clearly becoming

Hazel Ann
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Clearly Becoming is for ambitious twentysomethings navigating career chaos, identity shifts, and the pressure to "figure it out." Hosted by Hazel Ann Felder, each episode delivers evidence-based tools from neuroscience and psychology, honest conversations with people who've become something (not just achieved something), and actionable frameworks for clarity, curiosity, alignment, and action. Career is the vehicle. Becoming is the destination. New episodes every Monday.

  1. 1日前

    EP 40 – Reframing Luck: How Hard Work and Mindset Shape Success

    EP. 40 – Reframing Luck: How Hard Work and Mindset Shape Success  Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo Episode have you ever looked at someone else's success and thought… wow, they just got lucky? what if luck is not something that happens to you — but something you actually build? in this episode, i am getting into the psychology behind luck, success, and why the most 'fortunate' people aren't just stumbling into opportunity — they are creating the conditions for it. this is for every ambitious, confused twenty-something who has ever felt like success is happening for everyone except them. spoiler: it is not about luck. it is about locus. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: why your perception of luck is shaping the opportunities you notice — or miss the psychology of internal vs external locus of control and why it changes everything how self-efficacy and resilience are the quiet engines behind every 'lucky break' how to recognise opportunities you are currently walking straight past why preparation × opportunity = luck (and what that actually means for your career) 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Luck favours the prepared mind." — Louis Pasteurif that isn't your era, i don't know what is. TIMESTAMPS 00:00  Luck vs. Hard Work: The Great Debate 04:00  Understanding Locus of Control 10:49  The Role of Perspective in Luck 14:43  Building Your Internal Locus of Control 18:40  Redefining Luck: Preparation Meets Opportunity RESOURCES Locus of Control (Julian Rotter, 1966) – Social learning theory Three Biases That Hold Us Back From Having More Serendipity   Fundamental Attribution Error  RELEVANT EPISODES Ep 29 - How to become before you believe it  EP 16 — How Believing in yourself unlocks new opportunities  This is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming. CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

    24分

  2. 5月27日

    EP 39 – When Getting There Feels Wrong: Navigating the Emotional Cycle of Transition

    You hit the goal. You made the move. You got the thing — and then the overwhelm hit harder than the excitement.  If that's where you are right now, this episode is your map.In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down the emotional cycle of change: a five-stage framework that explains why ambition and anxiety aren't opposites — and why feeling like you're falling apart might actually mean you're right on track.  This isn't about pushing through. It's about knowing where you are so you can move with intention, not fear. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:  Why achieving your goal can trigger self-doubt, overwhelm, and imposter phenomenon — and why that's neurologically normal The five stages of the emotional cycle of change: from uninformed optimism to the valley of despair to earned confidence How to recognise which stage you're in right now — and what to do instead of spiral The neuroscience of stress (the HPA axis, cortisol, and your negativity bias) explained without the jargon How to use micro-wins, sensory grounding, and effort-focused reframes to rebuild momentum Why detaching from outcomes isn't giving up — it's how you keep going 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Feeling like you're falling apart might mean you're right where growth lives. The valley of despair isn't failure — it's the stage before informed optimism. You're not behind. You're in it." TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Why success can trigger overwhelm 00:36 – Introducing the emotional cycle of change 02:08 – Personal transition stories: job search, moving, studying abroad 04:15 – Stage 1: Uninformed optimism 05:27 – Stage 2: Informed pessimism — when reality sets in 07:47 – Stage 3: The valley of despair — what it looks like and why it's normal 09:19 – Strategies for pushing through the valley 13:05 – The neuroscience of stress: cortisol, HPA axis & negativity bias 15:01 – Practical tools: breathing, grounding, micro-wins 17:10 – Reframing goals and fixing focus on effort, not outcomes 20:10 – Consistent action and controlling what you can 24:00 – Becoming someone who moves forward without all the answers 26:07 – How to identify your current stage and what to do next RESOURCES The Neuroscience of Stress & Cortisol  Abramson's Hopelessness Theory Micro-Wins Strategy (Seth Godin) RELEVANT EPISODES EP 31: You Don't Rise to Your Goals. You Fall to Your Systems  EP 32:  How to Become Before You Believe It  This is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming. CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

