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A podcast for leaders and coaches sharing practical strategies and tools to build your team's culture and help you grow as a leader. Co-hosted by J.P. Nerbun and Nate Sanderson of TOC Culture Consulting, and Betsy Butterick. Get the podcast notes and learn more about us at tocculture.com

  1. 1 day ago

    Coach the Coach: How to Collect Before You Direct | Jody Carrington | Episode 462

    If the big people aren't okay, the little people don't stand a chance. That is the idea psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington has built her career on, and it flips the entire athlete development conversation on its head. In part one of this two part conversation, JP sits down with Dr. Jody Carrington, a clinical psychologist and founder of Carrington and Company who has spent decades studying emotional regulation in high pressure environments, from a locked psychiatric unit to elite sports organizations. She unpacks why the coach's own nervous system sets the ceiling for the team's, and why the answer to a dysregulated athlete is never more yelling. Whether you coach with intensity or with quiet steadiness, this episode will change how you think about the person running the room, not just the players in it. Chapters(00:00) Intro - Why Coach Regulation Matters (02:11) Meet Dr. Jody Carrington (02:47) Why She Focuses on Coaches (05:09) The Coach-Centered Approach (07:54) Do Good Coaches Screw Up Kids (09:36) The Hand Model of the Brain (15:33) The Tom Izzo Question (19:19) Cortisol and Your Nervous System (23:17) Collect Before You Direct TOC 3-2-13 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 Resource Your fast track to the episode's most actionable ideas. "If the big people aren't okay, the little people don't stand a chance." - Dr. Jody Carrington "You don't lose your ability to be great. You don't lose the best golf swing you've ever taken in your life. You lose access to it." - Dr. Jody Carrington "We have to collect before we direct." - Dr. Jody Carrington 2 Questions for Your TeamQ1: Where in your program are you investing in athlete performance but not in your own emotional regulation as a coach? Q2: Think of the last time you corrected an athlete in the moment. Had you collected enough relationship first for that correction to land? 1 Resource to Go DeeperDr. Jody Carrington's Books, Podcast, and Resources Her ongoing work on emotional regulation, connection, and leadership under pressure goes deeper into everything covered in this episode. Visit drjodycarrington.com here Key TakeawaysCoach Regulation Is the Missing Variable in Athlete DevelopmentYou Cannot Learn With Your Lid FlippedCollect Before You DirectIntensity Isn't the Problem, Timing IsYour Nervous System Gets Hijacked Before You Even Get Out of BedCoaching Is Development Work, Not Just Performance WorkGet the notes and tools: tocculture.com Join TOC Coach - community, courses, and live coaching: tocculture.com Better Coaches. Better Leaders. Better Culture.

    28 min

  2. 28 Jun

    The Hardest Part of Leading Yourself | The Culture Captain: Level Two | Episode 461

    Is your best leader always your best teammate? JP Nerbun, Betsy Butterick, and Nate Sanderson are not so sure, and the answer says a lot about how you build culture this season. This episode continues an ongoing conversation around JP's new book, The Culture Captain, with the group digging into Level Two: leading yourself before you ever try to lead anyone else. They unpack why the chapter on effort was the hardest one JP wrote, what separates a Steph Curry from a Caitlin Clark on the leader versus teammate question, and why so many athletes hold back effort out of fear of being labeled a tryhard. Whether you are coaching the most obsessed competitor on your roster or the kid who just wants to enjoy the sport, this conversation will change how you think about effort, identity, and what it actually takes to lead yourself first. Chapters(00:00) Intro (01:02) Why Level Two Was Hardest to Write (03:26) Tom Brady & Raising Others 5-10% (09:13) Standards, Buy-In & Judgment (13:28) Caitlin Clark & Being Yourself (17:55) Great Leader vs. Great Teammate (24:37) One Behavior Every Leader Needs (28:30) Why Athletes Avoid Competing Hard (32:44) From Victim to Creator (40:55) The Hardest Part of Leading Yourself TOC 3-2-13 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 Resource Your fast-track to the episode's most actionable ideas. "Two things can be true. I can uphold the standard and it increases the value or the connection with my teammate." - Betsy Butterick "My performance does not determine my worth or value in this world." - Nate Sanderson "It's not any single leadership behavior that unlocks leading yourself. It's putting in the work on ourselves, knowing that this is a lifelong journey." - JP Nerbun 2 Questions for Your TeamQ1: When you rate your own effort this season, are you rating it the way your teammates and coaches would, or the way you wish they would? Q2: Is there a part of this season where you are telling yourself a victim story? What is one choice you actually have right now? 1 Resource to Go DeeperThe Culture Captain by JP Nerbun JP's newly launched book breaks leadership into three levels: knowing yourself, leading yourself, and leading others. This episode digs into Level Two, covering responsibility, effort, authenticity, compete, mental fitness, and selflessness. Visit tocculture.com here Key TakeawaysLeading yourself is not a formula. It is a personal journey.A great leader is not always a great teammate.Curiosity beats correction when a leader cannot reserve judgment.The fear of being a tryhard is quietly shutting down effort.Moving an athlete from victim to creator starts with naming a choice.The hardest part of leading yourself is the moment you let yourself down.Get the notes and tools: tocculture.com Join TOC Coach - community, courses, and live coaching: tocculture.com Better Coaches. Better Leaders. Better Culture.

