Unapologetic Parenting

Carl Knickerbocker
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Carl Knickerbocker, JD is an Award-Winning divorced lawyer with 3 children in a thriving blended family. He's an emotional abuse survivor, parallel parenting advocate, and all-around sceptic of everything dealing with trendy-trendy coparenting and the family court system. He is the founder of Unapologetic Parenting, IG influencer, multiple year SuperLawyer, and passionate speaker on all topics dealing with divorce and parenting after divorce. Getting divorced does not mean you failed your kids. Coparenting should never be done at the expense of your sanity. Episodes cover strategy, boundaries, recovery, healing, and effective kid-raising tips. Join us for healing and learning!

  1. 2025/12/17

    Choosing To Laugh At Their Behaviors

    Welcome back to Unapologetic Parenting, the podcast where we say the quiet parts out loud about high-conflict co-parenting, blended families, and the family court system—and then talk about what actually works. In this episode, host Carl Knickerbocker dives into one of the most maddening (and, when you step back, genuinely hilarious) realities of dealing with high-conflict, narcissistic co-parents: if there’s anything they can mess with, they will. Big things. Small things. Completely unnecessary things. All in the name of control, attention, and feeding a very fragile narrative. Carl walks through a real-world example involving a routine pediatrician visit that somehow turns into an Olympic-level performance of martyrdom, victimhood, and chaos—complete with dramatic exits from work, preemptive copay payments, uploaded receipts, and instant outrage over reimbursement that hasn’t even had time to process yet. From there, the episode tackles the question so many parents ask: How do I make this stop? Spoiler alert—you usually can’t. Courts don’t issue orders telling people to stop being ridiculous, and logic rarely works on people who aren’t operating in reality. Instead, Carl offers a different solution: change how you relate to the behavior. Stop letting it steal your peace. Stop feeding the narrative. Stop burning emotional energy trying to fix what has never shown any capacity to change. And, when appropriate, learn to laugh at the sheer absurdity of it all. This episode is about: Why pushback often makes high-conflict behavior worseHow attention fuels the chaosLetting go of the need to “solve” disordered behaviorUsing humor as a form of emotional detachment and self-protectionPreserving your time, energy, and sanity for the people who actually matterIf you’re tired of being angry, frustrated, and exhausted over nonsense that doesn’t truly matter—and want a healthier, lighter way to handle it—this episode is for you. Sometimes the most powerful response isn’t a legal strategy or a perfectly worded message.  Sometimes it’s paying the $25, shaking your head, and saying: Well… that was objectively funny.

  2. 2025/12/17

    Blind To Themselves

    Welcome back to Unapologetic Parenting, the podcast where we take an unfiltered look at high-conflict co-parenting, narcissistic dynamics, blended families, and the realities of family court—without sugarcoating, and without pretending these problems resolve themselves. In this episode, Carl Knickerbocker tackles a fascinating and often dangerous phenomenon that shows up again and again in high-conflict cases: the complete inability of highly narcissistic, disordered parents to recognize how badly they sound in their own evidence. Carl breaks down a scenario many parents—and attorneys—know all too well. A client proudly presents a “smoking gun” recording, convinced it will expose the other parent as unhinged, coercive, or abusive. But when the recording is actually played, the reality is often the exact opposite: yelling, repeating, intoxication, and emotional volatility from the person presenting the evidence—sometimes with children caught in the middle—while the other party remains calm, direct, and composed. This episode explores: Why narcissistic and Cluster B personalities lack meaningful self-reflectionHow projection turns their own behavior into “proof” against someone elseWhy blind-testing recordings often reveals a very different story than the one being toldThe danger of believing your own narrative instead of listening objectivelyHow “smoking gun” evidence frequently becomes a self-inflicted wound in courtCarl also shares what happens when these recordings surface right before a hearing, why that timing is a major red flag, and how opposing counsel is often blindsided by evidence they’ve never actually listened to themselves. The result? Panic, last-minute damage control, and sudden interest in settlement. If you’ve ever been told “the judge just needs to hear this”—or if you’re dealing with someone who truly cannot see themselves—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on, how judges and attorneys hear these recordings, and why the loudest accusations often collapse under their own weight. Because when you’re dealing with a truly high-conflict, narcissistic opponent, the so-called smoking gun aimed at you is often the very thing that exposes them instead.

