Raise Strong

Alex Anderson-Kahl
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Raise Strong is the podcast that helps you turn parenting chaos into calm and power struggles into connection. Hosted by school psychologist and parent coach Alex Anderson-Kahl, each episode blends child psychology, empathy, and practical tools to help you respond with confidence, teach emotional regulation, and raise resilient, emotionally intelligent kids. Discover reflective discipline, gentle parenting, and mindset shifts that make every day feel more peaceful—because strong kids start with supported parents. This is Raise Strong.

  1. 11 MAY

    Episode 19 - Unlocking Emotional Safety in Parenting: Three Conversations You Need

    A parent once told me something that has stayed with me. She said, “I feel like I only talk to my child when I’m correcting them or asking them questions.” And honestly? That is more common than you think. In the middle of busy days, most parents naturally default to logistics. Did you brush your teeth? Where are your shoes? Did you finish your homework? Please stop touching your brother. We’re going to be late. None of those things are wrong. They are part of parenting. But when most conversations become reminders, corrections, and questions, something subtle can happen over time. Your child may start to experience your voice as pressure. In this episode of Raise Strong, we explore three small, repeatable conversations that help your child feel safe, seen, and emotionally connected at any age. Because emotional safety is not built in one big dramatic moment. It is built in small, steady moments your child learns to trust. What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeIn this episode, you’ll discover: Why emotional safety is built through repeated conversationsHow daily logistics can unintentionally crowd out connectionWhat to ask instead of “How was your day?”How repair strengthens trust after hard parenting momentsWhy support conversations help children name what they needHow to build openness without forcing deep talks This episode gives you three practical conversations you can start using this week to strengthen trust, connection, and emotional safety in your home. The Core ShiftMost parents are talking to their children all day. But not every conversation builds connection. Some conversations manage behavior. Some move the routine forward. Some keep the day from falling apart. Those conversations matter. But children also need conversations that communicate: “I want to know you.” “We can come back together after hard moments.” “You do not have to carry hard things alone.” That is where emotional safety begins. The Three Conversations1. The Inner World ConversationThis conversation helps your child feel known beyond their behavior, tasks, and responsibilities. Instead of asking, “How was your day?” try: “Tell me one thing from today I wouldn’t know unless you told me.” This opens the door to your child’s thoughts, feelings, worries, and small moments. It tells them: “I am interested in your inner world.” 2. The Repair ConversationEvery family has hard moments. You lose your patience. Your child yells. A boundary turns into a power struggle. Someone says something they wish they hadn’t said. Repair teaches your child that connection can survive conflict. You might say: “I want to come back to what happened earlier. I didn’t handle that the way I wanted to.” Repair does not mean removing boundaries. It means reconnecting before reteaching. 3. The Support ConversationThis conversation teaches your child how to name what they need. You might ask: “What is one thing coming up this week that you want support with?” Or: “Do you want me to listen, help solve it, or just be nearby?” This helps your child learn that support can look different in different moments. Sometimes they need advice. Sometimes they need space. Sometimes they need comfort. Sometimes they just need you to stay close without fixing anything. Your One Action Step This WeekChoose one of the three conversations and try it once this week. You do not need to do all three perfectly. Start small. One conversation. One moment. One opening. Try saying: “Tell me one thing from today I wouldn’t know unless you told me.” Or: “I want to come back to what happened earlier.” Or: “What is one thing coming up this week that you want support with?” Emotional safety is not built through perfect parenting. It is built through small, steady moments your child learns to trust. Why This MattersYour child does not need every conversation to be deep. They just need to know there are safe places to be honest. When you create those places consistently, you teach your child: “You can come to me.” “We can repair hard moments.” “You do not have to carry everything alone.” That is the foundation of trust. And trust is what helps children open up over time. RESOURES: 3 Mistakes That Make Sibling Fights Worse... (And What to Do Instead) - https://alexandersonkahl.com/3-mistakes/Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrasesVisit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.comThe Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map Next Week on Raise StrongEpisode 20 – Stop Threatening. Start Teaching: What Actually Builds Self-Control Next week, we’re talking about a pattern many parents fall into when they feel overwhelmed: Threats. We’ll explore why threats may stop behavior in the moment, but often backfire over time. You’ll learn how to shift from pressure and punishment toward teaching real self-regulation. If you’ve ever said, “If you don’t stop right now…” and then wondered why it didn’t actually help, this next episode is for you. If this episode helped you, make sure you’re subscribed to Raise Strong so you don’t miss what’s coming next. And if you know a parent who wants more trust, openness, and emotional safety at home, share this episode with them. Raising strong kids doesn’t start with perfect parenting. It starts with steady connection. You’ve got this.

