Introducing Logan Ury: #1 Dating Mistake That Leads to the Wrong Relationship (Use THIS Compatibility Test Before You Get Attached) from On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay Shetty Many of us have been on countless dead-end dates, excited by the wrong people, overlooking the right ones, and left wondering why finding a healthy relationship still feels so complicated. Jay sits down with behavioral scientist and dating coach Logan Ury to explore why modern dating feels harder than ever and what we can actually do to build meaningful relationships in a world full of options. Together, they unpack the hidden psychology behind attraction, the myths we believe about “the spark,” and how dating apps have changed the way we evaluate potential partners. Logan shares how many people unknowingly sabotage their chances at love by chasing instant chemistry instead of long-term compatibility, reminding us that the strongest relationships are often built through curiosity, emotional safety, and shared values rather than immediate intensity. Jay and Logan also dive into the patterns that keep people stuck in cycles of disappointing relationships. From the pressure to find the “perfect” partner to the fear of vulnerability, they discuss how modern dating culture can create unrealistic expectations. Logan explains the difference between people who date intentionally and those who drift through relationships without clarity, and why small mindset shifts, like asking better questions, focusing on growth potential, and recognizing emotional availability, can dramatically change our outcomes. The conversation highlights how understanding our own habits, attachment styles, and communication patterns can help us show up more authentically in love. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Chasing the Wrong People How to Look Beyond the First Date Spark How to Choose Compatibility Over Chemistry How to Date with Clear Intentions How to Avoid the “Maximizer” Dating Trap How to Ask Better Questions on Dates How to Build Attraction That Grows Over Time How to Date in a World of Endless Options If dating has ever made you feel discouraged, confused, or like you’re falling behind, you’re not alone. Building a meaningful relationship in today’s world can feel overwhelming, but the truth is that love isn’t about finding someone perfect, it’s about finding someone willing to grow with you. What are your dating blind spots? Take the quiz to find out! www.loganury.com/quiz If you’re ready to understand your patterns in love and build healthier relationships, check out How to Not Die Alone. 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Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 The Problem with Modern Dating Expectations 04:16 The Three Types of Daters 06:30 Do You Believe In a Soulmate? 08:20 Why Dating Burnout Is So Common 10:23 Why Does Dating Feel So Difficult Today? 14:04 Why Hustle Culture Fails in Dating 15:46 Two Ways to Approach Dating Intentionally 18:52 What Is “Chalant” Dating? 21:35 When Rejection Becomes Content 24:12 The Rise of a Hesitant Generation 26:01 Why We’re Afraid to Make a Move 27:14 The Challenge of Male Vulnerability 29:23 Why Rejection Feels So Personal 32:21 The Fear of Choosing the Wrong Person 38:01 What Actually Predicts Long-Term Relationship Success? 44:36 The Biggest Lie We’re Told About Love 47:13 The Myth of the Movie-Moment First Meeting 49:22 Are Dating Apps Making Us Replaceable? 50:19 Start by Fixing Your Dating Profile 53:58 How to Optimize Your Dating Profile 01:08:07 Make It Easy for People to Engage with You 01:10:01 What Is Friction-Maxing? 01:12:11 “Rose Jail” on Hinge 01:15:58 Choosing a Partner Takes Real Effort 01:17:13 Do You Believe in “Right Person, Wrong Time?” 01:18:22 Are People Giving Up Too Quickly on Love? 01:19:57 Post Date Eight 01:23:35 How Do You Define Love? 01:25:15 Is Love Alone Enough? 01:26:24 Falling in Love vs. Being in Love 01:27:50 What Truly Makes a Great Partner? 01:29:18 Are Your Standards Too High? 01:31:19 Understanding the “Ick” 01:35:23 This or That: Love Edition 01:40:36 Logan on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://www.loganury.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/loganury LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/loganury/ The Later Daters: https://www.netflix.com/ph-en/title/81665880 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. 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