The Fathers Guild

Pat Barber

A deep dive into the beautiful chaos of fatherhood. Fatherhood. It’s the one job that doesn’t come with a manual, but also comes with 10,000 opinions. we’re tring to cut through the noise with real talk, goods laughs, and the occasional “oh man, same” moment. Each episode, we dive into the beautifully messy world of being a dad. Along the way, we bring in guests. guys who are in, or have been in the trenches, learning, failing, and winning just like the rest of us. This isn’t a lecture series. It’s a series of conversations. The kind you’d have around a backyard fire pit with a cold beer in hand. It’s honest, unfiltered, and full of those “I thought I was the only one!” stories. If you’re a dad (or just curious about what makes dads tick), consider this a dose of encouragement, humor, and a run back of real-life applications. Fatherhood is challenging. It might be exhausting, but it’s also the best thing you’ll ever do.

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  1. 2 FEB

    The Journey of Becoming: Data, Desire, and Repentance with Tate Wright

    Summary In this episode, The Fathers Guild hosts Tate Wright, who shares his transformative journey over the past decade, focusing on weight loss, personal growth, and the importance of honesty and data in achieving fitness goals. Tate discusses the impact of his religious upbringing on his values and how he navigates the complexities of faith and personal development. The conversation emphasizes the significance of intentional living, the process of repentance, and the journey of becoming a better version of oneself. In this conversation, Tate Wright and The Fathers Guild delve into the complexities of repentance, judgment, and personal growth. They explore how societal perceptions of repentance can carry negative connotations, likening it to dieting, and emphasize the importance of viewing it as an opportunity for transformation. The discussion shifts to the role of judgment in personal development, highlighting that judgment can be a necessary tool for making informed decisions. They also tackle the topic of pornography, discussing personal experiences and the impact of shame and honesty on relationships. The conversation concludes with reflections on how to foster open discussions about sexuality and intimacy, aiming to break down the stigma surrounding these topics.   Keywords fitness, weight loss, personal growth, honesty, religion, self-improvement, data-driven, motivation, body composition, mental health, repentance, transformation, judgment, personal growth, pornography, shame, honesty, intimacy, relationships, self-improvement Takeaways Tate's weight loss journey has spanned over a decade, with significant changes in the last year. Tracking food intake and understanding body composition were key to Tate's success. Honesty with oneself is crucial for personal growth and fitness. The turning point for Tate was realizing he needed to take control of his health. Tate emphasizes the importance of role models in shaping values and character. Repentance is about transformation and becoming a new person, not just stopping bad habits. The journey of self-improvement requires consistent effort and introspection. Tate's religious background has influenced his values and approach to life. It's essential to merge personal beliefs with everyday life for true fulfillment. Success in fitness and life is about the process of becoming, not just the actions taken.  Repentance should be viewed as an opportunity for transformation. Judgment can be a necessary tool for personal growth. Fear of judgment often stems from a fear of truth. Shame is often taught and can create moral hierarchies. Pornography can complicate intimate relationships but is not inherently negative. Open discussions about sexuality can help break down stigma. Honesty in relationships is crucial for intimacy. Personal experiences shape our views on topics like pornography. Understanding the complexities of our desires is important for growth. Creating a safe space for discussions about sexuality is essential.  Titles Transforming Through Fitness: Tate Wright's Journey The Power of Honesty in Personal Growth Sound bites "Honesty is a huge piece of that." "The journey of becoming is the key." "Shame in any sense is taught." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Tate Wright and His Journey 02:00 Tate's Weight Loss Journey: A Decade of Change 05:09 The Importance of Tracking and Data in Fitness 08:59 The Turning Point: From Inaction to Action 16:00 Exploring Values: The Impact of Religion on Personal Growth 21:57 Service and Self-Discovery: Lessons from a Mission Trip 26:05 The Role of Introspection and Honesty in Personal Development 28:36 The Power of Honesty in Personal Growth 32:19 Finding Your Truth: Navigating Faith and Personal Beliefs 36:45 The Journey of Repentance and Transformation 40:20 Understanding Judgment: A Necessary Tool for Growth 51:10 Exploring Relationships with Pornography and Shame 52:30 Understanding Primal Instincts and Shame 54:28 Navigating Sexuality in a Religious Context 56:55 The Complexity of Sexuality and Honesty in Relationships 01:00:50 The Impact of Pornography on Marriage 01:03:32 Transforming Perspectives on Sexuality and Intimacy 01:08:23 Reevaluating Relationships with Pornography 01:09:55 Shame, Morality, and the Complexity of Sexuality 01:15:42 The Role of Unconditional Love in Parenting

