Healing Our Relationships: From Codependency to Authenticity

Marisa La Fata
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Why do we keep abandoning ourselves in the name of love? Why do we say yes when we mean no, swallow words that ache to be spoken, or feel responsible for keeping everyone else happy — even at the cost of our own peace? Healing Our Relationships is a podcast for anyone who’s ever felt trapped in the patterns of codependency and wondered if there’s another way. I’m Marisa — healer, transformation guide, and someone who’s walked my own long road from self-abandonment to self-trust. In this space, I come as a teacher, guide, and fellow traveler. Together, we’ll explore: What codependency really is — beyond the clinical definitions and clichés How these patterns begin in childhood and live in our nervous systems How to start the healing journey with compassion rather than shame Tools for grounding, boundaries, and somatic awareness Practices for reconnecting to your body, your truth, and your spirit The intersection of spirituality and emotional healing How to move from survival into real connection — first with yourself, and then with others This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a space to breathe, reflect, and remember who you are beneath the patterns that once kept you safe. Alongside these episodes, I also hold a monthly Healing Our Relationships circle live on Zoom — a place for community, sharing, and deeper healing. You’ll find details and more resources on my HealSpace app, where I share guided meditations, teachings, and sacred tools to support your journey. If you’re ready to understand why you do what you do — and how to come home to yourself — I invite you to join me. Together, we’ll explore how to move from codependency to freedom, wholeness, and true connection. Subscribe and let’s begin.

  1. You Are Enough: A Meditation For Inner Peace

    1 DAY AGO · BONUS

    You Are Enough: A Meditation For Inner Peace

    This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative to bring you something every week. A couple weeks ago my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course, last week I offered you a prayer for moments of relationship fear, obsession or disastermind. This week I offer you a guided meditation. In this meditation you will embark on a profound journey to release feelings of insecurity, unreasonable expectations for yourself and "not enoughness," fear, and anxieties. Expand your consciousness, and transition from focusing on the micro to the macro. As you immerse yourself in the energy of your soul, you will rise above your current state, and transcend beyond the constraints of your rolls, expectations and surroundings. Find inner peace and transform your perspective in this empowering meditation experience. Give yourself 10 mins to be held, inspired inside of your vision and connect to yourself. I have a reputation for being the best meditation teacher for people who don't like to meditate. I don't invite you into silence, but into vision, into a creation of an inner landscape where you can learn to trust yourself and remember who you are.  You can find more of my meditations on Insight Timer or my personal mediation App Healspace.  Learn More About Me @ www.healwithalchemy.com Work with me 1:1 , Join My Mystery School or Retreat with me.  Find Me on Instagram @soulalchemyhealing

    10 min
  2. A Spiritual Prayer For Relationship Obsession

    22 SEPT · BONUS

    A Spiritual Prayer For Relationship Obsession

    This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative in order to bring you something every week. Last week my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course. Give it a listen for the free promo code.  This week I am offering you a prayer for moments when you are experiencing obsession and fear inside of your relationships. Whether it be catastrophic thinking, disaster mind, or fight or flight in your body; Ask the Spirit, the univer, God, whoever you connect to- for relief and the courage to come back home to yourself. Make room for your feelings, honor your experience, and soothe the part of you that needs healing, love, and support. This is a favorite for all of my Insight Timer listeners.  I hope you will find your breath, inner peace and trust.  Learn More about me at www.healwithalchemy.com  Meditate With Me on Insight Timer

    2 min
  3. From Head To Heart: When The Healing Becomes Embodied

    15 SEPT · BONUS

    From Head To Heart: When The Healing Becomes Embodied

    This week I have something special for you.  We can only go so long on our healing journeys with concepts and conversation. We need rhythm. We need practice. We need to move from head to heart to truly begin to embody the work we are doing. We need tools that helps us feel connected to ourselves in a real and powerful ways.  In this bonus episode, I’m offering you just that. A way to root deeper into self-love and self-trust. A way to expereince compassionate awareness as a real living thing and not just a concept. A space for daily practice, without pressure or perfection. As I am traveling this month and can not bring you a full in depth episode this week, I wanted to make sure you had something substantial from me. So give this short episode a listen, head back here, click the link below, and put in the 100% off code.  On the other side is a gift from me to you — one you can return to again and again.  Your Free Gift Is HERE  Your Promo Code is: PODCAST22 You are worth it. Come home to yourself.  New episodes drop each week!  And if you’d like to explore this work more deeply in community, join me for my Healing Our Relationships live circle on Zoom on the last Thursday of every month. You’ll also find guided meditations, teachings, and resources in my HealSpace app — your sanctuary for coming home to yourself. Learn more at www.healwithalchemy.com Email me your story submissions, questions or thoughts at marisa@healwithalchemy.com Follow me on Instagram at @soulalchemyhealing Join me in Sedona this November for Awakening Woman Retreat

