Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

  1. Why Treating Yourself Is Essential For Emotional Wellbeing | Mid Week Tease

    3 DAYS AGO

    Why Treating Yourself Is Essential For Emotional Wellbeing | Mid Week Tease

    What if “treating yourself” isn’t indulgence but a psychological necessity? In this week’s Mid Week Tease, Adelle reflects on how she’s learned to intentionally place joy into her life, especially around birthdays. From solo stays by the pool with poetry and silence, to beach days and bicycle tours, this episode explores why joy deserves to be planned, not postponed. Drawing from personal ritual and psychology-backed research, Adelle unpacks why joy plays a critical role in emotional regulation, resilience, and healing, particularly for women who have been conditioned to survive instead of savor. You’ll also hear insights inspired by the work of Barbara Fredrickson, whose research shows that positive emotions don’t just feel good they broaden our thinking and build long-term emotional strength. This episode is an invitation to stop waiting for permission to enjoy your life, and to start treating joy as maintenance not a reward. In this episode, we explore: Why treating yourself isn’t about luxury, but nervous system regulationHow intentional joy builds emotional resilience over timeThe difference between escapism and self-attunementWhy small, repeated pleasures matter more than big, rare onesHow to identify what actually brings you joy (not what looks good online)Simple, accessible ways to begin treating yourself without guiltGentle reflection questions from the episode: When was the last time I did something purely because it brought me joy?What environments help my body soften and expand?What small joy have I been postponing and why?Listen if you’re: Emotionally exhausted but still “functioning”Learning how to stop abandoning yourselfTrying to build a softer, more intentional lifeCurious about the psychology behind joy and wellbeingReady to treat yourself without justificationAbout Mid Week Tease Mid Week Tease is a reflective audio series by Legally Clueless Africa offering grounding conversations about healing, self-awareness, relationships, and becoming more emotionally honest with ourselves. 🔗 Useful links: Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    15 min
  2. From Grief To Laughter PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 363

    5 DAYS AGO

    From Grief To Laughter PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 363

    In Episode 363 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Kenyan stand-up comedian Rahab Kihuha shares Part 1 of her powerful story, a deeply honest journey through grief, addiction, mental health struggles, and the unexpected role comedy played in her survival. Rahab opens up about losing her father, using alcohol to cope with pain, feeling emotionally unseen, and how stepping onto a comedy stage for the first time helped her transform shame into laughter. What began as a way to numb pain slowly became a form of healing and a path toward purpose. This episode explores: Grief and how it shows up in the bodyAddiction as a coping mechanism, not a moral failureUsing humour as armour and medicineMental health struggles among African womenHow creativity can become a lifeline before it becomes a careerConnect With Legally Clueless Africa 💌 Join our newsletter: 👉 https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ 📸 Follow us on Instagram: 👉 https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ 🎵 Follow us on TikTok: 👉 https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: 👉 https://www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube 📝 Share your story with us: 👉 https://forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Legally Clueless is a podcast and community amplifying African women’s stories around healing, identity, mental wellness, relationships, and self-discovery, one honest conversation at a time.

    38 min
  3. Why Workplace Policies Matter: Power, Silence & Justice for Women | Difference She Makes

    6 DAYS AGO

    Why Workplace Policies Matter: Power, Silence & Justice for Women | Difference She Makes

    In this episode of Difference She Makes, we turn our focus to policies, the internal rules that determine whether institutions protect people in practice or only on paper. Adelle Onyango is joined by Zikhona Ndlebe, a South Africa–based judicial governance expert who has worked at the heart of policy reform within the legal system. Zikhona helps us understand why policies are not just administrative tools, but powerful mechanisms that shape culture, accountability, and safety, especially for women. This conversation unpacks how sexual misconduct has long existed in legal institutions even when it was never formally named, why denial protects systems more than people, and how policy gaps leave survivors without recourse. Zikhona also explains why timing matters: when harm occurs before a policy exists, justice becomes far more difficult to achieve. We explore: Why internal workplace policies matter as much as laws and constitutionsHow power, silence, and denial operate inside legal institutionsThe real-world consequences of policy gaps for women in lawWhy implementation matters more than intentionWhat other African countries can learn from South Africa’s experienceThis episode is a reminder that justice is not only written in legislation, it is lived through policy, practice, and accountability. Listener question: What’s one workplace policy you wish existed and was actually enforced? Listen now and subscribe to Difference She Makes to follow the full series exploring how African women are reshaping justice and leadership across the continent.

    29 min
  4. Postpartum Panic Attacks, Body Changes & Learning to Start Again | For Mannerless Women

    29 JAN

    Postpartum Panic Attacks, Body Changes & Learning to Start Again | For Mannerless Women

    Pregnancy and postpartum don’t just change a woman’s body they change her mind, her strength, and her sense of self. In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Winnie Okoth, elite CrossFit and Olympic weightlifting athlete and coach, for an honest conversation about postpartum realities we rarely prepare women for. Winnie shares her personal experience navigating: Postpartum panic attacks and mental health strugglesGrieving the body and strength she once hadTraining, coaching, and showing up while feeling disconnected from her bodyPostpartum injuries women are told are “normal” including pelvic pain, back pain, and core separationThe pressure to “bounce back” and how it quietly harms womenLearning to start again from ground zeroWhy breathwork is foundational for healing the nervous system, core, and pelvic floorThe power of community in postpartum recovery and motherhoodThis episode is for women who are pregnant, postpartum, supporting new mothers or unlearning the idea that healing should be rushed. You don’t bounce back. You build forward. 🔗 Listen, Watch & Connect Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    36 min
  5. Abandoning Your Emotional Needs in Relationships | Mid Week Tease

