The Path We Choose

Umer Farooque

Exploring who we become through the path we choose.

  1. Why "Knowing" Islam Isn’t Changing Your Life | Muhammad Al-Ubaidy & Shahrez Hayder

    3 DAYS AGO

    Why "Knowing" Islam Isn’t Changing Your Life | Muhammad Al-Ubaidy & Shahrez Hayder

    Why "Knowing" Islam Isn’t Changing Your Life | Muhammad Al-Ubaidy & Shahrez Hayder Why do so many people have faith and belief but still struggle to take action? In this powerful episode of The Path We Choose (TPWC), host Umer Farooque sits down with Muhammad Al-Ubaidy and Shahrez Hayder to explore the real gap between faith, discipline, and consistent action. This conversation breaks down why people often feel stuck between what they believe and what they actually do. From procrastination and lack of discipline to fear, overthinking, and misalignment this episode dives deep into the psychology behind taking action and building consistency. If you follow top North American podcasts like The Diary of a CEO, On Purpose with Jay Shetty, The Tim Ferriss Show, or authors like James Clear, Simon Sinek, Brené Brown, and Ryan Holiday, this episode connects deeply with conversations around self discipline, mindset, productivity, and personal growth. In This Episode, You’ll Learn:  • Why having faith without action leads to frustration • The real reason people struggle with discipline and consistency • How to overcome procrastination and overthinking • The mindset shift needed to take consistent action • How to align your beliefs with daily habits • Building self discipline and mental strength • Turning intention into real results and progress Whether you're a student, entrepreneur, professional, or someone trying to improve their life, this episode gives you practical insights to close the gap between belief and execution. Timestamps: Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Heart vs. The Mind - Finding Truth Within 00:01:10 The Heart as the Gateway to the Divine 00:03:14 Fixing the Inner to Transform the Outer Reality 00:05:25 The Mind is Contractionary, The Heart is Expansionary 00:28:50 Living in the Present Moment: The Experience of Life 00:41:13 The Trifecta: Taqwa, Tawakkul, and Murakaba 00:50:19 Understanding Shaitan: Know Your Enemy to Defeat Him 00:40:25 Midpoint Break: The Mission of Authentic Storytelling 01:02:54 The Levels of Nafs: From Guilt to Unconditional Love 01:15:56 Actions Follow the Heart: Becoming an Absolute Muslim 01:29:20 The Power of Theta State: Manifesting Through Surrender  Follow Muhammad Al-Ubaidy: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reachmohammed/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/moe.ady.3/ Website: https://themirror-book.com/  Follow Shahrez Hayder: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shahrezhayder/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shahrezhayder  Follow Umer Farooque & The Path We Choose (TPWC): Website: https://thepathwechoose.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/umerfarooquee/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mumerfarooque/ TPWC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepathwechoosee/ Subscribe to The Path We Choose (TPWC) for powerful conversations on self discipline, faith, mindset, productivity, personal growth, and high-performance habits.

    1hr 37min
  2. Why Women Test Men: Psychology, Attraction & Relationship Dynamics Explained | Shahrez Hayder

    27 APR

    Why Women Test Men: Psychology, Attraction & Relationship Dynamics Explained | Shahrez Hayder