  3. 2024/10/29

    You Can't Coparent with a Narcissistic Ex

    In this revealing episode of Unapologetic Parenting, host Carl Knickerbocker tackles the all-too-common struggle of trying to co-parent with a narcissistic ex, and why it often feels utterly impossible. Co-parenting typically requires flexibility, shared goals, and mutual respect – qualities a narcissistic ex may refuse to engage with, prioritizing control and conflict instead. Carl delves into the traits that define narcissistic behavior in co-parenting situations, explaining how a narcissistic ex’s need to “win” at all costs undermines any effort toward cooperation and creates a destructive cycle of counter-parenting. This episode not only sheds light on the core challenges of this dynamic but also offers practical strategies for navigating it. Carl emphasizes how to protect your peace, minimize conflict, and focus on your child’s well-being, even when true co-parenting isn’t possible. If you’re dealing with a high-conflict situation, this episode provides empathetic insight, encouragement, and guidance on finding stability and resilience in the face of difficult circumstances.

  4. 2023/04/05

    You Are Not Weak For Staying Too Long

    We hear mixed messages about leaving relationships all the time.  If only you were stronger, you would have left sooner.  If only you were stronger, you would have stayed longer and tried harder.  Weak people focus on themselves too much...and weak people don't focus on themselves and their needs enough. Such messages are unhelpful and often get us nowhere except bogged down in shame and self-doubt. The better path is to focus on what's ahead and to pour our energy into moving forward rather than trying to "if only" the past.  What happened, happened, and that's done.  Instead of picking apart the past and beating ourselves up in the process, we can be grateful for where we are now and look forward to what we want to create for ourselves next.

  5. 2023/03/30

    Why The Court Treats The Abuser Like The Victim And The Victim Like The Abuser

    Hypothesis: the heart of so many of the family court’s judgment errors boils down to the emotional illiteracy of the lawyers, judges, therapists, and other paraprofessionals attached to the system.  The family court system is not trauma informed. The judges are not therapists and spend the least amount of time learning about the case out of all the players.  The therapists attached to the system are often opportunists to make matters worse for their own gain.  Facilitators and evaluators make their money off of conflict and refer to their therapist buddies.  Lawyers profit off of conflict and more conflict.  The court system is often completely emotionally illiterate when it comes to anger.  Anxiety, grief, ptsd, concern, passion, forwardness, and fear are misinterpreted as anger and used again the person feeling these legitimate emotions.   Meanwhile the actual abusive party is pretending to be innocent and cooperative…while accusing the other party (often their past and/or present abuse victim) of having anger issues.   The result?  Terrible judgments by the court that treat the abuser as the victim and the victim as the abuser.

  6. 2023/03/24

    When Court Ordered Coparenting Is Not In Anyone's Best Interests

    Court-ordered coparenting is pretty much doomed to fail when one of the parents is highly narcissistic.  When the courts take a one-size-fits-all approach to coparenting expectations and standards, they end up creating a sure-to-fail situation where everyone involved loses.  That is, everyone except those who directly profit from the increased conflict, legal expenses, and court-ordered therapy work that is generated by trying to force those who are incapable of collaborative parenting into an idealistic coparenting model.

  7. 2023/03/17

    Don't Wast Your Life Arguing With Those Who Believe Their Own Delusions and Lies

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  8. 2021/04/17

    Mantras For Dealing With A Narcissistic Coparent

    We begin with the principle (the fact) that the narcissist's words and actions are caused by their disorder...not by you.  Their words and actions are disordered, not personal. From there, we focus our attention on the things we love and the things we are creating.  We avoid mantras and affirmations that refer back to the narcissist because such affirmation work to produce more of the same. Instead, we direct ourselves to the things we love about ourselves, our kids, our home, our lives, and the things we are excited about creating.

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番組について

Carl Knickerbocker, JD is an Award-Winning divorced lawyer with 3 children in a thriving blended family. He's an emotional abuse survivor, parallel parenting advocate, and all-around sceptic of everything dealing with trendy-trendy coparenting and the family court system. He is the founder of Unapologetic Parenting, IG influencer, multiple year SuperLawyer, and passionate speaker on all topics dealing with divorce and parenting after divorce. Getting divorced does not mean you failed your kids. Coparenting should never be done at the expense of your sanity. Episodes cover strategy, boundaries, recovery, healing, and effective kid-raising tips. Join us for healing and learning!

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    Carl Knickerbocker
  • 配信期間
    21年 - 25年
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    37
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