodivergent podcast, autism podcast, adhd podcast, AuDHD podcast, outsider syndrome, feeling different podcast, people pleasing podcast, authenticity podcast, friendship podcast, emotional regulation podcast, reparenting podcast, childhood trauma podcast, attachment styles podcast, boundary issues, social anxiety podcast, HSP podcast, highly sensitive person, too honest, foot in mouth syndrome, relationship podcast, inner critic podcast, self-criticism, shame podcast, perfectionism podcast

    44 min
  4. 22. Too Online to Be Okay - The Quiet Exhaustion of Being Always On

    12 JAN

    22. Too Online to Be Okay - The Quiet Exhaustion of Being Always On

    Ever feel like your phone’s glued to your hand — even when you don’t want it to be? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering doom-scrollers) talk about what happens when our phones stop being tools and start feeling like extensions of our nervous systems. We unpack the hidden toll of being constantly connected — how endless scrolling, notifications, and comparison leave us overstimulated, distracted, and quietly drained. And we explore how to start using our devices with more intention, without guilt or shame. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): checking your phone before your brain’s even awake, guilt about screen time, and the shame of “shouldn’t I know better?” 👀 What it looks like in real life: scrolling through five crises before breakfast, watching TV while doom-scrolling, and losing time to invisible noise. 🧠 Why our brains do it: dopamine, design, distraction, and the myth that productivity equals worth. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: compulsive checking, fear of missing out, overstimulation, and avoiding silence. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: digital boundaries, intentional screen time, journalling, curiosity, and compassion for your scrolling self. 🌱 How to make peace with it: it’s not about quitting your phone — it’s about coming home to yourself, even online.  Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- phone addiction podcast, digital burnout podcast, doomscrolling podcast, overstimulation podcast, sensitivity podcast, therapy podcast, social media overwhelm, online addiction podcast, attention fatigue podcast, mental health podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    51 min
  5. 21. Too Young to Be This Old – Feeling Behind in Life, Age Anxiety and Milestone Pressure

    5 JAN

    21. Too Young to Be This Old – Feeling Behind in Life, Age Anxiety and Milestone Pressure

    Ever felt like you’re too young to already be this old? Like you should be further along, more settled, more adult… even though you know life hasn’t been simple or straightforward? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists with very different life paths) talk about feeling out of sync with the so-called “normal” timeline. Turning 40. Not feeling your age. Feeling both childlike and prematurely grown-up. And the quiet heaviness that comes from comparing your life to what you thought it was meant to look like. We explore how early responsibility, trauma, class, neurodivergence and changing cultural milestones shape how old we feel inside — and why so many people feel “behind” even when they’re doing their best. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this too (and we still do): feeling behind in life, age anxiety, not feeling your age, the emotional weight of turning 40 👀 What it looks like in real life: comparing yourself to peers, scrolling Facebook and spiralling, reacting strongly to milestones like marriage, children and home ownership, feeling young and old at the same time 🧠 Why this feeling exists: early adulthood responsibility, delayed or disrupted development, trauma, emotional regulation as generational wealth, executive functioning differences and the myth of a “level playing field” 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: becoming hyper-aware of what you’ve achieved, discounting what you’ve survived, feeling out of step whether you became a parent early or not at all 🧰 Patterns we notice: comparison spirals, minimising your own achievements, measuring your life against outdated or inherited expectations 🌱 How to make peace with it: recognising that being on a different timeline doesn’t mean you’re behind — it means your life unfolded differently Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. —-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast, belonging podcast, mental health podcast, deep chat podcast, neurodivergent podcast, autism podcast, adhd podcast, outsider syndrome, feeling different podcast, people pleasing podcast, authenticity podcast, friendship podcast

    57 min
  6. 20. Too Tired to Transform - “New Year, New Me” Fatigue and the Myth of the Fresh Start