    27分

  3. 5月18日

    EP 38 - Consistency Creates Clarity

    You've been told to get clear, then get consistent. But what if it works the other way around? This week, Erica Somer — marketer, co-founder of HOM, photographer, DJ, and aspiring author — joins Hazel Ann to unpack what it actually means to build momentum before you have a destination. If you're sitting on six passions and zero direction, this one's for you. Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Guest Episode ft. Erica Somer IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why waiting to "get clear" before starting is the trap keeping you stuckHow consistency works as a mirror — not a goal — and what it reveals about who you're becomingWhat friction-maxxing is and why making things harder on purpose actually accelerates identity changeThe neuroscience behind identity encoding — why "I am someone who shows up" rewires your brain differently than "I'm trying to" How to embrace being multihyphenate without feeling like you're betraying any one part of yourselfThe embarrassingly small first step for anyone with multiple interests and no clear pathQUOTE OF THE EPISODE "It's not that deep." – Erica SomerTIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction — the contradiction at the heart of this episode04:55 Vancouver → Paris → London: what she was chasing and did she find it?09:16 Defining the multihyphenate and building HOM from a dinner party14:15 Consistency as a mirror, not a goal26:14 The best habit she ever built — and how it actually stuck31:11 Friction-maxxing: when ease is the enemy35:56 Identity encoding and the 800-day Duolingo domino effect40:54 For the person with six interests and zero direction48:50 What she's being consistent about with no clear payoff yet50:45 The 11-day challenge + clarity round RESOURCES Atomic Habits by James Clear — https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-Proven-Bep-Change/dp/0735211299The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg — https://www.amazon.com/Power-Habit-What-Life-Business/dp/081298160XRange by David Epstein — https://www.amazon.com/Range-Why-Generalists-Win-Science/dp/0735214484What Is Identity Encoding and Why It Works Where Affirmations Don't — [link]Role Models, Motivation and Inspiration — https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201311/we-all-need-role-models-to-motivate-and-inspire-usCONNECT WITH ERICA SOMER Instagram: @erica_somer HOM: @wearehouseofmarketing  Substack: @erierierieri This is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the word that describes who you are clearly becoming. CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

    51分

  4. 5月4日

    EP 37 – Is loving your work the same as losing yourself?

    EP 37 – Is loving your work the same as losing yourself? Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo Episode You've been told Gen Z is lazy. Quiet quitting. Bare minimum Mondays. Disengaged. But what if I told you that Gen Z cares so much, so deeply, about the right work, that they have actually started to lose track of where the work ends and you begin? This episode is about that line. The one between loving what you do and being consumed by it. Between choosing your life and drifting into it while being very, very good at it. We're going there via The Devil Wears Prada (that’s right, Miranda, Andy, Emily) and the neuroscience and psychology that explains why even purpose-driven ambition can become a trap. Especially in your twenties, when the developmental task is to keep exploring who you are — not lock it down. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: The real difference between Miranda Priestly and Emily — and why it's not about work ethic Why purpose-driven workaholism is harder to spot (it feels righteous) The dopamine loop behind "one more email", and why Miranda isn't disciplined, she's wired in What identity foreclosure is, and why your 20s are the highest-risk window for it The hedonic treadmill: why the reward always moves, and what that means for how you're measuring success How to tell the difference between harmonious passion and obsessive passion, from the inside Three questions to ask yourself this week: not to work less, but to work with more awareness 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Working hard is not the same as losing yourself. But in your twenties, you have to be awake enough to know the difference." TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Nigel's quote + the question this episode is really asking 01:30 — Miranda, Andy, Emily: three archetypes, one question — which one are you? 03:00 — Gen Z data: 89% purpose-driven, 44% have quit for lack of meaning, 41% tie identity to work 04:30 — The risk isn't working hard. The risk is mistaking intensity for meaning. 05:00 — The dopamine loop: why stimulating work activates the same pathways as compulsive behaviour 06:30 — Identity foreclosure: what Erikson says about committing too early to one identity 08:00 — The hedonic treadmill: each win raises the baseline. You don't arrive. 09:00 — Harmonious vs obsessive passion — and how Miranda crossed from one to the other 10:00 — The Gen Z version of the trap: when your side hustle is your passion, boundaries feel like betrayal 10:30 — Three tests: can you set it down? Who are you without it? Did you choose this? 13:30 — The clarity round + what Hazel Ann is letting go of 14:30 — Clearly becoming… the narrator of my own life RESOURCES Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development — identity vs role confusion Harmonious vs Obsessive Passion — Vallerand et al. (2003) Deloitte Global Gen Z and Millennial Survey 2025 Dopamine and Reward Pathways — Psychology Today RELEVANT EPISODES EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20s EP 29 - How to Become Before You Believe It This is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming. CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

