Figuring It Out

Jemma Permalloo
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They say age is just a number and yet growing older for this generation of millennials feels particularly daunting. For some reasons, navigating especially our 20s to 30s comes with expectations that we should have it all figured out, to the at times, scary realisation that we don't! In this podcast, Jemma meets guests from different backgrounds, professional and personal experiences in the quest of learning something new and perhaps seek to revalidate that no person's journey is the same. By sharing those conversations, she hopes to impart one or two things.

  1. Sweet Bobby's Kirat: The unaddressed questions viewers still had after the Netflix documentary

    01/06/2025

    Sweet Bobby's Kirat: The unaddressed questions viewers still had after the Netflix documentary

    TIMESTAMPS00:00 - Intro02:15 - The Origin of ‘Sweet Bobby’04:08 - Simran seemed to know everything about your personal life… why not tell your friends?05:41- Did anyone ever tell you, “This seems fishy—why not do a video call?”09:15 - At any point, did this all feel… real?10:16 - What made you finally say, “Yes, let’s go public”?12:06 - Catfishing: Should it be considered a cybercrime?15:25 - Looking back, were there any RED FLAGS that make you think, “This should’ve stopped here”?20:58 - Do you think people will ever truly understand your story?24:48 - 1 in 4 people have fallen victim to catfishing… why is this happening more than ever?29:36 - Did being part of a close-knit Punjabi Sikh community make this whole thing seem more legit?34:48 - How has this changed your views on long-distance relationships and real… brown men?36:38 - Does it bother you that the documentary was called “Sweet Bobby”?38:27 - Simran worked in banking… how did she even find the time to pull this off?42:26 - You stopped attending community events… but Simran carried on like nothing happened?42:49 - Did you guys actually live in the same neighborhood?45:53 - Why hasn’t the Punjabi Sikh community held Simran accountable?48:24 - Have you ever run into her in London? Is she still in the UK?49:10 - Some say this was jealousy… others say she had romantic feelings for you. What do you think?53:11 - Do you still feel “Bobby” owes you anything?59:26 - When you showed your dad the apology letter… why was he ‘casual’ about it?01:05:09 - Do people still update you on what Simran is up to today?01:15:56 - After all this… did you go back to dating?🔗 CONNECT WITH ME🌍Instagram⁠https://www.instagram.com/jemma.permalloo🎙Spotify⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5P3BPjurTTMKSRAwFLAPpz?si=8b835a5f86734ba⁠1📲 Apple Podcast⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-out/id1677026977⁠#sweetbobby #netflixdocumentary #kiratassi #catfishing #catfishingstories

    1h 20m

  2. 02/02/2025

    Divorce Transition Expert: Divorcing in your 30s, Is marriage still important?

    Helen Sampson @TheUncoupleCoach worked in divorce litigation for years and witnessed hundreds of divorces progress through the legal system. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 01:30 - About Helen 05:15 - Main causes of divorce 10:44 - 4 horsemen theory/communication styles 14:00 - Re-marriage 17:30 - Is marriage still important? 20:16 - Divorcing in your 30s 22:22 - The happily ever after effect 24:22 - Red flags vs human flaws 31:11 - Marrying a lifestyle 32:40 - Pre-nups 42:58 - Emotional toll of a divorce 47:45 - 5 stages of grief 49:50 - How to avoid divorce 🔗 CONNECT WITH HELEN https://www.instagram.com/the.uncouple.coach Disclaimer: The content of this video is provided for informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal advice. You should always seek professional legal advice regarding your specific situation. #divorce #divorceprocess #relationshipadvice #marriage #marriedlife

    53 min

  3. 19/01/2025

    Using An Egg Donor: Whose Child Is It? Misinformation, Dilemmas and Concerns (Reproductive Health)

    The London Egg Bank is the largest frozen egg bank in the UK, with over 20,000 stored eggs from a diverse range of backgrounds.🔗 CONNECT WITH ME🎙Spotify⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5P3BPjurTTMKSRAwFLAPpz?si=8b835a5f86734ba⁠1📲 Apple Podcast⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-out/id1677026977⁠🌍Instagram⁠https://www.instagram.com/_jemma_p🔗 CONNECT WITH LONDON EGG BANKhttps://www.londoneggbank.com/#eggdonation #eggfreezing #londoneggbank #reproduction #reproductivehealth