    28 JAN

    Abandoning Your Emotional Needs in Relationships | Mid Week Tease

    Many women don’t struggle because they’re “too emotional.” They struggle because they’ve learned to abandon their emotional needs to keep connection. In this episode of Mid Week Tease, we explore the quiet, often invisible ways women self-silence in romantic relationships, friendships, and family not because they lack needs, but because expressing them once felt unsafe. This conversation unpacks emotional self-abandonment, where it comes from, how it shows up across relationships, and the psychological cost of constantly choosing harmony over honesty. Drawing from attachment theory, trauma-informed psychology, and family systems theory, this episode offers both language and tools for women who are tired of disappearing to be loved. In this episode, we explore: What emotional self-abandonment actually looks likeWhy many women minimise, over-give, or stay silent in relationshipsHow early attachment patterns shape emotional self-silencingEmotional labour and the pressure to be “low maintenance”The role family systems play in teaching women to shrinkThe long-term effects of abandoning your emotional needsPractical tools to begin expressing needs without shamePsychology-backed frameworks referenced: Attachment theory (John Bowlby)Trauma-informed understanding of emotional suppression (Gabor Maté)Family systems & differentiation (Murray Bowen)The True Self vs False Self (Donald Winnicott)Gentle reflection prompts from the episode: Where do I silence myself to preserve connection?Whose comfort do I prioritise over my emotional truth?What do I need not what will keep the peace?Subscribe to the Legally Clueless podcast 📝 Sign up for our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ 📲 Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube 🎵 Find us on TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica 💬 Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    19 min
  6. Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 362

    25 JAN

    Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 362

    In Episode 362 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 2 of William Genga’s story, a Kenyan man who chose to be childfree and eventually underwent a vasectomy at 27, after years of being dismissed, questioned, and denied autonomy over his own body. In Part 1, William spoke about realising early in life that he did not want children, being parentified as a firstborn, navigating pregnancy scares, and the emotional toll of reproductive responsibility. In this episode, he takes us deeper, into what happened after he finally acted on that decision. William opens up about: Finally accessing a vasectomy after years of refusalThe physical procedure and recovery including complicationsThe emotional weight of secrecy, judgement, and silenceHis mother’s reaction and the grief that comes with unmet expectationsThe relief of bodily autonomy and living without fear of unintended parenthoodWorkplace discrimination against childfree peopleWhy he chooses not to disclose his vasectomy publiclyFinding community with other childfree KenyansChallenging the idea that marriage and children are the only paths to fulfillmentThis episode explores vasectomy in Kenya, childfree living, bodily autonomy, male accountability, reproductive choice, and the quiet courage it takes to live outside society’s script. This conversation is not about convincing anyone to be childfree, it’s about respecting choice, asking harder questions, and understanding that raising a child is a lifelong responsibility that should never be entered into by default. Connect with Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story anonymously: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    37 min
  7. How Kenya’s Constitution Became A Tool for Women’s Power | Difference She Makes

    24 JAN

    How Kenya’s Constitution Became A Tool for Women’s Power | Difference She Makes

    Kindly take this short survey, your responses help shape future episodes of Difference She Makes and track how these stories are landing: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/diffshemakes   Kenya’s 2010 Constitution is often praised as one of the most progressive in the world, but a constitution alone does not create justice. People do. In this opening episode of Difference She Makes, host Adelle Onyango sits down with Anne Ireri, Executive Director of FIDA Kenya, to explore how women helped shape Kenya’s constitutional journey and the everyday work required to protect those gains. Anne reflects on her full-circle journey from intern to leader, the behind-the-scenes resistance women faced during constitutional reform, and why vigilance is essential to prevent gender equality from being watered down by culture, politics, or complacency. This conversation goes beyond legal theory to ask a deeper question: What does it really take to turn “We the People” into lived reality especially for women and girls?   In this episode, we explore: •        What a constitution actually is and why ownership matters •        How Kenyan women influenced the 2010 Constitution from the inside •        Why constitutions are not self-executing, people breathe life into them •        The tension between culture, tradition, and constitutional equality •        Women’s rights as family rights and societal rights •        What African countries can learn from Kenya’s constitutional journey Join the conversation: What’s one lesson from Kenya’s constitutional journey that you could apply in your organisation, advocacy work, or community? Drop your thoughts in the comments. Difference She Makes is a six-part docuseries examining how African women are transforming justice systems, institutions, and leadership across the continent not just on paper, but in everyday life. Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss the next episode, where we travel to South Africa to examine what happens when equality leaves the constitution and enters the workplace through policy.

    38 min
  8. When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women

    22 JAN

    When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women

    What happens when shame quietly teaches you to perform instead of be? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Kenyan comedian, activist, and writer Justine Wanda for a deeply honest conversation about shame, identity, adoption, grief, and unlearning survival modes. Justine shares how growing up adopted shaped her sense of belonging, why humour became a shield, and how much of her early life, from school to university, was spent performing to avoid being questioned or exposed. She reflects on the slow breaking of that performance, and the relief that came with realising that everyone is carrying their own invisible struggles. This episode explores: How shame can turn your entire life into a performanceUsing humour as protection and survivalIdentity after adoption and lossNavigating grief, belonging, and chosen familyLetting go of who you had to be to surviveLearning to be seen without performingThis is a conversation for women who have ever felt like they had to be funny, fine, or palatable to be accepted, and for anyone learning how to extend grace to themselves while becoming. If this episode resonates, share it with a mannerless woman who needs the reminder that her truth doesn’t need to be edited to be worthy. 🔗 Links & Resources Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Story submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

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Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

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  • Creator
    Legally Clueless
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    482
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Legally Clueless
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    Legally Clueless

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