    19分

  5. 4月27日

    EP 36 – Everything I Wish I Knew Before University

    Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo Episode You picked your major at 18. You chose your campus, made your plans, showed up. And somewhere between freshers' week and graduation, you became a completely different person. In this episode, I'm closing my university chapter — and being honest about everything I wish I'd known sooner. The risks I should have taken earlier. The rooms I almost didn't walk into. The version of myself I had to unlearn to actually grow. If you're in it right now (or about to be), this one's for you. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why taking risks in your university application is the move — even when it feels terrifying The alternative pathways into top universities nobody talks about (transfers, study abroad, and who you know) Why not knowing what you want at 18 is actually normal — and what to do with that How to get the most out of university by being intentional, not just present Why studying abroad and placement years are career clarity accelerators How your major does not define you — and what actually does The soft skills, values, and self-awareness that matter more than your GPA 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "You are not behind. You are becoming." TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Closing the university chapter 1:08 — The privilege of education 1:37 — Take more risks — what I wish I'd known 3:53 — Getting your foot in the door 4:37 — Alternative pathways: transfers, study abroad, networking 5:25 — The myth of knowing what you want at 18 6:56 — Your brain at 18 is still developing 7:43 — How to actually make the most of university 9:48 — Connecting with professors and mentors 15:02 — Why studying abroad changed everything 19:01 — Placement years and internships 20:53 — Using university resources before it's too late 23:12 — Your major doesn't define you 27:34 — Effort over speed 30:05 — Facing the fears 32:03 — Unlearning perfectionism 33:51 — Final reflection RELEVANT EPISODES EP 11 – Learn Faster: The Career Skills No One Teaches You EP 15 –  How to Advocate for yourself  EP 25 – Mastering the Art of Interviews: How to Interview Without Freezing or Faking It This is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming. CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

    35分

  6. 4月22日

    EP 35 – why your team sucks (and what to actually do about it)

    You were taught that a good team is a harmonious one. Nobody fights. Nobody pushes back. Everyone gets along. That's not collaboration. That's avoidance — and it's quietly killing your growth. In this episode, Hazel Ann unpacks why conflict isn't the enemy of strong teams — it's the evidence that people actually care. From the real cost of pandemic-era soft skill gaps to the psychology of what makes groups either coast or commit, this episode reframes everything you thought you knew about working with other people. Including yourself. Career is the vehicle. Becoming is the destination. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why the pandemic quietly dismantled a generation's ability to collaborate — and what that means for you right now How the Belbin Team Roles framework reveals not just how you work, but who you are Why conflict is a sign of commitment, not dysfunction The difference between a team that performs and a team that's just performing What "overcompensating for loafers" is actually costing you How to lead by example when you have no formal authority Why self-acceptance isn't soft — it's the foundation of every strong team contribution 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Overcompensating enables loafers. Leading by example changes them." TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – The Struggles of Collaboration 02:30 – The Impact of the Pandemic on Soft Skills 07:43 – The Importance of Conflict in Teams 11:41 – The Psychology of Teamwork 16:13 – Strategies for Effective Collaboration 20:40 – The Role of Conflict in Personal Evolution RESOURCES The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni  Managers Don’t Want To Hire Gen-Z Workers, Citing A Lack Of Soft Skills—Survey Says Neuro-collaboration": The neuroscience of successful collaboration Belbin Team Roles    RELEVANT EPISODES EP 18 – This Is Why You Feel Stuck (And How to Shift It) EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20s This is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming. CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

    30分

  7. 4月6日

    The Real Reason You Can't Pick a Lane

    Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Guest Episode You've been told to pick one thing. One passion. One path. One version of yourself that makes sense to everyone else. But what if the confusion isn't the problem — what if it's the data? In this episode, Hazel Ann sits down with Ashleigh — PR professional turned freelance journalist, community builder, and someone who figured out that friction isn't the enemy of growth. It's the whole point. Career is the vehicle. Becoming is the destination. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: How to write a pitch that actually gets opened — and responded to Why self-trust is built through action, not certainty What friction maxing is and why it might be the most underrated growth strategy for your 20s How to build a community and network that feels genuine, not transactional Why curiosity is a career strategy — not just a personality trait 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Growth happens with friction, not with ease." — Ashleigh TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – 00:00 – You can be ambitious and confused at the same time 00:29 – Introducing Ashleigh: from PR to freelance journalism 06:04 – Bridging personal and professional wellness 10:36 – Friction maxing: why discomfort is the strategy 20:39 – Building it without the blueprint RESOURCES Agenda Setting Theory The Power of Talk: Who Gets Heard and Why by Deborah Tannen Book: Attachment by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller RELEVANT EPISODES Stop Waiting to Feel Motivated. Do this instead  How to Become Before you Believe it  LET'S CONNECTThis is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming. CONNECT WITH ASH 🎧 Instagram: @ashspili  🎵 TikTok: @ashleighspili 🎧 YouTube: @ashspili  CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN  Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming Next episode: The science of being a great teammate — what it actually takes to show up for a team and yourself at the same time.

