Human School

Miles Adcox
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We’ve been taught everything except how to be human. In a world obsessed with output, Human School is where we study what happens within. This podcast was born from a journal entry during a breakdown. A reminder that struggle isn’t weakness - it’s instruction. Human School reframes pain as purpose, productivity as presence, and leadership as inner clarity. We’re building the education we never got. Through stories, tools, and raw conversations, we help people stop performing their lives–and start participating in them. Welcome to Human School.

  1. Bobby Bones: The Work That Success Can't Do

    4 days ago

    Bobby Bones: The Work That Success Can't Do

    What's the real difference between showing up for someone and rescuing them? Can a single pair of socks undo years of not letting yourself feel anything? Bobby Bones went from a campus radio station in Arkansas to the National Radio Hall of Fame, two #1 New York Times bestsellers, and a syndicated morning show heard by millions, turning his own story into a reason other people feel less alone in theirs. He sits down with Miles Adcox eight weeks into fatherhood, in a season that's forced him to slow down after two decades of never having to. Bobby opens up about being raised by a 16-year-old motherwho struggled with addiction his whole childhood, the trailer he bought her the first time he made real money, and the hard lesson in what enabling actually looks like when you love someone who's sick. He reveals the moment a stranger's kindness at a therapy intensive at Onsite finally broke him open, and shares the four-letter word his mother never said but it’s the one his grandmother said so consistently it became the only safety he knew. Miles and Bobby go deep into being triggered by both praise and criticism, why Bobby only checks hiscomments on Tuesdays, and the grief of having a daughter who'll never meet the grandmother who shaped him most.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Turn Your Own Insecurities Into a Bridge for Someone Else'sHow to Tell the Difference Between Supporting Someone in Addiction and Enabling ThemHow to Stay Consistent With Someone Even When It Feels Like Nothing Is ChangingHow to Recognize When Both Praise and Criticism Are Actuallya ThreatHow to Build Boundaries So Social Media Doesn't Run YourNervous SystemHow to Respond Instead of React When You Feel ChallengedHow to Find Safety in a Relationship After a ChildhoodWithout ItHow to Let a Stranger's Small Act of Kindness Actually LandHow to Talk to Your Kids About the Parts of Your Story ThatStill HurtHow to Know You Were Consistent Enough, Even When Nothing Else Felt Certain  Feeling stuck in patterns you can't quite name? Onsite'sLiving Centered Program is built for people ready to slow down and do the deeper work that creates real change. Learn more at experienceonsite.com. Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial What We Discuss: 00:00:00 – Meet Bobby Bones 00:03:47 – Why every performer is secretly insecure 00:05:09 – The secret to connecting with people in interviews 00:15:47 – Finding the line between public and private life 00:17:56 – Getting rejected to 2 Bestsellers 00:22:32 – Bobby’s Mom: 16 years old, no support, and anaddiction that never let go 00:31:57 – What to say to someone who is supporting an addict 00:38:06 – "I wish our baby could meet my mom" 00:39:33 – The four-letter word his grandma never stoppedsaying 00:47:11 – Why compliments feel like threats to him 00:50:29 – The boundaries that keep him from spiraling online 00:53:35 – Property and therapy: the two best investments he'smade 00:58:27 – His Onsite story he's never told quite like this 01:07:03 – The TEDx talk that flopped & the one that gothim back on stage 01:11:06 – What watching his wife become a mom taught himabout love 01:13:43 – His message to his daughter, twenty years from now

