Get It Got It Girl - Lessons from the Messy Middle.

Rewrite your story with Tina Avis
  • 0.0 (0)
  • SELF-IMPROVEMENT

Get It Got It Girl is your space for honest conversations about navigating the messy middle — the part of life no one warns you about, but everyone goes through. Each episode dives into real lessons, real growth, and the real work of becoming the woman you’re meant to be. No perfection. No pretending. Just clarity, courage, and the confidence to keep going. If you’re figuring it out as you go, you’re in the right place.

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Your New Era Starts Now

    There’s a point where you realise the old version of you is not coming back, and honestly, thank God. I’m naming that moment out loud: the shift that hits your chest, the one that makes you stop negotiating with your own power. No more shrinking. No more dimming. No more apologising for the fire that’s waking up.  I talk through what it looks like to step into a new era with self respect and real boundaries, especially when life keeps testing you. People will drain you, chaos will try to pull you off your path, and some mornings will knock the wind out of you before the day even starts. The comeback isn’t about being perfect. It’s about choosing yourself again, walking into rooms like they’re yours, and remembering who you are when you’ve been pulled too far from centre.  This space is built for the real stuff: the messy middle, the breakthroughs, the healing, the rebuilding, and the becoming. Every conversation is another step up the mountain, a reminder that resilience is a practice and you’re not alone in your climb. I also introduce something powerful for episode one: a new identity for this community that speaks to strength, intuition, and the kind of inner fire that refuses to go out, because this is bigger than a podcast.  If you’re ready for personal growth that actually changes how you live, press play, subscribe, and share this with someone who needs a reset. And if it lands, leave a review and tell me: what does your new era require from you? Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    3 min

  2. 7 APR

    Rebuilding Self Worth While Dating With A Handicap

    “Who’s gonna want me now?” It’s a brutal question, and it doesn’t come from a dating app or an awkward first message. It comes from that moment after you’ve healed, rebuilt, and finally feel ready to love again, only to realize your life has changed in a way you never planned. I share a raw, uncut reflection on dating with a handicap and the sneaky fear that follows: that someone will see a partner as a responsibility, and that your value somehow dropped overnight.  I walk through the thoughts many people carry in silence, especially when disability enters the picture: Do I put it on my profile? Do I wait until we meet? Do I explain it, soften it, hide it, or worse, apologise for it? We talk about how fear shrinks your world, how the word “burden” creeps in, and how that hits self worth in a place heartbreak never reached. If you’re looking for honest disability dating advice and a real conversation about confidence, vulnerability, and being chosen, this one meets you where you are.  Then we land on the reframe I’m fighting to believe: my worth didn’t go down, my life just changed. Real love has always involved care emotional care, mental care, physical care and needing care does not make you less human or less lovable. If you’re standing between fear and hope too, come listen, share this with someone who needs it, and subscribe, leave a review, or send me your thoughts on when you’d disclose and why. Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    5 min

  3. 7 APR

    Learning To Live With Sudden Vision Loss

    One phone call or one appointment can erase the life you were planning. I’m Tina, a transformational coach and emotional intelligence strategist, and I’m sharing the news that knocked the air out of me: I won’t be able to drive again, I won’t be able to work the way I used to, and my vision only reaches about eight feet. It’s a kind of loss that touches everything, from independence to identity, and I’m not going to dress it up with “perfect” positivity. You’ll hear what it actually felt like in the moment the ground shifted, because my first reaction wasn’t brave. It was human. I cried in the doctor’s office with fear, frustration, grief, and anger all at once. I also talk about the complicated layer that made it hurt more: carrying hope for months, then learning the outcome had been known, and feeling the sting of betrayal. If you’ve ever had your life change overnight, you’ll recognize that mix of shock and disbelief. From there, I walk through what I’m doing to cope in real time: leaning on emotional intelligence tools, learning what supports are available, and reminding myself that a new path is not just an ending, it’s something different. I also bring in the humor that’s getting me through low vision moments, because if I’m already bumping into walls, I’m allowed to laugh while I adjust. If this resonates, listen, share it with someone carrying heavy news, and subscribe so you don’t miss what comes next. After you listen, leave a review and tell me: what helps you keep going when your plans collapse? Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    2 min

  4. 30 MAR

    Just Show Up

    Some weeks you feel unstoppable. Other weeks you’re staring at a pile of boxes, your creativity is tapped out, and “progress” looks like simply not quitting on yourself. I’m Tina, your transformational coach and emotional intelligence strategist, and I’m sharing a raw check-in from the middle of a big life transition as I get ready to move, reset my routines, and step into a new season with my family.  We talk about why action doesn’t always look loud or energized. Sometimes the bravest kind of action is quiet: keeping your commitment, showing up imperfectly, and letting a chaotic week be what it is. I share what’s happening behind the scenes, from the excitement of a new environment and being closer to my boys, to the real stress of packing and the fear of that last-minute moving-day scramble. If you’ve ever felt guilty for not being “on,” this is your permission slip to breathe and still count yourself as moving forward.  You’ll leave with a grounded mindset shift, practical motivation for hard weeks, and a reminder that small steps can be powerful steps. If you’re navigating change, building healthier patterns, or working on personal growth, this conversation is for you. Subscribe for more honest coaching, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling me: what does “showing up” look like for you this week? Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    6 min