    21分

  8. 3月30日

    The Real Reason You Can't Pick a Lane (And Why You Shouldn't)

    Episode 33 | Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Guest Episode In this episode, Hazel Ann chats with Ashley Spiliapulu about breaking away from traditional career trajectories, embracing multiple interests, and cultivating confidence to advocate for oneself. This conversation is packed with actionable insights for ambitious individuals navigating a chaotic career landscape.  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Ashley shares her diverse career from PR to journalism to founding inclusive communities The misconception that one must choose a single passion early on How sport and a growth mindset foster resilience and confidence The importance of embracing multiple interests for happiness and fulfillment 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "You don't need clarity to be ambitious. You need permission to move before the picture is complete." TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Challenging the idea that ambition and confusion are mutually exclusive 00:29 - Introducing Ashley Spiliapulu and her eclectic career journey 00:43 - The nonlinear path: doing multiple passions simultaneously 01:12 - How to navigate societal pressures to pick a single career early 02:02 - Ashley explains her focus on sport and subsequent transition at 22 02:41 - The stereotype of sticking to one career and why it's outdated 03:29 - How trying multiple avenues boosts confidence through experience 03:52 - The importance of resilience when going against societal norms 04:29 - The significance of sports in developing discipline and belief in oneself 05:01 - Ashley's move from sport to PR and how she broke into the industry 05:25 - Overcoming the experience barrier through internships and proactive effort 06:36 - The myth that you need formal credentials to get started 06:43 - The value of taking initiative, even without perfect experience 07:46 - How to showcase your skills and attitude for new roles 08:06 - The gender dynamics in self-promotion and confidence in the workplace 09:10 - The importance of playing the "confidence game" to get ahead 10:16 - Using a confident alter ego to navigate intimidating environments 10:57 - The role of visual branding and consistency in creating opportunities 11:45 - The impact of affirmations and embodying the person you want to be 12:11 - How to merge your current traits with your aspirational self-image 12:29 - The value of effort, attitude, and energy over pure talent 12:38 - Taking immediate action when inspired — a story of seizing ideas 13:42 - How self-talk influences belief and performance 14:24 - Can ambition be learned or is it innate? 15:08 - The misconception that you must have clarity to be ambitious 15:30 - Navigating undirected ambition and embracing multiple passions 16:04 - When ambition feels overwhelming and how to manage it 17:09 - How having varied interests fosters resilience and happiness 18:30 - The story behind Sunny's Run Club and its mission of inclusivity 22:10 - How Ashley started running and uses it for exploration and connection 23:01 - Reframing labels: becoming a runner instead of saying "not an athlete" 23:34 - The impact of sports psychology on confidence and performance 26:09 - Embracing rejection as a natural part of growth and self-discovery 28:27 - Teasing part two: How to effectively pitch yourself and the power of community RESOURCES Agenda Setting Theory Power of Talk RELEVANT EPISODES Stop Waiting to Feel Motivated. Do this instead  How to Become Before you Believe it  LET'S CONNECT This is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming. Connect with Ash: Instagram: @ashspili  TikTok: @ashleighspili YouTube: @ashspili  Connect with Hazel Ann:  Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming Next episode: The science of being a great teammate — what it actually takes to show up for a team and yourself at the same time.

    30分
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番組について

Clearly Becoming is for ambitious twentysomethings navigating career chaos, identity shifts, and the pressure to "figure it out." Hosted by Hazel Ann Felder, each episode delivers evidence-based tools from neuroscience and psychology, honest conversations with people who've become something (not just achieved something), and actionable frameworks for clarity, curiosity, alignment, and action. Career is the vehicle. Becoming is the destination. New episodes every Monday.

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  • クリエイター
    Hazel Ann
  • 配信期間
    25年 - 26年
  • エピソード
    41
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    © Hazel Ann
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