    47 min

  3. 21 Jun

    The Mental Habits of Elite Coaches | Rustin Dodd & Elise Devlin, The Athletic | Episode 460

    Making athletes work harder is one thing. Making athletes better is something else entirely — and Rustin Dodd draws that line clearly in this episode. In part two of JP Nerbun's conversation with Rustin Dodd and Elise Devlin of The Athletic's Peak section, the discussion moves from habits and rituals into the heart of transformational coaching. Elise covers Dan Quinn's player PowerPoint presentations, Lisa Bluder's deep-dive into understanding Caitlin Clark, and what Tara Vanderveer's lasting player relationships reveal about the longevity of great coaching. Rustin breaks down the energy cost of being a coach and why the coaches who last build support systems around themselves. The episode closes with John Harbaugh's accountability frame and why "shoot the ball" might be the most important thing a coach can say. For coaches who want to understand what separates the ones athletes call ten years later from the ones they just remember. Chapters(00:00) Intro: Studying Great Coaches(01:30) The Best Part of the Job(03:09) The Common Trait of Great Leaders(06:54) Getting to Know Your Players(10:10) Tough Conversations and Real Relationships(12:00) Who Would You Want to Be Coached By(13:57) Tom Izzo and the Power of Intensity(15:07) Who Would You Want as a Teammate(18:40) Jared McCain and the Inner Game of Tennis(19:47) The Origin of Executive Coaching(21:15) Sports and Business Culture Feed Each Other(22:25) What Coaches Do to Be at Their Best(24:09) Ownership as a Leadership Skill(24:56) Who Would You Invite to Dinner(29:36) Final Advice: Curiosity and Optimism(31:23) Shoot the Ball: Trust as a Coaching MetaphorTOC 3-2-13 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 Resource Your fast-track to the episode's most actionable ideas. "Being a coach that can get your players to work harder is easier than being a coach that can make them better. At the most basic level, it's giving people confidence." — Rustin Dodd "When you are losing a lot of energy and you have not a lot left, take what you do have left and give it to other people and it'll come back to you multiplied." — Elise Devlin "There's no better feeling than when your coach yells shoot it. I think about that as a metaphor — it's some level of trust, putting confidence in the person." — Rustin Dodd 2 Questions for Your TeamQ1: Think about a player you know well enough to coach hard — and one you don't. What would it take to close that gap this week? Q2: When did you last own a bad day in front of your team? What did that cost you — and what did it build? 1 Resource to Go DeeperThe Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy Gallwey The origin text for the entire executive coaching industry — referenced in this episode as foundational reading for understanding the inner life of an athlete. Jared McCain reads it. Steve Kerr coaches from it. Available on Amazon Key TakeawaysMaking Athletes Better Is Different from Making Them Work HarderThe Deeper You Know Your Athletes, the Better You Can Lead ThemTough Conversations Only Land When the Relationship Is RealCoaches Need a Support System TooOwnership Is a Leadership SkillCuriosity Is a Long-Term Coaching PracticeGet the notes and tools: tocculture.com Join TOC Coach — community, courses, and live coaching: tocculture.com Better Coaches. Better Leaders. Better Culture.

