Get Naked with Dr. Kate

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Dr. Kate Balestrieri, host of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, is a Licensed Clinical and Forensic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, PACT Therapist, CSAT and the founder of Modern Intimacy. She helps people live more fulfilled lives by shattering stigma and erasing shame. It’s no secret that we live in a society that compartmentalizes sex and sexuality from our every day lives. On this show, Dr. Kate is going to change that, by getting curious with other experts and listeners. In this podcast, you're invited to join Dr. Kate as she investigates the relationship between sex, mental health, relationships and modern society. She shares safe, smart, dimensional and practical answers to those complex questions you’ve been wondering about. Mental health, sex and relationships do not have to feel like daunting topics. Everyone has questions. You are not alone. On this podcast, Dr. Kate makes information accessible. Everyone deserves to have more integrated, healthy, and sexually satisfying relationships. Email your questions to getnaked@modernintimacy.com (Education and entertainment only - not therapy).

  1. 5 days ago

    Criminalized Survival: When the System Punishes Victims with Justine van der Leun

    What happens when a survivor's fight for safety is labeled a crime? In this powerful and essential episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri sits down with investigative journalist Justine van der Leun to explore the harrowing reality of "criminalized survival." Justine spent years inside prisons, listening to women who killed, maimed, or broke the law, not because they were monsters, but because they were survivors who ran out of options. Her book, Unreasonable Women, tells the unforgettable stories of these women, revealing how the legal system often erases their histories of abuse and paints them as cold-blooded perpetrators instead of victims of intimate partner violence. In this conversation, Justine and Dr. Kate discuss the thin, blurry line between victim and perpetrator, the sexist and racist tropes used to prosecute women, and the profound lack of support that sets survivors up for failure. This isn't just their story; it's a stark examination of who society allows to be violent and who is expected to endure it. Tune in for a moving conversation that will change the way you see justice, survival, and the women the system has deemed "unreasonable." Key Topics Discussed: What is "Criminalized Survival"?  The Case of Nikki Addamando The "Reasonable Man" Standard The Three Prongs of Victim Blaming The Role of Sexism and Racism The High Cost of Violence A Call for Change Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. 28 Jul

    How Weaponized Incompetence Can Ruin Your Relationship with Laura Danger

    Today’s video contains a guest appearance from Laura Danger, both an educator as well as an advocate for domestic equity. In today’s video, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and Laura Danger explore relationship inequity, emotional and domestic labor, and how mismatched definitions of “trying” create friction, resentment, and loss of desire. They cover various themes surrounding relationships such as:  how to distinguish capacity vs willingness,  how defensiveness and punishment can function to silence needs, and how mental health can affect contribution while still requiring collaborative problem-solving and support.  They collaborate on what it means to have a partner that weaponizes incompetence and how unresolved could corrupt the foundation of relationships. 00:49 Podcast Return and New Book 01:36 Meet Laura Danger 02:39 Why Equity Becomes Conflict 04:59 Listener Question Bare Minimum Partner 05:58 Good Faith Effort vs Incompetence 08:22 Cant vs Wont and Defensiveness 12:42 Mental Health and Capacity in Couples 16:53 Boundaries and Resentment Spiral 21:53 The NAG Paradox Explained 22:25 Honey Do Trap 23:21 Power Imbalance Loop 24:53 New Parent Resentment 27:42 Repair With Check Ins 29:17 Fair Play Framework 30:35 Regulating Conflict Cycles 35:27 Anger As Information 42:54 Somatic Anger Cues 44:37 Closing And Resources About Laura Danger: Laura Danger, is an educator, author, facilitator, and advocate for domestic equity and equal distribution of the mental load. She is a prominent voice, who popularized topics regarding care culture and fostering equitable dynamics within a relationship. Instagram & TikTok: @thatdarnchat Website: www.lauradanger.com Book: No More Mediocre https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593474783/?bestFormat=true&k=no%20more%20mediocre&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-bk-ww_k0_1_16_de&crid=35U7ZEMYGXUV9&sprefix=no%20more%20mediocre Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. 14 Jul

    How a Child's SA Disclosure Can Impact Parents' Sex Lives with Dr. Imani Reynolds

