How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Dr Maryhan

Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday. The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not! This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... We'd love to hear from you! We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have It All?

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    Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have It All?

    “I want it all. I want it now” - timeless words sung by the late Freddie Mercury, and sampled by every child ever, including your own, am I right? But let’s be honest, they’re not the only ones. As parents, we put ourselves under so much pressure to keep up with the Joneses and have it all… but what does that even mean? A big house? Private school? Or maybe just financial security? In this episode, I am here to tell you one thing, and one thing only: you are not perfect, and that’s okay! It’s time to follow my seven tips and embrace the beautiful, incredible, imperfect you. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 00:37 - Having it all… but at what cost? 06:21 - There’s no such thing as work-life balance 10:20 - Your inner conflict 16:11 - All does not mean perfect 18:01 - Asking for help is not a weakness 21:28 - Be present for yourself 27:11 - Be ruthless 32:41 - You are imperfect, and that’s ok 34:22 - Who are you? 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    39 min
  2. Bucket Emptying: ADHD & Neurodivergence in Children - The Facts

    HACE 4 DÍAS

    Bucket Emptying: ADHD & Neurodivergence in Children - The Facts

    Let’s be clear: tylenol does not cause autism. It does not cause ADHD. Neurodivergence is not contagious. And it is not a disease to be caught or cured. You’ve probably heard these claims being made by certain politicians and Presidents recently, but let me assure you: there is no credible scientific evidence to support this. As parents, we already feel so much shame and guilt about our kids’ neurodivergence, be it ADHD, autism, or anything else. Why didn’t I spot it sooner? Am I a terrible Mum? Have I failed my child? We’ve all been there, and the answer is no, no, NO! So in this episode I am sharing the best bits from my recent interview with journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD. We cover everything from Mum guilt, to the school system, and what you can do to create a more positive, supportive environment for your neurodiverse kids. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because we’re about to take the RFK out of ADHD, and give you some home truths you don’t want to miss… Listen to the full episode with Jessie here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/raising-happy-adhd-children-with-jessie-hewitson/id1571503566?i=1000723801183  Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 00:58 - ADHD Myth Versus Reality 03:37 - The Broken School System 06:50 - Mom Guilt 10:10 - Guilt and Motherhood Go Hand in Hand 11:06 - Let the Doctor Make the Call 12:56 - How to Rebuild Self-Esteem in Neurodivergent Children 15:28 - Epiphany at the Cinema 18:12 - F You All 20:11 - A Neurotypical World 21:55 - Be the Shield from Society’s Judgment 22:24 - Do You Have ADHD? More from Jessie: Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf  Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b  Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.uk Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson  💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    28 min
  3. Does Self-Control Make Successful Children?

    24 SEP

    Does Self-Control Make Successful Children?

    Someone leaves you in a room with a tasty treat. You can eat it right away, but you’ve been promised two treats if you resist for 15 minutes. What do you do? This isn’t a riddle, but a very important experiment called The Marshmallow Test, and I bring this up to show you that building self-control and willpower in our kids is an age-old challenge for parents like you and me. Which is why in this episode, I talk through some of the crucial factors that impact self-control and explain why taking the time to help your children develop this important skill, can set them up for success in adult life. Plus, I share some super practical tips which you can start using right now. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 00:22 - What the Tokyo World Athletics teaches parents 02:55 - What is self-control? 08:45 - The marshmallow test 12:20 - Crucial factors 16:54 - Be a role model for your kids 22:35 - How to encourage self-control 27:48 - We are the scaffolding 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    32 min
  4. Boosting Low Self-Confidence

    21 SEP

    Boosting Low Self-Confidence

    Is your child’s self-confidence at rock bottom? Are you feeling a bit helpless, or lost at how to help? Firstly, remember we have all been there, I promise you! And secondly, this bucket emptying episode builds on our previous episodes about confidence, but this time I talk specifically about how to boost really low self-confidence in your kids and teens. I’m going to share three things that I guarantee you will find super helpful when managing your child’s low self-confidence. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 01:10 - What is self-confidence? 03:27 - Building a new, capable mindset 05:16 - Learning to try 07:48 - Shake it off 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    12 min
  5. Building Children and Teens' Self Belief and Confidence