    3 min
  4. Healing Codependent Patterns: A Clear Path Towards Authenticity

    7 SEPT

    Healing Codependent Patterns: A Clear Path Towards Authenticity

    Codependency can be so confusing. Where does true caring end and self-abandonment begin? How do we know when we’ve shifted from showing up with love into people-pleasing, controlling, or living for someone else’s approval? In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, I share one of the most direct tools that helped me begin to sort this out: the framework of “Codependency and Recovery — The Differences.” Using clear examples, I walk you through these patterns — like in codependency, my good feelings come from you liking me; in recovery, my good feelings come from me liking me — and show how to apply them in real life. This isn’t theory; it’s practical guidance you can start using today. As you begin to work with these distinctions, you’ll find yourself stepping out of confusion and into greater authenticity, self-trust, and inner peace. Boundaries become clearer. Self-worth grows steadier. And slowly, you return to yourself. You can find the PDF I am referring to in the episode here: Download PDF And if you’d like to explore this work more deeply in community, join me for my Healing Our Relationships live circle on Zoom on the last Thursday of every month. You’ll also find guided meditations, teachings, and resources in my HealSpace app — your sanctuary for coming home to yourself. Learn more about me and my offerings at www.healwithalchemy.com Email me your story submissions, questions or thoughts at marisa@healwithalchemy.com Follow me on Instagram at @soulalchemyhealing Follow me on Insight Timer Join me in Sedona this November for Awakening Woman Retreat.

    37 min

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    Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. on Love, Fear, and Healing Our Relationships

    In this special conversation, I sit down with Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. — A Toltec Master, author, speaker, teacher, and the son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. Together, we explore the Toltec path and how its wisdom can help us navigate the fears and patterns that shape our relationships.  Miguel shares powerful insights from his new book, The Poisoned Arrow: The Toltec Guide to Overcoming Fear, on how fear underlies so much of our human experience, and why the key to healthy, happy relationships is not control, shpeshifting, or perfection — but authenticity and unconditional love. We talk about the courage it takes to surrender, to honor both our yes and our no, and to meet others not through fear but through freedom and truth. This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and remember that love rooted in authenticity transforms not only our relationships, but our relationship with ourselves. By combining the wisdom of his family’s traditions with the knowledge gained from his own personal journey, Miguel helps others realize their own path to personal freedom. Meet him on his website www.miguelruizjr.com Check out his new book in bookstores and online: The Poisoned Arrow: The Toltec Guide to Overcoming Fear Learn more about me @ www.healwithalchemy.com  Follow me in instagram @soulalchemyhealing

    45 min
  6. Boundaries And The Path Toward Self-Trust

    22 AUG

    Boundaries And The Path Toward Self-Trust

    Boundaries are one of the most misunderstood aspects of healing and recovery. For some of us, being “boundariless” looks like saying yes when we mean no, letting others decide for us, and living in fear of rejection or disapproval. For others, it looks like building walls, controlling outcomes, or cutting people off entirely as a way to feel safe. Both are forms of disconnection — from ourselves, and from authentic relationship. Today, we’ll explore why so many of us struggle to set boundaries and how this ties back to fear, perfectionism, and old survival strategies. More importantly, we’ll talk about why boundaries are not only safe, but necessary. Setting a boundary is one of the most self-honoring acts we can take — it’s how we reclaim our authenticity and create space for others to show up authentically too. You’ll discover: How being boundariless can look like over-giving or walling off  Why guilt, shame, and uncertainty are normal when we start practicing boundaries. The difference between boundaries that keep us safe and walls that keep us stuck. Tools to practice boundaries as an act of truth and self-worth, rather than control. Why taking care of yourself first is not only safe, but sacred — and how doing so creates space for authentic, honest connection with others. This conversation is a reminder that boundaries are not about shutting life out; they’re about letting life in, in a way that feels safe, honoring, and true. When we learn to set them, we reclaim our energy, our relationships, and our place in the world as whole, worthy beings. And, in order to give you a powerful guidepost for really transforming behaviors that are rooted in self-abandonment, you are getting two episodes this week so you don't have to wait to begin the powerful practice of coming. home to yourself.  Learn more about me at www.healwithalchemy.com Follow me on instagram at @soulalchemyhealing  Join us for free on Zoom on the last Thursday of the month for Healing Our Relationships the Circle

