Project Confidence

Kathie Gwilliam
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Struggling with comparison, self-doubt, or feeling like you should be further along in life? Project Confidence is a weekly podcast for adults who want to break free from the comparison trap and become confidently content. In short 10-15 minute episodes, we explore how comparison impacts self-worth, relationships, and joy, and how to move beyond it using the SOAR method. Learn to replace comparison with appreciation, inspiration, and self-recognition. New Episodes drop every Thursday.

  1. 9月3日

    #70 - Maybe the Kids Know Something We Don't

    Some of the best advice about confidence, kindness, hard work, and happiness came from a group of teenagers. I recently attended a celebration honoring graduating seniors of the Onve Voice Children's Choir. As they shared the lessons they had learned and their advice for the younger kids, I found myself taking notes. They were reminders we all could use. Don't get so focused on the solo that you miss the song. Believe you have potential. Tell someone they're amazing. And so many more beautiful truths that left me feeling inspired. Tune in to this episode, filled with wisdom from the rising generation. You may be surprised by how much you needed to hear it, too.

  2. 8月20日

    #69 - Teaching Kids to Catch Comparison Before It Takes Over

    Back-to-school season brings excitement, nerves—and plenty of comparison. In this episode, Kathie shares a simple way parents, teachers, and caring adults can help kids recognize comparison and work through it using the SOAR Method: State it, Observe it, Acknowledge it, and Replace it. You'll learn how to respond when kids say things like, “I wish I were more like her,” and help them move out of the better/worse mindset and toward confidence, appreciation, inspiration, and recognition. Because confidence isn't believing you're better than everyone else. It's knowing your worth was never meant to be measured against theirs. Download the free SOAR resources at kathiegwilliam.com.

  3. 7月2日

    #68 Fix the Floor, Not the Fall

    Have you ever felt like your confidence is steady one day... and completely shaken the next? In this episode of Project Confidence, I'm sharing an unexpected lesson from my own kitchen. For years, our dishwasher leg was balancing on a broken floor, and with the slightest bump would fall down, leaving the dishwasher uneven and the metal straining. It was a real pain to get back in place. That's exactly what comparison does to our confidence. We often try to manage the symptoms of comparison with positive affirmations, working harder, or avoiding situations that make us feel "less than." But if our sense of worth is resting on an unstable foundation, it only takes one comment, one social media post, or one success story from someone else to knock us off balance again. In this episode, you'll learn: Why comparison creates fragile confidenceThe hidden cost of continually managing self-doubt instead of addressing its sourceHow to identify the "uneven floor" in your own lifeHow to use the SOAR Method to replace comparison with lasting confidence through Appreciation, Inspiration, and RecognitionIf you're tired of feeling like your confidence keeps slipping, this episode will help you stop patching the symptoms and start building a steadier foundation. Because real confidence isn't about never getting bumped—it's about standing on something that doesn't move.

  4. 6月11日

    #67 - Why Should I Care What Jerks Think About Me?

    In high school, I sat backstage during play rehearsal listening to some of the starring boys loudly criticize the girls performing on stage. Curious—and maybe a little bold—I joked, “Wow… I wonder what you’d be saying about me if I was up there.” Without hesitation, one of them answered: “What a big butt you have.” That moment gave me all the feels you would think a teen would feel. But it also helped me realize how easily we hand our confidence over to other people, especially when they are rude. In this episode, I unpack one of the most freeing questions I’ve ever asked myself: Why do I care what people like that think about me? We talk about: Why cruel opinions often reveal more about the speaker than the person being judgedHow comparison and insecurity lead people to tear others downThe lesson my mom taught me about understanding people without excusing harmful behaviorThe difference between someone having access to speak and having authority over your self-worthHow to stop giving influence to voices that don’t deserve itFrom high school rehearsals to social media comments to everyday comparisons, this episode is about learning to filter opinions instead of absorbing them. Because not everyone who speaks about you deserves space in your self-concept.

