Wives Not Sisters

Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
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A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

  1. 6 DAYS AGO

    OMG…My First Time Hooking Up With Another Woman

    What is it actually like the first time you’re with a woman? In this episode, Alix & Kayla talk about first times with girls — the magical ones, the awkward ones, the confusing ones, and the ones that quietly change everything. Drawing from listener stories, polls, and their own experiences, they explore what it means when desire finally makes sense, why some first times feel life-changing and others feel messy, and how fear, alcohol, shame, curiosity, and timing all shape our queer awakenings. From being a “ ‘straight’ girl” at a gay bar to sober sex, baby gay panic, internalized homophobia, and the relief of realizing you’re not broken — just queer and nervous — this conversation is honest, funny, and deeply relatable. Whether your first time was magical, chaotic, or still hasn’t happened yet, this episode is for anyone navigating queerness, curiosity, and the moments that quietly rewrite your story. 01:45 – Today’s Topic: First Time With a Girl 03:00 – Listener Poll Results: Magical vs Awkward First Times 05:30 – How Old Were You the First Time? 06:45 – Did You Come Out After? 08:00 – Game Time: First-Time Confessions 10:40 – Identity Crisis vs Peace After the First Time 12:00 – Listener Story: First Time With a Woman After Only Dating Men 14:45 – Feeling Like a Teenager Again 16:45 – Why Exploring Identity Matters (Even If It Changes) 18:00 – Is the First Time Scarier Without “Knowing What to Do”? 20:20 – Listener Story: A Bad First Time That Still Meant Something 23:20 – What Counts as “Lesbian Sex,” Anyway? 26:00 – Intentional vs Party Hookups 29:00 – When It Finally “Clicks” 31:00 – Listener Story: Calm, Clarity, and First-Time Love 33:00 – Dating Men vs Dating Women: The Intimacy Wall 36:45 – Wishing You’d Figured It Out Sooner 38:00 – Listener Story: Awkward, Nervous, Perfectly Imperfect 40:15 – Why the Build-Up Is Often the Hardest Part 42:30 – Hooking Up With Someone Who’s Never Been With a Girl 45:00 – Sober Sex, Alcohol, and Lowered Inhibitions 47:45 – “Who’s the Problem?” Baby Gay Panic Edition 52:00 – Internalized Homophobia vs Externalized Heterophobia 54:00 – Closing Thoughts: You’re Not Broken, You’re Queer 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    54 min

  2. 10 FEB

    The Body Image Episode: Millennial Women, Diet Culture & Gender Expression

    What does body image look like when you’re queer, partnered, confident… and still unlearning everything you were taught? In this episode, Alix & Kayla get deeply honest about body image, desire, and self-perception inside queer relationships. They talk about comparing yourself to your past body, feeling pressure to look “gay enough,” navigating femme and masc expectations, and how confidence, strength, and self-expression shape attraction far more than size or shape. From almond moms and Gen Z style anxiety to masculinity, femininity, fitness, sex, and learning how to dress—and live—for yourself, this conversation explores what it really means to feel at home in your body when the rules you grew up with no longer apply. This is a candid, funny, and thoughtful episode about queer identity, lesbian relationships, body neutrality, confidence, and the slow, imperfect work of decentering the gaze and choosing yourself. 00:00 – Intro: Married, Codependent, and Back in the Jungle 01:00 – Queer Camp Update + Life in Nicaragua 05:30 – Today’s Topic: Body Image in Queer Relationships 06:40 – “My Body Had to Be ___ to Deserve Affection” 09:00 – Comparing Your Body to Your Past Self 11:00 – Unlearning Food, Rest, and Exercise Guilt 13:35 – Body Image in the Queer World vs the Straight World 17:00 – Confidence, Self-Expression, and Attraction 19:00 – Dating Women: Feeling Bigger, Stronger, or More Visible 24:30 – When Body Image Wasn’t the Problem at All 26:00 – Weight Gain, Health, and Changing Body Shapes 28:00 – Masculinity, Femininity, and Wanting a Different Body 31:00 – Being Femme, Being “Hot,” and Decentering Men 34:00 – Getting Dressed for Yourself (Not the Gaze) 37:15 – Listener Hot Takes on Body Image 39:30 – Masc vs Femme Bodies & Internalized Misogyny 42:00 – Aesthetic Attraction vs Romantic Attraction 44:00 – Power, Confidence, and “The Hotter Partner” 46:20 – Are Queer People Expected to Be More Body-Evolved? 49:45 – Gender Identity vs Learned Body Shame 52:40 – Who’s the Problem: Men, Women, or the Patriarchy? 58:30 – The One Thing We All Fixate On 01:00:00 – Why We Do This to Ourselves 🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes 🎧 Listen on Spotify Follow WNS on Instagram Follow WNS on TikTok Follow Kayla Follow Alix Visit our retreat center in Nicaragua! Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 3m

