The Accountabilityy Hour with Ashley Reilly

Ashley Reilly
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A (life) process of putting your needs first so you're present in today's moments and find your fulfillments that comes from within. Welcome to a good sprinkle of accountability and understanding so we connect well with the ones we love. Thank you for coming! daydreamslowlyy.substack.com

  1. 1 day ago

    Heartbreak & Moving On

    Welcome to my Soapbox for Heartbreak🤍 I am talking today about moving out of relationships when they’re not in alignment, how anxiety comes up when new transformations are going to happen, and how when we can honor our own feelings we can also honor someone else’s highest good even when you benefit from the connection. I am also talking a little about my own ego’s beliefs: how I was feeling invincible in the feeling department, and had the false belief I couldn’t get deeply hurt unless I was in a relationship. The Truth is…🩵 Relationships and heartache come with hurt no matter how old, secure, or comfortable with your needs you become. We are only human and it’s natural to care about one another, become attached to people who make us feel great and add to our lives, and to get hurt along the way. Healing is not Linear. Healing and doing the right thing can be confusing, foreign, and unnatural. Life is not a perfect learning environment for how to respect one another or each other’s life path’s. Feeling Good Feels Nice🌺 Just like in most things, we want a surplus of good feelings and connection in life, in relationships. We enjoy adding cheese to our pasta, flavor and bubbles to our water, and watching exciting, captivating entertainment. That is natural, that is human, that isn’t something we have to learn to be creative, to want to connect and be a part and do interesting things. It is certainly a learning-opportunity, a skill, to be able to think of other’s interest’s, their life’s journey (not the journey we want them on, but the journey they are ACTUALLY on), and to put their interest’s before our own and support them in that journey whether or not we get to be by their side during the process. Thank you for reading! Ashley Reilly Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

    20 min

  2. 5 Jun

    Valuing Present Feelings or Valuing Future Outcomes

    Hello, hello, hello. I am so glad you’re here on this planet with me at this period of time- what a blessing this is in and of itself. 🌻 I have been inspired by and listening to the audiobook Detached recommended by a beautiful wise soul, and I highly recommend it for a fresh perspective on unhealthy dynamics we pick up along the way of life and adapt to society for our survival on this Earth. 🌿 I have also been reading Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis— in my view, it’s a relaxed exploration on religious denominations similarities and the egotistical identity we often have of “God”, the universe, life and why so many people hate religion or feel they’re agnostic…🦋 And since I enjoy fiction and have never read the Chronicle’s of Narnia, I ordered an old set of the books since I liked them in certain color palette and older books have more character, so I’m very excited for them to get here. 🪄(And obviously with my whole decluttering frenzy that means there are books I have that will go on to a new adventure, too…🌝 Is there anything you specifically struggle to get rid of??) I have never read Chronicles of Narnia but I loved the movies growing up so I can only imagine the books are better. I have never read Harry Potter so that is probably going to be the next set, eventually.📚 Summertime is one of my favorite times to read- especially fiction. Do you have a favorite season or time to read?🙃 💫Of course I typically have to put a cautionary note as always since we often make things literal- soo, talk to individuals you trust and confide in and feel in alignment with for your best life decisions with where you’re currently at. When you feel you need support and that you are drowning in your issues, reach out to trained professionals or support systems and see how you feel as you are connecting with them and what kind of guidance and new solutions individuals can offer you. Great support is out there, but you have to be willing to search and not settle for less when you find something isn’t working for you and you know it in your gut- when you’ve dug yourself into a hole, stop digging.🌳 Thank you for reading this article, supporting my Substack, and opening your perspectives and mind to this podcast. But most of all, thank you very much for growing here with me in real time and I am sending you my prayers and healing energy.🦉🩵 Ashley Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

    24 min

  3. 21 May

    Taboo Thoughts on Doing What Feels Wrong, Having Kids, Fulfillment, Religion & More

