Too Much, Apparently

Alice Tew and Carly Radford
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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

  1. 29. Too Scared To Be Seen - Vulnerability, Rejection Sensitivity & Hiding Your True Self

    4 DAYS AGO

    29. Too Scared To Be Seen - Vulnerability, Rejection Sensitivity & Hiding Your True Self

    Ever felt too scared to be seen - like longing for connection but the moment someone actually looks at you, you want to disappear? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about vulnerability, being perceived, and why letting people truly see you can feel more like a threat than a gift — even when you desperately want it. We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want connection while also wanting the ground to swallow you whole. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello rescheduling this episode because it felt too vulnerable to record, singing perfectly alone and freezing the moment someone watches, and sharing something honest then immediately wanting to delete it 👀 What it looks like in real life: Avoiding eye contact, clamming up when eyes are on you, hiding from people after a moment of "too much," and post-socialising rumination that goes on way too long 🧠 Why our brains do it: Relational trauma and rejection experiences that taught us being seen is dangerous, internalised shame from critical or dismissive environments, and a nervous system that learned to protect you — even when you don't want it to 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Performance anxiety, hypervigilance to facial expressions and tone, grey-tinted glasses that find danger even when it isn't there, and quietly making your world smaller and smaller 🧰 Coping mechanisms: The "I am only acceptable when..." exercise to uncover your hidden rules, setting non-argumentative internal limits with your inner critic, building your compassionate voice alongside the critical one, and finding the people and spaces where it actually feels safe to try 🌱 How to make peace with it: Start with the lower-risk moments — one small, honest thing at a time — because being seen isn't something you leap into, it's something you practise slowly. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    56 min
  2. 28. Too Creative to Stay in the Lines - Thinking Outside the Box in a Boxed-In World

    2 MAR

    28. Too Creative to Stay in the Lines - Thinking Outside the Box in a Boxed-In World

    Ever felt like you’re too curious, too questioning, or too imaginative to just follow the rules quietly? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and lifelong why-askers) get real about what it’s like to move through rigid systems when your brain doesn’t think in straight lines. We unpack what happens when creativity, curiosity and non-linear thinking are labelled “difficult,” “rebellious,” or “too much” — and the psychological cost of trying to shrink yourself to fit inside institutions that reward conformity. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): being the one who questions everything, speaking up in meetings, and replaying it later wondering if we were “too intense” 👀 What it looks like in real life: school systems that punish creativity, workplaces that promise innovation but reward obedience, and the quiet crushing feeling of powerlessness 🧠 Why our brains do it: non-linear thinking, big-picture processing, pattern-spotting, and a deep intolerance for “because that’s just how it’s done” 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: rabbit holes, big ideas, feminist instincts, questioning religion, resisting hustle culture, and choosing self-employment 🧰 Coping mechanisms: micro-acts of rebellion, setting your own rules where you can, protecting your energy, and finding pockets of hope 🌱 How to make peace with it: maybe you’re not too much — maybe the lines were just too small  Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- creativity podcast, non linear thinking, thinking outside the box, school conformity, workplace burnout, feminist podcast, questioning authority, systemic oppression, sensitive minds podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast

    44 min
  3. 27. Too Aware to Be Happy - Overthinking, Self-Awareness and Why You Still Feel Stuck

    23 FEB

    27. Too Aware to Be Happy - Overthinking, Self-Awareness and Why You Still Feel Stuck

    Ever felt like you’re too self-aware to just relax and enjoy your life? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about overthinking, self-awareness, emotional insight and what happens when understanding yourself doesn’t automatically make you happier. We talk about the strange place where therapy language becomes your first language, where you can explain your patterns, name your triggers and analyse every reaction… but still feel stuck, disconnected or unable to switch your brain off. This is a conversation about overthinking, anxiety, self-analysis, perfectionism and the tension between insight and actually living. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Being stuck in your head, analysing every feeling, knowing your patterns but repeating them anyway 👀 What it looks like in real life: Second-guessing decisions, struggling to be present, narrating your own emotions instead of feeling them, relationship friction, feeling lonely when your awareness changes faster than your relationships 🧠 Why our brains do it: Hypervigilance, trauma responses, perfectionism, therapist or high-insight brains, self-protection through analysis and the need to feel safe through understanding 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Spectator mode versus participant mode, self-monitoring, analytical spirals, identity confusion and the pressure to “know better” once you have insight 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Self-analysis, intellectualising emotions, trying to find the perfect explanation, over-reflecting instead of taking action, using awareness as control 🌱 How to make peace with it: Self-awareness helps most when it’s paired with self-compassion and small moments of just being human. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    53 min
  4. 26. Too In My Head to Feel Secure - When You Can’t Stop Questioning Your Relationship