    Shahrez Hayder on Women Psychology, Attraction & Relationship Dynamics Why do women test men in relationships and what does it really mean? In this powerful episode of The Path We Choose (TPWC), host Umer Farooque sits down with Shahrez Hayder to break down the psychology behind attraction, relationship dynamics, and behavioral patterns between men and women. This conversation explores why women often test men’s confidence, emotional stability, and leadership, and how most men misunderstand these situations leading to confusion, frustration, and failed connections. Shahrez explains how these “tests” are not manipulation, but signals rooted in psychology, attraction, and emotional security. If you follow top North American podcasts like The Diary of a CEO, On Purpose with Jay Shetty, The Tim Ferriss Show, or authors like Brené Brown, Esther Perel, and Mark Manson, this episode connects deeply with conversations around modern relationships, dating psychology, and emotional intelligence. In This Episode, You’ll Learn:  • Why women test men in dating and relationships • The psychology of attraction and emotional security • Why most men fail these tests (and how to improve) • How to build confidence and emotional stability • The role of masculine energy and leadership • How to respond to relationship challenges the right way • Building stronger, more authentic connections Timestamps: Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: What Masculinity Really Means 00:01:03 The Unshakable Man: Faith as the Foundation 00:05:24 Understanding Women: The Bridge to Jannah 00:07:40 The Test Never Ends: Why Women Challenge Men 00:12:32 Biochemistry of Love: Oxytocin, Cortisol, and Safety 00:14:19 The Triangle: Allah, Man, and Woman 00:15:12 Words Have Weight: The Power of a Man's Speech 00:16:01 The Hockey Stick Effect: When Attraction Suddenly Dies 00:16:40 Women Are Loyal to How They Feel About You 00:30:12 What Women Misunderstand About Men 00:35:56 Default Settings: All Women Are the Same, But Different 00:37:08 Midpoint Break: The Mission of Authentic Storytelling 00:38:03 Don't Save Her: Accepting vs Fixing Women 00:25:26 Men Build Connection Through Time, Women Through Space 00:21:32 Quality Over Quantity: The Prophet's Example 00:46:30 Insecurity vs Gira: Protecting Ego or Protecting Her 00:54:37 Confidence Doesn't Make Noise: The Silent Strength 00:56:55 The Power of Honesty: Never Lie to Your Woman 00:45:09 Spirituality and Women: Speaking to Her Soul 01:08:17 What Men and Women Must Unlearn 01:11:52 Redefining Respect: Who Are You Really Trying to Please 01:14:26 The Qawam Identity: Becoming the Protector and Provider 01:16:55 Cortisol and Masculinity: How Men Affect Women's Health Whether you're navigating dating, building a relationship, or trying to understand modern relationship psychology, this episode offers practical insights to improve your confidence, communication, and emotional awareness. Follow Shahrez Hayder: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shahrezhayder/ Instagram (Alt): https://instagram.com/shahrez.muslim LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shahrezhayder/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shahrez.muslim Follow Umer Farooque & The Path We Choose (TPWC):  Website: https://thepathwechoose.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/umerfarooquee/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mumerfarooque/ TPWC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepathwechoosee/ Subscribe to The Path We Choose (TPWC) for conversations on dating psychology, relationships, attraction, emotional intelligence, self improvement, and high-performance mindset.

    1hr 44min
  3. You’ve Been Programmed Since Birth | Dr. Sabreena Ghaffar-Siddiqui

    20 APR

    You’ve Been Programmed Since Birth | Dr. Sabreena Ghaffar-Siddiqui

    You’ve Been Programmed Since Birth | Dr. Sabreena Ghaffar-Siddiqui Are your thoughts and behaviors shaped by subconscious programming you don’t even realize? In this episode, Dr. Sabreena Ghaffar-Siddiqui explains how the mind is conditioned from an early age and how that programming influences beliefs, habits, emotions, and life decisions. The conversation explores why people repeat patterns, how subconscious beliefs are formed, and what it takes to create real change. If you follow content similar to Huberman Lab, The Diary of a CEO, or The Mel Robbins Podcast, or authors like Daniel Kahneman, Brené Brown, James Clear, and Joe Dispenza, this episode connects with ideas around psychology, behavior, and personal growth. In this episode you’ll learn: • What subconscious programming is • How early experiences shape belief systems • Why behavior patterns repeat • How to break negative conditioning • The importance of self-awareness and emotional intelligence • How to rewire your thinking for growth • Practical ways to change habits and mindset Chapters: Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Loss, Purpose, and the Path to Fearless Advocacy 00:01:26 The Path That Chose Me: Identity, Belonging, and Academic Awakening 00:06:47 Nationalism vs. Cultural Identity: Understanding the Dangerous Line 00:10:08 The Left-Right Illusion: Exposing the Political Spectrum Facade 00:18:26 Colonialism, Imperialism, and Settler Colonialism Explained 00:21:33 Syria, Iran, and the Regime Change Playbook 00:26:08 The Power of Speaking Up: Why Advocacy Always Matters 00:36:06 Midpoint Break: The Mission of Authentic Storytelling 00:39:34 Death, Faith, and Fearlessness: The Moment Everything Changed 00:46:00 Success, Freedom, and Measuring What Truly Matters 00:52:08 Media Manipulation: Decoding the Narrative You're Fed 00:56:25 Selective Empathy and Orientalism: Why Some Lives Matter Less 01:14:59 Zionism Exposed: The Ethno-Religion Lie and Jewish Supremacy 01:07:06 Consumption as Resistance: Boycotts, BDS, and Decolonizing Your Life 01:36:50 Dignity Over Life: The Lesson from Palestine 1936 Follow Dr. Sabreena: Website: https://drsabreena.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsabreena_gs/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/sabreenags Follow Umer Farooque & TPWC: Website: https://thepathwechoose.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/umerfarooquee/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mumerfarooque/ TPWC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepathwechoosee/ Subscribe to The Path We Choose for conversations on psychology, subconscious mind, behavior change, emotional intelligence, and personal growth

