Only Gets Better

Heather and Selin

Welcome to the place where midlife is just the beginning. We’re two women with a wildly optimistic view of getting older, here to laugh loudly, dig deep, and hold space for the messy, magnificent reality of midlife. This is a podcast for women who know they’re just getting started - who crave honest conversations, unexpected insights, and the kind of supportive community that feels like a group chat with your best friends. If you’ve ever thought, “Surely there’s more to this chapter?” — you’re in exactly the right place.

Episodes

  1. 30 MAR

    Ep 4: The Mental Load: And Why We’d All Be Thriving If We Had Wives Like Us

    This episode tackles the mother of all mother issues: mental load — the invisible, relentless cognitive labour that keeps families, households, and lives running smoothly… and that women somehow still carry almost entirely alone. We go beyond the tired “men just don’t notice things” explanation (though yes, that too), and dig into the deeper systems that make mental load so stubbornly gendered. We talk about: - Why women end up carrying the mental load even in loving, progressive relationships - The difference between the default parent and the opt‑in parent (and why that single distinction explains so much) - How astonishingly successful most women would be if they had partners who managed life the way they do - Why the problem isn’t individual men so much as a culture that quietly assigns responsibility without consent - And the single, surprisingly radical thing we can do to bring down the patriarchy. Yes, we’re serious. And yes, we’re laughing. This conversation is part therapy session, part sociological deep‑dive, and part love letter to the women holding twenty tabs open in their heads at all times. Come for the validation. Stay for the jokes. Leave feeling seen, slightly furious, and maybe just a little freer. Selin's rec: Yumi Stynes Ladies, We Need To Talk | Podcast on Spotify Links  Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast  Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens  Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab  Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites

    43 min

  2. 16 MAR

    Episode 3: The Wildly Independent Gen X Childhood & the Art of Letting Go

    In this episode, Heather and Selin dive straight into the stuff no one tells you - but should - about parenting.  We take a nostalgic (and slightly incredulous) walk down memory lane, back to a time when Gen X kids roamed the neighbourhood with a hilariously questionable level of freedom — and then pivot to the very real challenge of giving our own kids the space to grow without hovering and clutching our pearls. It’s an episode full of laughs, nostalgia, and genuine honesty about trying to parent well when the rulebook is…unhelpfully vague. Whether you're wondering how you made it out of childhood intact, or you’re deep in the trenches of modern parenting, this one’s for you. Real talk, real laughs, and a gentle reminder that we’re all just winging it and doing our best. Selin’s reco: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-rachel-hollis-podcast/id1245763628?i=1000673972819 Or  https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/game-changers-with-molly-fletcher/id1210452428?i=1000702961255 Heather’s reco: gimpy https://www.instagram.com/gimpy?igsh=c2Q0djBmenZ0cTdq Links  Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast  Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens  Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab  Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites

    40 min

  3. 2 MAR

    Episode 2 — The One Where We Arrive Fashionably Late

    We recorded this as the year wrapped up (remember 2025? Us neither), which means if you’re marking the Lunar New Year, this episode is actually right on time. Please consider this a culturally aligned release strategy… not procrastination. In this episode, we cozy up and reflect on the endings and beginnings. Selin insists she doesn’t have a New Year ritual—only to immediately realise she absolutely does—while Heather proudly resurrects the beloved year-in-a-jar, because we think we will remember stuff and we absolutely won't. We also look back on what we’re proud of from 2025. Selin opens up about a tough year navigating her daughter’s first year of school as a parent to a child with visible differences and a disability—honest, brave, and deeply human stuff. Heather shares how she stayed grounded in her values through a personally challenging year. And through it all, one truth keeps tapping us on the shoulder: friendship and community carry us further than anything else. Tune in for some real talk and a few laughs and remember - no matter how chaotic a year gets - it only gets better from here. Links  Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast  Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens  Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab  Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites

    44 min

  4. 15 FEB

    Welcome!

    Welcome to our very first episode - the one where we press record, hope for the best, and end up laughing far more than we planned. We’re two women in midlife, coming from different ages, different backgrounds, and different levels of certainty about how old our children are (looking at you, Selin).  But we share one big belief: the best years aren’t behind us. They’re right now, and it only gets better.  In this episode, we introduce ourselves properly - who we are, how we met, and the magic of female friendship.  It’s the reason we started this podcast in the first place; to build community where women can show up exactly as they are, laugh, listen, and feel less alone.  And because we don’t do small talk, we get into the big midlife stuff — letting go of people-pleasing, and insecurities, and celebrating women in their 60s who look like they have it all figured out.  Pull up a chair - let’s kick this thing off together. Links  Podcast Instagram Selin’s Insta Heather’s Insta Heather’s Substack

    42 min
  • 4 Episodes

About

Welcome to the place where midlife is just the beginning. We’re two women with a wildly optimistic view of getting older, here to laugh loudly, dig deep, and hold space for the messy, magnificent reality of midlife. This is a podcast for women who know they’re just getting started - who crave honest conversations, unexpected insights, and the kind of supportive community that feels like a group chat with your best friends. If you’ve ever thought, “Surely there’s more to this chapter?” — you’re in exactly the right place.

Information

  • Creator
    Heather and Selin
  • Years Active
    2k
  • Episodes
    4
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Heather and Selin
  • Show Website
    Only Gets Better

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