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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!

  1. Episode 312: Why The Complementarian Bar for Men is in the Basement

    22 JAN

    Episode 312: Why The Complementarian Bar for Men is in the Basement

    Send us Fan Mail We're tackling three really problematic things that have happened recently with evangelical leaders that show just how low the bar has gotten for men. From Jonathan Podluka announcing he wants to sleep with multiple beautiful women, to pastors responding to Philip Yancey's affair by saying "it could be any of us," to Tim Challies telling people in miserable marriages to just stick it out until they die—it's all connected to this theology that refuses to hold men accountable and tells women they just need to accept it. The common thread? A theology of male hierarchy that steals intimacy from marriages, justice from victims, and Jesus from people who are hurting. THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT: Get our book that corrects this horrible teaching! It's got a study guide and video series too! Subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith channel for our Love & Respect podcast coming soon! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Tim Challies' article on if you chose poorlyMy article about Philip YanceyMy reel with the clips of Jonathan PokludaSheila's article about Jonathan Podluka’s 2023 sermon, and my new op ed Sarah Diefendorf's peer-reviewed articleMy recommended books on pornOur podcast on the Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1hr 4min
  2. Episode 311: The Misleading Tactics of Complementarianism feat. Lydia Kaiser

    15 JAN

    Episode 311: The Misleading Tactics of Complementarianism feat. Lydia Kaiser

    Send us Fan Mail Today I'm talking with Lydia Grace about her incredible new book, Bible Truth About Women. Lydia grew up in the ultra-conservative IBLP circles and went to seminary to answer her own questions about what the Bible really says about women's roles. What she discovered was shocking: there are ore than 120 misleading tactics that complementarians use to prop up male authority that simply isn't in the original Greek. This is the comprehensive resource we've been waiting for that addresses every major passage about women in one place. TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Get Bible Truth about Women by Lydia Kaiser! Kindle available now, or Pre-order the paperbackBare Marriage podcast playlists for people getting introduced to our podcast Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1hr 19min
  3. Episode 310: Desiring God Thinks Marriage Is Like Peddling Furiously on the Back of a Tandem Bike

    8 JAN

    Episode 310: Desiring God Thinks Marriage Is Like Peddling Furiously on the Back of a Tandem Bike

    Send us Fan Mail We're kicking off 2026 by teaching you how to think critically about Christian marriage and relationship advice! Rebecca and I walk through some really problematic articles and social media posts - from the Gospel Coalition's piece against therapy to Tilly Dillehay’s tandem bike marriage metaphor - and show you exactly why they make us feel unsafe. We'll teach you how to spot red flags, question who benefits from this advice, and why prioritizing your safety and discernment isn't selfish - it's Biblical. TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  The Desiring God article on tandem bikesThe Gospel Coalition article on therapyOur book The Marriage You Want, and the video series that goes with itThe study on followership behaviour Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1hr 5min
  4. Episode 308: “We Respond to Crazy Pastor Clips” Pallooza!

    11/12/2025

    Episode 308: “We Respond to Crazy Pastor Clips” Pallooza!

    Send us Fan Mail Keith and I went through 10 clips from evangelical influencers and pastors that have been driving people crazy all year. We break down why Josh Howerton's claims about conservative mental health don't hold up, why blaming women for divorce is absurd, and how complementarian teaching about male authority actually contradicts what Jesus taught. JOIN OUR FUNDRAISING CAMPAIGN! Help us raise money to fund our research, our new podcast docuseries, and our translation projects! Give through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative (tax deductible within the United States) or join our Patreon! CHECK OUT THE RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Whole Story puberty courseThe Marriage You WantOur Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to respond to pastors and friendsTO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  2025 study on conservativism & mental healthThe 2015 study on conservatives and happinessThe 2021 study on women's health in sexist churchesOur study on women's sexual health in conservative spacesOur podcast on why women seek divorceReport on Child Marriage in the US Report on Child Marriage in Canada Our article responding to Josh Howerton's claims that evangelicals have better marriaSupport the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1hr 18min
  5. Episode 307: How the Stories of Missionary Kids Unmask the Myths of Evangelicalism (and Purity Culture!)