    34 min

  4. 14 Jun

    The Mental Habits of Elite Athletes | Rustin Dodd & Elise Devlin, The Athletic | Episode 459

    Most coaches spend their careers shaping athletes. Rustin Dodd and Elise Devlin spend theirs learning from them — and what they've found might change how you coach. Rustin and Elise write NY Times feature, The Peak for The Athletic, a section devoted to the mental side of elite sports. In this episode with JP Nerbun, they unpack what a year of "I Tried" journalism has taught them: Kobe's silence practice, Michael Phelps' freestyle journaling, Buzz Williams writing four to five letters a day, an Olympian who approaches every failure with childlike curiosity, and a reminder from David Ortiz about what it actually means to bounce back. The thread running through all of it: curiosity. For coaches who want to understand what's going on inside their athletes — and maybe inside themselves — before it becomes a problem. Chapters (00:00) Intro: JP on The Athletic's Peak(02:39) Ted Lasso's Real-Life Inspiration(07:41) Elise: D1 Swimmer to Peak Journalist(11:48) The Performance Info Gap(13:01) How The Peak Section Was Born(16:18) What The Peak Is Not(19:20) I Tried: Living Athletes' Habits(21:31) Silence, Emotions, and Journaling(23:13) How Athletes Find Their Rituals(25:41) Curiosity: The #1 Athlete Trait(26:41) Buzz Williams Letter-Writing(28:38) Gratitude and Failure With Curiosity(30:53) The Power of Saying Yes(35:59) The Pat Riley Conditioning Test(36:31) 17s Story: Hardship as Confidence TOC 3-2-1 3 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 ResourceYour fast-track to the episode's most actionable ideas. "That feeling of somebody saying yes to me is so powerful. And I oftentimes try to think about: how do I do a version of that? How do I say yes to people?"— Rustin Dodd "I thought about it and I was like — I guess I don't have silence."— Elise Devlin "I view all my failures with childlike curiosity."— Olympian Olivia Smoliga, cited by Elise Devlin 2 Questions for Your Team Q1: When something goes wrong in practice or a game, is your first instinct to fix it, blame it, or get curious about it? Which of those responses is actually coachable? Q2: What is one mental tool or daily habit your athletes don't know about — and when did you last share it with them? 1 Resource to Go Deeper The Peak by Rustin Dodd and Elise Devlin | The AthleticThe Athletic's section devoted to the mental side of elite sports. The "I Tried" series is essential reading for any coach curious about what elite performance looks like from the inside.Visit The Athletic here Key Takeaways The Best Athletes Are Obsessively CuriousReflection Teaches More Than Experience AloneSilence Is a Performance ToolTreat Failure Like a ScientistGratitude Does Real WorkSay Yes More Than You Think You ShouldGet the notes and tools:tocculture.comJoin TOC Coach — community, courses, and live coaching:tocculture.comBetter Coaches. Better Leaders. Better Culture.

    39 min

  5. 9 Jun

    The Culture Captain: Building Leaders From the Inside Out | John O'Sullivan | Episode 458