    26 min

  2. 30 MAR

    Episode 18 - Why Your Child Pulls Away and How to Stay Connected

    If your child has ever said, “Leave me alone.” “Stop talking to me.” Or completely shut you out… …this episode is for you. Because what looks like rejection on the outside is often something very different on the inside. In Episode 18 of Raise Strong, we explore one of the most confusing and painful parenting experiences: When your child pushes you away at the exact moment they need you most. What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeIn this episode, you’ll discover: Why avoidant behavior is often a stress response, not defianceWhat’s happening in your child’s brain and nervous system in these momentsHow attachment shifts during middle childhood and preteen yearsWhy pushing harder often creates more distanceWhat to say (and what not to say) when your child shuts downHow to stay emotionally available without overwhelming your childThe difference between giving space and creating disconnection The Core ShiftWhen children push us away, our instinct is to move closer… louder, faster, and with more urgency. We ask more questions. We try to fix it. We take it personally. But here’s the shift: Distance is often a protective strategy, not a rejection. Your child is not saying, “I don’t need you.” They are often saying, “This feels like too much, and I don’t know how to handle it.” When we respond with pressure, we increase that overwhelm. When we respond with steadiness, we create safety. What This Looks Like in Real LifeInstead of: “Talk to me right now.” “Why are you acting like this?” “You need to tell me what’s going on.” You might say: “I’m here when you’re ready.” “You don’t have to talk right now.” “We can try again later.” You’re not giving up. You’re giving your child space to regulate without losing connection. Why This MattersThis stage can feel like you’re losing your child. But in reality, you’re being invited to change how you show up. Less control. More presence. Less urgency. More trust. Children don’t need perfect words in these moments. They need to feel: “I can come back to you when I’m ready… and you’ll still be there.” That’s what builds long-term trust. RESOURES: 3 Mistakes That Make Sibling Fights Worse... (And What to Do Instead) - https://alexandersonkahl.com/3-mistakes/Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrasesVisit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.comThe Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map Your One Action Step This Week The next time your child pulls away: Pause. Lower the intensity. Offer one steady line: "I’m here when you’re ready.” Then let that be enough. Connection is not built in the moment you push. It’s built in the moments you stay.

    23 min

  3. 9 MAR

    Episode 17 - From Loneliness to Connection: Navigating Friendship Development

    Many parents quietly wonder: Is it normal that my child struggles socially? Maybe you’ve watched your child walk onto a playground and felt a knot in your stomach. Will someone include them? Will they know how to join in? Will they get hurt? In this episode of Raise Strong, we explore what healthy friendship development actually looks like — and the emotional skills that matter far more than popularity. Because friendships aren’t built on charisma. They’re built on learnable skills. What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeIn this episode, you’ll discover: • The core emotional skills that help children build lasting friendships • Why popularity is far less important than belonging • What often gets in the way of friendship development • How everyday moments at home build social confidence • Signs your child is developing healthy friendship skills This episode blends attachment science, child psychology, and practical parenting insights to help you support your child’s social world with more clarity and less worry. The Big IdeaFriendship readiness isn’t about having lots of friends. It grows from five key competencies: • Emotional regulation • Perspective-taking and empathy • Social entry skills • Conflict repair • Confidence to be themselves And many of these skills begin developing right at home through everyday family interactions. When children feel emotionally secure at home, they carry that confidence into classrooms, playgrounds, and peer relationships. Your One Action Step This WeekInstead of asking: “Did you make friends today?” Try asking: “Who did you spend time with today?” “What games did you play at recess?” “Did anything funny happen with your friends?” These questions shift the focus from performance to curiosity — helping children reflect on their social experiences in healthier ways. Resources3 Mistakes That Make Sibling Fights Worse... (And What to Do Instead) - https://alexandersonkahl.com/3-mistakes/Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrasesVisit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.comThe Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map Next Week on Raise StrongNext week we explore why some kids respond to stress by pulling away instead of seeking comfort. You’ll learn: • Why avoidant behavior happens • What pushing away may actually be communicating • How to stay emotionally available without escalating conflict If you’ve ever felt unsure how to reach your child when they shut you out, this episode will give you a new lens. If this episode supported you, make sure you’re subscribed to Raise Strong so you don’t miss what’s coming next. And if the podcast has helped you feel calmer and more confident as a parent, leaving a quick review helps other families find this space too. Because raising strong kids doesn’t start with perfect behavior. It starts with steady connection.

