African Men Speak

Ralph Ofuyo

A journey exploring African masculinity through research, conversations, and personal reflection. The show examines what it means to be an African man today, drawing on academic studies and diverse perspectives from across the continent's rich cultures. Covering topics from personal growth and fatherhood to identity, vulnerability, and accountability. Hosted by a former humanitarian worker turned stay-at-home dad, this programme explores what it means to be a man today, engaging with nuance and difficult truths.

  1. 5 gg fa

    In Conversation #004 - On Opportunity, Boys and the Future | Dr Mzamo Masito

    In this episode of African Men Speak, I sit down with Dr Mzamo Masito, founder of African Men Care and author of This Country Hates Our Boys. Together we explore opportunity, social fatherhood, mentorship, education, identity and what it means to help boys and young people thrive.  Rather than searching for easy answers, this conversation asks how families, communities and institutions can create the conditions for young people to flourish.

    In Conversation #004 - On Opportunity, Boys and the Future | Dr Mzamo Masito

  2. 13 lug

    In Conversation #003 - On Home, Belonging & Parenthood | Janet Karanja

    Janet Karanja left Kenya as a young woman, excited by the promise of building a future in the United States. Today, she is a mother, business owner, realtor, and autism advocate living in Orlando, Florida. In this conversation, Janet reflects on what life abroad actually demands: building a business, raising Black boys, navigating autism and education systems, confronting racism, and preserving African identity while adapting to a new home. We discuss the realities often missing from diaspora success stories, including the absence of extended-family support, the pressure placed on parents, and the difficult balance between protecting children and preparing them for the world. Janet also speaks candidly about her husband’s role as a father, what both of them have learned while raising their sons, and the importance of responsibility, discipline, culture, and self-advocacy. This is a conversation about migration, but more fundamentally, it is about adaptation, family, identity, and what it takes to build a life far from home. Books mentioned: The Out-of-Sync Child — Carol Stock Kranowitz Discipline Is Destiny — Ryan Holiday

    In Conversation #003 - On Home, Belonging & Parenthood | Janet Karanja

  3. 31 mag ·  Contenuti extra

    AMS Essays #001 - What Are We Building?

    What does cycling have to do with masculinity? More than I expected. This essay began with a simple observation: some roads seem built to last, while others never seem to get there. That question led me into a wider conversation about infrastructure, stewardship, power, responsibility, and the kinds of societies we choose to build. Moving between cycling, governance, Ubuntu, and African Masculinities, this episode asks a simple question: What are we building? African Men Speak is a long-form podcast exploring African Masculinities, identity, culture, history, and the systems that shape the lives of African men and women. A special thank you to Frank Ongeri and the team at The Cycling Network K.E — a great bunch of riders doing honest, grounded cycling content out of Kenya. Frank's generous contribution, professionalism, patience, and willingness to be a part of this essay went well beyond what was asked. Go find them on YouTube:   / @thecycling_network.k.e

    AMS Essays #001 - What Are We Building?

  4. 10 mag

    Five Questions #012 – "True masculinity starts with self-understanding” – Kenyan Man (Diaspora)

    In this twelfth episode of our Five Questions series, a Kenyan man in the diaspora reflects on masculinity through the lenses of leadership, emotional growth, family responsibility, and self-understanding. Raised in a female-dominated household without a father figure, he explains how masculinity for him became rooted in the ability to lead, provide, and protect — not only financially, but emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The conversation explores how marriage counselling challenged inherited ideas about masculinity, helping him become more aware of his emotions, communication, and relationships. He discusses tensions between traditional African expectations of men and more contemporary understandings of vulnerability, affection, and emotional openness. Grounded in personal experience, this episode reflects on masculinity beyond money, status, or physical strength, arguing instead for self-awareness, emotional maturity, and responsibility.

  5. 29 apr

    Five Questions #011 - "If I do both, it is not 50/50" - South African Woman

    In the eleventh episode of our Five Questions series, a South African woman reflects on masculinity through the lens of upbringing, balance, and changing social expectations. She traces her understanding back to a traditional household, where clearly defined roles often masked unequal realities, particularly for women managing both domestic and economic responsibilities. From this, she challenges the idea of “50/50,” arguing that true balance depends on how roles are lived, not how they are described. Drawing on her experience of moving from the Vaal region to Johannesburg, she highlights the contrast between community-based traditions and the demands of urban life, in which both men and women navigate shifting expectations. She also explores how inherited beliefs, shaped by history and survival, continue to influence how masculinity and femininity are expressed today. Her reflections raise direct questions about responsibility, balance, and the need for self-awareness, while closing with a clear message: strength without control and care is not masculinity, but harm.