    1hr 15min
  2. Reece Weaver: What Comes After the Dream

    25 Jun

    Reece Weaver: What Comes After the Dream

    Have you ever lived a dream so fully that you felt the quiettug to walk away?  Not because it failed you, but because something new was calling. What does it look like to anchor your identity in somethingthat can never be taken from you, even when everything you've built your life around closes a chapter?   Reece Weaver spent her entire third season as a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader (DCC) carrying a decision nobody outside her closest circle knew about yet. The preacher's granddaughter from Jacksonville, Florida who started dancing at three, earned a scholarship to the University of Alabama —where she also met her husband Will — and felt something shift in her chest the moment she walked into AT&T Stadium as a sophomore. In the years to follow she has become the most-followed DCC in the franchise's history, a breakout presence on Netflix's America's Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders,and then spent a year in therapy, prayer, and conversation with people she trusts, processing a feeling of “what’s next?” she couldn't explain and couldn't ignore. In this conversation, Miles Adcox and Reece gets to the story underneath her retirement announcement. Reece opens up about the mental and emotional toll that the spotlight created long before the headlines caught up. She talks about the comparison trap that quietly became perfectionism, not being able to ignore people’s opinions and critiques on social media, her mom's reminder that "if that crown ever gets too tight, we can easily take it off," and why the word "retirement" still doesn't sit right with her. Miles and Reece also get to explore the joy of this next season and what is to come: a book, new hometown, being a cheerleader to her friends, and open hands for more opportunities.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Know When a Dream Is Finished vs. When You AreHow to Separate Your Identity from the Thing You're Best AtHow to Let "Two Things Can Be True" Change YourNext DecisionHow to Carry Perfectionism Without Being Carried By ItHow to Survive Being Watched Without Being Defined By ItHow to Hear the Tug Before It Becomes a RoarHow to Find Community That Tells You the TruthHow to Serve Something Bigger Than Your Own Highlight ReelHow to Take a Leap of Faith Into a Blank CanvasHow to Turn a Page Without Calling It Quitting  The conversations we have on Human School are shaped by thework happening every day at Onsite. Stuck in the same emotional patterns? Onsite's Living Centered Program helps you slow down, go deeper, and do the inner work that changes things. Learn more at experienceonsite.com.   Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 – Meet Reece Weaver 00:04:10 – Jacksonville, Florida & the Preacher's Granddaughter 00:09:39 – "I Was a Sponge" — How It All Started at Three 00:22:33 – Dance as an Expressive Therapy 00:24:34 – When Dance Becomes Your Whole Identity 00:27:44 – Who defines your identity? 00:32:42 – What Belonging Really Means 00:33:46 – One Song, Two Auditions, & Dreams She Didn't Know Yet 00:37:22 – Running Out on Bryant-Denny for the First Time 00:39:32 – Learning to Fail Well 00:42:21 – Where Perfectionism Really Comes From 00:50:18 – How Cutthroat Is It Inside the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders? 00:55:37 – Reminder from Mom: "If That Crown Ever Gets Too Tight" 00:59:17 – What to Tell a Young Girl in the Comparison Trap 01:02:18 – America’s Team: The Dallas Cowboys 01:06:52 – The Cotton Bowl Moment That Changed Everything 01:09:47 – The Mental Weight Nobody Talks About 01:17:05 – What’s next for Reece? 01:19:59 – Moving Onto the Next Phase of Life – Goodbye DCC 01:23:17 – Why She Refuses the Word "Retirement" 01:26:47 – What the Tears are Saying

    1hr 30min
  3. Conner Smith: What It Means To Keep a Soft Heart After Hard Things

    11 Jun

    Conner Smith: What It Means To Keep a Soft Heart After Hard Things

    What does it actually look like to rebuild from the insideout — before the world even knows you needed to? What happens to a person when tragedy arrives not as a slowunraveling, but all at once — and the only thing left standing is who you actually are? What does it look like to grieve something you can't talkabout, for a family you can't reach, while the world keeps watching?   Country singer-songwriter Conner Smith landed his firstpublishing deal on Music Row at 16 years old. By 21, he was opening for his heroes. By 24, he'd gone independent, walked away from a label, and released a raw 10-song acoustic record, not because anyone told him to, but because it wasthe first music he ever actually believed in. In this conversation, Conner opens up to Miles about themoment he stopped writing songs for approval and started writing them for himself, why going independent felt less like a career risk and more like self-respect, and the story of June 8th — the night he was involved in a fatal accident. He shares how grief, silence, and the community that showed up becamethe foundation for the most important growth of his life, what it was like to sit with the family of the woman who died, and why honoring her legacy is now woven into who he's becoming.   The conversations we have on Human School are shaped by the work happening every day at Onsite. For more than 45 years, Onsite has helped people slow down, get honest about their stories, and experience meaningful change through world-class therapeutic experiences. Learn more at ⁠experienceonsite.com.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to know when you're writing someone else's song with your own life How early success can quietly steal your sense of self How to rebuild your artistic identity from the inside out How to tell the difference between stewardship and striving How community carries you when you can't carry yourself How to redefine success before the milestone redefines you How forgiveness can be the most unexpected turning point in a tragedy How to let suffering shape you without letting it define youHow your greatest weakness becomes your greatest strength How to let people carry what you've spent your whole lifecarrying alone  Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 – Meet Conner Smith 00:04:49 – Growing Up Inside the Dream Before You're Ready 00:08:20 – What Thomas Rhett Taught Him About Priorities 00:10:23 – The Story behind Milestones 00:13:50 – When He Stopped Writing for Himself 00:16:06 – Songwriting & Why He Put the Record Out Anyway 00:21:41 – The First Time He Believed the Compliments 00:28:17 – Redefining Success Without Losing the Dream 00:31:34 – Stewardship vs. Striving 00:34:16 – "Industry Plant": The Song That Got Him in Trouble 00:39:22 – What Happens Before You Find Who You Are 00:41:26 – What He Told a 14-Year-Old About to Sign a Deal 00:47:20 – June 8th: The Night Everything Stopped 00:50:33 – The Weight No One Could Prepare Him For 00:54:46 – Getting Help Early Helped 01:01:48 – Forgiveness Around a Table with Miss Dot's Family 01:03:03 – Miss Dot & Why Her Legacy Matters 01:05:34 – How Tragedy Changed Him 01:14:00 – The 18-Year-Old Who Shared His Story 01:15:32 – Friends Who Showed Up Without Asking 01:18:09 – Transactional vs. Transformational Relationships 01:27:11 – Closing Blessing for Listeners