    Welcome! 📣This is a longgg episode, so if you’ve found yourself here thank you for opening your mind, your heart and yourself to my personal perspectives from me working through figuring out what feels good to me in my life and where I am at currently.🌺 Sooo, let’s Get Into It! What I am saying in this episode is relative: it is not something to be pulled apart and dissected because things never look as they first did after we over-compartmentalize life situations. Life is not a math problem to organize…but I’m already digressing 😂🫠 🧠….I feel this is why we often struggle understanding other people because we take situations and set it aside separately and ask “how could they ‘do that’… why would they ‘do that’… what in the world are they ‘thinking’?…” 📊Though when we see people making their own decisions, we are not seeing what is effecting that person that day, what their financial situation is and how they’re processing it or if they’re connecting it to self-worth, if someone in their family just passed and they’re emotionally devastated, if there’s shame or trauma in the losses or anything else in the VAST possibilities of what happens on this wild planet Earth.🌍 Judging the Unopened Books. It’s like reading the last page of a book and expecting to understand the entire story in between, and… we most likely cannot unless we have some sort of incredible knowledge of wealth and memory or intuitive book reading skill we’ve mastered even though no information was provided… So why do we do the same with humans when we see someone freaking out at a grocery store, or arguing with a bank teller in public? Why do we think watching someone else’s behavior we would NEVER act the same and man! We just do NOT understand! Our Strong Emotions are Reallyyyy Towards Ourselves 👀😳😤 … I am sure you can think of a situation where your emotions were not in proportion to the situation happening: whether that was caring too little about certain outcomes, or caring too much about the outcomes. (I can pull up at least 5 recent situations this week from myy own memories🙃). These are great learning opportunities to gain information about ourself— the things that bother us most about other people are things we struggle with ourselves in some form or another. So we ask, the “why are they…how could they…” questions feigning ignorance (our ego) and it’s partially true- we are ignorant because if we understood we’d be changing ourselves to be better and not asking about somebody else’s life and their transgressions. Another opportunity, a different trail you can take is when the “why do they…. how could they….” or the “I would never… I just don’t understand…. it doesn’t make any sense…. there’s no reason for it…” emotions and statements come up, recognize you are REALLY talking about yourself. Let that sink in, that is a big Ego vail drop.🔪 Thiss is a reader-supported publication.🩵 To support my work, consider subscribing, sharing the article, or sharing my publication please— that’s what helps me grow.🦋 The Steps Beyond… The steps beyond give you power over yourself, over your ego when you learn the Ego (part of the brain) lies to us that’s why this revelation is so important; if you don’t realize you are talking about yourself truly and how you don’t understand why it is you do everything YOU do and the way YOU do it, you certainly question and find other humans absolutely mysterious because you understand them as well (or as little) as you understand yourself. We can only meet people as far as we have met ourselves. And we only give as much grace, respect, trust etc to others that we give to ourselves first. When judgements towards others come up, don’t worry or shame yourself because they will! We are imperfect-perfect beings, when you say “I don’t know why they do drugs, there’s no reason for it…” the questions and reflections that need to come along after is… ”what am I numbing myself with lately? When am I tuning out to life and my feelings? What feelings from the past, what perspectives of the future, or what experiences currently existing in my body am I avoiding? What parts of MY body am I rejecting and denying?” Don’t be scared to get honest … with yourself because this is where the real magic happens🪄 when you’re honest with yourself about the kind of life you want to live, and how you’d really like to change it or see it in the future. You have the opportunity to create any life you want so make decisions that bring you closer to how you’d like your life to be. Thank you for being here!🌻 Ashley Reilly Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

    43 min

  4. 8 May

    What's Meant for You Will Stay: Alignment with Our Desires

    I’ve been MIA recently… because I am shifting my timelines. We all have this ability to step into different paths for our lives and a big piece of that is showing up in life and experiencing things presently. It’s not enough to watch people in social media live their lives and do incredible cool projects: that’s not living your life, watching other people live their lives. There’s a lot of anxiety and apprehension and stress dealing with humans and relationships, but staying at home, avoiding our friends or avoiding our piles of responsibilities won’t help us grow. If we make the choice to show up for the things that we never want to do, allow people to feel how they feel, and support others and ourselves on the journey we would like to take we are showing up for life. The Best and Worst Parts… ...of life is that we cannot predict any of it. Humans are not crystal balls or oracle lenses where we see all of realities, dimensions, and versions of how life moves or how it will go or how it will shift in the future. However, we have something much stronger in us which guides us towards our truths of present time- our intuition. Intuition is not often a full, beautiful picture, it’s not a life plan mapped out in every moment… It’s certainly not never making a mistake again, or getting every choice correct and every try is a great, magical, fairytale outcome. I think what the Disney movies and fairytales are trying to tell us is that when the odds look really bleak, and there’s no one on your side, there’s something greater that you have in those instances- it’s yourself, your drive and perseverance, and your destiny. But. You Can’t See It. You can’t see Destiny while you’re living it, in the middle of it, at the start of it. You typically only see the mess of your life- the disorganization, the lack of security in our relationships, the huge distance away we have from our dreams, the feeling that things aren’t as great as they could be but we don’t know how to change it. How do we get on the other side of having our dreams fulfilled and greener pastures? Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour is a reader-supported publication. ❤️ Destiny and Intuition are not like a fairy-god-mother appearing after we can’t figure things out. But there’s often a release of control or agreement we surrender to to give up the reigns of making our ego comfortable and admitting there’s a lot we don’t know about this mysterious world, and that’s normal, okay, and a part of being human. Thank you for being here, sharing your thoughts, and showing up with an open-mind. Ashley Reilly Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

    28 min

  5. 10 Apr

    We've Failed Men & Things Have to Change.