    41 min

  4. 12/01/2025

    Heartbreaks, Letting Go & Healing 💔 What You Need To Know with Relationship Expert & Psychologist

    TIMESTAMPS00:00 - Intro02:25 - January: The national month of breakups04:39 - Top 3 reasons behind breakups07:19 - Separated but happy09:15 - Is the grass greener elsewhere?11:36- Couple therapy14:27- Can people change?15:32 - Lying & cheating18:00 - The ultimatum21:55 - Going back to an ex23:16 - Push-and-pull in a couple24:56 - Attachment styles31:00 - Not always the victim33:16 - Red flags35:06 - Why do heartbreaks physically hurt?40:00 - Does time heal everything?41:51 - 'I love this version of myself that you brought out'43:40 - Loving dearly & yet letting go47:27 - Does attraction & intimacy fade?50:00 - How to move on?52:00 - Love isn't lost54:55 - Rebounds58:00 - Ready for the next relationship? 🔗 CONNECT WITH ME🎙Spotify⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5P3BPjurTTMKSRAwFLAPpz?si=8b835a5f86734ba⁠1📲 Apple Podcast⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-out/id1677026977⁠🌍Instagram⁠https://www.instagram.com/jemma.permalloo 🔗 CONNECT WITH DR ELENA TOURONIhttps://www.thechelseapsychologyclinic.com/team/dr-elena-touroni/

    1h 2m
  5. Reflecting on 2024? Mental Detox, Accepting life's ups & downs, Defining your values & How to keep going

    11/12/2024

    Reflecting on 2024? Mental Detox, Accepting life's ups & downs, Defining your values & How to keep going

    Sofia Jin is British Korean actor and presenter. She has hosted sports broadcast for ESPN, conducted press interviews for clients including Nat Geo, and hosted live events for a number of corporate clients. ⌚️TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 01:32 - Who is Sophia Jin? 02:41 - Half British, half Korean heritage 03:51 - Voice cover, storytelling 07:14  - Sense of purpose 09:48 - The loudest person is not the most confident 12:51 - Auditioning & the day-to-day 16:43 - You have to really love it 22:24 - Self worth amid life's highs and lows 23:25 - Dreading year-end & goals we haven't ticked 28:25 - Tips to get in the industry 31:31 - Passion vs Stable income 34:52 - My sponsor dropped me  39:10 - Standing up for the 8th time 42:18 - A letter to myself 45:22 - Trying to fit in 48:06 - Tough conversations with friends 53:42 - Identity crisis? 🔗 CONNECT WITH ME 🎙Spotify ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5P3BPjurTTMKSRAwFLAPpz?si=8b835a5f86734ba⁠1 📲 Apple Podcast ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-out/id1677026977⁠ 🌍Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/_jemma_p 🔗 CONNECT WITH SOFIA https://www.instagram.com/sofjin_/

    1h 2m
  6. MasterChef UK WINNER: British-Mauritian Shelina Permalloo

    30/11/2024

    MasterChef UK WINNER: British-Mauritian Shelina Permalloo

    Identifying as being a British Mauritian with both parents migrating from Mauritius to the UK in the 1970's, Shelina Permalloo was the first woman of colour to win BBC's MasterChef-UK in 2012. In this podcast, we revisit her MasterChef journey, media work she's taken up since, her dream project of opening her own restaurant & first and foremost as she puts it, her mum life. ⌚️TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 01:17 - Who is Shelina? 02:26 - The first woman of colour on a food show 04:10 - Why MasterChef? 05:49 - From 25,000 applicants to 70 07:19 - Imposter syndrome 09:42 - I won with Mauritian food 10:43 - The pressure cooker 11:33 - A defining moment 12:20 - The finals 13:25 - Life after MasterChef (Media work, Lakaz Maman) 16:58 - Why I sold the restaurant 19:40 - An all-female led management team 21:58 - Bonding over food 24:01 - Reaffirming my British-Mauritian identity 25:11 - Tackling criticism 27:41 - Mauritius & its diversity 28:36 - More than just exotic cuisine 33:15 - What's next? 35:05 - Food experience in Mauritius CONNECT WITH ME Spotify⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5P3BPjurTTMKSRAwFLAPpz?si=8b835a5f86734ba⁠1 Apple Podcast⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-out/id1677026977⁠ Instagram⁠https://www.instagram.com/_jemma_p 🔗 CONNECT WITH SHELINA https://www.instagram.com/shelinacooks https://www.youtube.com/@ShelinaPermallooCooks