  5. 5月28日

    #66 - I'm Not Bad At This... I'm Just New At This

    In this episode of Project Confidence, Kathie explores the powerful difference between being “bad” at something and simply being “new” at it. So often, we label ourselves too quickly when learning a new skill, and those labels shape whether we keep going or give up. Using a story about her daughter learning to rollerblade, Kathie shares how children naturally approach growth differently from adults. After falling over and over again, her daughter proudly announced, “I only fell like five times—I’m really good at this!” Instead of seeing mistakes as proof of failure, she saw them as part of learning. Kathie dives into how the language we use affects the brain, explaining why thoughts like “I’m bad at this” can trigger avoidance and shutdown, while “I’m new at this” keeps us open to curiosity, practice, and growth. She also shares how her daughter later broke her wrist rollerblading—but still got back out there with a cast and a new pair of wrist guards, adjusting instead of quitting. This episode is a reminder that confidence isn’t built by instantly succeeding. It’s built through repetition, small wins, resilience, and recognizing progress along the way. If you’ve been discouraged while learning something new, this conversation will help you shift your mindset, celebrate growth, and keep going.

  6. 5月14日

    #65 - Red Flags You’re Comparing More Than You Realize

    In this episode of Project Confidence, we talk about how comparison can be difficult to recognize in ourselves because it doesn’t always look obvious. That’s why sometimes we need to start with the “O” in SOAR first—Observe the results. Comparison often reveals itself through jealousy, people-pleasing, perfectionism, insecurity, resentment, overthinking, or constantly feeling “behind” in life. These emotions and behaviors can act as red flags, signaling that comparison may be happening beneath the surface. Once we recognize those warning signs, we can go back and walk through the full SOAR process to help us move past comparison and replace it with healthier patterns that build confidence and contentment.

  7. 4月30日

    #64 - How to Turn Comparison Into Motivation: Using Other People’s Strengths to Strengthen Your Own

    In this episode, I share a simple early morning moment of comparison I fell into, and how I got out of it. After waking before dawn to take my son to meet his orchestra bus for a long trip, I learned he had gotten up even earlier to fit in a run before leaving. My first thought was one many of us know well: “I could never do that.” But instead of staying in that comparison, I caught myself and asked a better question: What if someone else’s discipline isn’t meant to make us feel inadequate—what if it is meant to inspire us? In this episode, we talk about how quickly comparison can make us feel small, and how one small mental shift can turn someone else’s strengths into motivation for our own growth. If you have ever looked at someone else’s commitment, success, or talent and felt discouraged, this episode will help you learn how to turn that moment into inspiration instead.

  8. 4月23日

    #63 - The Comparison Cycle

    In this episode, Kathie unpacks the cycle of comparison—how one simple moment, like walking into a friend’s beautiful new home, can quietly trigger a chain reaction that affects far more than we realize. What begins as seeing something admirable can quickly turn into a comparison thought, a false belief about our own worth, and an emotional shift toward either insecurity or superiority. From there, those feelings begin to shape our behavior—causing us to withdraw, judge, overcompensate, or lose contentment in what we once loved. Kathie explains how comparison is not just a passing thought but a repeated pattern that can slowly erode confidence, strain relationships, and keep us stuck. She reminds listeners that the goal is not to eliminate every comparative thought, but to recognize the cycle before it takes over. By becoming aware of what is happening beneath the surface and introducing the first steps of her SOAR method, this episode offers a powerful reminder: the thoughts that pop into your mind are not always true, and they should never be the foundation of your identity.

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Struggling with comparison, self-doubt, or feeling like you should be further along in life? Project Confidence is a weekly podcast for adults who want to break free from the comparison trap and become confidently content. In short 10-15 minute episodes, we explore how comparison impacts self-worth, relationships, and joy, and how to move beyond it using the SOAR method. Learn to replace comparison with appreciation, inspiration, and self-recognition. New Episodes drop every Thursday.

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  • 創作者
    Kathie Gwilliam
  • 活躍年份
    2024年 - 2026年
  • 單集
    72
  • 分級
    兒童適宜
  • 版權
    © Kathie Gwilliam
  • 節目網站
    Project Confidence

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