    Men & Mental Health Dear Men, you are loved, you are valued, you are perfect the way you are. You don’t need to conform to society’s expectations of you. You are allowed to cry, be vulnerable, express yourself, reinvent your identity, and do what feels right to you.❤️‍🩹 Social media, television, society, family and peer-structures are teaching men who they are supposed to be, how they are supposed to look, how they are supposed to act and treat others, how they are supposed to shame, berate and hate themselves to change... It’s no wonder we are living in a very tentative, abusive societal climate currently. Men are groomed to… * maintain a “nice guy appearance” * hurt others for access to control or power * be untrustworthy of safety or stability * feel unsafe feeling or expressing their emotions * feel unsafe trusting women or vulnerable experiences and emotions And many other conformities. If we don’t talk about and admit there’s something going on here, then it just continue to go on like it has been. And I really hope we do not want to keep living in a world where the individuals in power are abusing it and vulnerable individuals. Ignoring what we teach men or how we treat their emotions or respond to them only keeps these abuse rings going. ***I’m mostly discussing women’s relations affecting men since that’s what I am more aware of, but of course men and fathers effect men as well. Though, it’s a very different, important conversation that has it’s separate complexities with biology, hormones, family relatives, trauma, etc. An amazing podcast for men’s health is Huberman Lab podcast - here’s an interesting one about prenatal testosterone, birth order and biology of men. *** The Issues Underneath. If we keep expecting men to conform to certain identities, then they keep showing up inauthentically with their ego. If we want men to show up authentically, as their true, best self, we have to cultivate an environment where… * it’s safe for them to feel their emotions, * they can ask for their needs to be met and seen * they can ask and accept help * they are allowed to choose their own identity and values Well, how do we do show up for men in our lives? We ask them questions, and we let them talk about their problems without communicating a solution to them of what they’re “supposed to do” or “how to fix it”. Remember the scene from the movie Freaky Friday, where Coleman “Lohan” is pretending to be a therapist? She’s listening to the patient talk about feeling depressed and she responds and asks “and… how do you feel about that?” and the guy says,offendedly, “…depressed.” This scene is hilarious, and is one of my favorite because it’s ridiculous and so accurate. Here’s the link to the scene if you want a reminder (: This is exactly who should embody when you are listening to men- women do not need to fix men’s problems or try to fix or take care of them. When a man is coming to you for help… * listen to him presently * ask him questions on how he feels * ask what comes up in his body or in his mind or where he is feeling these emotions, * ask him if he feels like something is “going to happen” or the thoughts they’re having * ask if a memory is coming up from the past…. * suggest and support him making healthy connections, new hobbies, going to therapy… When in doubt, listen without giving judgement or advice, and let them know you’re here for them. Thank you for reading and listening, I appreciate you being here ❤️ Ashley Reilly Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

    25 min

  6. 1 Apr

    Feeling In a Rush

    If you enjoy my content, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.💚 The Human Condition Talking about my own characteristics of OCD, currently, and… * how it shows up socially * how it affects my tasks and hyper-focused activity * and how it relates to beliefs (ie: needing things to be “perfect” or to have “peace” to make progress on something you want to do, why I avoid singled-out/staged singing…) * working through why I don’t sing publicly live (hello, OCD, again!) * baby steps I am taking to push myself out of my comfort zone * discussing my own struggles writing and producing music There’s Always Time for What You Love… There’s no such thing as “perfect timing”, “right timing”, or “no time”. Take it from me— someone saying I dont have any time to play my guitar, or I don’t have any time to write because I am too busy cleaning, but I do. (because here I am, writing to you!) There’s often invisible resistance that’s stopping us from enjoying our time to the fullest or to take a bet on ourselves. But right now is the time. If I am honest with myself… I was not willing to do what it takes to get myself to that place, as well as, having fears tied into perfectionism. ( I did write today though so hey, here we are ~stepping into a new timeline~) What’s holding you back from something you love? What’s something you’d love to be able to do? What steps could you take to get closer to doing something you love? Broken Record… Hi, it’s me, the broken record. I am here to talk about childhood, subconscious beliefs, trauma, and healing. There’s a reason though! I talk about my own personal struggles of avoiding doing things with the hope that exposure = enlightenment for myself and others. And it’s a reminder we are all avoiding something because we are just human and we enjoy comfort and nobody’s perfect, and we love each other regardless of lack of perfection. Discussing the things that bother us is freeing and helps us grow- it’s like the key to invisible psychological shackles that hold us back from our own personal dream bowling team or life living in the Bahamas drinking pina coladas. Anything you dream. The best teachers… ….are the ones who taught themselves, persevered at all odds, or the ones who are still learning. Vulnerability and abundance are not the weaknesses they are oftentimes seen as but mastered strengths that show growth and emotional maturity. that’s why I am happy to be here, sharing my own experiences because we are all growing if we are blessed to be, and none of us are doing it alone.❤️ Thanks for reading! Ashley Reilly Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