    16 FEB

    26. Too In My Head to Feel Secure - When You Can’t Stop Questioning Your Relationship

    Ever been in a relationship that looks fine on the outside… but inside your brain is running a constant analysis? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who love deeply and overthink thoroughly) explore relationship rumination — that experience of loving someone and still questioning whether it’s “right.” We talk about attachment, insecurity, perfectionism, love myths, and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes there isn’t a clear answer. We unpack the difference between intuition and anxiety, healthy reflection and spiralling doubt, and what it means to “live the question” instead of trying to solve it. This time we talked about:🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): replaying conversations, scanning for signs, and wondering what everything means👀 What it looks like in real life: questioning love, fearing you’ve chosen wrong, and struggling to relax even in a secure relationship🧠 Why our brains do it: attachment patterns, perfectionism, intolerance of uncertainty, and cultural myths about soulmates🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: all-or-nothing thinking, comparing, ROCD traits, and constant “what if?” loops🧰 Coping mechanisms: distinguishing anxiety from relational red flags, checking for real value mismatches, and learning to sit with not knowing🌱 How to make peace with it: security isn’t the absence of doubt — it’s building trust in yourself to handle whatever unfolds Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: \→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- relationship anxiety podcast, relationship rumination, ROCD traits, attachment styles podcast, love anxiety, perfectionism in relationships, fear of choosing wrong partner, overthinking relationships, sensitivity podcast, mental health podcast

    51 min
  5. 25. Too Busy to Have Fun - Burnout, Productivity Guilt and Learning to Rest Without Earning It

    9 FEB

    25. Too Busy to Have Fun - Burnout, Productivity Guilt and Learning to Rest Without Earning It

    Ever feel too busy to have fun? Too tired to rest? Too responsible to slow down? Yeah, us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, therapists Carly and Alice talk honestly about burnout, overworking, productivity guilt and why so many of us struggle to rest without feeling lazy, selfish or “behind”. We explore how anxiety, trauma, perfectionism and nervous system dysregulation keep us stuck in constant doing mode and why “just slow down” is rarely helpful advice. If you’re always overwhelmed, exhausted, cancelling plans, putting yourself last or feeling guilty for taking time off, this episode is for you. We unpack our own patterns, reflect in real time and share practical, compassionate insights into building a healthier relationship with rest, fun and balance. This time we talked about: 🎙️ Feeling too busy to rest Overworking, emotional exhaustion, cancelling plans, saving energy for work 👀 How burnout shows up Always being “on”, struggling to relax, choosing chores over joy, avoiding downtime 🧠 Why we get stuck in productivity mode Anxiety, hypervigilance, childhood conditioning, hustle culture, fear of stillness 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 Different burnout patterns Quiet vs loud fun, intellectual busyness, time blindness, people pleasing, control through doing 🧰 Common coping strategies Staying busy, overplanning, scrolling, “earning” rest, emotional avoidance 🌱 Learning to rest without guilt You don’t have to earn rest. Fun is not a luxury. Slowing down is part of healing. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    57 min
  6. 24. Too Honest for My Own Good - The Line Between Being Truthful and Being Hurtful