    When a child discloses sexual abuse, the immediate focus is understandably on the survivor's healing. But what happens to the parents in the aftermath - specifically, to their romantic and sexual relationship? In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri speaks with Dr. Imani Reynolds, a clinician at Modern Intimacy, whose pioneering research explores the hidden third relationship often overlooked in the healing process: the one between the parents. Dr. Reynolds’ work reveals the profound and often invisible impact that a child's abuse can have on a parent’s own sexuality, desire, and intimacy with their partner. They discuss the jarring experience of secondary traumatic stress, how intrusive thoughts can alter sexual fantasy and desire, and how partners often react and cope in vastly different ways, creating a new set of challenges for the relationship. This conversation offers a vital and compassionate look at how the entire family system is affected and provides a crucial perspective on the importance of parents addressing their own well-being. Key Themes Include: The Overlooked Impact on Parents Desire vs. Intimacy The Role of Secondary Trauma When a Fantasy Isn't a Fantasy Anymore: The Unseen Divide The Breakdown of Trust A Call to Care for the Whole System For more support, schedule a complimentary consultation, to explore how working with a clinician at Modern Intimacy might help. If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review. Share it with a friend or partner who might need to hear this vital perspective. We want to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. 6 Jul

    Why Hitting the Gym Won't Fix Your Anger with Dr. Ryan Martin

    We often think of intimacy as the meeting of minds and bodies, but what happens when your emotions—frustration, anxiety, or shame—hijack the moment? In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri sits down with psychologist and author Dr. Ryan Martin to explore the critical link between emotional regulation and relational health. Dr. Martin, author of the new book Emotion Hacks: 50 Ways to Feel Better Fast, debunks the "Catharsis Myth" and explains why vigorous exercise when you're angry might actually be making things worse. Together, they unpack the neuroscience of anger, the importance of feeling uncomfortable emotions (not numbing them), and how to use your feelings as a source of vital information. If you’ve ever struggled to pause before reacting, felt overwhelmed by big feelings, or wondered how your emotional patterns affect your sex life and relationships, this episode is for you. Learn how to build your "emotional toolkit" and develop the skills to not just survive your feelings, but to use them for deeper connection. For more information about Dr. Ryan Martin: https://alltheragescience.com/ YT, TT + IG:  @AngerProfessor  Emotion Hacks: https://www.amazon.com/Emotion-Hacks-Ways-Feel-Better/dp/1786788675 ____________________________________ 📞 SCHEDULE A FREE 30-MIN CONSULTATION: https://www.modernintimacy.com/contact/ ____________________________________ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. 16 Jun

    Are Deepfakes An Act Of Terrorism? with Soraya Chemaly

    Think deepfakes are just a privacy issue? Think again. We are conditioned to see sexual deepfakes as a crime against an individual’s reputation. But what if they are actually a weapon of mass control?  In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri sits down with author Soraya Chemaly to blow the lid off the mainstream narrative. They argue that these digital violations aren't just about consent.  But in fact, they are stochastic terrorism: a systematic, male-supremacist tool designed to police women’s behavior through sheer terror.  They dive into the ugly underbelly of the "boy crisis," the tech industry’s victim-blaming band-aids, and why changing the way we think about sex and equality is the only armor that actually works against imposed sexualization.  If you’ve ever felt like the world is getting more dangerous for everyone online, this conversation will give you the language to understand why—and the tools to fight back. For more information about Soraya Chemaly, including all of her books and social media, visit https://www.sorayachemaly.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  6. 2 Jun

