Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Alyssa Zander
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Codependency Alchemy is a space for healing codependency through shadow work and inner child healing. Join Alyssa for the vulnerable conversations, personal stories, and hard truths that help you reclaim your voice, set soul-aligned boundaries, and create relationships rooted in self-trust and authenticity. alyssaaazander.substack.com

  1. 5 ago

    The cheat code that changed my relationship with myself

    Have you ever had one of those days where you just don't feel like yourself? Maybe you're more emotional, more sensitive, or more irritable than usual, and your first instinct is to wonder what's wrong with you. In this episode, I'm sharing the simple practice that completely changed my relationship with myself. It helped me stop judging my emotions, recognize my patterns, and communicate my needs with more compassion in my relationship. We'll talk about why understanding your body can be one of the greatest tools for emotional healing, how this practice has transformed my relationship with Justin, and why slowing down is sometimes exactly what your nervous system is asking for. If you've ever felt like you're constantly trying to "fix" yourself, this episode is for you. Your invitation… If you know what day you are on, share it in the comments, along with anything you notice about how you feel today. Mentioned in this episode… * Taking Charge of Your Fertility (here are their free downloadable PDFs) * Lively cycle tracking app * What I have learned since tracking my cycle If you’d like to go beyond understanding your patterns and actually practice healing them, inside the Codependency Alchemy Membership we come together each month for guided shadow work, inner child healing sessions, live AMAs, and a private community where you don’t have to navigate this work alone. Click here to learn more and join our growing Codependency Alchemy community on Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    The cheat code that changed my relationship with myself

  2. 22 lug

    When jealousy shows up (even when you trust your partner)

    Have you ever felt jealous in your relationship... even though you genuinely trust your partner? In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most vulnerable stories I’ve told on the podcast. A moment with Justin that brought up unexpected jealousy, led to one of the biggest ruptures we’ve experienced, and ultimately taught me that jealousy is rarely about what we think it’s about. Together, we’ll explore what jealousy is actually pointing toward, why it often has very little to do with your partner, and how asking one simple question can help you move from reactivity to self-understanding. In this episode, you’ll learn… * The hidden fears that commonly live underneath jealousy * How insecure attachment can shape conflict and repair * The mistake I made when trying to repair too soon * A shadow work question to help you understand what’s really happening beneath the trigger This episode is for you if... * You find yourself overthinking interactions between your partner and other people. * Jealousy quickly turns into anxiety, anger, or self-doubt. * You want to respond to triggers with more curiosity instead of shame. Your invitation… In the comments, share your reflections to this shadow work prompt: When you felt jealous, what were you actually afraid would happen? Then notice what lives underneath that answer. Jealousy isn’t asking to be judged, it’s asking to be understood. You can read my original post from when this event happened here: "I don't want to be with you anymore" If you’d like to go beyond understanding your patterns and actually practice healing them, inside the Codependency Alchemy Membership we come together each month for guided shadow work, inner child healing sessions, live AMAs, and a private community where you don’t have to navigate this work alone. Click here to learn more and join our growing Codependency Alchemy community on Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    When jealousy shows up (even when you trust your partner)

  3. 8 lug

    The real reason you can't let go of your ex

    Have you ever felt like you couldn’t let go of someone even though you knew the relationship was over? In this episode, I share one of the most powerful shadow work questions I’ve ever used to help uncover why it’s so difficult to move on after a relationship ends. Together we’ll explore: * why we attach our dreams to people * how codependency keeps us trying to control the outcome * what it really means to build inner safety after heartbreak * a guided inner child healing practice to help you begin releasing the attachment without abandoning yourself. Whether you’re navigating a breakup, struggling to let go of an ex, or simply noticing how tightly you cling to certain outcomes in relationships, this episode is an invitation to turn inward instead of chasing certainty outside yourself. Because healing isn’t about getting someone back. It’s about coming home to yourself. What you’ll learn… * Why letting go feels so difficult after a breakup * How codependency fuels attachment * One shadow work question that changes everything * A simple inner child healing practice for building inner safety * How to move from control toward self-trust This episode is for you if... * You’re struggling to let go of an ex * You’re healing codependency or anxious attachment * You want practical tools for moving through heartbreak Your invitation In the comments, take a moment to ask yourself this shadow work prompt: What dream have I attached to this person? Then notice: * How do I feel when I believe that dream only exists with them? * How would I feel if I didn’t believe that thought? Sometimes what we’re grieving isn’t the relationship itself. It’s the story we’ve been telling ourselves about what our life can and cannot be. If you’d like support exploring these patterns more deeply, you’re invited into the Codependency Alchemy membership, where we practice shadow work, inner child healing, and nervous system tools together through live sessions, monthly AMAs, and an ever-growing library of guided healing practices. Click here to learn more and join our growing Codependency Alchemy community on Substack *Was this episode supportive? If so, please like and share it with someone else who might need to hear these conversations. As always, thank you for your support in helping me in my mission of spreading awareness around codependency and healing the mother wound. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    The real reason you can't let go of your ex

  4. 17 giu

    What if the pattern isn’t the problem?