    17 SEP

    Building Children and Teens' Self Belief and Confidence

    Confidence is something we all struggle with, sometimes on a daily basis. But for our kids, who are dealing with new experiences, new challenges, and constant change all the time, their confidence and self belief is being really tested. Childhood is not quite as easy as we like to remember.. we’re all guilty of that! That’s why I’m kicking off a trilogy of episodes, taking a long hard look at confidence in our children, and how we, as parents, can support them through the tough times and help them build their self-belief. Remember, our goal is to be the scaffolding for our kids, to help them grow into healthy, resilient and confident people, and I’m here to guide you through every step. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 02:01 - These stats might shock you 05:00 - The difference between self belief and self confidence 06:30 - You must model confidence for your kids 10:58 - Effort > result 14:04 - Set regular goals 17:17 - Cultivate curiosity for new things 20:35 - I don’t like chores 23:20 - How thoughts drive feelings 26:52 - Our faith in them is unconditional 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    32 min
  6. What to Do in the Moment of Non-Compliance

    14 SEP

    What to Do in the Moment of Non-Compliance

    Do you find yourself getting louder and louder when your kids don’t listen to you? Are you constantly fighting to get them to do what you ask? In the second of our two part bucket-emptying special, I am helping you manage your child’s non-compliance: when they just say no or, more annoyingly, they ignore you completely! Last week we talked through some of the main reasons why your children do this, and if you haven’t listened to that yet, spoiler alert: they’re not naughty. On this episode, I give you six practical things you can do right now to manage those moments when you just want to pull your hair out. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 01:56 - Not all buckets are created equal 06:18 - Keep it simple 09:35 - Take a moment to reset 12:03 - Use a quieter voice 14:46 - Can you turn it into a game? 16:07 - Praising progress 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    19 min
  7. From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children

    10 SEP

    From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children

    On today’s episode, I am joined by Tish Feilden, formerly a teacher and psychotherapist, but today one of the founders of Jamie’s Farm. Alongside her son, they have created a life-changing program that, in their words, leaves children ‘better equipped to thrive academically, socially and emotionally during their school years and beyond.’ We have a great chat about the benefits of putting the screens down, getting your children outside, and giving your kids the autonomy and the agency they need to thrive as confident, independent people. You don’t want to miss this! So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… More from Tish Visit Jamie’s Farm: https://jamiesfarm.org.uk/  Tish on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tish-feilden-a8a7b14b/?originalSubdomain=uk  Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 02:33 - A whole different ball game 06:02 - Why go to school when I can Google it? 11:19 - Give your kids a sense of purpose 15:39 - Embrace change and milk a cow 21:17 - Help 26:31 - It’s only a little electric shock 29:28 - A week without phones 33:02 - Every emotion is healthy 37:20 - Your job as a parent is never complete 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    44 min
  8. Why Won't My Child Comply?

    7 SEP

    Why Won't My Child Comply?

    Do your children refuse to follow boundaries? Do you think you are never being listened to? In the first of a two part bucket emptying special, we are going to figure out the tricky issue of setting boundaries and getting our kids to actually respect them! But here’s a spoiler: you should not feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries. As a parent, it’s your job to be the rulemaker, and your kids won’t always like or understand that. And in this episode I’m going to share 5 of the biggest reasons for non-compliance to help you understand why your child is saying no. Then, in the next bucket emptying episode, we can explore some of the things you can start doing right away to help you deal with this. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Come to the Webinar Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-  Highlights from this episode: 00:48 - Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries 03:04 - Our kids want some control over their own lives 06:37 - Pushing boundaries is not just a phase; it’s a cycle 10:28 - Is your child capable of doing what you’re asking them to do? 15:40 - Catching them off guard 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    21 min

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Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday. The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not! This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... We'd love to hear from you! We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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