  3. 3 FEB

    I'm WLW, But I'd Never Date A Woman

    In this episode, Alix & Kayla unpack one of the most controversial queer takes on the internet: being attracted to women, sleeping with women, but not wanting to date or marry them. Is it preference, internalized homophobia, avoidance, or just honest self-awareness? Through listener submissions, they dive into WLW stereotypes, deal breakers, attachment styles, emotional intensity, codependency, and why queer relationships can feel so confronting. This episode is funny, nuanced, validating, and guaranteed to spark debate. 00:00 – Intro: married, not related, very codependent 02:00 – Listener love, sister wives & queer community updates 06:00 – Deal breakers: kids, lying, cheating & location 10:00 – Hygiene, finances & political differences 16:05 – Topic intro: “I’m into women but wouldn’t date one” 17:10 – WLW stereotypes: neediness, codependency & you-hauling 21:00 – Hookups vs dating & honesty vs leading people on 25:20 – Intimacy, fear & emotional closeness with women 29:50 – “Women are what I desire, men are what I tolerate” 35:30 – Right person vs wrong person 39:00 – Independence, merging lives & feeling suffocated 44:00 – Avoidant attachment & relationship panic 49:30 – Who’s the Problem: toothbrush edition  56:30 – Final thoughts & listener call-to-action #WLWPodcast #QueerPodcast #LesbianPodcast #BiVisibility #WLWRelationships #QueerDating #AttachmentTheory #QueerDiscourse #WivesNotSisters #LGBTQPodcast Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    57 min

  4. 27 JAN

    I Lost 50k Followers When I Came Out

    What happens when you come out online—and thousands of people decide they’re done with you? In this episode, Alix & Kayla unpack cancel culture, internet outrage, and the emotional, financial, and personal fallout of coming out publicly. From losing 50,000 followers to navigating homophobia disguised as “wellness,” they explore why the internet struggles with nuance, change, and coexistence—and why scrolling past the beans might save us all. This is a raw, thoughtful conversation about queerness, yoga culture, social media power, cancel culture, and learning how to live outside the echo chamber. 00:00 – Intro: married, queer, and back online 02:10 – Cancelable or not? Internet apology culture 05:15 – Cancel culture vs real accountability 07:45 – Allegations, platforms & public judgment 12:50 – Cancel culture fatigue & social currency 14:30 – Coming out online & losing 50,000 followers 18:40 – COVID, internet culture & rising hostility 22:45 – “Colonizer,” “predator,” and wellness backlash 25:05 – Is social media a workplace? Queerness at work 32:20 – Why follower loss still matters 38:30 – Yoga, religion & spiritualized homophobia 43:00 – Inclusivity with an asterisk 47:00 – The Bean Soup Theory & online outrage 52:15 – Echo chambers, empathy & coexistence 01:04:00 – Who’s the problem? Public figures & politics #QueerPodcast #CancelCulture #LGBTQPodcast #InternetCulture #ComingOutOnline #WellnessIndustry #QueerVoices #YogaCulture #SocialMediaTalk #WivesNotSisters Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 13m

  5. 20 JAN

    Should Straight People Be Allowed In Gay Spaces?

    In this episode, married queers Alix & Kayla debate one of the most polarizing topics in LGBTQ+ culture—from gay bars and lesbian parties to allies, baby gays, and the future of community spaces. It’s thoughtful, funny, deeply personal… and ends with the messiest Who’s the Problem yet (yes, it involves towels). This conversation explores queer history, safety, allyship, feminism, chosen family, and why context matters more than hard rules. 00:00 – Intro: married, queer & back for the new year 02:10 – “Everyone’s a little bi?” identity & labels 04:30 – The real question: straight people in queer spaces 07:45 – Coming out in 2009 & first gay bar experiences 12:05 – Why queer spaces feel intimidating (and necessary) 15:10 – Straight friends, allies & knowing the culture 18:45 – Lesbian spaces vs gay male spaces 22:10 – When inclusion goes too far (and when it doesn’t) 25:45 – Queer Camp: who it’s for and why it changed everything 31:30 – Bars vs retreats: sex, safety & intention 36:30 – Can you even “police” queerness? 41:45 – WHO’S THE PROBLEM: The Towel Incident 🫠 49:50 – Final thoughts & listener call-in #QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerSpaces #Allyship #LesbianPodcast #StraightInGaySpaces #QueerCommunity #ChosenFamily #Feminism #WivesNotSisters #WhoIsTheProblem Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    51 min