    20 min

  4. 2 MAR

    Episode 16 - Building Strong Bonds: The 10-Minute Connection Strategy

    Raise Strong with Alex Anderson-Kahl Because strong kids start with supported parents. If you’ve ever ended the day thinking, “I’ve been with my child all day… why do they still want more?” this episode is for you. In Episode 16 of Raise Strong, we explore a simple but powerful shift that can dramatically reduce bedtime battles, sibling rivalry, and attention-seeking behaviors: ten predictable minutes of child-led connection each day. You don’t need more parenting strategies. You don’t need more patience. You need intentional presence. And when you build it consistently, behavior changes steadily. What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeIn this episode, you’ll discover: Why connection reduces meltdowns and attention-seeking behaviorHow secure attachment strengthens emotional regulationWhat “child-led time” actually looks like in real lifeHow to use reflective language instead of correctionHow to make this work with multiple kidsWhy predictability builds security — and security builds cooperation This episode blends attachment research, co-regulation principles, and practical language swaps you can use immediately. It reinforces the Raise Strong belief: connection before correction. The Core ShiftMost of us spend the day doing things for our kids. Meals. Homework. Transitions. Corrections. But what often gets lost is simply being with them. In this episode, you’ll hear two powerful stories: A mom whose bedtime battles softened within two weeks after adding ten consistent minutes of undivided attention. A teacher who reduced classroom disruptions by spending ten intentional minutes with one student each morning. The lesson? When connection becomes predictable, behavior becomes steadier. Children don’t escalate because they are “bad.” They escalate when their nervous system is unsure. Ten minutes of focused, child-led attention sends a powerful message: “You matter. You don’t have to earn my attention. You already have it.” That message builds security. And security changes behavior. What the 10-Minute Ritual Looks LikeThis is not a reward. This is not a behavior plan. This is not a teaching moment. It is: Same time each day (if possible)Ten uninterrupted minutesNo phoneNo correctingNo multitaskingChild chooses the activityYou reflect more than you direct Instead of evaluating or fixing, you narrate: “You’re concentrating really hard on that.” “That tower is getting taller.” “That sounds important to you.” You are not praising performance. You are witnessing effort. And that changes everything. If You Have More Than One ChildYou don’t need perfection. You need predictability. Rotate days if needed. Start with five minutes if ten feels overwhelming. Say clearly: “This is your time. Your turn is tomorrow.” Often sibling rivalry isn’t about the toy. It’s about access to you. When each child feels individually seen, competition softens. Your One Action Step This WeekFor the next seven days: Choose one child. Commit to ten uninterrupted, child-led minutes. Use the same opening line: “This is our ten minutes. You get to choose.” Reflect more than you correct. At the end of the week, notice: Did bedtime feel different?Did tension shift, even slightly?Did your child seem more settled? Small shifts, repeated, change families. Why This MattersConnection is preventive. It builds emotional safety. It strengthens regulation. It deepens trust. It creates belonging. And children who feel secure at home carry that security into classrooms, friendships, and challenges outside your walls. Calm and connection are built one moment at a time. Next Week on Raise StrongEpisode 17 – Is Your Child Ready for Real Friendships? The Skills That Matter Most We’ll explore: How to help your child choose healthy friendsHow to teach them to speak up kindlyHow secure attachment at home shapes social confidence If you’ve ever worried about your child socially, you won’t want to miss it. If this episode supported you, make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss what’s coming next. And if Raise Strong has helped you feel calmer and more confident, leaving a quick review helps other parents find this space too. You don’t need perfection. You need steady connection. You’re building that one day at a time. You’ve got this. Resources:

