313 episodes
Dear Shandy Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
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Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions from the perspective of a happily married couple. Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them.
Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership. But there's more! As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen invites Bachelor Nation couples on for intimate double dates called Love Fests. Last, but certainly not least, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge and Andy delivers hilarious comic relief to combine for what are hands down the best Bachelor recaps in the business. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during Bachelor seasons, recaps drop on Tuesdays!
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Q&A! Holding Grudges, When He "Forgets" He Said The L-Word, and Big Age Gaps - Ep 313
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your guy says ILY in the heat of the moment but later on "forgets" this happened, is that a sign you need to end things? If your 19 year old sister starts dating a 34 year old, can you express your disapproval or should you back off? And if your family sells a possession of your grandparents that you wanted and even offered to pay for, should you hold onto that grudge and confront them? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
3:29 - Q1: Was He Sleep-Talking When He Said He Loved Me?
13:10 - Q2: Was I The A-Hole For Fact-Checking My Guy?
20:54 - Q3: I Hate That My 19 Year Old Sister Is Dating A 34 Year Old—Am I Just Being An Age Gap Hater?
33:31 - Q4: Am I The A-Hole For Not Wanting To Visit My Friends In New York?
41:29 - Q5: Have I Been Using My Hardships As An Excuse To Not Be “30 And Flirty”?
53:09 - Q6: My Aunts Sold A Belonging Of My Grandparents That I Really Wanted—Should I Let This Grudge Go?
If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com
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Perfect Match Recap: Eps 7-9 | Harry Jowsey And The Bathroom Kiss Whodunit - Ep 312
Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the second batch of season 2, meaning episodes 7-9!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
2:30 - Episode 7
17:03 - Episode 8
29:30 - Episode 9
1:04:57 - Andy’s A-Game
1:06:25 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed
1:06:51 - Who We Would Go For
If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com
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Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com
More Andy
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine
Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion
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Perfect Match Recap: Eps 1-6 | Shandy Pops Their Perfect Match Cherry - Ep 311
Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the first batch of season 2, meaning episodes 1-6!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:02 - Episode 1
19:49 - Episode 2
34:56 - Episode 3
46:21 - Episode 4
1:06:26 - Episode 5
1:15:33 - Episode 6
1:29:41 - Andy’s A-Game
1:32:48 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed
1:34:17 - Who We Would Go For
If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com
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More Dear Shandy
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More Sharleen
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt
Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com
More Andy
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine
Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion
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We Got A Dog!!! Shandy's Dog Adoption Story - Ep 310
Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead!
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0:00 - Introduction
1:35 - Ruby’s Adoption Story
10:28 - Andy’s Adjustment To Dog Person
12:23 - Ruby’s Personality
14:52 - Tips For Fellow Germaphobes
16:10 - What Took You So Long?
20:22 - But I Thought Andy Was A Cat Person?
21:05 - Does Ruby Give Cat Vibes?
21:12 - What Are Your Favorite Dog Toys?
21:58 - Has Andy Been Giving Ruby More Attention Than Sharleen?
24:38 - Who Watches Ruby When You’re Away?
24:50 - What Is Your Favorite Thing Ruby Does?
26:34 - Have There Been Any Hurdles/What Have You Learned About Yourself?
31:26 - What Kind Of Food Do You Feed Ruby?
31:31 - How Does Ruby React To Sharleen’s Singing?
32:02 - Who Is The Stricter Parent?
32:42 - Nicknames
33:34 - Where Does Ruby Sleep?
34:39 - Is Having A Dog What You Expected?
37:36 - What’s Been The Hardest Part Of Having A Dog?
39:12 - Did You Buy Pet Insurance?
39:15 - Who Is Ruby’s Favorite?
40:44 - How Has Ruby Changed Since You Got Her?
41:04 - How Has Ruby Changed Your Life?