    JP Nerbun's 10-year-old daughter said something on the walk to the bus that stopped him cold: "She's climbing the mountain of achievement without any purpose." That one line is the heart of this entire conversation. This special episode drops on the launch day of JP's new book The Culture Captain — a field guide for athletes learning to lead from the inside out. JP sits down with longtime friend John O'Sullivan, founder of the Changing the Game Project and co-author of Captain: The Athlete's Guide to Being an Exceptional Team Leader (with Jerry Lynch). Two books. Same subject. Written simultaneously, on opposite sides of the Atlantic. They go deep on self-awareness as the foundation of leadership, why modeling behaviors beats locker room speeches, how to have a difficult conversation before you feel ready, and what it means to lead from the bench when things aren't going your way. Whether you coach athletes, lead a team, or are still figuring out who you are as a leader — this one is for you. Chapters(00:00) Intro — JP's Daughter & Book Launch(02:30) Why John Wrote Captain(05:52) Why JP Wrote The Culture Captain(15:54) The Fable Format — Why JP Chose Lily(19:00) The Four Levels of Leadership(25:13) Surprises from Writing(31:15) The Hardest Lesson to Put Into Words(34:05) Hard Conversations as Life Skills(39:15) From Sports to the Workplace(43:48) What Had to Be Left Out(47:08) Approaching a Difficult Teammate(53:05) Coaching the Reluctant Leader(59:43) Tom Brady on Playing Where You Love People(1:01:26) Success vs. Fulfillment(1:04:00) Lead From the Bench(1:09:02) How Will You Know the Book Succeeded?(1:12:43) Why This Book Mattered MostTOC 3-2-13 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 Resource Your fast-track to the episode's most actionable ideas. "She's climbing the mountain of achievement without any purpose." — JP Nerbun's daughter, age 10 "Success is the goal, but it's not the purpose. Fulfillment should be the purpose. This is what coaches need to provide." — John O'Sullivan "You pick up the cones and balls, you serve others. You do that and people go, man, if that's the captain doing it, I better do it too." — John O'Sullivan 2 Questions for Your TeamQ1: Think of an athlete who is putting in the work but seems to have lost their joy. What would it look like to help them reconnect with purpose rather than achievement? Q2: What is it currently costing your team — in trust, momentum, or culture — to avoid a hard conversation that needs to happen? 1 Resource to Go DeeperThe Culture Captain by JP Nerbun A field guide for athletes learning to lead with purpose, values, and selflessness — told through a fable and backed by real stories from Tim Duncan, Tom Brady, Abby Wambach, and more. Get The Culture Captain at culturecaptain.net Captain: The Athlete's Guide to Being an Exceptional Team Leader by John O'Sullivan & Jerry Lynch Qualities, responsibilities, and challenges for every team captain — grounded in research and real stories from high school to the pros. Visit changingthegameproject.com Key TakeawaysKnow Yourself Before You Lead AnyoneSelflessness Is the Hallmark of Great CaptainsModeling Behaviors Beats Locker Room SpeechesReluctant Leaders Are Still LeadersFulfillment, Not Success, Is the Real PurposeThe Difficult Conversation IS the LeadershipGet the notes and tools: tocculture.com Join TOC Coach — community, courses, and live coaching: tocculture.com Better Coaches. Better Leaders. Better Culture.

    1hr 19min

  6. 7 Jun

    Identity, Influence, and the Leadership Nobody Told You Was Already Yours | Culture Captain: Level One | Episode 457