    1hr 41min
  4. Shahrez Hayder on Islam as a System for Life

    14 APR

    Shahrez Hayder on Islam as a System for Life

    In this powerful episode of The Path We Choose (TPWC), host Umer Farooque sits down with Shahrez Hayder to break down a truth most people misunderstand: Feeling stuck is not failure. It’s a test. This conversation dives into why people feel trapped in their careers, relationships, or personal growth journeys—and how these moments are actually shaping a stronger mindset, clearer direction, and deeper resilience. Shahrez shares real insights on overcoming self-doubt, building clarity, and taking action even when life feels uncertain. If you follow conversations from podcasts like The Diary of a CEO, The Tim Ferriss Show, or On Purpose with Jay Shetty, or authors like Brené Brown, James Clear, Mel Robbins, and Simon Sinek—this episode will resonate deeply with you. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: • Why feeling stuck is part of growth • How to overcome self-doubt and overthinking • The mindset shift needed for real personal development • Why challenges are actually life’s tests • How to build mental strength and resilience • Taking action during uncertain times • Turning confusion into clarity and direction Whether you’re a student, entrepreneur, professional, or navigating a life transition, this episode gives you practical tools to move forward with purpose. Timestamps: Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Asking Allah for Greatness and Embracing Tests 00:01:06 The Path That Chose Me: Allah's Path is the Only Way 00:02:11 From Homelessness to Purpose: My Journey Through Tests 00:09:35 The Doors of Destiny: Understanding Free Will and Qadar 00:19:38 Summoning Your Rizq: Identity, Manifestation, and Becoming the Magnet 00:23:18 The Test of Fame, Ego, and Staying Humble 00:31:00 Women Are Powerful: The Role of Women in Islam and Society 00:35:16 Midpoint Break: The Mission of Authentic Storytelling 00:36:04 The 99 Names of Allah: Inheriting Divine Attributes 01:03:44 Facing Death and Finding Faith: My Darkest Moments 01:20:23 The Purpose of Life: Worship Allah and Create More Worshipers 01:25:47 Unifying the Ummah: Brotherhood, Business, and Breaking Labels 01:34:25 Closing Reflections: Living with Gratitude and Serving Allah Daily Follow Shahrez Hayder: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shahrezhayder/ Instagram (Alt): https://instagram.com/shahrez.muslim LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shahrezhayder/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shahrez.muslim Follow Umer Farooque & The Path We Choose (TPWC): Website: https://thepathwechoose.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/umerfarooquee/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mumerfarooque/ TPWC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepathwechoosee/ Subscribe to The Path We Choose (TPWC) for powerful conversations on self improvement, mindset, personal growth, overcoming challenges, and building a life with direction.

