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"Queer-hosted and unapologetically curious. We cover everything and anything — and yes, it's a bit gay."

  1. Ep. 260: Gay Loneliness Is Real — And Nobody's Talking About It | This Is Everything

    10 hr ago

    Ep. 260: Gay Loneliness Is Real — And Nobody's Talking About It | This Is Everything

    Are gay men lonelier than ever — and why won't anyone admit it? In this week's This Is Everything, Zach gets brutally honest about the loneliness epidemic hitting the LGBTQ+ community, the apps that promise connection and deliver bots, the "shit friends" we finally stop tolerating after 50, and why cutting toxic people out of your life might be making you lonelier even when it's the right call. From a $500 phone bill in a fourth-floor walkup in New York City in 1998 to becoming the self-proclaimed Mayor of Gay NYC by starting a meetup group that blew up — Zach traces his own relationship with loneliness and shares what he thinks gay men (and everyone else) actually need right now. In this episode: The gay loneliness epidemic nobody wants to talk about Why the dating apps are broken — bots, fakes, and the Grindr scam rabbit hole Standards, self-awareness, and why some guys keep going after people out of their league Social media making everyone feel like their Tuesday night is a failure The slow death of friendships — no dramatic breakup, just stopped texting Cutting out toxic friends and the loneliness that follows Kevin and Greg: a love story and a shoutout From South Beach to New York to Boston — how your friend circle shrinks as you age The Newcomers Club idea that could save gay Boston Why Zach thinks a gay meetup group might be the answer — and why he's seriously considering starting one Connect with Zach: 🌐 everythingandanythingpodcast.com 📸 Instagram: @TheRealZachRE Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay — new episodes drop weekly. Subscribe and never miss a This Is Everything episode. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    30 min
  2. Ep. 259: Jordan Rainer on Coming Out Late, The Voice, and Her Outlaw Country Revival

    2 days ago

    Ep. 259: Jordan Rainer on Coming Out Late, The Voice, and Her Outlaw Country Revival

    Jordan Rainer — country singer, preacher's daughter, and four-chair-turn phenomenon from Season 26 of The Voice — joins Zach for one of the most honest conversations you'll hear about coming out late in life, leaving religion behind, and reclaiming your identity through music. Jordan opens up about growing up in a Southern Baptist household in Altus, Oklahoma, where who she really was "was not safe, not talked about, and hated." She didn't plan to come out — until a phone call with her dad changed everything. Her younger brother was in tears at a park, struggling with the family's rejection of his being gay. Jordan called her parents and told them: if you can't figure out how to love him, you can't figure out how to love me either — because I'm gay too. That moment of courage became the seed of her debut album, Outlaw Revival — a record about deconstruction, freedom, bodily autonomy, and a different kind of rebirth. Jordan talks about why the album is sold exclusively on her website (streaming robs the little guy), how coming out literally changed the sound and register of her voice, and why she re-recorded key tracks — including the stunning "Days of Thunder" — to capture a freedom she didn't know she'd been holding back. She also shares: what it was like to audition with Reba McEntire's biggest hit on Reba's first season of The Voice (spoiler: she threw up after), Reba's warm and immediate reaction when Jordan came out, the story behind "The Night I Drank with Tanya" (yes, Tanya Tucker has heard it — and loves it), and her dream of making country music a truly inclusive space. If you're queer, if you've ever been confined by religion, if you're still in the closet — this one's for you. Jordan Rainer is a beacon. 🎵 Buy Outlaw Revival exclusively at Jordan's website —https://www.jordanrainerofficial.com/  📲 Follow Jordan:https://www.instagram.com/thejordanrainer/ 📲 Follow Zach: @TheRealZachRE 🎙️ Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode — it genuinely helps the show reach more people who need to hear it. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    47 min
  3. Ep. 258: Nic Dantes on Law & Order, Being Gay in Hollywood & Finding Love

    3 days ago

    Ep. 258: Nic Dantes on Law & Order, Being Gay in Hollywood & Finding Love

    Nic Dantes is a New York-based actor, singer, dancer, and songwriter with an IMDB page, a growing social following, and a talent pool deep enough to make anyone feel like an underachiever. In this episode of Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay, Zach sits down with Nic for a wide-ranging conversation about building a career in entertainment as an openly gay man — from his childhood auditions for kids' TV to a guest spot on one of the most iconic crime dramas in television history. Nic shares what it was actually like being cast on Law & Order — the weight of stepping onto that set, the warmth of the cast, and the slightly surreal fact that he now shares a credit with Sabrina Carpenter. He also opens up about his time on What Should I Do?, the hidden camera show where he played a gay teen coming out, and how strangers in New Jersey during Pride Month showed up for him in a way that genuinely surprised him. But the heart of this episode is the conversation about what it means to be gay in the entertainment industry from a young age. Nic reflects on the anxiety of auditioning for straight romantic roles as a kid, the fear of being "found out," and how that weight shifted as he grew up and stepped into his identity more fully. He talks candidly about the progress the industry has made — and the ways it still asks queer actors to straddle two worlds. Zach and Nic also get into the fun stuff: dream collaborations (Sabrina Carpenter, a K-pop group, Jennifer Lawrence — yes, all three), the debate between a film career versus a long-running series, and what Nic is actually looking for in a relationship. Plus, Zach officially opens his Instagram DMs to matchmaking applicants — first date paid for, applications reviewed personally, no hate DMs accepted.   Follow Nic on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicdantes Everything Nic! https://linktr.ee/nicdantes?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPOTM2NjE5NzQzMzkyNDU5AAGnsiyk4qyvQNXBa3XA3KfbWF8Ay84eKMQZbBU9cDm5eyYS-ysXjqIB_PZJOkw_aem_nPzndVWLK9d69uGsd9VkNA Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    47 min
  4. Ep. 257: San Francisco in the 70s, Harvey Milk & Surviving AIDS — Chuck Forrester's Story

