Be There

Alan Underwood
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Be There: A podcast for men and women—founders, executives, high-performers, and entrepreneurs—navigating the gap between who they are and who they’re meant to become. In late 2020, two words saved host Alan Underwood’s life: Be There. Since then, he’s made it his mission to mentor men and women—founders, executives, entrepreneurs, and other high-performers—as they navigate the moments that matter most in life. The difficult and exciting moments that shape their life, test their resolve, refine their character, and become the legacy they leave behind. With 20+ years of success and scar tissue, Alan works at the intersection of entrepreneurial strategy and psychological depth. This is where you learn to BE THERE when it matters most.

  1. 3 days ago

    Kylee Leota: When the Story You Tell Yourself Stops Being True

    Kylee Leota spent years inside an abusive marriage telling herself it wasn't that bad. Then a police officer sat across from her and said one word. Enough. The first time in years she had been seen accurately. In this conversation: the cost of self-deception, the moment of being seen, and how to stop being the character in someone else's story long enough to pick up the pen yourself. About the Guest Kylee Leota is the founder of Elements 4 Success, creator of the INFINITE Leadership framework, author of INFINITE Leadership (2024), and TEDx speaker ("From Survivor to Thriver"). She built her leadership methodology from personal traumatic experience, not from theory. Single mother of three. Brisbane-based. Chapters 0:00 Cold Open 0:27 Episode Open 1:39 We Always Have a Choice 7:44 Doing It for the Children 11:12 Author of Her Own Story 12:36 The Police Officer Said One Word 18:59 The Ghostwriter Section 28:43 Selfless Self-Promotion 40:41 Conversations with the Kids 49:14 A Message to the Woman Still Inside 58:49 Gratitude and Recommendations 1:05:04 Outro Connect with Kylee Website:  elements4success.com.au LinkedIn:  linkedin.com/in/kylee-leota-leadershipexpert Connect with Alan Website:  thealanunderwood.com LinkedIn:  linkedin.com/in/the-alan-underwood

    1hr 6min

  2. 5 days ago

    Four Kids, a Mortgage, and the One Question That Changed Everything

    At twenty-nine, with four kids, a mortgage, and everything on the line, Alan sat on a boat at Lake Powell while his father asked him one question. It didn’t tell him what to do. It changed who he decided to become. In this solo episode, Alan reframes how you make decisions, from weighing options to deciding as your future self, and leaves you with a simple practice to start today. In this episode The question Alan’s father asked him on a boat at Lake Powell Why deciding from your future self changes everything The difference between “what should I do” and “who do I want to be” A simple daily practice: the five “I Choose” statements Chapters: 00:00 — Every life has a moment that changes everything 02:34 — On paper, I had made it — but something was missing 03:41 — "Comfortable had become his ceiling" 04:51 — The real stakes — betting everything on a dream 05:28 — The question that changed everything: "Who do you want to be?" 05:58 — Stop asking WHAT — start asking WHO 06:53 — The most selfless thing a father ever did 07:42 — "An invitation he'd never given himself" 08:40 — $1M/year growth for 13 years — proof of the decision 09:52 — Why your present self is sabotaging you 10:54 — How to escape the noise and make clear decisions 11:31 — Viktor Frankl's lesson from a concentration camp 15:42 — You don't have to face it alone Reflective questions for the listener What decision are you circling right now? Are you deciding from your present self or your future self? Who do you want to be in twenty years? Connect with Alan: thealanunderwood.com Be Present. Be Powerful. Be There.

    16 min
  3. Mike Tenney: The Cost of Hiding and the Courage to Confess

    18 Jun

    Mike Tenney: The Cost of Hiding and the Courage to Confess

    For twelve years, Mike Tenney carried other people's worst days as a law enforcement officer. Then his own arrived — first in a patrol car with a gun to his head, then three years later in a closet with a plan to end his life. In this conversation, Mike shares the voice that stopped him, the wife who took the wrong exit, and the long walk back to the man he was always meant to be. About the Guest Mike Tenney is a former law enforcement officer, medically retired with PTSD and major depression after twelve years on the job. He lives in Hawaii with his wife and family, where he is a soon-to-be grandfather and helps small businesses understand their financial potential. This is the first time Mike has publicly told this story. Chapters 0:00 Introduction - A Moment That Changes Everything 2:21 The Train Accident - October 15, 2015 3:05 Arriving First on Scene 6:54 The Breaking Point - Gun to His Head 9:14 The Voice That Saved His Life 10:15 Medically Retired - Identity in Crisis 12:20 The Red Flags He Missed 13:05 Skipping the Debriefs - How It All Piled Up 15:40 Hidden Addictions as Coping Mechanisms 16:59 Anger, Shame, and the Weight of It All 18:18 Psychache - When Everything Collapses 19:38 December 8, 2018 - The Second Crisis 21:34 Locked Out of His Own Safe 24:59 God Told Me To - Wife Saves His Life on the Freeway 28:44 Hope Returns - A Dream and a New Beginning 31:09 What He Was Hiding from His Wife 33:45 Why We Hide Our Hearts - The Fear of Vulnerability 36:37 The Shocking Truth About First Responder Suicide 45:15 You Are Not Alone - Message to Those Still Struggling 49:10 Being a Cop Is Not Who I Was, It's What I Did 50:26 Choosing a Life Around What Matters 51:34 Be There - The Whole Point of the Podcast 52:22 Gratitude and Closing Thoughts 52:56 Mike Calls Alan an Earth Angel 53:32 Final Message - You Are Not Alone, You Are Loved 54:53 Exalt - A Brotherhood for High Performers   Resources Mentioned West Coast Post-trauma Retreat (WCPR) — frsn.org/west-coast-post-trauma-retreat.html Warrior Heart — warriorsheart.com Wild at Heart by John Eldredge — Mike's #1 book The Shack by Wm. Paul Young Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl If You or Someone You Love is Struggling 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988 in the US, or visit 988lifeline.org.