    40 min

  7. 16/11/2024

    How to Make Friends as an ADULT in a big city (for both introverts & extroverts)

    Holly Cooke is the founder of 'The Lonely Girls Club', one of the UK’s largest communities for women. It started with 10 people in a Facebook group with 5 girls meeting at a pancake house in Covent Garden in November 2018. 6 years later, 'The Lonely Girls Club' is an organisation of over 100k community members. It runs weekly events across the country for members to attend solo, have fun, connect with others and leave having met an incredible group of people to start building friendships with. ⌚️TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 01:30 - The Lonely Girls Club 02:39 - Bumble BFF 06:28 - Not everyone is your person 08:02 - 50% of adults feel lonely 10:14 - Sense of community 11:13 - Member club of 100k women 13:12 - Japan as a collectivist society 14:20 - Connections across all ages 19:17 - Loneliness among older people 20:15 - Working from home & loneliness 22:07 - Self love vs seeking companionship 32:00 - The scariest thing I did 33:58 - People are kind 39:49- Symptoms of loneliness 44:07 - Friends have different priorities 47:16 - The 'How are you?' question 🔗 CONNECT WITH ME 🎙Spotify ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5P3BPjurTTMKSRAwFLAPpz?si=8b835a5f86734ba⁠1 📲 Apple Podcast ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-out/id1677026977⁠ 🌍Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/_jemma_p 🔗 CONNECT WITH THE LONELY GIRLS CLUB https://www.llgc.co.uk/

    52 min
  8. MISS WORLD Top 12 Finalist: Liza Gundowry Sets The Record Straight

    20/10/2024

    MISS WORLD Top 12 Finalist: Liza Gundowry Sets The Record Straight

    Liza Gundowry, is the second ever Miss Mauritius, to have placed among the Top 12 contestants at Miss World 2024. She shares incredible journey as a Miss World finalist from intense preparations to unforgettable moments but also her truth behind the Miss Mauritius journey. ⌚️TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 02:03 - Who is Liza? 04:20 - Pre Miss-Mauritius 05:10 - Top 12 at Miss World 07:47 - Behind the scenes of Miss Mauritius/Miss World 10:25 - I knew I had the potential 11:34 - Resilience 12:28 - Mauritian were worried about me 13:40 - A test of faith 14:50 - Prep: Makeup, rehearsals, piano practice 17:00 - Liza's message to aspiring Miss Mauritius 18:36 - Lack of support from the organisation 21:30 - We spent Rs 1mn of our own money 23:47 - Attempt of control 24:27 - Lack of transparency 25:51 - Threatened to be dethroned 28:00 - The journalist from MBC 30:55 - Impact on my mental health 33:35 - They wouldn't allow my mum to join 34:14 - What was the reaction from the organisation? 35:23 - "What chances? The girl hasn't won anything" 38:13 - I didn't hear from them ever again 39:30 - Why voice it now? 41:55 - What's next? 🔗 CONNECT WITH ME 🎙Spotify ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5P3BPjurTTMKSRAwFLAPpz?si=8b835a5f86734ba⁠1 📲 Apple Podcast ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-out/id1677026977⁠ 🌍Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/_jemma_p 🔗 CONNECT WITH LIZA https://www.instagram.com/liza.gundowry/ https://www.instagram.com/noulater_noulafors/ Disclosure: The views and opinions expressed in this video are those of the guest and the content is based on personal experiences. It aims to provide insights into the 'Behind the scenes' of the organisation discussed. This content is intended for informational only. We encourage viewers to form their own opinion and consider multiple perspectives on the topics discussed.

    44 min
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They say age is just a number and yet growing older for this generation of millennials feels particularly daunting. For some reasons, navigating especially our 20s to 30s comes with expectations that we should have it all figured out, to the at times, scary realisation that we don't! In this podcast, Jemma meets guests from different backgrounds, professional and personal experiences in the quest of learning something new and perhaps seek to revalidate that no person's journey is the same. By sharing those conversations, she hopes to impart one or two things.

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  • Creator
    Jemma Permalloo
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2025
  • Episodes
    46
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Jemma Permalloo
  • Show Website
    Figuring It Out