You can do everything right. You're just one person in a relationship. And whilst you're thinking north, the other person is dealing with all kinds of demons in their lives. In this raw, deeply challenging episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with Kofi Watting, lawyer and ordained minister, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what makes a marriage last, why biblical submission goes both ways, and the uncomfortable truth that divorce was never God's original idea but a concession to the hardness of human hearts. Kofi holds nothing back. He breaks down why Ephesians 5:21 says submit to one another before it tells wives to submit to their husbands, why respect is among the top five needs of men according to Dr. Willard Harley's His Needs Her Needs, and the one thing most people miss when reading scripture: Paul gives three verses to wives and eight verses to husbands because there is more responsibility on the man. He reveals why husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church and wash her with the word, how intimacy requires transparency so you can wash your spouse with words of affirmation and truth, and the moment you realize that your children are watching how you treat each other and learning through observation what a good marriage looks like. He also explains why don't let the sun go down on your anger is not always realistic, how at least acknowledging there's a problem before you go to bed and agreeing to deal with it later can save your sanity, and the one question every couple needs to ask: which is easier, wives submit or husbands love your wife as Christ loved the church? This isn't just marriage advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why infidelity is the easiest ground for divorce because scripture supports it, why God allowed Moses to grant divorce because of the hardness of your heart, and how you can always forgive and rebuild trust even when it feels like the worst thing that ever happened to your marriage. Kofi dives into why the serial cheater was probably like that before you met them and you knew it and married them anyway, how the things that attract us in the beginning are the same things that become a distraction, and the uncomfortable reality that the life of the party who makes everybody laugh becomes the spouse flirting with everybody after marriage and he hasn't changed this is exactly who you met. He also tackles why some people show up when it matters even though they have bad behaviors or bad morals, how the person who has checked out completely hardly comes home and doesn't take up any responsibility, and the one thing you need to do when you've been faithful and done everything and this is the payback you get: say God take over I'm done fighting I'm done trying and watch God do his own thing. If you're married, wondering whether there's hope when one person is being intentional and the other doesn't want to know, or asking yourself at what point you say enough is enough, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop waiting for perfect and start building a marriage where both of you surrender to God, communicate your feelings, and work together to hit the potholes without parking the car and saying I'm not driving anymore. Guest: Kofi Watting ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to hear this