    19 min

  5. 23 FEB

    Episode 15 - Raising Kind Kids: The Science Behind Empathy

    Have you ever worried that your child doesn’t seem empathetic? Maybe they ignore tears. Maybe they laugh at the wrong moment. Maybe they only apologize when prompted. Before you panic, take a breath. Empathy is not a character trait you install. It is a skill that develops in relationship. And in this episode of Raise Strong, we unpack what that really means for you at home. You’ll learn why empathy grows through experience, not lectures—and how your nervous system shapes your child’s compassion more than any moral lesson ever could. In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why forced apologies often create performance instead of real empathyHow mirror neurons shape emotional learningWhy shame shuts down empathy in the brainThe developmental stages of perspective-takingA simple 4-step framework to build empathy naturallyFive common empathy blockers that show up at homeA weekly practice to help empathy grow without pressure Why Empathy Isn’t Built Through LecturesWhen we say, “Be nice,” or “How would you feel?” we’re often trying to teach empathy. But neuroscience tells us something important: Empathy requires regulation first. When a child feels shamed, cornered, or overwhelmed, their brain shifts into survival mode. And survival mode is not capable of perspective-taking. Empathy grows when children feel understood first. The 4-Step Empathy FrameworkIn this episode, you’ll learn a practical approach you can use during everyday sibling conflicts and hard moments: Regulate → Reflect → Reveal → Repair Instead of forcing apologies, you’ll learn how to: Calm the nervous system firstName emotions without blameGently guide perspective-takingInvite repair instead of commanding it Empathy develops through repetition, modeling, and emotional safety. Common Empathy BlockersWe also explore five patterns that unintentionally block empathy at home, including: Forcing apologiesShaming languageMinimizing feelingsOver-lecturingModeling reactivity Awareness is the first step toward change. Weekly PracticeThis week, try narrating empathy once a day. Name emotions. Notice experiences. Model compassion in small, everyday moments. Empathy grows quietly and gradually—through connection. RESOURCES: Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrasesVisit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.comThe Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map Next Week on Raise StrongThe 10-Minute Ritual That Changes Your Relationship With Your Kids A simple, powerful habit that can deepen connection and shift your home dynamic in just minutes a day. If this episode resonated with you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another parent who cares deeply about raising kind, emotionally safe kids. You’re building more than behavior. You’re building humans.

    21 min

  6. 16 FEB

    Episode 14 - Creating a Peaceful Home: Practical Boundaries That Stick (Without Yelling)

    Most parents don’t struggle because they lack rules. They struggle because they’re enforcing the same rules over and over, louder each time. In this episode of Raise Strong, we unpack why boundaries fall apart in real life and how to create limits that actually stick—without yelling, threatening, or turning your home into a battleground. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I have to repeat myself a hundred times?” this episode will give you clarity, science, and practical language you can use immediately. In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why boundaries often collapse at the peak of emotionHow your child’s nervous system experiences limitsThe three foundations of boundaries that stick: calm, clarity, and consistencyWhy yelling may stop behavior in the moment but weakens cooperation long termSimple phrases that reduce resistance instead of fueling itThe five most common traps that quietly undermine boundariesA weekly practice to help you implement boundaries with fewer words and more confidence Why Boundaries Fail (And It’s Not What You Think)Boundary problems are rarely willpower problems. They are usually: Timing problemsNervous system problemsClarity problems When limits are introduced too late, delivered with emotional charge, or enforced inconsistently, kids experience them as threat instead of structure. And when the brain senses threat, cooperation shuts down. This episode will help you shift from reactive discipline to calm leadership that builds long-term trust. Language That Makes Boundaries StickYou’ll walk away with practical scripts like: “It’s time to turn the screen off.”“I won’t let you hit.”“You’re disappointed. And the answer is still no.” You’ll learn how to: Say the boundary once, calmlyRemove the question markPair limits with emotional acknowledgmentUse “I will” language instead of “You need to”Follow through without emotional escalation Because boundaries are not about winning. They’re about leadership. Weekly PracticeChoose one boundary this week and practice holding it with: Fewer wordsA slower toneA grounded bodyConsistent follow-through Notice patterns over time, not perfection in a moment. Resources:Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrasesVisit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.comThe Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map Next Week on Raise StrongEpisode 15 – Empathy is Caught, Not Taught (And What That Means for You at Home) We’ll explore how children learn empathy through experience, not lectures—and how your everyday responses shape their emotional development. If this episode helped you feel steadier and more confident, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another parent who could use calm leadership without yelling. You are building more peace than you realize.