    1hr 30min
  4. Alana Springsteen: Learning You Don't Have to Earn Love

    4 Jun

    Alana Springsteen: Learning You Don't Have to Earn Love

    What if the songs you've been writing were actually thetherapy you desperately needed? What if the version of you that felt like the black sheep your whole life was the one who would help the rest of us feel less alone?   Alana Springsteen has been performing since before she knewwhat performing cost her. She signed her first publishing deal at 14, earned a gold record before she turned 25, CMT's Next Women of Country, and has shared stages with Keith Urban and Tyler Hubbard — all while quietly carrying a version of herself she hadn't yet figured out how to put down. Her sophomorealbum, I Hope This Helps, is the result of what happened when she stopped grinding and started digging. Miles and Alana go deep into the fear woven into her faith,the people-pleasing that had her questioning “why,” the EMDR session that surfaced a memory from four years old, and the eating disorder she kept hidden until she was finally ready to let her mom in. This is a conversation about what it costs to become who you were always meant to be and the honesty aboutthe journey to get there.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Tell the Difference Between Faith and FearHow Performing for Love Slowly Erodes Your IdentityHow to Use Curiosity as a Tool for DeconstructionHow People-Pleasing Becomes a Mask You Can't Take OffHow to Pick Up the Mirror Instead of the MicroscopeHow EMDR Unlocks Childhood Memories Still Running Your Adult LifeHow to Recognize When Validation Has Become a DrugHow to Write Your Way Through Seasons That Would Otherwise Break YouHow to Let Your Parents See Who You Actually AreHow to Stop Waiting for Permission to Love Yourself  The conversations we have on Human School are shaped by the work happening every day at Onsite. For more than 45 years, Onsite has helped people slow down, get honest about their stories, and experience meaningful change through world-class therapeutic experiences. Learn more at experienceonsite.com.   Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial What We Discuss: 00:00:00 – Meet Alana Springsteen 00:04:39 – The Two Years That Reshaped Everything 00:08:02 – Growing Up in Small Town Virginia 00:12:16 – The Gift and the Burden of a Religious Upbringing 00:18:57 – Moving to Nashville at 14 00:20:11 – Learning to See Your Parents as Human 00:21:17 – Advice for those Questioning Faith 00:23:27 – The Story Behind "Same God" 00:29:57 – Learning to Trust Your Own Inner Voice 00:31:48 – Wearing So Many Masks You Forget Your Own Face 00:36:52 – Being Public Before You Know Yourself 00:41:02 – Rick Rubin’s Influence on Creating Art 00:45:42 – Learning to Love Yourself Without Conditions 00:48:56 – EMDR Therapy and What It Surfaced 00:51:49 – Picking Up the Mirror Instead of the Microscope 00:56:52 – The Story Behind "Note to Self" 01:00:13 – “It's Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood.” 01:00:58 – Affirmations from Alana