    Have you ever caught yourself spiraling and thought, "Why am I doing this again?" This episode is about what happens when we stop trying to get rid of the pattern and start listening to what it's trying to tell us. We explore why self-sabotage isn't actually the problem, how triggers point us toward unmet needs, and the powerful question that can completely change the way you relate to your patterns. What you’ll learn… * The question that helps you understand your triggers* How to identify what your patterns actually want and need* How shadow work helps us move through triggers with compassion This episode is for you if... * You struggle with self-sabotage* You judge yourself when old patterns resurface* You feel frustrated that healing isn’t happening “fast enough” Your invitation… Take a moment to ask yourself these questions and type them out in the comments (or write them in your journal). Just make sure do somehow do this reflection somewhere that isn’t just in your head, it’s important to witness ourselves in these contemplations. What is one thing I keep doing that I wish I would stop doing? Then ask: * What does that part of me want?* What does that part of me need?* How would that part of me feel if it got that need met? Notice what comes up, because maybe the pattern isn’t the problem. Maybe it’s showing you exactly where healing wants to happen. If you’re wanting support exploring these questions more deeply, you’re invited into the Codependency Alchemy membership where we practice this work together through live shadow work sessions, inner child healing practices, monthly AMAs, and community support. Click here to learn more and join our growing Codependency Alchemy community on Substack. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    What if the pattern isn’t the problem?

  5. 3 giu

    Why you feel the need to fill the space in relationships

    Why does silence feel so uncomfortable in relationships? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I explore the hidden reason many of us rush to fill the space when our partner gets quiet, withdrawn, or dysregulated. In this episode, we explore: - Why silence feels triggering - The urge to seek reassurance - External vs. internal processors - How space creates deeper connection - Emotional regulation in relationships - Why trying to control someone else’s emotions creates more conflict Your invitation... Take a moment to ask yourself this shadow work prompt and share in the comments: If you don’t fill the space… what are you afraid will happen? Notice what comes up for you. Take time to actually write it out (or type it out)… even if you don’t hit post, the act of writing it out offers you a type of healing and witnessing that thinking it can’t give you. And if you’re wanting a space to practice this kind of reflection in real time alongside others who are also learning how to soften, receive, and build more secure relationships, you’re always invited into the Codependency Alchemy membership on Substack. It’s a space for shadow work, inner child practices, and honest conversations like this one… where you don’t have to do it alone. You can click here to join as a free subscriber or upgrade your subscription to explore the membership for deeper support. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    Why you feel the need to fill the space in relationships

  6. 20 mag

    The “loving” relationship pattern that’s actually hurting you

    Have you ever done something “nice” for someone… but secretly felt exhausted, resentful, or unseen afterward? This episode is about the hidden relationship dynamic underneath that pattern. After a conversation with my grandma about boundaries, family dynamics, and generational relationship patterns, I realized how many of us confuse self-sacrifice with love. In this episode, we explore the subtle ways codependency shows up through overgiving, people-pleasing, and saying yes when it isn’t actually true for us. Because sometimes the dysfunction in relationships isn’t just manipulation, guilt, or control. Sometimes it’s abandoning ourselves to keep the peace. What you’ll learn… * Why saying yes when you mean no damages trust * How over-giving creates resentment in relationships * Why boundaries are actually acts of love * How to ask for consent during difficult conversations * The difference between responsibility vs. blame * Why explaining your boundaries can signal dysregulation This episode is for you if… * You struggle to say no and over-give in relationships * You feel guilty setting boundaries * You secretly resent people after helping them * You want healthier, more honest relationships Your invitation… Take a moment to reflect on this shadow work question: If I say no or set a boundary… what am I afraid will happen? Notice what comes up for you. Take time to actually write it out (or type it out)… even if you don’t hit post, the act of writing it out offers you a type of healing and witnessing that thinking it can’t give you. And if you’re wanting a space to practice this kind of reflection in real time alongside others who are also learning how to soften, receive, and build more secure relationships, you’re always invited into the Codependency Alchemy membership on Substack. It’s a space for shadow work, inner child practices, and honest conversations like this one… where you don’t have to do it alone. You can click here to join as a free subscriber or upgrade your subscription to explore the membership for deeper support. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    The “loving” relationship pattern that’s actually hurting you

