Lilly Friend Project

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In November 2022, Lilly had an idea that she couldn’t un-have. In February 2023, she put up 400 flyers around New York City asking strangers to apply to be her friend. The flyers said “Do you want to make a new friend?” and directed people to a website with a questionnaire. Seventy people filled it out. Lilly interviewed 24 of them.

  1. PUNTATA 1

    disCONNECTION

    After feeling isolated in New York City for five years, Lilly puts up 400 flyers around the city asking strangers to apply to be her friend. She creates a 40-question survey, receives 70 responses, and conducts 24 filmed interviews to see if friendship can work like a job application. In this first episode, Lilly explains why she invented her own system for making friends, interviews loneliness expert Dr. Sam Carr about attachment theory, and attempts to get closure from an ex-friend who ghosted her in college.   #DesperateButMakeItArt #FriendshipIsAContactSport #ApplyWithinYourHeart #LonelyInPublic #PlatonicJobInterview

    22 min

  2. PUNTATA 2

    BELONGING

    Lilly meets three people who've figured out how to create their own spaces in New York City. Ankham left Laos to find freedom in K-Town, Samuel turned his recording studio into something sacred in the Bronx, and Leah navigated her way back to Judaism on her own terms in Williamsburg. Plus, Lilly realizes her questionnaire answers about strawberry soju shots might reveal more about friendship compatibility than she initially thought.   #StrawberrySojuAndSoulSearching #KTownToWilliamsburgAndBack #CreatingSpaceInSmallPlaces #TraditionallyNontraditional #BelongingIsAVerbNotANoun

    19 min

  3. PUNTATA 3

    BOUNDARIES

    Lilly steps back to let her friends do the talking about setting limits in relationships. Sustaita explains why she sees people as chapters, Emma describes leaving Christianity and losing her best friend to marriage during the pandemic, Thomas reveals his new approach to planning trips to Italy, and Sundara reflects on seventeen years of fighting and making up with Lilly. Plus, someone finally explains what happens when you're the person who always pays rent in a studio apartment.   #BoundariesAreNotWalls #PeopleAsChapters #StudioApartmentLifeLessons #HealthyLimitsUnhealthyFeelings #SeventeenYearsOfFighting

    35 min

  4. PUNTATA 4

    THE UNSEEN

    Lilly meets Sam Singh, who notices her questionnaire offered "friendship without pretenses", and Siegfried, who worries the whole thing might be an Eric Andre show prank [00:01:00]. Both reveal what it's like to be the reliable friend everyone calls during a crisis, the emotional labor of always showing up for others, and the moment you realize you might be giving more than you're getting. Plus, Sam is a regular at a karaoke club and Siegfried once had to let a blackout-drunk coworker sleep on his couch, which taught him important lessons about boundaries.   #EmotionalLaborIsStillLabor #ReliableFriendSyndrome #InvisibleButNotIgnored #KaraokeTherapySession #BlackoutCoworkerBoundaries

    23 min

  5. PUNTATA 5

    FRIENDSHIP AND FALLOUT

    Lilly explores the quiet endings that happen without ceremony—no "we need to talk" conversations, no dividing of stuff, just silence. Frances describes a friendship that slowly drifted apart through mutual assumptions, Renata shares how her sister-like best friend disappeared for two years over something that wasn't even an issue, and Daniel finally explains why he ghosted Lilly after college. Plus, Friedrich Nietzsche's philosophy on "star friendship" suggests that sometimes letting people go is the most loving thing you can do. #FriendshipGhostStories #TwoYearsOfWondering #StarFriendshipPhilosophy #SilentBreakupsHitDifferent #NietzscheKnewAboutGhosting

    25 min

  6. PUNTATA 6

    THE ONE WHO GOT AWAY / THE STORY OF EM

    Lilly becomes obsessed with Em, whose thoughtful questionnaire answers about ginger ale at the Natural History Museum and acid-induced existential crises made her seem like the perfect friend—until she completely ghosted. While analyzing the 70 questionnaire responses she received, Lilly realizes the project was as much about understanding herself as finding friends. Plus, someone admits they filled out the questionnaire because Lilly seemed desperately funny, and the essay question about friend breakups reveals what people actually value when relationships fall apart. #GingerAleAndGemCollections #TheGhostWithGoodAnswers #FortyQuestionsOneDisappearance #DesperatelyFunnyOrJustDesperate #EssayQuestionsRevealEverything

    20 min

  7. PUNTATA 9

    CONNECTION

    In the final episode, Lilly tries to answer the question she's been avoiding: what is connection? She calls random people including a poet, her mom, a barista, a therapist, a Vegas wedding chapel, and accidentally interviews mayoral candidate Brad Lander on election day. After seventy questionnaire responses and twenty-four interviews, Lilly reflects on whether she actually made friends or just performed an elaborate art piece around her own loneliness. Plus, a Rumi quote about patience that initially pissed her off starts to make sense. #StillDontKnowWhatConnectionIs #VegasWeddingChapelWisdom #ElaboratePerformanceArtOrJustLonely #RumiWasRightAndItsPissingMeOff #FourHundredFlyersLaterStillFiguring

    21 min

  8. CONTENUTI EXTRA DELLA PUNTATA 10

    PUBLIC DISPLAY

    Lilly records from bed to share what happened after releasing the podcast. Her 93-year-old grandpa refuses the friend project t-shirt because he needs to keep certain people at the veteran's home at a distance, her uncle won't even wear it to sleep, and a family miscommunication spiral ensues. Plus, the New York Times features her flyers but doesn't bring more listeners (just cosmic validation), Lilly realizes the flyers and podcast are an ouroboros of connection, and she announces a new monthly call-in show where you can confess your friendship crimes or just say whatever. Also, she has way too many XL and XXL shirts. Call (929) 454-5213 to leave a voicemail or submit at https://www.lillyfriendproject.com/friendship-submission. #GrandpaKeepingPeopleAtADistance #UncleWontEvenSleepInIt #NYTimesButNoNewListeners #FlyersAreAnOuroboros #CallInWithYourFriendshipCrimes #TooManyXXLShirts #CosmicTapOnTheShoulder #TheShirtWasTooVulnerable

    23 min
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Descrizione

In November 2022, Lilly had an idea that she couldn’t un-have. In February 2023, she put up 400 flyers around New York City asking strangers to apply to be her friend. The flyers said “Do you want to make a new friend?” and directed people to a website with a questionnaire. Seventy people filled it out. Lilly interviewed 24 of them.

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  • Creatore
    Lilly
  • Puntate
    10
  • Stagioni
    1
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