    19 min

  7. 2 FEB

    Episode 13 - Nonviolent Communication 101: Simple Phrases to End the Whining Cycle

    Whining is one of the fastest ways to drain a parent’s patience. It is repetitive, emotionally charged, and often leaves you feeling irritated or stuck between giving in and snapping. In this episode of Raise Strong, we take a practical look at why whining happens in the first place and how simple shifts in language can dramatically change the interaction. You will be introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a relationship-based communication framework developed by Marshall Rosenberg, and learn how to use it in real, everyday parenting moments. Rather than focusing on stopping whining through consequences or corrections, this episode helps you understand what whining is actually communicating and how to respond in ways that reduce escalation while still holding clear boundaries. In this episode, you will learn:What Nonviolent Communication is and why it works so well with kidsWhy whining is a signal of unmet needs, not manipulationHow correcting tone or ignoring whining often makes it worseThe four core elements of NVC and how they apply to parentingSimple, repeatable phrases that reduce whining without yelling or giving inHow to respond calmly while still holding limitsCommon mistakes parents make when trying to “use the right words”A weekly practice to help you build consistency and confidence You’ll walk away with:Language that de-escalates instead of intensifying power strugglesTools to respond to whining without guilt, bribes, or threatsA clearer understanding of how connection and boundaries work togetherConfidence that you can guide behavior without raising your voice This episode is especially helpful if you find yourself saying “stop whining,” repeating yourself over and over, or feeling frustrated that nothing seems to work in the moment. Resources: Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrasesVisit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.comThe Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map 🎧 Next week on Raise Strong: Episode 14 — Creating a Peaceful Home: Practical Boundaries That Stick (Without Yelling) We’ll build on today’s conversation and talk about how to set limits kids actually accept and how to hold boundaries calmly and consistently. If this episode was helpful, please like, subscribe, or leave a review. It helps more parents find support that feels practical, respectful, and doable.

    17 min

  8. 19 JAN

    Episode 12 - The Guilt Trap: How to Give Yourself Grace After a Hard Parenting Moment

    There is a moment that comes after the house finally goes quiet. The day is over, but your mind is not. You replay what you said, how you said it, and the look on your child’s face when things went sideways. In this episode of Raise Strong, we talk about the kind of guilt that shows up for caring, thoughtful parents. The kind that lingers long after the moment has passed. The kind that makes you question yourself instead of helping you reconnect. This conversation is about why guilt feels so heavy in parenting, how it quietly keeps parents stuck, and what actually helps it release. Spoiler: it is not punishing yourself or promising to do better tomorrow. It is repair. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why guilt shows up so strongly for parents who care deeplyThe difference between guilt and shame, and why that distinction mattersWhat children actually need after a hard momentHow repair restores safety and connection without undermining authorityCommon repair mistakes that keep guilt aliveSimple, grounded phrases you can use to reconnectHow to offer yourself the same grace you want your child to receive This episode is for you if:You replay parenting moments long after they’re overYou worry that one hard moment caused lasting damageYou hold yourself to high standards and feel crushed when you miss the markYou want to model accountability without shameYou want to strengthen your relationship with your child, not just “do better” Parenting is not about never getting overwhelmed. It’s about knowing how to come back when you do. Grace is not letting yourself off the hook. Grace is what allows you to return, repair, and reconnect. Resources: Stop Saying “Hurry Up.”Say This Instead. - https://alexandersonkahl.com/hurry-up/Calm Down Corner Essentials - https://bit.ly/48WbUUh7 Simple Phrases to Help Your Child Calm Down Without Power Struggles - Download your FREE guide now! - AlexAndersonKahl.com/7-simple-phrasesVisit Our Website - AlexAndersonKahl.comThe Meltdown Map: 5 Steps to Handle your Child's Big Emotions - AlexAndersonKahl.com/meltdown-map 🎧 Next week on Raise Strong: Episode 13 – Nonviolent Communication 101: Simple Phrases to End the Whining Cycle We’ll talk about how language shapes behavior and the small shifts that reduce power struggles and whining in everyday moments. If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, or leave a review. It helps more parents find these conversations. You’re not failing. You’re learning. And your willingness to come back matters more than you know.

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Raise Strong is the podcast that helps you turn parenting chaos into calm and power struggles into connection. Hosted by school psychologist and parent coach Alex Anderson-Kahl, each episode blends child psychology, empathy, and practical tools to help you respond with confidence, teach emotional regulation, and raise resilient, emotionally intelligent kids. Discover reflective discipline, gentle parenting, and mindset shifts that make every day feel more peaceful—because strong kids start with supported parents. This is Raise Strong.

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  • Creator
    Alex Anderson-Kahl
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    20
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Copyright 2026 Alex Anderson-Kahl
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