    1hr 36min
  5. 10 APR ·  BONUS

    Hope Comes From Doing: Fighting Injustice Through Action | Ep16 Clip

    What does it mean to truly stand up for justice, even when the world around you is changing in ways you never imagined? In this powerful episode of The Path We Choose (TPWC), host Umer Farooque sits down with Canadian lawyer, law professor, author, and international affairs commentator Faisal Kutty for an intimate conversation about faith, activism, immigrant resilience, and the moral responsibility to speak truth to power. This conversation begins with a profound exploration of Islam's core teachings on justice and equality. Faisal unpacks how the first sin in Abrahamic tradition wasn't disobedience, it was superiority. This foundational insight sets the stage for a deeper discussion about racism, moral responsibility, and why standing up for others is not optional, it's central to faith itself. From there, the conversation shifts to the immigrant experience in North America during the 1970s and 80s. Faisal shares what it was like growing up in a world far less diverse than today, navigating bullying, discrimination, and tight knit communities that preserved culture and values. He reflects on the sacrifices early immigrants made, the foundations they built, and the obligation today's generation has to give back, not just take. Then the discussion turns to post 9/11 America and Canada. Faisal, who was at the forefront of Muslim advocacy and civil liberties work during that era, reveals how things have gotten worse in some ways, particularly around free speech, protest rights, and political censorship. But he also highlights how the Muslim community and its allies have become far more organized, professional, and powerful, building institutions, media platforms, and networks that are now shifting public discourse on issues like Gaza, American foreign policy, and Israel Palestine. This episode explores the tension between hope and despair, the power of consistent small actions, and why doing something, anything, is the antidote to helplessness. Faisal shares how writing articles, educating through social media, and teaching students became his way of creating hope through action. He unpacks the ripple effect of influence, the importance of using your unique skills and resources, and why accountability to God means showing up even when change feels impossible. If you follow conversations from podcasts like The Diary of a CEO, On Purpose with Jay Shetty, The Tim Ferriss Show, or insights from authors like Simon Sinek, Brené Brown, Malcolm Gladwell, and Noam Chomsky, this episode offers grounded, faith informed wisdom on activism, social justice, immigrant identity, media influence, and redefining success beyond personal gain. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why Islam's first sin was about superiority and what that means for justice today • What the immigrant experience was like in 1970s and 80s North America • How early immigrants laid the foundation for today's opportunities • Why post 9/11 civil liberties issues have gotten worse and better simultaneously • How the Muslim community became more organized and influential • Why hope comes from doing, not waiting • The ripple effect of small, consistent actions in activism and education • How to use your unique skills and resources for social change • Why accountability to God means showing up even when outcomes are uncertain Whether you're an activist, student, professional, immigrant, or someone navigating questions of faith, purpose, and justice, this conversation offers clarity on standing up, speaking out, and building a legacy of meaningful action.