    29/12/2025

    20. Too Tired to Transform - “New Year, New Me” Fatigue and the Myth of the Fresh Start

    Ever hit January feeling like you should be setting goals… but you’d rather hibernate? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) talk about what happens when New Year, new me culture collides with exhaustion, perfectionism, and the pressure to always be improving. We explore why so many of us begin the year already running on empty — and how to approach change gently, without the shame, guilt, or burnout spiral that comes with “failing” your resolutions. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): guilt about not setting goals, the urge to buy four planners, and wondering why everyone else seems motivated when you’re just tired. 👀 What it looks like in real life: forcing positivity, overcommitting, chasing transformation when you actually need rest. 🧠 Why our brains do it: the “fresh start” effect, perfectionism, capitalism, and the illusion of control that planning gives us. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻The different ways it shows up: rigid goal-setting, self-shaming, comparing, and turning on yourself instead of staying with yourself. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: gentler intentions, flexible goals, curiosity, and permission to pause. 🌱 How to make peace with it: maybe you don’t need to become a new you — just stay with yourself as you already are. Thanks for listening. 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram + TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: This podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service near you. --------------------------------- new year burnout podcast, perfectionism podcast, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast, goal setting podcast, rest podcast, mental health podcast, neurodivergent podcast, burnout recovery podcast, self compassion podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast, healing podcast, slow living podcast

    51 min
  7. 19. Too Miserable to Be Merry – Turkey, Tinsel & Family Trauma

    22/12/2025

    19. Too Miserable to Be Merry – Turkey, Tinsel & Family Trauma

    Ever felt like you’re too much, too sensitive or too difficult to just enjoy Christmas?Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about why Christmas can feel unbearable when family trauma, old dynamics and unspoken roles come back online. We talk honestly about what happens when you’ve grown, done the work, built a life that fits you… and then go home and suddenly feel small, reactive or like you’ve undone years of healing. Not because you’re failing, but because your nervous system remembers. We unpack how family systems, emotionally immature parenting and trauma get amplified at Christmas, and why “just enjoy it” is one of the least helpful things anyone can say. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this too (and we still do):Dreading going home, feeling guilty for wanting space, bracing yourself emotionally before seeing family 👀 What it looks like in real life:Regressing around parents, slipping back into old roles, being labelled the problem, performing calm or cheerfulness to keep the peace 🧠 Why our brains do it:Family trauma, emotional flashbacks, nervous system activation, loyalty binds and growing up with emotionally immature parents 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up:People pleasing, shutting down, snapping, overthinking every interaction, feeling like a child in an adult body 🧰 Coping mechanisms:Emotional masking, over-functioning, numbing out, avoiding conflict, telling yourself you “should be fine” 🌱 How to make peace with it:Understanding that struggling at Christmas doesn’t mean you’ve failed at healing — it means you’re human in a relational system that still affects you Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. —--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast, belonging podcast, mental health podcast, deep chat podcast, neurodivergent podcast, autism podcast, adhd podcast, outsider syndrome, feeling different podcast, people pleasing podcast, authenticity podcast, friendship podcast

    1 hr
  8. 18. Too Philosophical to Function - Finding Meaning When Your Brain Won’t Stop Asking “Why”

    15/12/2025

    18. Too Philosophical to Function - Finding Meaning When Your Brain Won’t Stop Asking “Why”

    Ever caught yourself wondering what the point of life is — while unloading the dishwasher? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists, overthinkers, and recovering existential spirallers) explore what it’s like to live with a brain that won’t stop zooming out to ask, what’s the point? We talk about curiosity, meaning, mortality, free will, and the chaos of trying to do the laundry when your mind is contemplating the universe. It’s part philosophy chat, part therapy session, and part gentle reminder that maybe we don’t need all the answers to live meaningfully. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): having existential crises mid-dishwasher unload, questioning reality mid-email, and overthinking the meaning of everything (including birds). 👀 What it looks like in real life: living as an observer instead of a participant, zooming out until life feels absurd, and longing for connection in a world that seems chaotic. 🧠 Why our brains do it: curiosity, sensitivity, metacognition (thinking about thinking), and that human awareness of our own mortality. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: philosophical spirals, nihilism, late-night dread, or searching for purpose in sunsets, science, or spirituality. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: therapy, humour, humanism, small joys, and accepting that maybe the point is to live anyway. 🌱 How to make peace with it: we might never find one big meaning — but we can still find the little ones. Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram + TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: This podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service near you. existential podcast, philosophy podcast, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, deep thinkers podcast, meaning of life podcast, neurodivergent podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, humanism podcast, existential dread, anxiety podcast, curiosity podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    58 min
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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

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  • Creator
    Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    26
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Show Website
    Too Much, Apparently