  6. 13 JAN

    What's With All The WLW Breakups Lately?

    Why does it feel like every WLW couple is breaking up right now? In this episode, Alix and Kayla unpack the recent wave of WLW breakups—from emotional burnout and attachment styles to visibility pressure, queer dating dynamics, and why sapphic relationships can feel so intense. They discuss common breakup patterns, listener perspectives, and how queer relationships navigate communication, community overlap, and healing after a split. 00:00 – Intro & why WLW breakups feel different 03:10 – Emotional enmeshment in queer relationships 07:40 – Why “let’s stay friends” often backfires 12:50 – Identity loss after a WLW breakup 18:30 – Attachment styles & emotional mirroring 24:40 – Boundaries, no-contact & healing 30:20 – Grief, longing & nervous system repair 35:10 – What actually helps you move on 40:00 – Closing reflections #WLW #QueerPodcast #LesbianBreakups #Sapphic #QueerRelationships #WLWDating #QueerCulture #LesbianPodcast Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    57 min

  7. 6 JAN

    Cheating Stories in 3, 2, 1…

    Is it cheating… or just crossing a line? Alix and Kayla kick off the new year from Nicaragua by playing "Cheating or No?" —breaking down gray-area relationship scenarios like shared playlists, DMs, flirting, emotional affairs, and “we weren’t official” loopholes. They read listener-submitted cheating stories that include coworker crushes, wedding-night confessions, secret double lives, and queer awakenings sparked by one kiss. Honest, funny, and unfiltered conversations about boundaries, emotional intimacy, and why cheating isn’t always about sex. 00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + lost episode recap 02:50 Game: Cheating or No? (playlists, DMs, flirting, nudes) 07:09 Listener cheating stories begin 08:00 Emotional affair with a coworker 13:45 Best friend confesses love before the wedding 22:18 “It wasn’t cheating because it was a girl” 28:20 Secret double life & poly vs monogamy 35:10 “We weren’t official” situationship disaster 40:20 Who’s the problem? Personal cheating story 46:00 Is staying with a cheater worse than cheating? #CheatingOrNo #QueerPodcast #WLW #LesbianPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalCheating #Situationships #QueerStories #DatingBoundaries Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    48 min

  8. 23/12/2025

    Is This Female Friendship or Gay AF? Untangling Homoerotic WLW Dynamics

    Are homoerotic friendships a canon queer experience? 🌈 Recording from their new studio in Nicaragua, Alix and Kayla dive into homoerotic WLW friendships—the kind that blur the line between “best friend” and “something more.” From red/green flag dating games to listener submissions about twin-bed cuddling, forehead kisses, shared Google Docs, and lifelong “what ifs,” this episode unpacks queer longing, closeted intimacy, and the friendships that change us forever. Plus: a late-addition deep dive into Wicked as the ultimate WLW-coded friendship. 00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + new studio setup 01:20 Listener submissions & why this episode exists 02:40 Red Flag / Green Flag / Beige Flag (WLW edition) 06:10 Common outcomes of homoerotic friendships 08:45 Listener Story #1: “The book I never got to finish” 15:30 Personal college story & grief, queerness, and longing 19:40 More submissions: roommates, Google Docs, future fantasies 28:55 Shooting your shot vs. staying silent 38:30 High school crushes & delayed coming out 46:20 Who’s the problem? (Spoiler: society) 49:10 Wicked, Glinda & Elphaba, and WLW-coded friendships #QueerPodcast #WLW #HomoeroticFriendships #LesbianPodcast #QueerStories #Situationships #ComingOut #QueerCulture #WickedMovie #Sapphic Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

    1h 9m
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A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud. Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.

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  • Creator
    Kayla Nielsen and Alix Tucker
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    27
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Wives Not Sisters
  • Show Website
    Wives Not Sisters

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