  6. 23 apr

    Five Questions #010 - "Masculinity is in the small actions, not the loud ones" - Kenyan Man

    In this tenth episode of our Five Questions series, a Kenyan man reflects on masculinity through the lens of identity, cultural exposure, and lived experience. He defines masculinity as being comfortable with one’s role, principles, and responsibilities as a man, shaped over time through both personal upbringing and observations across different African contexts. Drawing on experiences in countries such as Botswana and Zambia, he challenges assumptions about traditional male roles, particularly around work, responsibility, and social behaviour. The conversation explores how masculinity is evolving, with particular attention to the perceived tension between traditional expectations and contemporary societal shifts. He reflects on how changing narratives—especially in relation to gender discourse—have influenced men's understanding of their place within families and communities, sometimes creating uncertainty about responsibility and leadership. Family remains central throughout the discussion. The Kenyan man highlights the role of fathers in shaping male identity, emphasising the importance of presence, shared activities, and consistent guidance. He contrasts this with modern parenting dynamics, where shifting roles can reduce direct male influence in a boy’s development. Across cultural contexts, he also notes patterns of male-led decision-making within families, while acknowledging the role of consultation and collective input. Grounded in lived experience, this episode frames masculinity not as performative or loud, but as something expressed through small, consistent actions—particularly in leadership, responsibility, and everyday conduct.

  7. 15 apr

    Five Questions #009 - "Masculinity is responsibility!" - Kenyan Man

    In this ninth episode of our Five Questions series, a Kenyan man reflects on masculinity through the lens of responsibility, leadership, and lived experience. He traces his understanding back to his father, particularly a moment of financial transition that revealed the weight of long-term thinking and transparency within the family. From there, the conversation expands into how masculinity is shaped not just within the household, but across communities and generations. The Kenyan man discusses tensions between traditional and contemporary expectations, shifting approaches to discipline, and the growing pressures facing African men today—from economic strain to social expectations. Grounded in personal experience, this episode offers a perspective on resilience, responsibility, and the need for support systems in a changing environment.

  8. 7 apr

    Episode 3 - What Did Masculinity Mean Before Colonialism? w/ Jermine April

    In this episode of African Men Speak, we explore the historical foundations of African masculinities through a Namibian lens, focusing on the Damara and Nama communities.  Drawing on research into gender-based violence and queer femininity, this conversation examines how pre-colonial societies organised gender roles in ways that were often fluid, functional, and context-driven — rather than rigid or binary. We then trace how colonial rule, particularly under German and South African administrations, reshaped these systems. Victorian gender norms, Christianity, and colonial law introduced more fixed ideas of masculinity and femininity, criminalised same-sex relationships, and reinforced hetero-patriarchal structures that continue to influence society today.  The discussion also looks at: The role of religion and education in shaping gender normsDifferences between urban and rural experiences of masculinityRegional contrasts across Africa — including legal progress and regressionCultural reflections through literature, including Things Fall Apart This episode situates masculinity within history, language, and power — not as a fixed identity, but as something shaped and reshaped over time. Guest: Jermine April is a Namibian researcher, research consultant, and entrepreneur whose work focuses on African masculinities, gender-based violence, and the historical legacies of colonialism. Her research explores how power, gender, and violence are shaped by history and social structures.

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A journey exploring African masculinity through research, conversations, and personal reflection. The show examines what it means to be an African man today, drawing on academic studies and diverse perspectives from across the continent's rich cultures. Covering topics from personal growth and fatherhood to identity, vulnerability, and accountability. Hosted by a former humanitarian worker turned stay-at-home dad, this programme explores what it means to be a man today, engaging with nuance and difficult truths.

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  • Creatore
    Ralph Ofuyo
  • Anni di attività
    2025 - 2026
  • Puntate
    22
  • Classificazione
    Contenuti espliciti
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Ralph Ofuyo
  • Sito web del podcast
    African Men Speak