  7. 6 mag

    Why it’s so hard to receive support (even when you need it)

    Have you ever pushed away support… even when you really needed it? This episode is about why receiving can feel so hard and what changes when we allow it. This episode is a little different. I’m showing up in real time, without a script, in the middle of a season that has completely shifted me. After losing a close friend and navigating multiple family health scares and loss, I found myself face to face with something I’ve worked on for years… my relationship to receiving. In this episode, I share what grief has revealed about hyper-independence, codependency, and all the ways we push away support. What you’ll learn… * Why hyper-independence is often rooted in lack of trust * How rejecting support shows up in subtle ways * The connection between codependency and not receiving * How allowing others to support you deepens connection * What grief revealed about vulnerability and being held This episode is for you if… * You struggle to accept help or support * You pride yourself on being “independent” * You feel uncomfortable receiving love or care * You tend to take care of others but not let them take care of you Your invitation… Take a moment to explore this shadow work prompt in the comments: “If I receive support, love, or care… what am I afraid will happen?” Notice what comes up. Remember, you don’t have to hit post or share it with anyone, but at least write it out to witness yourself. If you want to go a little deeper, you can also ask: * Where does that fear live in my body? * How old does that part of me feel? And if you’re wanting a space to practice this kind of reflection in real time alongside others who are also learning how to soften, receive, and build more secure relationships, you’re always invited into the Codependency Alchemy membership on Substack. It’s a space for shadow work, inner child practices, and honest conversations like this one… where you don’t have to do it alone. You can click here to join as a free subscriber or upgrade your subscription to explore the membership for deeper support. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    Why it’s so hard to receive support (even when you need it)

  8. 1 apr

    The trust-breaking pattern you don’t realize you’re doing in relationships

    Have you ever wanted something from your partner but didn’t actually say it? This episode is about why we do that and how it slowly breaks trust in our relationships. This weekend, I caught myself in a pattern I’ve done many times before, and didn’t even realize I was doing it in the moment. I was trying to get a need met without actually saying what I needed. I was hinting, sweetening the deal, leaving things out… all to try to control the outcome instead of just being honest. In this episode, I break down what it means to withhold truth in a relationship, how it quietly erodes trust and intimacy over time, and what happens when we choose vulnerability instead. I also share what shifted in real time when I stopped the pattern and how it completely changed the experience. What you’ll learn… * What “withholding truth” actually looks like in relationships * The subtle ways we try to control outcomes (without realizing it) * How this pattern creates resentment and disconnection * What it feels like on the receiving end of only receiving the partial truth * How vulnerability builds safety and intimacy and what that can look like in our relationship This episode is for you if… * You hint instead of directly asking for what you want * You try to control outcomes to avoid vulnerability * You struggle to express your needs honestly * You feel resentment when your needs aren’t met * You want deeper trust and intimacy in your relationship Your invitation… Take a moment to practice healing the mother wound by being witnessed in the comments. Think of a recent time where you withheld the full truth… * What truth were you withholding? * What vulnerability was underneath that? Remember, you don’t have to hit post if you’re not comfortable being witnessed in your share yet, but I invite you to at least type it (or write it) out for you to witness yourself. If conversations like these resonate with you and you want to take this awareness to the next step, you’re welcome to join our Codependency Alchemy community on Substack where we practice these reflections together through prompts, discussions, and live calls. You can click here to join as a free subscriber or upgrade your subscription to explore the membership for deeper support. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

    The trust-breaking pattern you don’t realize you’re doing in relationships
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Codependency Alchemy is a space for healing codependency through shadow work and inner child healing. Join Alyssa for the vulnerable conversations, personal stories, and hard truths that help you reclaim your voice, set soul-aligned boundaries, and create relationships rooted in self-trust and authenticity. alyssaaazander.substack.com

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  • Creatore
    Alyssa Zander
  • Anni di attività
    2023 - 2026
  • Puntate
    125
  • Classificazione
    Contenuti espliciti
  • Copyright
    © Alyssa Zander
  • Sito web del podcast
    Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

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