    04/12/2025

    Episode 307: How the Stories of Missionary Kids Unmask the Myths of Evangelicalism (and Purity Culture!)

    Send us Fan Mail It's episode 307 of the Bare Marriage podcast! Holly Fletcher joins us to talk about her AMAZING new book Missionary Kids. I devoured it in one sitting. We need to listen to the stories of these kids, because they're a microcosm of white evangelicalism! JOIN OUR FUNDRAISING CAMPAIGN! Help us raise money to fund our research, our new podcast docuseries, and our translation projects! Give through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative (tax deductible within the United States) or join our Patreon! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Check out Missionary Kids by Holly Berkley FletcherHolly's Substack: A Zebra Without StripesHolly on Blue SkyInstagramThreadsEtsy Our book She Deserves BetterSupport the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1 hr
  6. Episode 305: All the Problems with Complementarianism in a Nutshell--And How They Try to Make it Sound Pretty

    20/11/2025

    Episode 305: All the Problems with Complementarianism in a Nutshell--And How They Try to Make it Sound Pretty

    Send us Fan Mail Complementarians use a lot of really nice-sounding words to describe their beliefs about gender roles, but when you actually break down what they mean, they're not talking about roles at all—they're talking about hierarchy. In this episode, Keith and I decode all the euphemisms like "different roles," "servant leadership," and "his headship is for your protection" to show what complementarians are really saying: that men should be in authority over women. The problem is, when you actually implement these beliefs in marriage, we see relationships struggle—and the statistics bear that out. And we work directly against the gospel, putting the husband in the place of Jesus.  THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR Order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  "The Marriage You Want" book on Amazon, or get the curriculum and video series from Baker Books"The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood" by Philip Payne"How God Sees Women" by Terran WilliamsRebecca Groothuis essay on "Equal in Being, Unequal in Function"Previous podcast episode on John Piper's "harsh husband" advice  Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1hr 8min
  7. Episode 304: Francine Rivers' And the Shofar Blew Part 2: What Can We Learn from Christian Fiction?

    13/11/2025

    Episode 304: Francine Rivers' And the Shofar Blew Part 2: What Can We Learn from Christian Fiction?

    Send us Fan Mail We're diving into part two of our discussion on Francine Rivers' "And the Shofar Blew.” While Christian fiction can be inspirational, this novel reinforces dangerous theology about marriage, telling abuse victims to stay and suffer "better," portraying women who report pastoral abuse as liars, and presenting an incredibly sexist view of women's roles in the church as normal and godly. Join me and my friends Merry, Sarah, and Joanna as we unpack why books like these—even though they're just fiction—profoundly shape how Christian women understand marriage, faith, and their own worth. THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR Order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Find Sarah McDugal on FacebookSarah's help for women healing from betrayal trauma: www.wildernesstowild.comFor women navigating high-conflict divorce or custody: My Freedom NavigatorFind Dr. Merry Lin's book "Rebecoming" and listen in to her Bare Marriage podcast episode!Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    58 min
  8. Episode 303: Francine Rivers' And the Shofar Blew—Let’s Examine Christian Romance Fiction Part 1

    06/11/2025

    Episode 303: Francine Rivers' And the Shofar Blew—Let’s Examine Christian Romance Fiction Part 1

    Send us Fan Mail We're doing something we've never done before—looking at a Christian fiction book to explore how fiction shapes our theology of marriage. Today we're discussing Francine Rivers' "And the Shofar Blew.” We're talking about how fiction doesn't give explicit advice but still profoundly influences our worldview about faith and marriage, and how even books with problematic messages can become part of our theological foundation without us realizing it.  THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR Order Dorothy Greco's book For the Love of Women which just launched this week! TO SUPPORT US:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED:  Find Sarah McDugal on FacebookSarah's help for women healing from betrayal trauma: www.wildernesstowild.comFor women navigating high-conflict divorce or custody: My Freedom NavigatorFind Dr. Merry Lin's book "Rebecoming" and listen in to her Bare Marriage podcast episode! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    1hr 3min
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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!

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  • Creator
    Sheila Gregoire
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    340
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Bare Marriage
  • Show Website
    Bare Marriage

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