46:44 - In Conclusion
If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com
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Q&A! Morality Check, What To Do When Your Friend Deserves Better, & A Travel Am-I-The-A-Hole Bonanza! - Ep 309
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! You met your boyfriend shortly after getting laid off—with a new job lined up, is it morally wrong to never tell him about the layoff? If you're single and sharing an Airbnb with couples and even some families, should you pay the same amount for a room in the rental, even if there's only one of you? If your friend unexpectedly invites her boyfriend on your planned girls trip, are you the a-hole if you pull out? And finally, what to do if you simply *dislike* your best friend's fiancé?? Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
0:53 - Q1: If I Have New Job, Is It Morally Wrong Not To Tell My Boyfriend I Got Laid Off From My Previous Job?
6:22 - Q2: I’m The Single Friend In A Large Trip Of Couples And Their Kids—Am I Being Unreasonable About This Airbnb Split?
14:21 - Q3: My Friend Added Her Boyfriend To Our Girls Trip—AITA For Wanting To Pull Out?
30:53 - Q4: My Boyfriend Bailed On Driving Me To My Hometown & I Had To Pay $$$ For A Flight Instead—AITA For Wanting Him To Help Cover The Cost?
46:07 - Q5: My Best Friend’s Fiancé Is Just “OK”—How Do I Get Over The Fact That She Deserves Better?
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Heal Your Attachment Pattern With Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd - Ep 308
Attachment Styles are at the core of SO many relationship dynamics yet so few of us know much beyond "secure", "anxious", and "avoidant". Isn't it about time we learned WHY we behave the way we do so we can learn how to stop getting in our own way?
We're thrilled today to be joined by Eli Harwood, aka @attachmentnerd , therapist, author, and attachment theory expert! Eli has amassed a massive following on Instagram with her attachment expertise and analysis. She is the author of "Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships" and the upcoming "Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience", so we could not be in better hands!
Today Eli breaks down those famed Attachment Patterns (spoiler alert: there's WAY more to this than secure, anxious, and avoidant!) and how and why we as adults behave the way we do in our relationships. (As Andy puts it at one point, Attachment is "EVERYTHING"!) We learn how much of a role gender plays, why some of us are different in platonic vs romantic relationships, and how much is nature vs nurture. There are also parenting questions for our caregiver Shandies out there! Shandy also gets personal with their own experiences that have shaped their own attachment patterns. Finally, the big question: HOW DO WE HEAL? Eli has the answers you've been waiting for and manages to deliver them in the most relatable and easy-to-understand way. As Shandy puts it, you just might see your childhood flash before your eyes! Listen on for a masterclass in YOURSELF. 🤯
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- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd
- Website: https://attachmentnerd.com
Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome To Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd!
3:20 - What Is Attachment Theory?
6:21 - Can I Have More Than One Attachment Style?
9:48 - Attachment Pattern Breakdown
20:38 - Are Our Attachment Styles Set In Stone?
22:43 - Where Or How Do We Heal These Wounds?
26:32 - More Attachment Pattern Breakdown
31:39 - Can I Have BOTH Polar Opposite Attachment Styles?
34:21 - Does The Caregiver’s Gender Matter?
34:31 - How Much Is Nurture Vs Nature?
36:47 - Is There A Connection Between Which Caregiver And Which Type Of Adult Relationship (Eg. Romantic Vs Platonic) ?
38:38 - Shandy Asks Questions For “Friends”
43:23 - Where Does Attachment Rank In Terms Of Difficulty To Change?
45:53 - Is Finding Your “People” A Form Of Healing?
46:28 - Does The Anxious-Avoidant Romantic Dynamic Ever Work? At What Point Is It Not “Worth It”?
57:51 - Tips For Anxious Types When They Spiral In The Wrong Direction
1:02:44 - How To Know If A Child Is Securely Attached
1:04:56 - How Self Aware Is The Parent Who Even Asks These Questions?
1:07:24 - Is Your Grief As Bad As You Think It Is?
1:07:43 - 4 Steps For Raising Securely Attached Kids
1:11:00 - Andy Plays Devil’s Advocate
1:15:36 - What If Your Child Is Behaving Inappropriately?
1:19:39 - Shandy Debrief
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