    56 min

  4. 16 Jun

    Schedule Your Grief

    Two people can face the same loss and walk away with completely different lives. The variable was never the circumstance. It's the innerstance. In this solo episode, Alan tells the story of the 17 minutes between learning his mentor Jim Hesseman had passed and sitting down to coach a couple who were counting on him — and the two reframes that turned him from a man owned by grief into one who could choose his way through it. Reflective questions for the listener What emotion have you been waiting on your circumstances to give you permission to feel? Is there a grief, or a hard feeling, you've been bracing against instead of giving an appointment to? Which of the three levers — what you see, what you say, what you do — is easiest for you to reach for first? Chapters  00:00 The text at 3:43 00:29 Who Jim was 04:41 When grief used to own me 07:13 Schedule your grief 08:27 Choose your emotion 09:42 The 17 minutes 14:04 Innerstance over circumstance 15:32 You are what you feel 15:47 Feel it first (Dispenza) 17:41 The Triad (Robbins) 22:11 Tribute to Jim and how to help   Frameworks and sources credited Jim Hesseman — Air Care Alliance President, founder of White Feather Flight, 2023 National Aeronautic Association honoree. Vincent Van Gogh — letter to Theo (“the little emotions are the great captains of our lives”). Dr. Joe Dispenza — Becoming Supernatural. Tony Robbins — Awaken the Giant Within (The Triad). Call to action Honor Jim's legacy. Volunteer as a pilot or refer someone who needs a free flight to medical care at angelflightwest.org.

    24 min
  5. The Email That Took His Kids: Dan Brault on the Conversation That Never Came

    11 Jun

    The Email That Took His Kids: Dan Brault on the Conversation That Never Came

    Dan Brault had built a real estate empire and watched it collapse — $800,000 gone in a single quarter. Then his wife ended their marriage by email, took the kids across state lines, and refused the one thing he asked for: a conversation. In this episode, Dan tells the story he's rarely told publicly — and names the one thing that actually heals when time alone can't. A masterclass in flow, presence, and the conversation you've been avoiding. About the guest Dan Brault is a business advisor and the founder of LeaderOS, where he coaches small business owners who've built something successful on the outside but are still trapped by the work on the inside. He's also a partner at Greenstone Ventures, where he operates self-storage, industrial, and multifamily assets with AI-driven underwriting. A husband, father of two, and former top-of-state powerlifter, Dan has spent the last five years rebuilding both a business and a life from the ground up. Chapters 0:00 — The email that ended everything 3:32 — The morning the email arrived 9:18 — "She gave me thirty seconds" 13:06 — Two years of legal battle 15:07 — Why he chose 50/50 custody 18:58 — Vulnerability in the entrepreneurial marriage 19:22 — Hand over your heart — Alan's reframe 24:24 — "What if you'd done nothing?" 27:06 — The bog and the flow 32:38 — The four C's 34:17 — Five men in tears at a round table 37:31 — The problem is the path 43:12 — The conversation he'd avoided for three months 48:14 — Presence as the daily lesson 53:40 — Voting for your future self — Earl Nightingale 58:00 — If someone you love got that email today 1:03:56 — Outro — Be Present. Be Powerful. Be There.   Connect with the guest Instagram: @itsdanbrault Website: leaderos.co   Connect with the host Website: thealanunderwood.com XALT: xalt.global for founders, CEOs, and investors building at the highest altitude

    1hr 7min
  6. She Failed the LSAT Twice. Then She Built a Billion-Dollar Brand.

    9 Jun

    She Failed the LSAT Twice. Then She Built a Billion-Dollar Brand.