    22 min

  7. 24 Mar

    You are Successful if You Enjoy it

    (please enjoy a photo of vanilla cake I made, speaking of Martha Stewart) Why Not? Why a podcast? Well, it’s healing! It’s honestly a great piece of my healing journey. Many trauma therapist talk about how you only truly heal once you embody and discuss things that hurt you. (cue podcast) And how sharing your pain and perspective is stepping into a new, secure identity of ourselves. Anyone can talk about how something is easy, but that does not mean someone will be vulnerable and talk about how we got there and what still bothers us —that takes real security. You’re the Best Version of Yourself Whatever you enjoy is meant for you. We can have unconscious biases and opinions of what we are “allowed” to do. If we don’t think we can make fast money or join the Olympics, we shouldn’t pursue what we enjoy, it’s a waste of time… But how can we ever get to the Olympics if we don’t start at the bunny hill? Or if we don’t start at all? How do we get to know ourselves if we don’t try new things? Probably not very easily, or we have likely halted the learning and we are feel settled in with how things currently are. But if we showed up to the bunny hill we would learn more about ourselves than we knew the day before, even if that’s that we hate skiing and come home with a broken ankle and a hospital bill. Experiences, good or bad, are just those— experiences. Something to laugh off, not something to carry weighed-around with us. Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour. To receive new posts, consider becoming a subscriber. Going in a Direction you Don’t want to. So much of life is out of our control. The world is totally unpredictable. We can control although how we want to show up today, and show up in the future and that’s huge. That’s a huge shift for our human selves. If we don’t like the direction we are in or if we don’t like where we are at in our life that is incredible news because that means we have tons of opportunity available to guide ourselves in a new direction. And that in and of itself is the healing process, is healing. Living a life that is enjoyable to you is what is important— that your life and the things in it the relationships in it is sparking joy. Thanks for reading! Ashley Reilly Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

    13 min

  8. 17 Mar

    Water Off a Duck's Back

    People Meant to Understand You. 🌏The world seems to be in a very tentative time and many are feeling alone and disconnected from one another right now, and disconnected from their community. And I certainly feel it, too.🤍 ☔️We can’t stop the weather, but we can choose how we respond to it. (I type this positive content while listening to a Twilight inspired playlist🤎 lol) ❓↪ But what we do next is our choice, our freedom. If You Over-Consume Negativity, it Will Consume You‼️ * 🌪️We may feel out of control of our lives or down by content we have experienced or are exposed to. * ↔Whatever goes into our bodies, comes out of our bodies energetically. ✨ * 🪫May not feel like content or experiences do not change us energetically but may be struggling or not open to connect with others 🍋⌛️We can be turning to sources of sour relationships, conversations or high stress entertainment because we are ignoring stress in our nervous system. ∞ (well, let’s just take on more stress, right!?🥴) Thanks for reading! This post is public, feel free to share it.- Ashley Reilly🤎 🧑‍⚕️How… we are feeling after we have experienced things are important questions. * 🪫🙈Is this filling a current void: is what we’re doing easier than what we are avoiding? 🥊 🧡Do we reallyyy just love to watch baseball, reality tv or true crime shows until we fall asleep? 🧨📺orrr is it igniting or stifling feelings we have not yet processed…?❤️‍🩹 Buy a Big Fish Tank * 🚀Don’t hold yourself back. You set your limitations. * ∞ Reaching for our potential and processing trauma work together. * ❤️‍🩹 Trying new things can help us physically move on and stop embodying old negative beliefs. * 🏅There’s nothing to lose in opening up your world and trying new things. * 🎀 The world is an abundant place: there’s so much to enjoy and learn. * 🐝Life is short: there’s no time to suffer and be miserable, it’s not worth it. Thank you for reading! Ashley Reilly Get full access to Ashley Reilly's: The Accountabilityy Hour at daydreamslowlyy.substack.com/subscribe

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A (life) process of putting your needs first so you're present in today's moments and find your fulfillments that comes from within. Welcome to a good sprinkle of accountability and understanding so we connect well with the ones we love. Thank you for coming! daydreamslowlyy.substack.com

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