Lovable Business

Mercy Barake

Running your business shouldn't feel like a constant hustle. Hustle might get you ambitious results but will leave your soul depleted and your relationship with your business bitter. The Lovable Business Podcast is here to help you build a business that feels natural, empowering, and true to who you are. To help you stop thinking about your foundership as career and transform it into a deeper sense of calling. Hosted by Mercy Barake, an ex-corporate girlie/ex-management consultant/ex-tech founder business coach blending strategy with the true desires of the soul, each episode dives into what it means to create a business you actually enjoy showing up for. From psychological, philosophical and esoteric insights to practical strategies, from untangling perfectionism to embracing your feminine energy, this is your space to learn, reflect, and build a business that you really can't help but love. girlbossedtoohard.substack.com

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  1. Ep. 5 - Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies in Business

    2025. 10. 23.

    Ep. 5 - Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies in Business

    Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies in Business In this episode of the Lovable Business Podcast, I am joined by Monika, a transformational coach from Sweden with Indian origins. We discuss the intricate balance of masculine and feminine energies in business, a topic influenced by our personal experiences and upbringing. Monika shares her journey of shifting from a traditionally driven business approach to a more holistic method, emphasizing the importance of aligning with one's soul purpose. We reflect on how our generational family dynamics have shaped our perspectives and the crucial role of self-awareness and healing in entrepreneurship.  This episode is perfect for anyone looking to find balance, purpose, and holistic success in their business ventures. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 03:30 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies in Business 06:42 Upbringing and Family Dynamics 09:48 Turning Points 15:20 Defining Success and Soul's Purpose 21:50 From Startup to Self-Discovery 32:39 The Role of Mentors and Coaches 35:36 Navigating Societal Expectations and Authenticity 41:06 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies 44:02 Client Awareness and Healing Process 45:52 Practical Applications of Energy Balance 51:50 Cultural Influences on Energy Dynamics 01:02:29 Generational Healing and Future Hopes If this topic resonated with you, consider sharing this episode with another entrepreneur who might need to hear this.  Connect with me on Instagram @girlbossed.too.hard or at www.girlbossedtoohard.com and explore my offerings for women ready to build a business they can fall back in love with. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit girlbossedtoohard.substack.com

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  2. Ep. 4 - Rigid Schedules vs Life

    2025. 10. 10.

    Ep. 4 - Rigid Schedules vs Life

    Episode Summary In this spontaneous solo episode, I reflect on what happens when life—and technology—disrupts our best-laid plans. After recording a magnetic conversation with a guest, only to discover the audio was unusable, I found myself at a crossroads: Should I skip this week’s release or show up anyway? What unfolds is an honest conversation about the tension between structure and surrender, the self-imposed pressure to stay consistent, and how easily our drive for reliability can slip into rigidity. I explore what it means to hold commitments without becoming a slave to them—and how solopreneurs often recreate the very systems they once tried to escape. Key Themes - The hidden pressure behind self-imposed schedules - Balancing discipline with flexibility in creative work - Recognizing when “consistency” becomes control - How solopreneurs replicate workplace structures in their own businesses - The art of trusting life’s timing even when plans fall apart Reflection This episode is a gentle reminder that growth isn’t always about doing more—it’s about learning when to release the grip. I invite listeners to notice where their routines are rooted in trust versus fear, and to reconnect with the natural rhythm of creation, rather than artificial urgency. Listen If You’re - A solopreneur struggling with self-imposed pressure - Someone who feels guilty when life interrupts your plans - Curious about balancing structure with intuition in business - Learning to trust the timing of your creative process Stay Connected If today’s reflection resonated, consider sharing this episode with another entrepreneur who might need permission to chill down.Connect with me on Instagram @girlbossed.too.hard and explore upcoming coaching offerings for women ready to build a business they can fall back in love with. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit girlbossedtoohard.substack.com

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  3. Ep. 3 - Not all customers are created equal

    2025. 09. 25.