    What does it mean to truly know yourself — not perform yourself, not brand yourself for public approval, but honestly know who you are at your core? JP Nerbun, Betsy Butterick, and Nate Sanderson explore that question in this roundtable, the first in a four-part series on JP's new book, The Culture Captain. Betsy shares the story of an athlete and what she filled in her personal definition led to an eye-opening statement about being "enough". This quiet act of self-definition opens a deeper conversation about identity, enoughness, and what it costs to resist the pressure to brand yourself for the world's approval. Nate brings a hard-won insight from a facilitation with student-athletes that challenges a core assumption most coaches hold about leadership readiness. JP is honest about the gap between success and fulfillment — and about the dark side of purpose itself, how even meaningful work can become obligation when fulfillment is measured in external terms. Betsy's Championship Soup exercise from a workshop at Stanford with Tara Vanderbeer gives every coach a practical way in. This is the beginning of a longer conversation — one level at a time. If the question "who are you?" has ever felt harder to answer than it should, this one is for you. Chapters (00:00) Intro(01:35) The Culture Captain Series Format(03:12) When Were You Invited to Know Yourself?(09:09) The "Child of God" Athlete and Enoughness(11:26) Do Athletes Know What Leadership Is?(12:27) Nate's Facilitation: What Athletes Revealed(16:06) Defining Leadership — No Clean Answer(20:01) Leadership as Wielded Influence(22:08) The Magnetic Personality Story(28:53) Leadership Is a Boat Anyone Can Board(30:58) Core Values — How Did You Find Yours?(35:23) The Soup Supper Exercise(37:15) Championship Soup at Stanford(40:43) Success Without Fulfillment(41:51) Division I Basketball vs. 200km Ultra(45:30) Identity Prison vs. Identity House(46:18) JP's Vulnerable Moment on Fulfillment TOC 3-2-1 3 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 ResourceYour fast-track to the episode's most actionable ideas. "Fulfillment has to be defined by you, and the meaning has to be made intentionally rather than just by what we see and what we hear."— Nate Sanderson "When I'm at my best, when I feel most at peace, when I feel most content, when I feel most truly myself — look back at those moments. And then ask: how do I bring that forward and offer it as a gift to my team, to the world?"— JP Nerbun "I believe leadership is a boat that anyone can board — if you have the desire to develop that awareness, to know yourself, to use your influence on purpose."— Betsy Butterick 2 Questions for Your Team Q1: When was the first time someone truly invited you to define who you are — not describe yourself to others, but honestly articulate who you are at your core? How has that shaped the way you invite athletes into self-discovery? Q2: Think of a recent coaching achievement. On a scale of 1–10, how fulfilled did it make you feel? What does that number tell you about whether you are living in your values? 1 Resource to Go Deeper The Culture Captain by JP NerbunThis episode explores Level 1 of JP's new book — Know Yourself. It's the foundation on which every leadership conversation is built. Get the book and episode tools at tocculture.com. Visit tocculture.com Key Takeaways You Can't Lead Others If You Don't Know YourselfLeadership Is Wielded Influence — Use It on PurposeYoung Athletes Often Need a "Level Zero" Before Level OneSelf-Definition Is an Act of ResistanceValues Are Unearthed, Not InventedSuccess Without Fulfillment Is the Warning Sign — and Success Is Often Defined for UsGet the notes and tools:tocculture.comJoin TOC Coach — community, courses, and live coaching:tocculture.comBetter Coaches. Better Leaders. Better Culture.

    49 min

  7. 31 May

    Coach The Person: The Science of Transformational Conversations | Marcia Reynolds | Episode 456

    Most coaches think they're having conversations with their athletes. Marcia Reynolds says they're mostly just talking. In this episode, JP Nerbun sits down with Marcia Reynolds — executive coach, neuroscience researcher, and author of Coach the Person, Not the Problem — to unpack the science of what makes a coaching conversation actually transformational. Marcia explains why telling athletes what to do almost never leads to lasting change, breaks down the critical difference between coaching and mentoring, and shares a three-step pre-conversation practice that changes how you show up before a single word is spoken. If you coach athletes, lead a staff, or are navigating a difficult conversation at home — this one is for you. Chapters (02:11) Intro (03:56) Marcia's journey to coaching (06:26) Why telling people doesn't work (09:41) Coaching vs. mentoring (12:26) Coach the person, not the problem (18:41) The worst assumption a coach can make (21:11) Three steps before every conversation (26:11) Building the daily practice (29:11) Presence as the foundation (35:41) Reflective inquiry over questions (40:11) What coaching gives back to the coach TOC 3-2-1 3 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 ResourceYour fast-track to this episode's most actionable ideas. "You have not lived their life. You can't stand in someone's shoes. That's not possible. Coach slowly. Try to see what they see through their eyes. Don't assume you know."— Marcia Reynolds "Information doesn't change behavior. When I work with the creative center of the brain, when I'm reflecting what they're saying, so they listen to themselves and go, I said that, I believe that... that's when insights emerge."— Marcia Reynolds "We make coaching way too hard. When all I'm doing is relaxing into this conversation — just having a conversation with you, listening to what you're saying, offering back what I think you said that seems most important."— Marcia Reynolds 2 Questions for Your Team Q1: Before your next coaching conversation with an athlete, write your true intention in one sentence. Are you going in to fix them or to genuinely understand them? What shifts when you lead with honest curiosity? Q2: Think of a recent moment where you gave an athlete advice that didn't stick. What one question could have opened the door to their own insight instead? 1 Resource to Go Deeper Coach the Person, Not the Problem by Marcia ReynoldsA practical guide to reflective inquiry — showing coaches how to activate real and lasting change by engaging the athlete's inner world rather than just the presenting behavior.Visit covisioning.com to learn more Key Takeaways Information Alone Does Not Change BehaviorCoaching and Mentoring Are Not the Same ThingCoach the Person, Not the ProblemThree Things to Set Before Any Coaching ConversationReflective Inquiry Beats Great Questions Every TimeSelf-Awareness Is a Practice You Can BuildGet the notes and tools:tocculture.comJoin TOC Coach — community, courses, and live coaching:tocculture.comBetter Coaches. Better Leaders. Better Culture.