    Sara Blakely heard the word "no" for seven years. She failed the LSAT twice and sold fax machines door to door before she built Spanx into a billion-dollar company. The difference wasn't talent or luck. It was a question her father asked at the dinner table every week, and one decision she made about what failure meant. In this episode, Alan unpacks how to catch, challenge, and change the story that's keeping you stuck. Chapters 0:00 — The Question That Changes Everything 1:24 — Seven Years of No — Sarah Blakely's Story 2:56 — What a Rut Really Is 3:51 — One Word: Decision 4:52 — From Rut to Billionaire 5:44 — The Three C's: Catch It, Challenge It, Change It 6:42 — Be There — Outro & Resources Reflective questions for the listener Where have you started treating a temporary setback as a permanent truth about who you are? If someone asked you "what did you fail at this week?" — what would you say, and what did it teach you? What's one rut you've walked so long you forgot it was a choice? Where this week can you catch a thought, challenge whether it's true, and change it? Connect with Alan Coaching, mentoring, or a conversation that matters: thealanunderwood.com For founders, CEOs, and investors looking for a brotherhood: xalt.global

    8 min
  7. 13 Pacemakers. Three Generations. One Survivor.

    4 Jun

    13 Pacemakers. Three Generations. One Survivor.

    Gina Mure was six the first time doctors brought her back to life. Her grandmother died of the same heart condition. Her mother lived through it. Gina is the only one of three generations to survive past 55. After every one of her 13 pacemaker surgeries, she asks the same question: "Why am I still here?" In this episode, what 50 years of asking that question has taught her about burden, music, and showing up for someone else's grief. About the Guest Gina Mure is a horse trainer, musician, realtor, and community connector for Freedom for Heroes, a veteran-support nonprofit founded by her husband Mike. Born with a rare form of Long QT syndrome, Gina has had 13 pacemaker implants and is the only woman in three generations of her family to live past 55. She lives in Arizona. Chapters: 0:00 - Cold Open 3:27 — The first cardiac episode at age six 5:14 — Her dad in the doorway 7:02 — Alan's parallel: the NICU and the burden of fatherhood 11:34 — The genetic heart condition that killed her grandmother 16:35 — Teen years: running the limits of a body that doesn't keep up 19:46 — The note she wrote at nineteen 21:35 — "I couldn't fix him" — the helplessness that hurt more than the seizures 26:41 — Survivor's guilt and the boy who only got three years 29:41 — Mid-roll 30:58 — Music after fifteen years of prayer 34:38 — The joy of performing at assisted living 37:16 — "It's tough to shine" 41:24 — Freedom for Heroes 44:30 — The widow's hug at the veteran's memorial 46:32 — Maybe pacemaker number 13 was for that hug 47:56 — Her dad, her poem, and where to find Gina 53:35 — Outro   Connect with Gina Instagram: instagram.com/ginasheartconnections Facebook: facebook.com/gina.mure Website: ginasheart.com About the Be There Podcast The Be There Podcast is a conversation about the moments that matter most — the calls, the diagnoses, the decisions, the doors that open and close — and the lessons, resources, and inspiration we can carry into the moments that matter most in our own lives. Hosted by Alan Underwood. Work with Alan If you're an entrepreneur, executive, or high performer wrestling with "Why am I still here?" — that's a question Alan helps people answer. Connect at thealanunderwood.com. For founders, CEOs, and investors looking to build alongside men operating at the highest level, learn about XALT at xalt.global. Be Present. Be Powerful. Be There.

    57 min
  8. My Daughter Was a Great Super Girl — Until the World Convinced Her She Wasn’t

    2 Jun

    My Daughter Was a Great Super Girl — Until the World Convinced Her She Wasn’t

    When Lizzie was three, she walked into the kitchen in a red cape and a blue superhero mask and declared, “I am a great super girl.” Ten years later, she stopped believing it. In this episode, Alan unpacks why intentional identity is the most underrated leverage point in any high performer’s life — what neuroscience now confirms, what Ali, McGregor, and Schwarzenegger all proved, and the five-minute morning practice that can change the trajectory of your year. Chapters: 0:00 — Cold Open 0:17 —  Theme Intro 0:55 — You're on autopilot — and why 2:29 — Lizzie story 4:23 — When did the world convince you? 4:52 — The two most powerful words 7:39 — Three documented lives: Ali, McGregor, Arnold 15:23 — You're already doing this 15:53 — The 5-minute morning practice 19:25 — Why this matters   REFLECTIVE QUESTIONS FOR THE LISTENER What two words have you been putting after “I am” this week? When did the world first convince you that you weren’t who you knew yourself to be at three years old? What is one thing you can do tomorrow morning that would vote for your future identity instead of your current one? WORK WITH ALAN → thealanunderwood.com XALT GLOBAL ALLIANCE → xalt.global

    22 min
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Be There: A podcast for men and women—founders, executives, high-performers, and entrepreneurs—navigating the gap between who they are and who they’re meant to become. In late 2020, two words saved host Alan Underwood’s life: Be There. Since then, he’s made it his mission to mentor men and women—founders, executives, entrepreneurs, and other high-performers—as they navigate the moments that matter most in life. The difficult and exciting moments that shape their life, test their resolve, refine their character, and become the legacy they leave behind. With 20+ years of success and scar tissue, Alan works at the intersection of entrepreneurial strategy and psychological depth. This is where you learn to BE THERE when it matters most.

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  • Creator
    Alan Underwood
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    48
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2023 All rights reserved.
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    Be There

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