    Ep. 3 - Not all customers are created equal

    Hi everyone, and welcome to episode three of the Lovable Business Podcast. My name’s Mercy Barake, and I am your host. Today, I am here with another solo episode. The topic that I brought to you today is this idea that not all customers are created equal. Unless you are purely driven by profit maximization, then you should really be mindful of who you take on as a customer and be very picky about your customers, because working with the wrong ones can have. Seriously damaging impacts on both you personally and your business. So if that sounds something that you’re interested in, I advise you to take a seat back, relax and enjoy this episode. So, might be wondering like why I obsess over this topic. If you follow me on other types of social media. This has been the theme of the past two weeks. Working with your ICP, your ideal client or customer profile and trying to figure out who your dream customers are. Well, one of the reasons why I think it’s really important to almost ruminate over this topic is because you. We’ll always try to fit yourself into so many different molds when you’re trying to work with customers. Even though your offer, whether it’s a, it’s a product or a service, the way you position your offer, we’re always going to be slightly different depending on the person. And that is a challenge that, is a perfect recipe for madness and failure because you really cannot just push yourself into hundreds of different molds. And I think that the more customers I work with, the more I realize that in some cases this sort of inner sense of not being enough is coming up and then I’m trying to position myself to be someone or offering something, that I know the person will like and appreciate, but that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily the right choice for me. So, yeah, it’s a really tough situation and the reason why I say it is a recipe, for disaster is because you will end up being confused on what you are even doing and what you’re selling and what your positioning is. I work with a lot of wonderfully talented ladies who run, luxury press on businesses. So they basically make, press on nails at home. They are artists and they are also trying to figure out who their ideal customers are, and I think because. I see how some of them are still, like they are probably in the business for the past three-ish years and they’re still struggling because they know that one customer wants, I don’t know, nail there are durable, so they have to focus on durability and. Then another customer wants, nails that are like in their very eccentric or specific style. So they have to focus on the style and they keep getting lost in the, okay, if I am. An artist and I’m gonna focus on sort of marketing my art more and, and focus less on the durability of the sets or whatever additional benefits this can have. They find theirselves, getting lost in sort of the noise and not being able to boil it down. And there, this is something that I’ve been through many times as well. In my life. And what I learned is that it works best if you pick something and just stick with it for long enough to decide whether that’s the right thing for you. You should never think like a huge corporation where basically they’re just playing a. Numbers came on a very, very high level. At the beginning of my career, I worked at this, FMCG company, fast moving, consumer goods, called Procter and Gamble. So I worked at Proctor and Gamble. And Proctor and Gamble owns and manages some of the most well-known household brands like Ariel and Lenoir or Fairy, Pampers. You get the drill when you work in a corporation like that. You have sales. For each category, for each product at like in, I don’t know, in the range of millions of pieces, right. Per month, then it’s a completely different game than when you work with customers that you actually No, and almost like. Probably even remember them by name. You know so many of your customers, like in an in person or person to person way, that it’s, it’s just a completely different game you’re playing than those huge companies that are purely. Focusing on maximizing profit and shareholder shareholder value what will set you apart essentially is that your business is more human. And if your business is more human. And it also means that it will take a lot more energy from you to run the business and to please your customers and to listen to your customers. Because a customer’s role in your business is not purely to give you money to take your product or take your service and give you money. They also are. Your marketing channel, if you think about it, they might be the ones who are promoting your business to other people, sharing your posts, making your content viral. You name it. They’re the ones that are giving you feedback. So if something went wrong with your product or service, they are the ones that are giving you the input on how to improve. What to improve, because it’s also in their best interest that you sell them a better product some of your most trusted advisors, I. Always had clients when, whichever business I was running or part of with who I felt a sense of comradery almost, that we could sit down and have a very personal conversation. So they could give me a lot more insight into their world. And by extension of this, I could understand my market more. I could understand what they need, what else they need. And that also may helped me create additional services or products that I could go back to them and sell. So they are helping you grow your business in more ways than you imagine so I really think that if you are a small business, your number one ask would be to be obsessed with your customers. That being said, if you have the wrong customers, if you’re working with the type of, of people or companies that are not necessarily a great fit to your service, that could be detrimental to your business. And I brought three aspects here. Money and energy, and I wanna talk about all three. So when it comes to time, I’m gonna give you something like super groundbreaking. We have limited amount of time on this earth, in this life, and if you work with the wrong customers, you will end up putting your time into the wrong place basically. And that means that you cannot use that time to work with the customers who would be able to improve your business and improve you as a person and get, give you more insights and more whatever. If we think of, again, the press on businesses that I, I talked about, let’s say a set of press on nails costs $75. Of course, if you sell it to the right customer and to the wrong customer, it’s $75. $75, but then what you do with that money at the end of the day is you reinvest part of it into your business. And if you get feedback or you build on feedback from the wrong customer, it means you are putting money towards the wrong things because you are trying to please someone who is not even, you know, a good fit to your business to begin with. So they’re diverting your. They’re changing your direction into a place or into, a new version of your business that you might end up hating because that’s not the type of people you wanna serve. That’s not the type of business you wanna make. You listen to advice just simply, simply from the wrong people. And then the third aspect is energy. And this is something that I started really working with on a more serious level, if I can say that. I loved discrediting or undermining the importance of energy when it comes to work. I always thought of energy as something that I can rely on in my private life, but when it comes to business, business is business. No emotions almost, you know, like this very toxic way of, of thinking about business, but I realized that. If you simply work with the wrong people, they would put your energy into like a mode of deficiency. And let me take a sip of coffee because this is a very chill conversation we’re having here. So basically, some of the customers who by definition are not a great fit for your company, can end up draining you so much. That you will not have the energy to work with the customers that you love and that you would wanna spend your time with, and they give you, good vibes. And so it might even sound crazy that you make decisions based on the vibes you get from that customer. But I think we should really stop, discrediting this kind of gut feeling or resonance when it comes to business decisions, because at the end of the day, what we are trying to do here is build businesses that we love and that we can continue loving in a sustainable way. If you work with people who constantly drain your energy. Then you are shooting yourself in the foot. This is not something you can do long term. This is something you can, stick it out, in the short slash midterm, but it’s definitely not gonna be something that will motivate you to continue doing on a longer term. And I think this is where most businesses actually get it wrong. And I can speak from my own experience. I also started working with clients that were absolutely not interesting for me. So when I was, working on this startup that I mentioned in the past episodes as well. So I was building a partnership management platform. I know it sounds super, um, weird and robotic, but basically we were building a software with my co-founder and, when we started building the software, we were thinking, we were imagining that our customers would be. Know very, innovative FinTech companies, like financial companies or insurance companies or some digital, marketing companies, like stuff that we were at least, a little bit interested in, or we knew the area or we saw, how, buzzing this environment is like when we worked in Copenhagen and left and right there were meetups, FinTech meetups, InsureTech meetups, people getting together, hosting conferences, having some beers together. It was a ve

