Forgive Yourself

Brenda Reiss
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Host Brenda Reiss is a Freedom and Forgiveness coach, and a person just like you that is learning to navigate life and all its challenges. She teaches a forgiveness process like no other. It's a blend of practical and spiritual forgiveness. This process guides you into knowing how unforgiveness can be keeping you stuck in your relationships, both personally and professionally, preventing you from releasing resentment and finding joy. Each week I share practical and some not so practical tips, tools, and advice from myself and other people that are on this journey just like us. This is for you if you are ready to turn your pain into peace. Welcome to the Forgive Yourself podcast.

  1. 12 HR AGO

    99: 10 Things We Struggle to Forgive Ourselves For

    When we think about forgiveness, we usually think about other people. But some of the deepest resentment we carry is self-directed, and it often hides as guilt, self-criticism, exhaustion, regret, or a constant feeling that something just isn’t quite right. In this episode, I walk through the 10 most common things we struggle to forgive ourselves for, especially as women in midlife: how we showed up (or didn’t), staying too long or leaving too soon, health and caregiving decisions, repeating old patterns, choosing others over ourselves, and grieving the life we thought we’d have by now. This isn’t about “doing forgiveness right,” rushing to closure, or forcing compassion before you’re ready. It’s about telling the truth kindly, creating safety in your nervous system, and understanding that forgiveness comes after witnessing—not before. What You’ll Learn Why self-forgiveness is often harder than forgiving others What forgiveness is and isn’t, and why timing matters more than effortHow the nervous system holds onto unresolved experiencesWhy repeating patterns doesn’t mean you’ve failed or regressedHow survival, loyalty, and responsibility shape our past choicesWhy grief and gratitude can coexist Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

    29 min

  2. 3 DAYS AGO

    98: Holding Two Truths - Finding Your Center in Uncertain Times

    In a world that feels increasingly uncertain, overwhelming, and emotionally charged, how do we stay rooted without bypassing what’s real? In this episode, I explore what it truly means to hold two truths at the same time: acknowledging fear, grief, and instability while also choosing presence, agency, and inner steadiness. Drawing from my personal caregiving journey, recent moments of self-doubt, and a powerful realization sparked by therapy, I reflect on how easily our nervous systems get hijacked and how quickly my inner critic can drown out my wise voice. This conversation is an invitation to come home to yourself. I share the simple, grounding practices I’ve returned to in order to rebuild a foundation that doesn’t collapse when fear shows up—one breath, one choice, one moment at a time. What You’ll Learn How an activated nervous system fuels comparison, perfectionism, and inner criticismWhy “fantasy thinking” can keep you stuck and disconnected from realityHow to recognize and disengage from the inner critic that assaults your wise voicePractical, non-flashy tools to calm the nervous system (breath, movement, sensory awareness)How journaling, gratitude, and naming what you can control restore a sense of agencyWhy coming home to yourself is an act of peace, not avoidance Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

    21 min

  3. 16 JAN

    97: When Healing Meets Timing - What Miraval Taught Me About Letting Support In

    Sometimes healing doesn’t come from pushing harder, but from allowing ourselves to receive. In this episode, I share my experience at Miraval Resort in Arizona and the unexpected insights that emerged after a season of caregiving, grief, betrayal, and deep self-awareness. Through equine therapy and the art of Kintsugi, I reflect on perception, self-trust, and what it means to love ourselves deeply without needing external validation. Along the way, I offer gentle practices to help you integrate your own awareness and “aha” moments. What You’ll Learn Why we often mistake self-protection for self-trustHow perception can deepen—or ease—our sufferingWhat horses revealed about being in your head vs. your bodyWhy not everything broken is meant to be fixedHow letting others help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you humanSimple ways to practice receiving, rest, and self-compassion Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