    How to Have Better Sex with Dr. Nicole McNichols

    Dr. Kate Balestrieri interviews University of Washington professor Dr. Nicole McNichols who has taught “The Diversity of Human Sexuality” for about 15 years. They discuss McNichols’ book, “You Could Be Having Better Sex,” and answer a listener who wants to improve an already good sex life. Dr. McNichols introduces “micro-novelty” and explains how nonsexual forms of intimacy—intellectual, spiritual, aesthetic, and future-oriented—can strengthen sexual connection. She outlines her hierarchy of sexual needs (physical/psychological; social/emotional; creative/self-expressive) and reframes fantasies as pathways to desired feelings. They address mismatched effort, women’s sexual emotional labor (including the “fifth shift”), the harms of faking orgasms, and using curiosity, communication, and therapy to navigate blocks, emphasizing that pleasure is a birthright. 00:00 Meet Dr Nicole McNichols 01:20 UW Sex Class 02:10 Sex Ed Gaps 03:49 New Book Why 05:05 Listener Wants More (Question) 05:48 Micro Novelty Tips 07:05 Beyond Bedroom Intimacy 08:06 Intellectual Intimacy 10:21 Spiritual Aesthetic Intimacy 13:37 Permission For More 15:49 Sex Needs Pyramid 21:17 Fantasies As Metaphors 21:38 Sexual Growth Skills 22:42 The Fifth Shift Explained 25:00 Why Desire Drops 26:13 Stop Faking Pleasure 27:29 Talking Without Blame 29:38 When Truth Feels Betraying 33:30 Curiosity Questions That Work 38:42 Where To Find Dr. McNichols Dr. Nicole McNicholsBook: You Could Having Better Sex https://www.amazon.com/You-Could-Having-Better-Sex/dp/1668053772/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1PVG61UHELD4J&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.TGA7IggxO47gFh5N7FNfeBdXNGVVmI5-9DvqXOTAcaNsnnyIvLnAi7cUiILcSlagzzthTiIXbfp0sf7GuFRPS8CibcFU1gSObU0J26bQz5hxWLmIgIIGDDAifMs_B3yFxLFBl3-24vDuMyh_QUX5qg._m6W5rD2D4ok2dM0UpMgNTOy-DdC2wwNRdUC8KTgrYI&dib_tag=se&keywords=you+could+be+having+better+sex&qid=1771878717&sprefix=you+could,aps,195&sr=8-1 Website: www.nicolethesexprofessor.comInstagram (@Nicole_TheSexProfessor)TikTok: (@Nicole_TheSexProfessor) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  7. 15 May

    Embracing Sex Positivity with Luvbites Host Dr. Tara

    How do you embrace sex positivity if you grew up surrounded by social messaging filled with shame? Dr. Tara is ready to help you answer this question, and share her journey to sex positivity as well! This week on Get Naked, the doctors are in session – Dr. Kate and Dr. Tara, who will be on 90 Day Fiancé, sit down to discuss: • First sexual experiences • Defining sex positivity • Unpacking the judgement and backlash that sex positive individuals face (and why) • The macro- and micro-communications about sex and so much more! Dr. Tara is the internet's resident sex expert for GenZennials, on a mission to show that women can at once be sexual, intellectual, and powerful. She is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, the TV host of Celebs Go Dating, an award-winning sex researcher, a TEDx speaker, host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast, and an in-demand sex and relationship coach based in Los Angeles. On TikTok, Dr. Tara is sharing bite-sized nuggets of wisdom to an audience eager to step into their power in sex, life, and beyond. Translation: she's making some serious moves destigmatizing sex, and having a blast while doing it. Sponsor: Lume - use code GETNAKED for 15% off your first purchase at LumeDeodorant.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  8. 15/10/2024

    Reclaiming Your Desire: Empowerment, Sovereignty, and Sexual Freedom with Pamela Madsen

    In this enlightening episode of "Get Naked with Dr. Kate," we welcome Pamela Madsen, the visionary behind Back to the Body. Together, Dr. Kate and Pamela dive deep into the world of embodied sexuality, desire, and vulnerability. Pamela shares how women can reclaim their pleasure and sovereignty by embracing their eroticism and shedding the shame that often surrounds sexual exploration. This conversation touches on the significance of immersive practices, the challenges of arousal imprints, and how sexual healing transcends the bedroom to affect all areas of life. Tune in for an empowering discussion that will leave you inspired to reconnect with your body and embrace your authentic desires. For more information about Pamela Madsen, you can find her here: Website: https://backtothebody.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Dr. Kate Balestrieri, host of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, is a Licensed Clinical and Forensic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, PACT Therapist, CSAT and the founder of Modern Intimacy. She helps people live more fulfilled lives by shattering stigma and erasing shame. It’s no secret that we live in a society that compartmentalizes sex and sexuality from our every day lives. On this show, Dr. Kate is going to change that, by getting curious with other experts and listeners. In this podcast, you're invited to join Dr. Kate as she investigates the relationship between sex, mental health, relationships and modern society. She shares safe, smart, dimensional and practical answers to those complex questions you’ve been wondering about. Mental health, sex and relationships do not have to feel like daunting topics. Everyone has questions. You are not alone. On this podcast, Dr. Kate makes information accessible. Everyone deserves to have more integrated, healthy, and sexually satisfying relationships. Email your questions to getnaked@modernintimacy.com (Education and entertainment only - not therapy).

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  • Creator
    Modern Intimacy
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    106
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Modern Intimacy
  • Show Website
    Get Naked with Dr. Kate

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