  5. 23 MAR

    Tips, Trips, And Taking Receipts From The Universe

    A file glitch forced me to rerecord a recent episode and it turned into a weirdly perfect lesson: sometimes the redo is the upgrade. I talk through what it feels like to lose something you thought was “so good,” take a breath, and realise the second try can come out clearer, stronger, and more honest. If you’re in a midlife reset or any season where you’re rebuilding, this quick bonus is a reminder that starting over is not the same as going backward.  I also share what’s been shifting behind the scenes: I’m rebranding soon, and it feels like a new version of me with more lived experience, more meaning, and more practical tips and hacks I actually use. Along the way I catch myself saying “trips” instead of “tips,” which tells you exactly where my brain is, and it opens up a bigger point about how growth needs both action and space to breathe.  Then we get into alignment, intuition, and the little “receipts” that help you trust your path. I’ve been seeing angel numbers during key moments while I’m working, so I’ve been taking pictures every time it happens, like proof that I’m showing up and moving forward. We talk boundaries, changing energy, gratitude, and the shift from overthinking to decisive action even when you can’t yet see the results, only feel them. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review telling me what you’re rebuilding right now. Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    5 min

  6. 23 MAR

    Recovering From Retinal Detachment And Reclaiming Momentum

    Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    14 min

  7. 16 MAR

    Algorithms, Tears, And Why That’s Progress

    Healing isn’t a soft-focus montage; it’s raw, loud, and often confusing. We open up about what real progress looks like when your body finally lets go—tears that won’t schedule themselves, hands that shake without permission, and memories that surface the moment a song or scent pulls you back. Instead of chasing a perfect arc, we make a case for honest definitions, slower pacing, and the kind of boundaries that keep you safe from the inside out. We get specific about the difference between accountability and blame, especially when harm wasn’t yours to carry. From recognizing early red flags to practicing simple self-protection, we share how to move from performing survival to building peace. You’ll hear how “sectional healing” works in real life: taking one wound at a time, debriefing with a therapist or a trusted friend, resting on purpose, then continuing. We talk about the trap of chasing closure from people who can’t offer it and the moment you decide to stop abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable. If triggers still knock you sideways, this conversation reframes them as signs of release, not proof of failure. Naming what you’re healing from becomes a powerful first step—quiet, private, and honest. Along the way, we keep compassion at the center, because the voice you use with yourself shapes every next choice. Join us for a clear, grounded look at healing that trades platitudes for practical tools and self-trust. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with someone who needs the reframe, and leave a quick review to help others find these conversations. Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    7 min

  8. 16 MAR

    From Survival To Healing: Giving Yourself Credit For Midlife Wins

    Ever realize your strength became so familiar that you stopped seeing it? We shine a light on the quiet wins that kept us going through midlife pressures, then walk step by step from coping to healing with a simple, repeatable practice: name three things you survived, say them out loud, and write them down. That tiny ritual turns vague endurance into visible evidence—and it changes how you carry your story. I share how a sudden wave of emotion hit when I finally heard myself list what I’ve overcome, why survival mode is a brilliant short‑term tool but a brittle long‑term home, and how healing begins when we stop holding blame that was never ours. We explore the difference between changing your pace and changing your heart, the subtle ways other people’s moods can hijack your day, and the boundaries that return your energy. Along the way, we swap fragile motivation for steady commitment, add compassion to keep the engine from burning out, and build a small reward loop that teaches the body it is safe to feel good after hard things. This conversation is for anyone navigating midlife shifts, emotional labor, or the habit of minimizing real progress. You’ll leave with practical steps to recognize resilience, anchor it in your body through voice and pen, and create space for joy to re-enter. Take one minute today: name your three survivals, honor them, and notice the relief that follows. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a quick review so more people can find their way from survival to healing. Send us Fan Mail Support the show National Suicide Prevention: 988 US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Disclaimer: This content is for emotional clarity and creative healing.  It is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support.

    5 min
See All (45)

Trailers

About

Get It Got It Girl is your space for honest conversations about navigating the messy middle — the part of life no one warns you about, but everyone goes through. Each episode dives into real lessons, real growth, and the real work of becoming the woman you’re meant to be. No perfection. No pretending. Just clarity, courage, and the confidence to keep going. If you’re figuring it out as you go, you’re in the right place.

Information