Gentle Man

Arjuna Perkins

Helping men find their best selves in the 21st century. A weekly discussion about manhood guiding men towards wholeness, kindness and positive masculinity.

  1. Male Performance Anxiety - How I Deal With It

    02/08/2025

    Male Performance Anxiety - How I Deal With It

    Audio from the YouTube video - watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtVSKVI5nAY The typical response to men experiencing performance anxiety is "deal with it! Take pills. Study Tantra. It's your problem." Today's rumination is all about whether we have to take responsibility for our performance at all. Intimacy should be about celebrating - and not judging - each other's pleasure. This offers a different way of working with it. Apologies for the audio issues. I'm still ironing out my setup with OBS. You'd think it would be simple, but... apparently it isn't. -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    46 min
  2. The Male Loneliness Epidemic - Causes and Solutions

    28/12/2023

    The Male Loneliness Epidemic - Causes and Solutions

    It’s official – men are in a loneliness epidemic. Equimundo recently published its “State Of American Men 2023” report, showcasing some alarming statistics related to men’s social and mental health. Some of the most striking statistics:  40% of all men show depressive symptoms; 44% of all men had thoughts of suicide in the prior two weeks; 65% of men aged 18 to 23 say that “no one really knows me well” ;  48% say their online lives are more engaging and rewarding than their offline lives ; and almost 30% of younger men reported not spending time with someone outside their household in the past week. Find the full report here: https://www.equimundo.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/STATE-OF-AMERICAN-MEN-2023.pdf There are so many reasons for this, some of which are covered in the episode: men are lacking the soft skills (relational skills) that would help them build social infrastructures that support their wellbeing. Today’s discussion covers how this hurts men, especially when things take a turn for the worse in their lives, and how men can proactively address this. Men need to get better at finding and growing emotionally deep and resilient relationships. -- This episode references a previous episode, "Men's Groups - Why They're Critical to Everyone's Wellbeing". Listen to that here: https://pod.fo/e/20ec84 -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    42 min
  3. Videogames and their Role in Male Violence - Robin Nelson

    20/12/2023

    Videogames and their Role in Male Violence - Robin Nelson

    Gentle Man is proud this week to host a longtime collaborator, Robin Nelson. Robin is a podcaster and lifelong enjoyer of videogames. We discuss videogames and their role (if any) in perpetuating real-life violence. We examine how gaming intersected our other childhood influences and the role it plays in our adult lives. Robin also explores gun ownership and how gaming fostered that interest in him. This conversation is a critical meditation on the role that outside and media influences play on male violence. -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    55 min
  4. Men's Anxiety is a Mask for Other Emotions with Shura Eagen, MS, LPC

    13/12/2023

    Men's Anxiety is a Mask for Other Emotions with Shura Eagen, MS, LPC

    Today I’m thrilled to share my conversation with Shura Eagen, MS, LPC. Shura is a licensed therapist who works with men on a daily basis in a number of applied modalities. I invited her on the show to talk about the common issues she sees coming up for the men she works with. We discuss how men often experience unknown emotions as “anxiety”, and that befriending the sensations - rather than fixing them - is the way forward. We discuss the dynamics of partners in the home, dating in the age of digital loneliness, and raising children with more opportunity to play and find their self expression. -- Shura Eagen has a master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with an emphasis in Somatic Psychology through Prescott College. She has completed advanced training in trauma-informed Hakomi Mindfulness-based Somatic Psychotherapy and Experiential Attachment Psychotherapy through the M.E.T.A. Institute in Portland, OR. In 2020, she became a level I AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy) therapist, and her current focus in working with her clients is breathwork. Find Shura and learn more about her offerings at https://www.luminousheartwellness.org/ -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    1 h 11 min
  5. The Myth of Male Polarity - David Deida is Full of Crap

    29/11/2023

    The Myth of Male Polarity - David Deida is Full of Crap

    Today we are discussing the (what should be) controversial topic of male polarity. This is a theory popularized by David Deida that states that masculine and feminine energies must be balanced and opposite to create attraction between people. In his book "The Way of the Superior Man" and through his teachings, David outlines how people can improve their relationships and their sex lives by adhering to the behavioral guidelines of the polarity they're trying to achieve. In this episode we cover why these teachings are problematic and how they are essentially a New Age repackaging of old patriarchal ideals. We also cover alternate teachings and theories that provide much more useful and realistic blueprints for people trying to grow or preserve intimacy in their relationships. -- Esther Perel's article "In Long-Term Relationships, When Do You Find Yourself Most Drawn to Your Partner?" https://www.estherperel.com/blog/when-are-you-drawn-to-your-partner-in-long-term-relationships -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    35 min
  6. Inhabiting the Male Body - Why Many Men Feel Constricted

    14/11/2023

    Inhabiting the Male Body - Why Many Men Feel Constricted

    The rigidness of expectation on male behavior from our culture is mirrored in the rigidness in the bodies of men. We internalize messages about how we’re supposed to hold ourselves and act, and these messages literally shape our bodies. It can take a lifetime to assess and address the implications of this. When we are held back from expressing our authentic desires, we restrict the flow of our life’s force. When we allow social expectations to limit our behavior, we stifle vital parts of ourselves. This episode identifies areas in which this commonly happens for men and outlines strategies for giving ourselves more freedom. -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    40 min
  7. How Shame Harms Men & 6 Ways To Overcome It

    03/11/2023

    How Shame Harms Men & 6 Ways To Overcome It

    Shame is one of the deepest challenges men face and one of the strongest reinforcing elements defining gender roles in culture. From the moment we are born and continuing on into our lives, we are exposed to shaming by our parents, siblings, peers, romantic partners and coworkers. Shame is so pernicious because it often lurks internalized in our own psyches – we may not even be aware of the original external motive that informed our negative internal dialogues. The amount of restrictions that shame places on men consciously and unconsciously is monumental. Working through shame gives men greater access to the things they often want: success in dating and their careers, and the esteem of their peers. This episode outlines many of the ways in which shame gets instilled in us, and then supplies 6 tools and approaches for working through it. -- This episode references a previous episode, "Male Body Dysmorphia - It Probably Affects You". Listen to that here: https://pod.fo/e/1ebd65 -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    55 min
  8. Why Men Feel Afraid to Share Affection & What To Do About It

    26/10/2023

    Why Men Feel Afraid to Share Affection & What To Do About It

    Affection is something adult men often struggle to share with each other. We may feel comfortable showing it towards the women in our lives, whether it’s our spouses or kids or other female relatives. But many men, even those who are close in friendship or share familial ties, are loath to share much physical or verbal affection with other men. Many factors go into this, such as a pervasive culture of homophobia, memory of traumatic harm at the hands of other men, and lack of sufficient role modeling in the culture at large. In this episode we explore the challenge and suggest strategies for getting more male affection in your life. -- Follow Gentle Man on other platforms: https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast https://gentlemanpodcast.org/ #boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence

    27 min
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Descrizione

Helping men find their best selves in the 21st century. A weekly discussion about manhood guiding men towards wholeness, kindness and positive masculinity.

Informazioni

  • Creatore
    Arjuna Perkins
  • Anni di attività
    2019 - 2025
  • Puntate
    34
  • Classificazione
    Contenuti espliciti
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  • Sito web del podcast
    Gentle Man