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  4. Ep. 2 - Listen to Your Inner Imposter

    2025. 09. 08.

    Ep. 2 - Listen to Your Inner Imposter

    Transcript Hi everyone, and welcome to episode two of the Lovable Business Podcast. My name is Mercy Barake, and I am your host. Today the topic I would like to talk about is imposter syndrome. If you haven't seen my recent YouTube video on this topic, I. Highly recommend you go check it out, but as usual, the YouTube video is a little bit more crisp and precise, and the podcast episode that's following the topic is a bit more personal, intimate, and much, much less edited. But without further ado, I would like to jump into the topic and the, basically the thesis that I have, for imposter syndrome. And that is that, it is something that we are all familiar with. But I feel we highly misunderstand what imposter syndrome is. So the basic thesis of my research or my findings on this topic is that there's basically two types of, imposter syndrome. I probably also should talk about this a little bit. Imposter syndromes. I think the naming is pretty wrong 'cause it makes you feel like it's a medical term. While it's a completely natural phenomena that's happening. So basically it makes you feel like you are a medical case just for feeling this way, but it's just like a way of trying to fit in and you know, the way humans are trying to belong to a tribe and. It generates the exact same feelings in most of us, so I would prefer to actually call it imposter phenomena or something like that. I stick to imposter syndrome because I assume that people who were interested in learning more about this topic or typing imposter syndrome into their search bars. I truly believe that there's two different types that we should, differentiate between. One of them is based on a knowledge gap and the other one's based on misalignment. Imposter syndrome is very much a fundamental fear. We want to belong to a tribe. And because we feel we might not live up to certain standards or the role we are assigned to, or the things we are promising when we are running our own business makes us feel like we're trying to fake it till we make it right. So I think this, saying is very handy in understanding what I actually mean. It's that you are trying, you know, your knowledge, your skills, your competence is not there yet, not where you want it to be, at least. But there's no possible way to, to benchmark things. So it's all just a mental fixation basically. But the more you learn about the topic, the more you go into the details and the more experience you have. This feeling of being an imposter is completely vanishing. I can give you a quick example I started my own business. I co-founded a business that built a tech solution to manage partnerships, to manage, B2B business to business. Partnerships and measure things that we thought were very important to look at, and other companies or other solutions didn't necessarily address these. When we started, I had a lot of experience with partnerships, but at the same time, because this was never a title that I had, or it was never a full-time job. It was constantly part of my job, but it was never my full-time job before I started the business. So I felt like not coming to the business as a newbie or someone who's. Very inexperienced compared to the big names who were dominating this space. But at the same time, I just felt, you know, the more I learn, the more I start copying their vocabulary, the more I'm gonna fit in. The more people I know in the space, the more well connected I. The more I grow my network, the more I'm gonna be able to live up to the standards where I want it to be. Because let's be honest, we we're always starting things that we're new at, right? You are so inexperienced and you're so new at it that you have an idea of where you wanna be and just constantly feel like you're pretending that you're there, but you know, deep inside that you're not. This is me with YouTube videos or the podcast. I have a very high standard of where I would like to be, but I know that the skills I have, the concept that I have in my mind is not mature enough to reflect the standard that I want to present to the world. So that's why I feel like a total imposter, like sitting here talking to the camera because it's very unnatural for me and because I have a couple of people in my mind whose standards I wanna live up to, and I'm really not there yet, i've been doing this for a couple of months now, and I can tell you that it is gradually getting easier and it is gradually becoming something that I know I'm constantly working on. Over time with trials, even this episode, like as much as I wanna be natural and unfiltered and unedited, I have a couple of notes in my hands, and this is the second time i'm recording the whole episode from the beginning. Because I just simply want to get better, and these are things that are completely fine to do, but the problem starts when you start over obsessing with perfection, if you are constantly trying to be perfect at everything you're doing, you really take away the importance of the learning experience. And there's one thing that I read recently, I really don't know where, but it was basically saying that things are only interesting. For as long as you are in the mastering it face. Once you become a master of something, people tend to shift. People tend to quit the thing, not quitting as like out of failure, but it's like. I'm done with it. I mastered the skill. I