    34 min
  7. Relearning & Reclaiming Self-Acceptance And Self-Worth

    15 AUG

    Relearning & Reclaiming Self-Acceptance And Self-Worth

    You can’t just flip a switch and love yourself after a lifetime of feeling disconnected. For many of us, self-worth was never modeled it was something we had to earn through approval, performance, or meeting someone else’s expectations. Over time, our nervous systems adapted to live in survival mode, we lost sense of who we really are and  But this is not who you are. Beneath the roles you’ve played and the patterns you’ve carried is the unshakable truth of your worth. In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, we’ll explore why reclaiming self-worth isn’t about pretending, bypassing, or forcing affirmations to land. Instead, it’s about coming back into alignment in your mind, body, and spirit recovery and discovering your truth, accepting the truths that already exists. It is about creating space for compassion and care to grow.  In this episode you will learn three powerful practices you can start using today to move from head to heart and to shift your nervous system out of survival mode, ground into security, and reconnect with yourself in a way that’s loving and lasting This is your reminder: self-worth isn’t the starting point. It’s the result of choosing truth over fear, moment by moment. The books mentioned in this podcast are:  Dr. David Hawkins - Letting Go The Pathway to Surrender  Don Miguel Ruiz- The Four Agreements  Learn more about me at www.healwithalchemy.com Follow me on instagram at @soulalchemyhealing  Join us on Zoom on the last Thursday of the month for Healing Our Relationships the Circle

    31 min
  8. Healing I'm broken, I can't trust anyone, If I don't get close I can't get hurt and I'm not worthy of love

    10 AUG

    Healing I'm broken, I can't trust anyone, If I don't get close I can't get hurt and I'm not worthy of love

    Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I’m Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. Love avoidance often gets mistaken for independence, but in truth, it’s another face of codependency — a strategy to control connection and protect ourselves from pain. In this episode, I’m unpacking three core beliefs that keep love-avoidant patterns alive: I can’t trust anyone, If I don’t get close, I can’t get hurt, and I am not worthy of love. We’ll explore how these beliefs form — often from early abandonment, betrayal, or a deep mistrust of others — and how they quietly dictate the way we choose partners, keep people at arm’s length, or test whether they’ll chase us. I’ll share why walling off isn’t the safety net we think it is, but a self-imposed cage that limits intimacy, joy, and real connection. This conversation is about awareness, compassion, and the courage to take contrary action: to open the gates, to allow closeness without giving up yourself, and to risk being loved for who you truly are. You’ll leave with reflection questions and practices to help you step out from behind the walls and into relationships that feel safe because you are safe inside yourself. Learn more at www.healwithalchemy.com Email me your story submissions, questions or thoughts at marisa@healwithalchemy.com Follow me on Instagram at @soulalchemyhealing Join me in Sedona this November for Awakening Woman Retreat

    26 min
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Why do we keep abandoning ourselves in the name of love? Why do we say yes when we mean no, swallow words that ache to be spoken, or feel responsible for keeping everyone else happy — even at the cost of our own peace? Healing Our Relationships is a podcast for anyone who’s ever felt trapped in the patterns of codependency and wondered if there’s another way. I’m Marisa — healer, transformation guide, and someone who’s walked my own long road from self-abandonment to self-trust. In this space, I come as a teacher, guide, and fellow traveler. Together, we’ll explore: What codependency really is — beyond the clinical definitions and clichés How these patterns begin in childhood and live in our nervous systems How to start the healing journey with compassion rather than shame Tools for grounding, boundaries, and somatic awareness Practices for reconnecting to your body, your truth, and your spirit The intersection of spirituality and emotional healing How to move from survival into real connection — first with yourself, and then with others This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a space to breathe, reflect, and remember who you are beneath the patterns that once kept you safe. Alongside these episodes, I also hold a monthly Healing Our Relationships circle live on Zoom — a place for community, sharing, and deeper healing. You’ll find details and more resources on my HealSpace app, where I share guided meditations, teachings, and sacred tools to support your journey. If you’re ready to understand why you do what you do — and how to come home to yourself — I invite you to join me. Together, we’ll explore how to move from codependency to freedom, wholeness, and true connection. Subscribe and let’s begin.

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