The Attachment Confessions

Chelsea S.
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From FA to Secure AF: How Attachment Science Changed My Life...For Real. From the moment I discovered attachment science, everything – literally EV-ERY-THING – about every relationship I'd ever been in finally made sense. And now, I'm learning what it takes to earn my attachment security and have the best possible relationships from now on. Here on The Attachment Confessions, we'll dive deep into the mind-blowing and freakishly accurate world of attachment science, my childhood, my relationships, and my journey of going from FA to secure AF (if you know, you know – and if you don't know, don't worry! You will soon). We'll also highlight guests sharing their own attachment lived experiences, bring on a variety of attachment & relationship experts, and sprinkle in listener Q&A episodes.  Throughout The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. We'll get into some pretty heavy stuff but have ourselves a good time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least! So whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, OR the holy grail of them all – Securely Attached – all are welcome. Let's freaking go, y'all! xo – Chelsea

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    FA & DA Relationship: Why the Fearful Avoidant / Dismissive Avoidant Dynamic Hurts the Most (and how to make it work)

    Y'all – this one is personal. The fearful avoidant / dismissive avoidant relationship dynamic is, without question, the most painful attachment combination out there. And as a healing FA who's been on both sides of it? I know this one all too well.  In this episode, we're getting into exactly why the FA/DA pairing starts off feeling like fate — and why it almost always ends in flames. What we cover in this episode: Why the FA and DA are magnetically attracted to each other at first (hint: it's the shadow self) The difference between vulnerability and transparency — and why DAs seem open but aren't How the honeymoon phase fades and the conflict cycle begins Why the DA shuts down and the FA spirals — and how each makes the other's wounds worse My own FA/DA story and what finally broke things for good What it actually takes for this relationship dynamic to survive — and when to walk away The FA needs to feel seen, heard and understood. The DA needs peace and harmony above all else. When those two core needs collide – especially in conflict – it creates a cycle that's genuinely brutal to break out of. But it's not impossible. As long as both partners are willing to do the work. 💜Looking to heal your own FA/DA relationship? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Listen to these episodes first: > Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant > Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant > Attachment vs. Narcissism: How to Tell the Difference — and Why It Matters for Your Healing Coming up next: Our first-ever couple joins the pod! Tesha & Taylor are an FA/DA couple who've lived this dynamic firsthand — and are now on the road to healing. You will NOT want to miss this one. 🙌 If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it. You never know what people are going through – and attachment science genuinely changes lives. It changed mine. xo - Chelsea

    28 min

  2. 22 APR

    Your Attachment Questions Answered: Listener Q&A

    Hello, Confessions Fam! Welcome back for episode 23! He’s baaack! Everyone’s favorite Dismissive Avoidant (actually, recently discovered Fearful Avoidant who leans avoidant) – Brent Stokes – is joining the pod again to help answer YOUR questions! You’ve inquired – and as your semi-fearless host, I’m here to give you my {not so} expert attachment advice, purely based on my past year of personal heartbreak, Phoenix-like rising, and next-level obsession of burrowing down the attachment science rabbit hole.  When the people have relationship questions, we’re here to give you the best possible answers to your attachment woes. Been there, done that – got 3+ decades worth of insecure attachment T-shirts! Today is going to hit hard, provide sound advice, and bring clarity on your most-asked attachment questions I’ve received over the past 7 months since TAC launched. As ALWAYS, please ask any attachment-related questions or just chit chat with me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions To have your question answered on future Q&A episodes, send an audio message with your name, location, and question to the “TAC hotline” to be featured. Love you guys so much and thank you for your heartfelt questions! xo - Chelsea & Brent Links from today's episode: >>NEW OFFER FOR LISTENERS OF THE ATTACHMENT CONFESSIONS!!>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories?  Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

    50 min

  3. 10 APR

    Born & Raised Secure: A Deep Dive into Secure Attachment

    What’s up, Confessions Fam! Welcome back to the pod for episode 22! Today we are putting a bow on our current four-part series where we've been diving deep into each attachment style one by one. The final feature? Our few-and-far-between Born Secures! Have you ever looked at a couple and thought to yourself, “Man – that right there is straight-up relationship goals!” – It’s a refreshingly beautiful sight to see, isn’t it??  So today we’re getting an up-close and personal look at how in the world our lucky born secures turned out to be so darn healthy and stable. Those that formed a secure attachment from the start unfortunately do not make up the majority of the attachment styles, but thanks to the amazement that is the human brain, those of us who weren’t blessed to be born secure still have a chance to reprogram our insecure patterns and work towards earning our own attachment security. Whether you’re an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow {healing} Fearful Avoidant, today’s Born & Raised Secure Deep Dive will leave you inspired to do the inner work so that you, too, can experience healthy, secure love. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be motivated to embark on your own attachment healing journey.  xo - Chelsea Link from today's episode: >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