know the craft. I feel that there's not much more I can explore within this space. Lemme look for the next thing. And isn't it really interesting that the very thing that makes us so uncomfortable, AKA being new at something or starting something from the beginning? Is also the thing that actually attracts us. It's the thing that signals that we still have something to do in that space that gives us some sense of purpose, and I think that is so fricking beautiful. I've had a talk with a client recently who is running a very, very successful business. But she started another, business model within her business, and she wants to double down on investing in making that new business model, basically her primary business her secondary and we were talking the other day, and it was such a beautiful moment where she, admitted that she feels so bad because even though she's been working on her business for the past five years, and it's been her only income, so she's running a business that is, at least sustaining her, life, if not more. That she feels like now she's back to the drawing board and she feels like such a newbie and she feels like, you know, she's gonna have to start facing the failures again. Like try error, tryer error, and then figuring things out until she manages to find the sweet spot on how to really. Recover the investments she's made into this new business model and I think that this is what us humans are doing. There is a reason why people like me who have figured out the key on how to grow in their respective careers. Start playing the game by those rules and realizing this is not even an interesting game to play anymore. And as soon as you figure out the exact recipe, as soon as you crack the code, the game stops being interesting. Another example I just thought of is that when I was a kid, I loved playing sims. I had a very, very strict, daily time that I could allocate to playing games. And that was one hour. Those of you who have built, any type of virtual world, you know, that I'm just passes differently when you are in it. So I was playing Sims and I didn't speak English at all. Let's just put it this way. I could read the words and I could understand a couple of things, but it wasn't enough to get by. But I somehow ended up on forums, where people were sharing cheat codes. And I remember the cheat code mother load, which gave you like, 50,000 Sims dollars. And that was a lot of money. And the funny thing was that you could apply this cheat code as many times as you want. So basically I had unlimited money and I think I. Robbed myself of the beauty of the game because one of the reasons why Sims is so addictive is because you. Try to earn money and then spend money on your home or your activities as if you were living life. That's the sort of, the simulation is supposed to mimic real life, and as soon as I figured out the cheat code on how to get like basically unlimited amounts of money. I spent a couple of weeks building the most elaborate mentions and having the fanciest possible life for my sims, and then the game got really boring. There was no point really in repeating the same thing with New Sims or in new setups because money was unlimited. And because I eliminated one of the like, basic sort of scarcity equations, it felt like it wasn't an interesting game anymore. The same happened in my, professional life as well. As soon as I started earning significantly more money per month than what I needed for my expenses or some luxuries, money stopped making sense. Money stopped giving me the same feeling as it is giving me now. Now because I've been living off of my savings for the past couple of years, the majority of the expenses are covered by my savings. Money has money, has regained its meaning and its significance in my life. So when I was a student, I was from a relatively poor family in Hungarian terms, very well off family, but put that income into the context of Scandinavia and, you quickly become one of the, poorest people around. But I remember spending my student years constantly, obsessing over how much money I spend. I usually tell this story to others as well, that even if I bought a cup of coffee for five Swedish grono, which is, I wanna say 50 cents, yeah, it is 50 cents. Even a 50 cent expense went into my expense tracker that I had in a book form or like a journal form. Because it was so important to make sure that I know exactly how much money I spend on coffee, how much money I spend in general, and how much money do I have left roughly. And how much mone

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Running your business shouldn't feel like a constant hustle. Hustle might get you ambitious results but will leave your soul depleted and your relationship with your business bitter. The Lovable Business Podcast is here to help you build a business that feels natural, empowering, and true to who you are. To help you stop thinking about your foundership as career and transform it into a deeper sense of calling. Hosted by Mercy Barake, an ex-corporate girlie/ex-management consultant/ex-tech founder business coach blending strategy with the true desires of the soul, each episode dives into what it means to create a business you actually enjoy showing up for. From psychological, philosophical and esoteric insights to practical strategies, from untangling perfectionism to embracing your feminine energy, this is your space to learn, reflect, and build a business that you really can't help but love. girlbossedtoohard.substack.com