    33 min

  4. 9 JAN

    96: The Difference 2 Years Makes

    Two years ago, I made one of the hardest decisions of my life: moving my husband into memory care. Last year, I shared the raw shock, grief, and guilt of that first year. This episode is about what the second year has taught me. I thought year two would feel easier. More settled. Instead, it brought new crises, a nervous system stuck on high alert, and an unexpected moment that finally cracked my grief wide open. What followed was a deeper reckoning with loss, with old patterns of over-responsibility, and with the belief that love must be earned through self-sacrifice. This is a reflection on how grief changes over time, how the body decides when it’s safe to feel, and what it looks like to slowly let go without abandoning love, and without abandoning myself.. In this episode, you’ll hear about: How grief can shift—and intensify—in the second yearWhy my body stayed in survival mode longer than I expectedHow caregiving can awaken old “good girl” and people-pleasing patternsWhat helped me begin letting go without guiltHow I’m learning to care for myself while still loving deeply Here are the episodes that I reference in the podcast: Episode 64: A Difference a Year Makes – https://brendareisscoaching.com/2025/01/14/a-difference-a-year-makes/ Episode 94: The Good Girl Syndrome – How People-Pleasing Sneaks Into Adulthood (and How We Break Free) – https://brendareisscoaching.com/2025/12/21/the-good-girl-syndrome-how-people-pleasing-sneaks-into-adulthood-and-how-we-break-free/ Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

    22 min

  5. 26/12/2025

    95: Why So Many Women Don’t Trust Their Own Gut

    What happens when we stop outsourcing our knowledge and begin listening to the wisdom that’s been living inside us all along? Brenda is joined by somatic and expressive arts therapist Cathy Williams to explore what it truly means to come home to your body after trauma, burnout, and self-abandonment. Cathy shares her personal healing journey, from living in her head and overriding her intuition, to reconnecting with her body as a source of safety, guidance, and truth. Together, they unpack how psychological abuse, people-pleasing, and over-intellectualizing can disconnect us from ourselves and how somatic awareness, creative expression, and gentle self-forgiveness can guide us back. This episode is an invitation to soften, slow down, and remember: your body has always been trying to protect you. In this episode, you’ll hear about: How intuition speaks through the bodyWhy forgiveness often starts with self-trustThe role of somatic and creative healing in trauma recoveryHow to rebuild a loving relationship with your inner guidance Cathy's Body Wisdom Oracle cards are currently in a crowdfunding campaign till the end of January 2026! If you'd like to participate, click here: https://project.liftwomen.com/p/692f852562daa122b31ea41b Connect with yourself through Cathy’s free resources: https://www.intuitiveself.com.au/category/all-products Follow Cathy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intuitiveself__ Connect with Cathy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathywilliams-intuitiveself/ Follow Cathy on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IntuitiveSelfCathyW  Subscribe to Cathy on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Intuitive_Self Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

    55 min

  6. 19/12/2025

    94: The Good Girl Syndrome - How People-Pleasing Sneaks Into Adulthood (and How We Break Free)

    In this deeply vulnerable episode, Brenda opens up about a powerful and unexpected moment in her caregiving journey with her husband, who lives in memory care due to dementia. What began as shock and heartbreak became a profound awakening, revealing a pattern so many high-achieving, caring women carry quietly into adulthood: the Good Girl Syndrome. Brenda explores how early conditioning to be “good” evolves into people-pleasing, over-functioning, emotional suppression, resentment, burnout, and the slow abandonment of our own needs. Through raw storytelling and compassionate reflection, she shares how this pattern showed up for her in real time and how it cracked her open to a deeper layer of grief, truth, and healing. This episode is an invitation to gently notice where you may be carrying too much, silencing yourself, or equating your worth with how much you do for others and to begin loosening those patterns with honesty, self-compassion, and courage. Ready to break free from the good girl pattern? This worksheet is for you: https://therecreationcoach.aweb.page/breaking-free-good-girl-pattern What You’ll Learn What the Good Girl Syndrome really is and how it quietly follows us into adulthoodHow people-pleasing and over-functioning disconnect us from our emotions and needsWhy suppressed grief and resentment often show up through the bodyHow to move through guilt, shame, and emotional overwhelm with compassionPractical, grounding steps to begin reclaiming your voice, honoring your limits, and caring for yourself in a more sustainable way Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

