For The Hayters

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For The Hayters is a space where vulnerability is met with strength, and real stories remind us we’re never alone. Hosted by a community of storytellers and listeners alike, this podcast dives into the personal journeys—both beautiful and brutal—that shape who we are. From life-changing challenges to moments of resilience, our guests open up about the experiences that have defined them, in hopes of connecting, healing, and inspiring others. Whether you’re here to feel seen, heard, or understood, this is your reminder: your story matters. beckyhayter.com

  1. Wallet Therapy: Free Money on the Table | The 401(k) Match You're Probably Missing

    2 HR AGO

    Wallet Therapy: Free Money on the Table | The 401(k) Match You're Probably Missing

    You make decent money. You're contributing something to your 401(k). You think you're good. But what if I told you there's free money sitting on the table — money your employer literally wants to give you — and most people have no idea they're walking away from it? This week on Wallet Therapy, Becky admits she spent years contributing 2% to her 401(k) and missing out on her full employer match (oof), and Alex breaks down the part of your paycheck you might not even know you're leaving behind. We get into: What an employer match actually IS (explained like you're five)Why this is step five on your money journey — and when it's okay to skip aheadThe "paycheck illusion" and why contributing $100 doesn't actually take $100 out of your checkRoth vs. Traditional 401(k) — and why Alex has strong feelings about itReal numbers: what starting at 20 vs. 30 vs. 40 vs. 50 actually looks like at retirementWhy it's NEVER too late to start (and the math to prove it) Your homework: Log into your 401(k) right now. Check your contribution percentage. Is it hitting your full employer match? If not, increase it today. That's it. That's the assignment. 🎟️ Want to ask Alex your specific 401(k) questions live? Join us May 14th at 6pm in our Wallet Therapy Live session on Patreon → patreon.com/beckyhater Try Monarch: Get 50% off your first year → https://monarch.com/referral/ey3kkk8c7e Connect with us: Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at info@forthehaters.com to have your financial scenario featured on the show! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    30 min

  2. 3 DAYS AGO

    Grief, Generational Choke Holds & Choosing Each Other : The Cousin Who Became My Person

    TW: parental death, grief, generational trauma, brain surgery, mentions of medical events. Laura and Este grew up in the same massive Italian family — same Christmases, same wedding tables, same kitchen — and barely spoke for the first 20 years of their lives. Then Laura's dad died. This conversation is about grief, immigrant parents, generational patterns, and the cousin who became her person inside a family she'd known her whole life.  Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.  🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!  🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters  🔹 Submit your story: info@forthehayters.com  🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com  🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.com If you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    51 min

  3. 26 APR

    Parenting in Two Directions at Once | Growing Up Early & Caring for the Mom Who Raised Her

    TW: parental abandonment, complicated grief, dementia, caregiver burnout, complex family dynamics. Danielle was raised by a single mom with a disability in the same small town as the father who chose not to be part of her life. Now she's parenting her own daughter while becoming a caregiver for the mother who raised her — who's living with dementia. This conversation is about growing up early, grieving a door that never opened, and learning to love in two directions at once. Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.  🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!  🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters  🔹 Submit your story: info@forthehayters.com  🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com  🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.com If you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    47 min
  4. Wallet Therapy: Money & Relationships: The Friendship Tax, Vision Dates & the 50/50 Trap

    23 APR

    Wallet Therapy: Money & Relationships: The Friendship Tax, Vision Dates & the 50/50 Trap

    70% of couples argue about money more than they argue about chores — and yet nobody teaches us how to actually talk about it. Becky gets real this week, confessing that the second she downloaded Monarch and started tracking every dollar, Leah felt like she was being audited (in her defense, the mystery $450 Amazon charge turned out to be baby formula). She's said no to dinners with friends, her social life feels strained, and now she's wondering — is getting your money together supposed to cost you your relationships? If you've ever felt the squeeze between financial goals and the people you love, this one is for you. The Solution: Alex (The Expert) walks through the three conversations every couple needs to be having — and the mindset shifts that make them work: The Vision Date: Start with dreams, not numbers. Where do you want to be in 1, 3, 5, 10 years? Shared goals are what make the spending plan actually stick.The Monthly Check-In: 15-20 minutes, consistent, awareness not judgment. No hour-long money court sessions.The Emergency Huddle: When the unexpected hits, no blame — just solution.The 50/50 Trap: Why splitting bills equally when incomes aren't equal quietly causes financial infidelity — and why a percentage-based split is almost always more fair.The Friendship Tax: How to handle friends who spend at a different level than you (spoiler: the counter-offer changes everything).Your Most Expensive Relationship: Why your phone is quietly costing you more than any person in your life, and the 24-hour rule that helps you break up with it.Plus, we answer a question from Anonymous — she's over 50, just told her husband about $10K in credit card debt, and he suggested separate fun accounts + a shared household account. Alex walks her through exactly where to start. Schedule a vision date with your partner this week (or your future one — this still works solo). No spreadsheets. No numbers. Just dreams. Where do you want to be in 1, 3, 5, 10 years? Making it public makes it real. Try Monarch (the app Becky mentioned): Get 50% off your first year → https://monarch.com/referral/ey3kkk8c7e Connect with us: Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at info@forthehaters.com to have your financial scenario featured on the show! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    27 min