    1 h 19 min
  2. 07/10/2025

    Are you a father who can say yes to life?

    saying yes to life, personal growth, emotional freedom, financial health, parenting challenges, work-life balance, humor in parenting, self-reflection, capability, duality of man   Takeaways Fitness should enable you to say yes to life. Apply the principle of saying yes to all areas of life. Financial stability affects your ability to say yes. Emotional stability is crucial for saying yes to life. Effective communication is key in relationships. Mental health impacts your capacity to say yes. Parenting requires adaptability to each child's needs. Humor can be a tool for deeper conversations. Guilt is a price paid for misalignment with values. Personal growth involves understanding and navigating life's ebbs and flows. Summary In this conversation, Pat Barber and Rory Tolland explore the concept of 'saying yes to life' as a guiding principle for personal growth and fulfillment. They discuss how this principle can be applied across various aspects of life, including fitness, finances, emotional stability, and parenting. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of capability, effective communication, and the balance between work and personal life. They also delve into the role of humor in navigating serious topics and the impact of guilt on self-reflection and personal growth. Ultimately, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace life's opportunities and challenges with an open heart and mind.Titles Saying Yes to Life: A New Perspective Exploring the Freedom to Say Yes Sound Bites "Can you say yes to life?" "I want to be able to do everything." "The freedom to say yes is freeing." Chapters 00:00Saying Yes to Life: The Fitness Perspective 02:49Expanding the Concept: Finances and Emotional Stability 05:54Relationships and Communication: Saying Yes in Personal Life 08:46Work and Autonomy: The Freedom to Say Yes 11:39The Balance of Sacrifice: Freedom vs. Responsibility 14:33Getting Busy Living: Intentionality in Daily Life 17:18Physical and Mental Health: The Foundation of Capability 20:26Honesty and Self-Reflection: The Path to Growth 29:58Understanding Guilt and Personal Values 33:53The Importance of Connection in Fatherhood 38:17Navigating Different Parenting Styles 43:16The Role of Humor in Parenting 50:42Balancing Depth and Humor in Conversations

    53 min
  3. 10/09/2025

    Navigating Fatherhood in the Modern Age

    In this episode of the Father's Guild podcast, hosts Pat Barber and Rory Tolland delve into the complexities of fatherhood, content creation, and the impact of social media on personal relationships. They share their experiences and insights on navigating the challenges of modern parenting, the importance of communication and intimacy in relationships, and the need for mental space to foster personal growth. The conversation also highlights the significance of retreats for fathers, providing a space for reflection and rejuvenation. Overall, the episode emphasizes the journey of fatherhood and the continuous effort required to balance work, family, and personal well-being. titles Key Episod Points: The only way to get good at anything is by doing it. Consistency in content creation leads to improvement. Social media has shifted from personal connections to algorithm-driven content. Good content should provoke thought and reflection. Intimacy and communication are crucial in relationships. Financial pressures can impact family dynamics. Creating mental space is essential for personal growth. Retreats can provide clarity and reset for fathers. It's important to prioritize health and well-being to be present for family. Understanding one's emotional triggers can lead to better relationships.   Chapters 00:00Introduction to the Father's Guild Podcast 02:53The Journey of Content Creation 06:01The Evolution of Social Media 08:40Authenticity in Content Creation 11:26Fatherhood Credentials and Personal Background 17:25The Dynamics of Relationships 20:30Work-Life Balance and Current Struggles 25:29Navigating Financial Pressures and Moral Integrity 26:47The Balancing Act of Work and Family Life 28:55Struggles of Transitioning from Work to Family Time 31:25Understanding the Hedonic Set Point and Its Implications 42:55Creating Space for Personal Growth and Reflection 47:59The Importance of Reducing Complexity in Life

    50 min

Descrizione

A deep dive into the beautiful chaos of fatherhood. Fatherhood. It’s the one job that doesn’t come with a manual, but also comes with 10,000 opinions. we’re tring to cut through the noise with real talk, goods laughs, and the occasional “oh man, same” moment. Each episode, we dive into the beautifully messy world of being a dad. Along the way, we bring in guests. guys who are in, or have been in the trenches, learning, failing, and winning just like the rest of us. This isn’t a lecture series. It’s a series of conversations. The kind you’d have around a backyard fire pit with a cold beer in hand. It’s honest, unfiltered, and full of those “I thought I was the only one!” stories. If you’re a dad (or just curious about what makes dads tick), consider this a dose of encouragement, humor, and a run back of real-life applications. Fatherhood is challenging. It might be exhausting, but it’s also the best thing you’ll ever do.