    4 days ago

    Ep. 257: San Francisco in the 70s, Harvey Milk & Surviving AIDS — Chuck Forrester's Story

    What was it like to be gay in San Francisco in the 1970s — when the city was wide open, Harvey Milk was your neighbor, and an entire community was inventing what it meant to be queer? Chuck Forrester lived it. He came out at 28, moved from Wisconsin to the Castro, and found himself in the middle of one of the most extraordinary moments in LGBTQ+ history — one that would soon be transformed forever by the AIDS crisis. In this episode, Chuck shares what it felt like to finally be free, what we lost in the epidemic, and why he spent decades fundraising and fighting for his community — including co-chairing the board of the Human Rights Campaign Fund and raising $3.5 million for the Queer Center at the San Francisco Main Library. He also talks about working as a special assistant to three San Francisco mayors, being a gay dad, and his book Bonding in the Time of Plague — a frank, unapologetic tribute to his generation of gay men. This is living history. And it's essential listening. 📖 Buy Chuck's book Bonding in the Time of Plague on Amazon:https://www.amazon.com/Bonding-Time-Plague-Chuck-Forester/dp/B0H2BQKBCP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=RHYU8UFH1Z39&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ff6s45NxJL6Kx7d_Y3sl3g.a1eQogOE1q8wtqjKTs-m5Ii7xfOlnLu7OWrz7uBiIL4&dib_tag=se&keywords=Bonding+in+the+Time+of+Plague&qid=1782929360&sprefix=bonding+in+the+time+of+plague%2Caps%2C165&sr=8-1 🎙️ Subscribe to Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay wherever you listen to podcasts ⭐ Leave us a review — it means everything 📲 Follow us on Instagram: @TheRealZachRE Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    33 min
  5. Ep. 256: The Gay Bit: Take 13 - Madonna's New Album Is the Song of the Summer

    6 days ago

    Ep. 256: The Gay Bit: Take 13 - Madonna's New Album Is the Song of the Summer

    Madonna is BACK — and she's never been better. On this week's Gay Bit, host Zach Randles-Friedman celebrates the release of Confessions on a Dance Floor 2, Madonna's highly anticipated new album dropping just before the Fourth of July weekend. Zach shares his lifelong love affair with Madonna — from hearing her songs as a fifth-grade safety patrol in Miami, to plastering every inch of his bedroom with posters from Spencer Gifts and Teen Beat, to paying $1,500 a ticket to see her live. He talks about her Coachella surprise with Sabrina Carpenter, why Feel So Free is already a certified banger that had an entire bar singing along, and why this album is exactly what Madonna's fans — and her critics — needed to hear. Plus: why Madonna would absolutely love Zach if she ever came on the podcast, and why he would 100% drop his friends Mandy and Jen the second she texted him back. 🎙️ Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay drops new episodes every week. Subscribe so you never miss a Gay Bit, a guest interview, or a solo monologue that hits a little too close to home. 👍 Like this episode | 💬 Leave a comment with your favorite track on the new album | 🔔 Subscribe for more Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    22 min
  6. Ep. 255: Spiritual Counselor Laura Hoorweg on Life After Death, Mediumship & Soul Contracts

    2 Jul

    Ep. 255: Spiritual Counselor Laura Hoorweg on Life After Death, Mediumship & Soul Contracts

    What happens when we die? Can our loved ones really reach us from the other side? Spiritual counselor and intuitive coach Laura Hoorweg joins Zach for a wide-ranging, mind-expanding conversation about life after death, mediumship, soul families, and what it truly means to evolve as a soul. Laura shares her extraordinary out-of-body experience at 15 that changed everything she believed about life and death — plus the car accident she believes was prevented by an actual angel. She breaks down the difference between psychics and mediums, why mediumship is a gift you're born with (not something you can be taught), and how she uses her abilities to help people heal from grief and rebuild their lives. They also get into: forest bathing and wilderness as spiritual connection, why Earth is the only planet of free will, reincarnation and soul contracts, what really happens when we pass over, and why there is no hell. 💻 Connect with Laura: 🌐 www.spiritspeaks2.me 📧 laurahoorwig@gmail.com 📬 Subscribe so you don't miss Part 2 with Laura — coming soon! 👍 If this episode resonated with you, leave a review, share it with someone who needs it, and hit subscribe. It truly makes a difference. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 2min
  7. Ep. 254- This is Everything: Orange Convicted Felon's War on American LGBTQ+