  5. 19 APR

    Loss of Twins at 21 Weeks: Infertility, PCOS, and Finding Joy | Kortney’s Story

    Trigger Warning: This episode contains detailed discussions of pregnancy loss, stillbirth, infant death, and postpartum depression. After years of navigating PCOS and multiple IUI cycles, Kortney finally heard the words she’d prayed for: "You’re pregnant." But the joy of expecting twins, Kinsley and Cameron, was met with a terrifying reality at her 20-week scan. Her cervix had opened, and her pregnancy shifted into a crisis no parent is prepared for. In this episode, Kortney walks us through the delivery of her twins at 21 weeks, the "Cuddle Cot" that gave her precious time with them, and the grueling path through IVF to bring her daughter and son home years later. This is a raw look at grief, the "redemption" of a healthy birth, and learning that joy and loss can coexist. Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal. Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.  🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!  🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters  🔹 Submit your story: info@forthehayters.com  🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com  🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.com If you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    57 min

  6. 12 APR

    Growing Up with an Alcoholic Parent: Starr’s Story

    Trigger Warning: This episode discusses parental alcoholism, child neglect, suicide attempts, and graphic descriptions of traumatic death. In this episode, Starr sits down with me to pull back the curtain on a childhood where "home" was never a synonym for "safe." For Starr, life was a constant exercise in "second nature" awareness—learning to read the room before the day even unfolded to see which version of her mother she was going to get. From witnessing a traumatic police intervention before the age of three to watching her mother jump from a second-story balcony, Starr’s story is a raw look at the "Jekyll and Hyde" reality of loving an addict. We discuss the heavy burden of being an emotional caretaker for a parent, the complicated "relief" that comes with a traumatic loss, and the "gut punch" of finding her mother’s secret journals a year after her death—words that finally answered the "why" Starr had been carrying her entire life. Today, Starr is focused on breaking the cycle, prioritizing peace, and navigating the terrifying path of becoming the mother she never had. Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal. Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.  🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!  🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters  🔹 Submit your story: info@forthehayters.com  🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com  🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.com If you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 SAMHSA’s National Helpline (Substance Abuse): 1-800-662-HELP (4357) Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA): adultchildren.org See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    46 min
  7. Wallet Therapy: The Truth About Debt Consolidation

    9 APR

    Wallet Therapy: The Truth About Debt Consolidation

    Most of us treat our credit cards like a safety net, but as Alex points out, the average household is actually trapped under $17 trillion in national debt. Becky gets vulnerable this week, admitting to a peak of $30,000 in credit card debt and the "vicious cycle" of consolidating balances just to rack them up again. If you’ve ever looked at your banking app through your fingers, this one is for you. The Solution: Alex (The Expert) breaks down the "High Interest Killer"—debts at 7-8% or higher that cost you more than the stock market could ever make you. We break down the two heavy-hitters of payoff strategy: The Snowball: Paying the smallest balances first for that emotional "win".The Avalanche: Tackling high-interest rates first to save the most money mathematically.CTA: We’re challenging you to find just $5 extra this week to put toward your smallest debt—prove to the bank that you are the boss of that dollar! Connect with us: Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at info@forthehaters.com to have your financial scenario featured on the show! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    35 min

  8. 5 APR

    10 Years for Him, A Life Sentence for Us: Justice for Shawn Stewart

    Trigger Warning: This episode discusses fatal car accidents, drunk driving, and graphic descriptions of loss. In August 2023, Brooke’s life was shattered. Her husband, Shawn, was killed in a head-on collision by a drunk driver with a BAC of 0.28 while on his way to work. What followed was a harrowing journey through a legal system that Brooke feels hands victims a "life sentence" while the responsible party receives only a fraction of that time. From identifying Shawn by surgical screws in his ankle to facing the driver who was once a face on her own Facebook feed, Brooke’s story is a raw look at the cost of a "choice". Today, she is fighting to change DUI laws and keeping Shawn’s memory alive through "Shine for Shawn". Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal. Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.  🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!  🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters  🔹 Submit your story: info@forthehayters.com  🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com  🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.com If you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD): madd.org See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    44 min
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For The Hayters is a space where vulnerability is met with strength, and real stories remind us we’re never alone. Hosted by a community of storytellers and listeners alike, this podcast dives into the personal journeys—both beautiful and brutal—that shape who we are. From life-changing challenges to moments of resilience, our guests open up about the experiences that have defined them, in hopes of connecting, healing, and inspiring others. Whether you’re here to feel seen, heard, or understood, this is your reminder: your story matters. beckyhayter.com

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  • Creator
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  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    93
  • Rating
    Explicit
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