    1hr 4min
  5. Tim Harris: Hugging the World Back Together

    21 May

    Tim Harris: Hugging the World Back Together

    What if the most powerful thing you could offer the world wasn't your résumé or achievements, but simply your presence and a hug?   Tim Harris is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, Special Olympics athlete, author of The Book of Hugs, host of the Big Heart Talks with Tim podcast, and founder of Tim's Big Heart Foundation. Raised in Albuquerque, Tim built a life around one belief: love, kindness, and connection can change everything. He ran Tim's Place: Breakfast, Lunch & Hugs, greeting every guest at the front door — all while living with Down syndrome, not in spite of who he is, but because of it.   In this conversation, Tim shares about his seven steps to an awesome life, what he told a worried father whose baby would be born with Down syndrome, and why hugs are the best medicine in the world. Miles and Tim talk about their love of country music and feature a special performance of a country classic. These new best friends cover it all before Tim’s 5 o’clock flight home.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to be the light instead of complaining about the darknessHow to use your superpower to lift someone in their hardest momentHow to dream something and then do the work to make it realHow friendship becomes the foundation for everything worth buildingHow to lead with love in every room you walk intoHow kindness attracts more kindness back into your lifeHow to grieve loss while still showing up for the worldHow asking first makes connection strongerHow to recognize the gift in people that the world underestimatesHow to love someone for a thousand years, starting today  Human School is powered by the work happening at Onsite, a place where people step out of their normal rhythms to do deeper healing work in community. Learn more here.   Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial   More from Tim:Book Tim to Speak in your Community Listen to Tim's Podcast Follow Tim on Instagram   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 – Meet Tim Harris 00:03:02 – Country music fan since 13: Garth Brooks, Josh Turner & the deep cuts 00:05:20 – Nashville coffee taste test 00:10:39 – Tim's Big Heart Foundation 00:13:42 – "Oh, yeah": the trademark and how his dad gave him the hype 00:14:25 – Tim’s 7 steps to an awesome life 00:16:05 – Tim's Place: Breakfast, Lunch & Hugs 00:21:36 – Special Olympics USA Games Athlete: representing New Mexico 00:26:55 – The Book of Hugs: monkeys, bananas, and the world's biggest softie 00:30:21 – "Hugs are the best medicine to heal the world" 00:39:25 – Grief and the friend who gave his book away before he passed 00:43:14 – Speed dating, proposals, and dreaming about love 00:44:57 – A special performance from Tim & Miles 00:51:09 – Meeting Reba McEntire on the job 01:02:28 – World Down Syndrome Day and Tim Tebow's Night to Shine 01:13:41 – Emcee at the World Games & Hugging the Obamas 01:18:21 – "We should love each other for a thousand years" 01:19:03 - Tim makes Miles his new best friend — officially 01:21:33 - Tim McGraw reached out about "Humble and Kind" 01:23:01 - Nashville boots, cowboy hat, and a human school gift

    1hr 33min
  6. Mary Bellofatto: What Happens When People Feel Truly Seen

    15 May

    Mary Bellofatto: What Happens When People Feel Truly Seen

    Have you ever met someone who spent 50 years healing others and somehow became more human with every one of those years? What would it mean to stop hiding behind your busyness, your title, or your phone, and let someone actually see you?   Mary Bellofatto is a pioneer in mental health who has spent five decades walking the hardest terrain human experience offers — trauma, disordered eating, addiction, grief, and couples work. With deep mastery in psychodrama, she has brought healing to therapy rooms across the world. At 81, she still wakes up excited, tears up at the thought of never retiring, and gets out of Ubers last because someone needs to finish their story.   In this conversation, Mary opens up about what it means to be a catalyst without burning out, why loneliness is cured by learning to be alone, and how shame shields the grief we won't feel. She shares the moment a young man in Uganda said, "I'm just a boy," and freed himself from years of soldiers' shame. Miles and Mary go deep into disordered eating, including what she said in a bathroom that finally unlocked the real story underneath. Eighty years of hard-won wisdom, delivered with Arkansas common sense and lack of clinical jargon.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Be a Catalyst Without Losing YourselfHow Loneliness Can Be Cured by Learning to Be AloneHow Shame Functions as a Shield for Unprocessed GriefHow to Widen Your Definition of Grief Beyond LossHow the Stories We Tell Ourselves Build a Lifetime Around a LieHow Psychodrama Unlocks What Talk Therapy Can't ReachHow to Hold Space Without Trying to Fix AnyoneHow to Recognize When Busyness Is a MedicatorHow Disordered Eating Is Really About DignityHow to Live Your Legacy Right Now — Not Someday  Human School is powered by the work happening at Onsite, a place where people step out of their normal rhythms to do deeper healing work in community. Learn more at ⁠⁠experienceonsite.com⁠. Learn more about the Pastor's Living Centered Program through The Onsite Foundation at theonsitefoundation.org. Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 - Meet Mary Bellofatto 00:04:31 - The Currency of Miracles 00:05:55 - How to Hold Space Without Fixing Anyone 00:09:37 - Wounded in Relationship, Healed in Relationship 00:09:10 - The Airport Wave That Said Everything 00:10:54 - Tears Are Actually Talking 00:12:30 - Why Strangers Always Pour Their Stories Out to Her 00:13:53 - Hugging Your Uber Drivers 00:20:04 - What We Miss When We Hide Behind Technology 00:21:52 - Grief in the Coffee Aisle 00:23:22 - What Hurry Is Really Running From 00:25:19 - Loneliness and the Courage to Be Alone 00:26:44 - Shame Is the Shield 00:29:57 - The Many Faces of Grief 00:32:11 A - Country That Stopped Grieving 00:40:18 - Does Kindness Still Work? 00:43:06 - Trauma Is… 00:44:18 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves vs What We Hear 00:48:32 - How Mary Walks into a Room Full of Strangers 00:52:11 14 - Years of Monthly Psychodrama Training 01:00:38 - The Child Soldiers of Uganda 01:03:37 - Rwanda After the Genocide 01:05:02 - The Brain When People Move Their Bodies 01:13:44 - Wisdom from 53 Years of Marriage 01:22:27 - Disordered Eating Is Not Like Any Other Addiction 01:35:58 - Mary Doubles for Miles Live, On Air 01:41:19 - Legacy is the Now 01:48:22 - Words to the World Right Now 01:54:04 - Pastor’s Living Centered Program at Onsite 01:55:08 - Five Grammy Moments from Mile’s North Star