    42 min

  8. 24 May

    The Art of Communication | Betsy Butterick | Episode 455

    The Art of Communication: Finding Your Voice as a CoachJP Nerbun sits down with co-host Betsy Butterick to explore how intentional communication transforms athlete relationships, team culture, and coaching identity. TOC 3-2-1: 3 Quotes, 2 Questions, 1 Resource3 Quotes Worth Writing Down"Anytime someone says 'that's just who I am,' what immediately comes up for me is — no, that's who you've been. You get to choose who you get to be in the next moment." — Betsy Butterick"If we hope to teach them, we first need to reach them. It is arguably much easier for one person — the coach — to shift how they communicate than it is to try to change an entire generation." — Betsy Butterick"When you speak quietly, people need to come closer, lean in. That was exactly the space I wanted to coach athletes in." — Betsy Butterick2 Questions for Your TeamWhen you communicate with your athletes before a big moment, are you trying to inspire them — or genuinely educate and invite them into something? What's the difference for your team?Are there phrases or habits in your coaching communication that fall under "that's just who I am"? What would it look like to ask instead: Is this who I want to be?1 Resource to Go DeeperKids These Days by Betsy Butterick — the practical communication guide for coaches working with today's athletes. Packed with immediately usable frameworks, real-world stories, and a resource section built to last. Visit: betsybutterick.com Key TakeawaysCommunication is a craft, not a personality trait. Betsy's communication didn't come from natural talent — it came from decades of intentional reps: journaling, coaching thousands of young athletes, and a relentless curiosity about language. The implication for every coach: this is buildable.Inspiring a room and inviting athletes in are not the same thing. Betsy's goal is never to inspire — it's to educate. But the best teaching carries emotional charge, and the question you ask after a lesson is what bridges information to behavior change. Don't just tell them. Ask them what they got from it.Yelling is a tool — use it like one. In a decade of coaching, Betsy raised her voice about seven times — and believes every player could still tell you exactly why. Coaches who rarely yell make every raised voice meaningful. Coaches who yell constantly give athletes nothing to read."That's just who I am" is a pattern, not an identity. When coaches or athletes use that phrase, it closes the door on growth. The reframe Betsy offers: that's who you've been — not who you have to be. Adapting your communication style isn't lowering your standards; it's what makes holding high standards possible.Accountability requires co-creation, not just enforcement. Most accountability conversations fail because expectations were never truly shared — they were just announced. When athletes help build the standard, they're far more likely to hold each other to it. Peer accountability only works after shared understanding exists.Action Items for Leaders and CoachesAudit Your Volume: Track how often you raise your voice this week. Is it a tool — or a habit you haven't examined?End With a Question: After your next team talk, close with one question that invites athletes to reflect on what they just heard.Spot the Pattern: Notice when you or your athletes say "that's just who I am." Replace it with: "That's who I've been — is it who I want to be?"Co-Create One Standard: Pick one expectation you've been enforcing alone. Build shared understanding around it with your athletes this week.ConnectGet episode notes and team culture tools: tocculture.comJoin the TOC Coach community (free): tocculture.comBetsy Butterick — blog, book, and resources: betsybutterick.comIf this episode was helpful, share it with a coach in your life who is working on their communication. And if you haven't already, subscribe so you never miss an episode of the Coaching Culture Podcast.

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A podcast for leaders and coaches sharing practical strategies and tools to build your team's culture and help you grow as a leader. Co-hosted by J.P. Nerbun and Nate Sanderson of TOC Culture Consulting, and Betsy Butterick. Get the podcast notes and learn more about us at tocculture.com

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