    16 min

  7. 12/12/2025

    93: What Your Triggers Are Trying to Tell You

    Edit B. Kiss, a holistic mentor, success habit coach, and humanitarian award-winning author is joining me to share her story of transformation, which is as grounded as it is spiritual. After 15 years as a petroleum engineer, Edit followed a deep inner calling that led her from spreadsheets to source energy, from panic attacks to peace. Together, we talk about trauma, triggers, forgiveness, and why mindfulness is not the first step in healing. Edit shares how she learned to recognize synchronicities, how the body reveals unresolved emotional patterns, and why true change requires tending to the mind, body, and soul. We also explore her 3P and 5-Step methods for closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be. If you're navigating the unknown or feeling pulled toward something new, this conversation is a powerful reminder that healing is possible—and closer than you think. What You’ll Learn How Edit moved from a highly logical engineering career into intuitive, heart-centered healingWhy triggers point directly to unresolved trauma and how to use them for growthWhy mindfulness alone isn’t enough without healing the deeper emotional rootsHow the body, mind, and soul work together in releasing anxiety and panicEdit’s 3P Method for reaching your goalsHow forgiveness frees you without requiring you to trust someone again Get Edit’s latest book, The Gap Filler Success: Simple Steps to Reach Your Goals: https://www.amazon.com/-/he/Gap-Filler-Success-Simple-Steps/dp/B0FVG3RVW3 Learn more about Edit on her website: https://editbkiss.com/ Follow Edit on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/editbkiss Connect with Edit on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/editbkiss/  Follow Edit on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bkissedit Check out Edit’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MagicalKarmaPriestess Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

    39 min

  8. 05/12/2025

    92: The Healing Power of Daily Rituals - A Guide Through Grief

    I sat down with author and executive coach Laing Rikkers to explore how quiet rituals, creativity, and the natural world can become anchors during our deepest seasons of loss. When Laing’s younger sister died suddenly just months before the world shut down, she found herself searching for a way through overwhelming grief. What began as simple morning walks and unfiltered “morning pages” soon unfolded into Morning Leaves, her beautiful collection of plant-inspired poems and reflections. Laing shares how slowing down helped her reconnect with herself, how creativity became a lifeline, and how she gently released the guilt she carried around her sister’s passing. She also offers the powerful checklist she uses to return to balance when life feels heavy: sleep, eat, steep, walk it, talk it, write it, and pay it forward. What You’ll Learn How simple daily rituals can create space for healingWhy connecting with nature helps regulate the nervous system and ease emotional overwhelmHow creativity (even if you’ve never seen yourself as “creative”) can transform grief into meaningHow to recognize, release, and forgive the complex guilt that often comes with sudden lossHow finding purpose after loss can keep our loved ones present in our daily lives Get the 2nd Edition of Laing's book Morning Leaves: Cultivating a Life of Beauty, Meaning, and Joy: https://bookshop.org/p/books/morning-leaves-meditations-on-beauty-and-joy-laing-f-rikkers/f8c694a6cc939b5a?ean=9781636284729&next=t&next=t&affiliate=177 Connect with Laing on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/laing-rikkers Follow Laing on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morning_leaves_and_poetry/ Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60    Brenda’s Website/Links WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn

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Host Brenda Reiss is a Freedom and Forgiveness coach, and a person just like you that is learning to navigate life and all its challenges. She teaches a forgiveness process like no other. It's a blend of practical and spiritual forgiveness. This process guides you into knowing how unforgiveness can be keeping you stuck in your relationships, both personally and professionally, preventing you from releasing resentment and finding joy. Each week I share practical and some not so practical tips, tools, and advice from myself and other people that are on this journey just like us. This is for you if you are ready to turn your pain into peace. Welcome to the Forgive Yourself podcast.

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  • Creator
    Brenda Reiss
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    99
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