    1 Jul

    Ep. 254- This is Everything: Orange Convicted Felon's War on American LGBTQ+

    We're flipping the table today. No guests. No interview. Just Zach, a microphone, and a very long list of verified, documented, reported facts — because an informed community is a powerful community, and silence is complicity. In this solo episode, Zach walks through the full record of what the orange convicted felon has done since January 20th, 2025. Not opinion. Not rant. Everything cited from news organizations, congressional records, nonpartisan watchdogs, and in many cases, his own words. In this episode: The promises vs. the receipts — prices, gas, energy costs, and "no new wars" Who this man actually is — the Access Hollywood tape, E. Jean Carroll, 34 felony counts, two impeachments The legislative war on trans Americans — 598 bills in 2025, 796 under consideration in 2026, and what's really happening in federal prisons ICE raids, civilian deaths, and 75,000 people with zero criminal record deported Venezuela, Iran, and the two wars he started after promising peace The Epstein files — what was released, what was withheld, and the questions we deserve to ask out loud Gaza, $12 billion in weapons, and what "peace" actually looks like The defunding of PBS and NPR — 58 years of public broadcasting, gone Freedom 250 and the only person who said yes: Vanilla Ice This episode is not the kind Zach usually makes. He prefers inspiring interviews and uplifting conversations. But this has been building — and sometimes you have to put it all on the table so the community can see the full picture in one place. If this episode moved you, share it. Send it to someone who keeps saying "it's not that bad." Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    47 min
  8. Ep. 253: This is Everything: Ridiculous Conversations

    30 Jun

    Ep. 253: This is Everything: Ridiculous Conversations

    📋 Show Notes Everything & Anything…and a Bit GayEpisode: The Questions That Exhaust Us There's a particular kind of tired that comes not from overworking or overextending — but from decades of explaining your existence to people who feel entitled to interrogate it. In this solo This Is Everything episode, Zach Randles-Friedman names that feeling out loud: exhaustion. And then he does something more interesting than venting about it — he unpacks it. Zach walks through some of the most common (and most maddening) questions and phrases that follow LGBTQ+ people through life, not just to dismiss them, but to sit with what they actually reveal — about the people who say them, about the culture that produces them, and about the extraordinary amount of labor our community has long performed just to be seen. In this episode, Zach covers: "Why isn't there a straight pride?" — The history matters. Stonewall wasn't a party. It was a survival riot led by trans women of color who had nowhere else to go. Pride was chosen deliberately because society demanded shame. Straight people have never had to build a movement to reclaim their dignity — and that's not an insult, it's just the truth. "I'm fine with gay people, I just don't want it shoved in my face." — Zach breaks down the quiet cruelty in this one: the entire architecture of public life was built around straight love — every movie, every commercial, every magazine — and no one ever asked him if that was shoved in his face. He made room for their story his whole life. All we're asking is: can you make room for ours? The bachelorette party problem. — Why do straight people flood gay bars seeking safety, then perform hyper-masculinity to prove they don't belong there? Zach unpacks the dynamic with empathy and a little exasperation. "I'm gay, but I don't need to make it my whole personality." — This one comes from inside the house, and it's the hardest to sit with. Zach shares a personal story about a close friend who slowly disappeared into an acceptable, contained version of himself — and what it cost him. There is no correct amount of gay. There is no right way to express it. But if your self-expression includes looking down on people who are more visible or more flamboyant, that's internalized shame — and it doesn't disappear when you come out. It just changes clothes. "You don't look gay." — Not a compliment. Not an insult. A window into someone's imagination built with incomplete information. Zach reflects on how deeply he once absorbed the idea that "passing" was protection — and what it cost him to unlearn it. "When did you decide to be gay?" — We don't decide. We discover. And usually long before we have the language for it. But Zach goes further: even if it were a choice, so what? The premise that choice would make love less legitimate is the thing worth challenging. "Pride has gotten too corporate." — Rainbow capitalism is real, and worth calling out. But Zach remembers when no company would touch the LGBTQ+ community at all — when being associated with anything gay was brand poison. The fact that companies now want to be associated with pride is a reflection of cultural power. Just hold them accountable for what they're doing the other 11 months. "The community was better before all these new labels." — Translation: things were simpler when fewer people felt included. Every new label represents someone who spent years feeling like they didn't exist and finally found a word for themselves. That's not a problem. That's the whole point. Zach closes with something clear and hard-won: after nearly three decades with Andrew, after a lifetime in this community, the people worth explaining yourself to are already trying to understand. They come to the conversation with something open in them. The others? You don't owe them your exhaustion. You owe yourself your energy, your joy, and your pride — not the kind that disappears on July 1st with the merchandise, but the kind that's quiet, certain, and lives in you every single day.   Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    23 min
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