Am I The Problem?

You grew up neurodivergent in a toxic household. Now you can't tell if you're the problem, if you're overreacting, or if the thing you're upset about is even a thing. You apologise for existing, you can't say no without a panic attack, and you genuinely don't know what you want for dinner. Am I The Problem? is a podcast for late-diagnosed ADHD and autistic adults working out what got installed wrong when neurodivergent wiring met an emotionally abusive or narcissistic family. Each week, host Helen Villiers takes one specific glitch, the apology reflex, the inability to know what you actually feel, the panic when you try to set a limit, and reverse-engineers it. What the neurodivergence is doing, what the trauma is doing, and what to actually do about it. Mostly no, you're not the problem. Sometimes, a bit. Either way, here's the mechanism. Helen Villiers is a psychotherapist with ADHD and co-author of You're Not The Problem. She specialises in adults raised by narcissistic and emotionally abusive parents, particularly those also navigating ADHD, autism, and late diagnosis. Topics include alexithymia, masking, the fawn response, executive function, emotional dysregulation, interoception, hypervigilance, people pleasing, learned helplessness, identity rebuilding after toxic parenting, and the specific challenges of parenting neurodivergent children when you're neurodivergent yourself. Is This A Thing? is the paid companion show, available on Apple Podcasts Subscriptions or included with Core tier membership and above inside The Hub, Helen's ND inclusive membership community for people recovering from emotional abuse, find it at liberationacademy.co.uk/the-hub. Released in seasons of 12 episodes. New episodes weekly while we're in one, breaks in between to come up with the next.