    2 FEB

    24. Too Honest for My Own Good - The Line Between Being Truthful and Being Hurtful

    Ever been told you’re “too blunt” when you were just being honest? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who value honesty deeply) talk about what it means to be too honest for your own good — when being direct, truthful, or blunt gets you labelled rude, difficult, or inappropriate. We explore the messy middle ground between honesty and kindness, intent and impact, and why some of us feel physically unable to sugar-coat things — especially when masking, trauma, neurodivergence, power dynamics, and gendered expectations are in the mix. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): being told “you could’ve worded that better,” saying the thing everyone’s thinking, and replaying conversations on loop afterwards 👀 What it looks like in real life: workplace emails without “fluff,” family dynamics, friendship ruptures, and being chronically misunderstood 🧠 Why our brains do it: values around truth-telling, autism and masking, trauma responses, power dynamics, and social conditioning 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: bluntness under stress, over-filtering, people-pleasing, or saying nothing at all 🧰 Coping mechanisms: checking intent vs impact, compassion-led honesty, timing, and repairing when things land badly 🌱 How to make peace with it: honesty without compassion is cruelty — but honesty with care can be a form of trust Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram + TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- honesty podcast, blunt communication, being too honest, neurodivergent communication, autism podcast, masking podcast, people pleasing, sensitivity podcast, therapy podcast, trauma and communication, power dynamics, emotional honesty, Too Much Apparently podcast

    54 min
  7. 23. Too Much to Share - From Trauma Dumping to Truth Telling

    19 JAN

    23. Too Much to Share - From Trauma Dumping to Truth Telling

    Ever felt like you're too open to keep your mouth shut when you "should"? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about oversharing, trauma dumping, and why some of us can't help but say the thing everyone else is thinking but won't say out loud. We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want genuine connection while also being terrified you've just ruined everything by being… yourself. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): The vulnerability hangover, replaying conversations for days, and that sinking "why did I say that?" feeling 👀 What it looks like in real life: Sharing your divorce at book club, asking "too personal" questions, talking about periods/poo/bodies without shame, telling your dentist about that weird growth 🧠 Why our brains do it: Growing up with critical or emotionally unavailable parents, desperate attempts to be understood, trauma responses disguised as "no filter," and the generational shame around being a woman with a body 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: The difference between sharing for connection vs. sharing for validation, oversharing vs. over-explaining, being "brutally honest" vs. being unkind, and how AuDHD can play a role 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Withdrawing after being humiliated, only sharing with "safe" people, performing a version of yourself, or leaning into the "I just say what everyone's thinking" persona 🌱 How to make peace with it: Focus on finding safe people to share with instead of shaming yourself for sharing at all Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we're here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn't therapy, and it's not a substitute for professional support. We're here to share ideas and experiences, but if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. Keywords: oversharing podcast, vulnerability hangover, trauma dumping explained, emotionally unavailable parents, critical parents podcast, no filter personality, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast, belonging podcast, mental health podcast, deep chat podcast, neurodivergent podcast, autism podcast, adhd podcast, AuDHD podcast, outsider syndrome, feeling different podcast, people pleasing podcast, authenticity podcast, friendship podcast, emotional regulation podcast, reparenting podcast, childhood trauma podcast, attachment styles podcast, boundary issues, social anxiety podcast, HSP podcast, highly sensitive person, too honest, foot in mouth syndrome, relationship podcast, inner critic podcast, self-criticism, shame podcast, perfectionism podcast

    44 min
  8. 22. Too Online to Be Okay - The Quiet Exhaustion of Being Always On

    12 JAN

    22. Too Online to Be Okay - The Quiet Exhaustion of Being Always On

    Ever feel like your phone’s glued to your hand — even when you don’t want it to be? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering doom-scrollers) talk about what happens when our phones stop being tools and start feeling like extensions of our nervous systems. We unpack the hidden toll of being constantly connected — how endless scrolling, notifications, and comparison leave us overstimulated, distracted, and quietly drained. And we explore how to start using our devices with more intention, without guilt or shame. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): checking your phone before your brain’s even awake, guilt about screen time, and the shame of “shouldn’t I know better?” 👀 What it looks like in real life: scrolling through five crises before breakfast, watching TV while doom-scrolling, and losing time to invisible noise. 🧠 Why our brains do it: dopamine, design, distraction, and the myth that productivity equals worth. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: compulsive checking, fear of missing out, overstimulation, and avoiding silence. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: digital boundaries, intentional screen time, journalling, curiosity, and compassion for your scrolling self. 🌱 How to make peace with it: it’s not about quitting your phone — it’s about coming home to yourself, even online.  Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- phone addiction podcast, digital burnout podcast, doomscrolling podcast, overstimulation podcast, sensitivity podcast, therapy podcast, social media overwhelm, online addiction podcast, attention fatigue podcast, mental health podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

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  • Creator
    Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    30
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Show Website
    Too Much, Apparently