    1hr 58min
  7. Thomas Rhett: The Pressure to Get It "Right"

    6 May

    Thomas Rhett: The Pressure to Get It "Right"

    Have you ever stood in the middle of a life that looks great on paper and still felt like you were failing the people right in front of you? What if being hard on yourself isn't humility?  It's just the long way around to never believing you're enough? And what happens when the same obsessive drive that makes you world-class at your craft is the exact thing that makes it hard to just sit down and watch your kid eat cereal slowly?   Miles sits down with his longtime friend for one of the most honest and wide-open episodes yet. Thomas Rhett brings all of himself — the songwriter who goes all in on everything he loves, the dad of five learning to trade productivity for presence, and the man doing the real work to make sure who his family experiences every day is the same person the world admires from a distance. This one is full of laughter, hard-won wisdom, and the kind of honesty that only happens between two people who genuinely trust each other.   This conversation is about the guy who flips on the bedroom lights at 6:30 AM, trying to get five kids out the door, and wonders on the drive home if he loved them well at all that morning. The man who told a new friend upfront, "I'm not a good friend" — and actually believed it. The songwriter who can make strangers cry but struggles to list three ways he was showing up for his own kids. Miles and Thomas Rhett go deep into what it actually looks like to chase congruence, to be as present and real inside your home as you are when the world is watching.   Thomas Rhett shares what his first trip to Onsite taught him about letting go, how a simple question from his counselor cracked something open about the way he sees himself as a father, why he's writing his most intentional album yet, and what he hopes his kids say about him long after the number ones stop counting.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Stop Measuring Your Worth by Rooms That Aren't FullHow to Ask the Question: "How Do I Know I'm a Great Father?"How to Parent Five Kids Completely Differently Without Losing Your MindHow to Shed Your Stage Persona the Moment You Walk Through Your Front DoorHow to Redefine Success So You Can Actually Sleep at NightHow to Have the Friendship You Want Instead of the One You've Labeled Yourself WithHow to Live Like You Know You're Going to Die - Ecclesiastes editionHow to Stop Fixing and Start Being Present in the MessHow to Give Yourself the Dugout Grace Every Parent Desperately NeedsHow to Use Your Obsessive Nature as a Superpower Instead of a Trap  Human School is powered by the work happening at Onsite, a place where people step out of their normal rhythms to do deeper healing work in community. Learn more: ⁠experienceonsite.com⁠. Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial   Chapters: 00:00:00 – Meet Thomas Rhett Akins 00:03:18 – Trucks, Gear & Going All In 00:07:54 – Soundtrack of the Masters: A Career Highlight 00:09:29 – Golf is a Metaphor for Life 00:17:44 – Tiger Wood’s & Nick Saben’s Life Advice 00:22:01 – The 6:30 AM Spiral with Five Kids 00:24:17 – Wisdom from John Maxwell & Worst-Case Scenarios 00:28:19 – The Question That Started This Friendship 00:30:14 – What Raising Four Daughters is Teaching Him 00:35:49 – The Discipline of Being Present 00:41:23 – Work-Life Balance Is a Myth 00:42:37 – "They Just Need to See Your Eyes" 00:47:10 – What Breaks His Heart Most as a Dad 00:52:07 – "How Do You Know You're a Great Father?" 00:54:10 – The Coach’s Influence Still Impacting Him 00:55:14 – Showing Up in Friendships 00:58:01 – The Round Table & A, B & C Friendships 01:04:10 – Answering the “Great Father” Question 01:20:30 – Ecclesiastes & Living Like You're Going to Die 01:37:44 – Redefining What a “Hit” Actually Means 01:43:32 – Onsite & The Rock in the River 01:47:52 – 36-Year-Old TR Would Tell 25-Year-Old TR 01:52:49 – What He Hopes His Kids Will Remember