    21 min

  4. 26 MAR

    Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant

    Hello everyone! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 21! Today's episode is part three of our current four-part series where we're examining each attachment style even further. This week's feature? The Fearful Avoidant. **Alexa: Cue Katy Perry's 2008 hit "Hot N Cold"** Sometimes referred to as Disorganized Attachment, the FA is the most complex of all the attachment styles. And not to brag, but – it’s also the attachment style of yours truly ; ) Have you ever wondered why you tend to be hot one minute, cold the next in your relationships? Ever been baffled by the on again, off again patterns of a former flame? Well, buckle up – today’s Fearful Avoidant deep dive is about to finally make the relationship light bulbs illuminate like never before. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.  xo - Chelsea Links from today's episode: >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing, drinkware and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 -OR- use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout >>The Love Doc/Dr. Sarah Hensley's website The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services

    30 min

  5. 13 MAR

    Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant

    Hello everybody! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 20! Today's episode is part two of our current four-part series where we're dissecting each attachment style even further. This week's feature? The Dismissive Avoidant. There's a reason why this insecure attachment style seems to get the most attention of them all. The DA is oddly enough the most predictable attachment style, yet oftentimes the most frustrating for anyone who's ever had their heart broken by a Dismissive Avoidant (same girl, same). So sit back, relax, and get ready to have your mind blown with today's DA deep dive. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.  xo - Chelsea Link from today's episode: The Love Doc/Dr. Sarah Hensley's website | The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services >>>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

    30 min

  6. 25 FEB

    Anxious Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied

    What's up, guys! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 19! Over the next few weeks, we're going to be dedicating full episodes to getting super deep with each attachment style. This week's feature? The Anxious Preoccupied. If you've ever found yourself in the throes of an anxious attachment – whether you've been the guilty party or have experienced dating an AP – today's episode will make this attachment style make SO much more sense. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.  xo - Chelsea Links from today's episode: MillionPodcasts feature | Best 30 Attachment Theory Podcasts in the US The Love Doc/Dr. Sarah Hensley's website | The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services Thais Gibson's website | Personal Development School >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

    28 min

  7. 11 FEB

    Love Languages vs Attachment Styles

    Hello, everybody! Happy Valentine's Week! Welcome back for episode 18 of The Attachment Confessions. On this week's episode, we're doing a deep dive into a topic that I've received a number of questions about since starting the podcast – love languages. The 5 Love Languages is a concept developed by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992, and his work has shaped how millions of people around the world understand the concept of giving and receiving love.  So, in the spirit Valentine's Day, we're going to take a look at the difference between love languages vs attachment styles. They are certainly intertwined, but the science shows us that our formed attachment style is actually what predicts our preferred love languages.  Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a fellow Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – knowing and understanding your own and your partner's attachment style and preferred love languages is an absolute game-changer in creating a healthy, successful relationship.  Wanna find out you or your partner's love language? Take the quiz here: The Official 5 Love Languages Quiz Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.  Happy Valentine's Day! xo - Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

    24 min

  8. 28 JAN

    Conflict in Relationships: How Securely Attached Couples Fight Differently (and what we can steal from them)

    Conflict. Just the word makes my body tense up. And if you're anything like me, yours probably does too. 😅 But here's the thing – it's not conflict itself that destroys relationships. It's how we handle it. And for those of us with insecure attachments? We were never really taught how to do it right. Episode 17 is all about changing that.💜 What we cover in this episode: Why conflict feels so scary — and how our childhoods are to blame How each insecure attachment style handles conflict (AP, DA, and FA — yes, we all have our things 😬) The 24-hour rule secure couples swear by — and why it's a game changer How secure couples reframe conflict as a bridge to connection rather than a relationship threat What non-critical communication actually looks like in practice Why quick repair is everything — and how pride is silently destroying relationships Taking accountability without defensiveness — and why it's the secret to building real trust I'll be honest — achingly poor conflict management has been a major theme in all of my past relationships. On both sides. But the good news? Secure conflict resolution is a skill. It can be learned, practiced, and eventually become second nature — just like muscle memory. 💪 If secure relationships are the goal, we have to start showing up as secure individuals. And this episode is your roadmap for one of the biggest pieces of that puzzle. 💜 Want a step-by-step conflict resolution plan? Dr. Sarah Hensley's "Achieving Your Attachment Security" coaching program includes her own proprietary no-fail conflict resolution guide. Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Listen to this first: Episode 16 — Insecure Attachment Patterns: How to Stop Repeating Them & Actually Take Accountability (the prelude to this episode) Coming up next: Love Languages vs Attachment Styles! xo - Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

    20 min
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From FA to Secure AF: How Attachment Science Changed My Life...For Real. From the moment I discovered attachment science, everything – literally EV-ERY-THING – about every relationship I'd ever been in finally made sense. And now, I'm learning what it takes to earn my attachment security and have the best possible relationships from now on. Here on The Attachment Confessions, we'll dive deep into the mind-blowing and freakishly accurate world of attachment science, my childhood, my relationships, and my journey of going from FA to secure AF (if you know, you know – and if you don't know, don't worry! You will soon). We'll also highlight guests sharing their own attachment lived experiences, bring on a variety of attachment & relationship experts, and sprinkle in listener Q&A episodes.  Throughout The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. We'll get into some pretty heavy stuff but have ourselves a good time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least! So whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, OR the holy grail of them all – Securely Attached – all are welcome. Let's freaking go, y'all! xo – Chelsea

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  • Creator
    Chelsea S.
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Clean
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    The Attachment Confessions

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