    13 min
  6. Greater Isr*el, Ir*n & The Narrative You’re Fed | Faisal Kutty

    6 APR

    Greater Isr*el, Ir*n & The Narrative You’re Fed | Faisal Kutty

    Greater Isr*el, Ir*n & The Narrative You’re Fed | Faisal Kutty What really shapes global views on Greater Isr*el, Ir*n and Middle East politics, and how much of it comes from narrative framing and media bias? In this insightful episode of The Path We Choose (TPWC), host Umer Farooque sits down with Canadian lawyer, law professor, author, and international affairs commentator Faisal Kutty, who breaks down the complex geopolitical context behind the Greater Isr*el concept, Ir*nian regional dynamics, and how narratives in Western and global media shape public perception. Faisal Kutty offers decades of experience in international law, human rights, civil liberties, and national security, contributing to major outlets like The Toronto Star, Newsweek, Al Jazeera English and Middle East Eye, and teaching at leading law schools across North America. This conversation explores why narratives about Israel‑Iran relations can be misleading, how global powers influence public discourse, and what legal and ethical frameworks the world should consider when evaluating geopolitical conflicts. If you follow in‑depth geopolitical and narrative exploration from top podcast voices like The Axe Files with David Axelrod, The Daily (NYT), Pod Save the World, or authors such as Noam Chomsky, Thomas Friedman, Fareed Zakaria, then this episode deepens your understanding of international affairs, media bias, and the politics of conflict. In This Episode You’ll Learn: • What the Greater Isr*el narrative really means in geopolitical context • Why media coverage often simplifies Iran’s role in the Middle East • How international law and human rights intersect with conflicts • Misconceptions about Ir*n, Isr*el, and global security • How narratives can shape public opinion and foreign policy • The legal and ethical dimensions governments rely on • What listeners should question when consuming geopolitical news Whether you’re a student of international relations, media critic, policy professional, or geopolitics enthusiast, this episode offers a thoughtful, law‑based perspective beyond the headlines. Timestamps: Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Greater Israel Plan and Regional Destabilization 00:00:52 The Path Chose Me: From Childhood Displacement to Activism 00:04:33 Building Muslim Institutions: From Law School to Post-9/11 Advocacy 00:08:29 Standing Up for Truth: The Principle of Criticizing All Injustice 00:18:24 October 7th in Context: Understanding the Roots of Conflict 00:27:51 Midpoint Break: The Mission of Authentic Storytelling 00:28:39 The Power of Advocacy: How Small Actions Create Massive Change 00:47:16 Media Manipulation and the Propaganda War 01:01:37 Understanding Sharia: Dispelling Myths About Islamic Law 01:18:01 Iran, Lebanon, and the Geopolitical Chess Game 01:26:05 Our Responsibility: Why Muslims in the West Must Speak Up Follow Faisal Kutty: Website: https://www.faisalkutty.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themuslimlawyer/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/faisalkutty/ Follow Umer Farooque & The Path We Choose (TPWC): Website:https://thepathwechoose.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/umerfarooquee/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/mumerfarooque/ TPWC Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thepathwechoosee/ Subscribe to The Path We Choose for deep conversations on geopolitics, international law, media narratives, human rights, and global leadership.

    1hr 33min
  7. 3 APR ·  BONUS

    The Google Dream Job That Left Me Questioning Everything | Ep13 Clip

    What if the dream job you've been chasing isn't the destination at all, but just another chapter in a much bigger story? In this powerful episode of The Path We Choose (TPWC), host Umer Farooque sits down with former Google leader Kareem Elsayed for an intimate conversation about faith, entrusting outcomes to God, and what it really means to find purpose beyond prestige. This conversation begins with a profound reframe: the difference between trusting and entrusting. While trust can feel passive, entrusting is an active daily practice of doing everything you can and then surrendering the results. Kareem unpacks how this mindset shift transforms how we face adversity, success, and even global tragedy. From the genocide in Gaza to personal career struggles, he explores how a broader spiritual lens on this life and the afterlife offers strength, patience, and meaning in the face of suffering. Then the conversation shifts to Kareem's journey inside one of the most coveted companies in the world: Google. He shares what it was like to work at a place most professionals dream of, complete with nap pods, world class perks, access to thought leaders like Brené Brown and Carol Dweck, and a salary he never imagined possible. But beneath the surface of achievement, something began to shift. As the company evolved from a mission driven organization to one focused on maximizing shareholder value, Kareem found himself asking a deeper question: What am I really doing here? This episode explores the tension between external success and internal alignment, the courage it takes to question a life that looks perfect on paper, and why meaning and purpose cannot be outsourced to a job title, no matter how impressive. If you follow conversations from podcasts like The Diary of a CEO, On Purpose with Jay Shetty, The Tim Ferriss Show, or insights from authors like Simon Sinek, Adam Grant, Cal Newport, and James Clear, this episode offers grounded, faith informed wisdom on career transitions, spiritual resilience, high performance culture, and redefining success beyond status. In this episode, you'll learn: • The difference between trusting and entrusting and why it matters • How a spiritual lens on suffering offers strength and patience • What it was really like working at Google during its golden era • Why landing a dream job doesn't guarantee fulfillment • How corporate culture shifts when mission takes a backseat to profit • The internal questions that signal it's time for a change • Why meaning and purpose must come from within, not from your employer

    12 min

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