    1hr 59min
  8. Jefferson Fisher: Communication That Changes Us

    29 Apr

    Jefferson Fisher: Communication That Changes Us

    Stuck in the same emotional patterns? Onsite's LivingCentered Program is a five-day intensive that helps you slow down, go deeper, and do the inner work that changes things. Learn more at ⁠https://hubs.la/Q04dV_Xl0   Have you ever taught others how to communicate, but still lost it in your own kitchen?   What if the best communicators in the world are still works in progress, and that's exactly the point?   Jefferson Fisher is a board-certified trial attorney, NY Times bestselling author of The Next Conversation, and one of themost-followed voices on communication online. Behind the millions of views is a husband, a dad, and a fifth-generation attorney from small-town Texas still figuring it out in real time. In this conversation, Miles and Jefferson get into the real stuff — a flooded house, a morning fight, imposter syndrome, and why even the best communicators still have to earn their reps every day.   Jefferson opens up about the moment being a public-facing person started changing his everyday life, why going to extremes in arguments almost never works, and the phrase his wife came up with mid-argument that changed how he sees conflict. Miles shares a raw moment from his kitchen and what happened when he finally stopped doubling down and let his wife bring the temperature down.   In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Enter Hard Conversations with Something to Learn, Not Something to ProveHow the Ignition and Cooling Phases Work in Real ArgumentsWhy Affirming a Feeling First Is the Most Disarming Move You Can MakeHow Vulnerability Builds More Trust Than Any Credential on the WallHow to Stop Going to Extremes in Conflict and What to Do InsteadWhy the Best at Being Human Learn It From Living, Not StudyingHow to Tell the Difference Between a Reaction and a RepairHow Fame Makes the Very Things You Teach Harder to PracticeWhy What's Good for the Family Is Good for the BusinessHow to Let Go of the Conversation You Had Scripted in Your Head Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast Instagram - @humanschoolofficial Threads - @humanschoolofficial TikTok - @humanschoolofficial   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 - Meet Jefferson Fisher 00:03:54 - What law school doesn’t teach 00:04:42 - How a trial attorney became a communication voice 00:06:09 - Small Town Silsby, Texas 00:08:14 - 800 friends to millions of strangers 00:10:24 - Contrast is the unlock for building an audience 00:27:17 - IBC Root Beer & A Story Told Twice 00:12:33 - His Dad Raised Him with Questions, not Answers 00:19:57 - Imposter Syndrome feels different when your job istalking 00:23:42 - Does he actually use any of this at home? 00:29:18 - Miles's morning: A flooded house, a fight, and arepair 00:38:08 - Ignition and cooling phases in action 00:39:51 - The one move that stops almost any argument 00:45:08 - One Take Videos: Just being Real on Camera 00:47:45 - Have something to learn, not something to prove 00:53:33 - Surrender as a daily practice 00:57:19 - Even the experts are still chasing the tools theyteach 01:01:48 - Why therapists send clients Jefferson's book 01:06:41 - What Jefferson doesn't like about therapy 01:14:26 - ‘Either way, it's good’— the phrase that reframed conflict 01:15:39 - Embarrassment makes men double down instead of own it 01:19:38 - Jefferson’s Motto on Choosing What’s Next 01:21:05 - Projects in the works from Jefferson

    1hr 23min
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We’ve been taught everything except how to be human. In a world obsessed with output, Human School is where we study what happens within. This podcast was born from a journal entry during a breakdown. A reminder that struggle isn’t weakness - it’s instruction. Human School reframes pain as purpose, productivity as presence, and leadership as inner clarity. We’re building the education we never got. Through stories, tools, and raw conversations, we help people stop performing their lives–and start participating in them. Welcome to Human School.

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  • Creator
    Miles Adcox
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    36
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Miles Adcox
  • Show Website
    Human School

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