Real World Peaceful Parenting

Lisa Smith
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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

  1. 3 days ago

    295: Stop Labeling, Start Investigating: How to Really See Your Kid

    “He’s lazy.” “She’s dramatic.” “He’s irresponsible.” “She’s just difficult.” Sometimes there is a real pattern underneath those thoughts—but there’s a huge difference between noticing something your kid struggles with and deciding that struggle is who they are. In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, I’m digging into the labels we consciously and unconsciously put on our kids, how confirmation bias keeps us collecting evidence that proves those labels “right,” and how our beliefs change the way we show up as parents. I’ll share how I labeled Malcolm as lazy for years, what I was completely missing because of that belief, and how curiosity helped me reopen the case. You’ll walk away with three practical questions to help you stop parenting the label and start seeing the developing kid standing right in front of you. What You'll Learn: The critical difference between describing a struggle your kid is having and turning that struggle into an identity.How confirmation bias causes your brain to collect evidence supporting labels like “lazy,” “dramatic,” or “irresponsible”—while conveniently ignoring evidence that doesn’t fit.Why the beliefs you hold about your kid affect who you become when you parent them, from yelling and lecturing to hovering, rescuing, and micromanaging.How Lisa’s belief that Malcolm was “lazy” kept her from seeing important clues about his motivation, interests, task initiation, and the support he actually needed.Why even positive labels like “the smart one,” “the responsible one,” or “the athlete” can unintentionally box a kid into an identity they feel pressured to maintain.Three detective questions that will help you reopen the case, collect all the data, challenge what you think you already know, and leave room for your kid to grow and show you who they’re becoming.

    295: Stop Labeling, Start Investigating: How to Really See Your Kid

  2. 26 Aug

    294: What Are You Making It Mean? How Your Thoughts Shape Your Parenting

    Your kid rolls their eyes, forgets their backpack, ignores your reminder, or responds with a teenage “fine”—and suddenly your brain has written an entire screenplay about what it means. They’re lazy. They don’t respect me. They’ll never be responsible. I’m losing connection. But what actually happened…and what are you making it mean? In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, I’m showing you how quickly our brains turn a kid’s behavior into a story—and how those stories can trigger fear, urgency, judgment, and reactions we later regret. You’ll learn how to separate the facts from the thoughts your brain serves up, question the labels you’ve unconsciously attached to your kid, and create just enough space to respond to the kid who’s actually standing in front of you. Because you don’t have to believe everything you think. What You'll Learn: How to recognize the difference between what your kid actually did and the story your brain created about what it means.Why labels like “lazy,” “disrespectful,” and “irresponsible” can shut down curiosity and change the way you show up with your kid.How your brain can turn uncertainty into a perceived threat—and send you spiraling from one forgotten worksheet to worrying about your kid at 25.The powerful question “What am I making this mean?” and how it can interrupt your automatic reactions.How to tell the difference between useful preparation and fear-based future thinking: preparation gives you something to do; fear gives you dread.How adding four simple words—“I’m having the thought that…”—can create that critical half-inch of space between your story and your reaction, so you can get curious and respond to what your kid actually needs.How to Get Your Strong-Willed Kid (Toddler to Teen) to Listen Without Yelling, Punishing, or Losing Your Mind. You’re not failing — you’re stuck in a cycle that doesn’t work. Join this free class to learn how to break the yelling loop and lead with calm confidence. 👉 SAVE YOUR FREE SPOT!

    294: What Are You Making It Mean? How Your Thoughts Shape Your Parenting

  3. 19 Aug

    293: Running on Empty? The Parenting Cost of Not Resting

    Back-to-school season brings new schedules, new activities, new forms, and approximately 4,732 new things for parents to remember. But before you ask whether your kid is ready, Lisa wants you to ask a different question: Is your tank full enough for what’s coming? In this episode, Lisa challenges the belief that rest has to be earned after everything else is done. She explains why rest isn’t a reward—it’s fuel—and how your capacity directly affects your ability to stay calm, curious, and connected with your kid. You’ll learn how to identify the beliefs that make resting feel uncomfortable, redefine what “real rest” looks like, and start building small “water stations” into your day before your tank hits empty. What You'll Learn: Why rest is fuel, not a reward, and what your car’s gas tank can teach you about caring for your own nervous system.How running on empty shrinks the space between your kid’s behavior and your reaction—and makes peaceful parenting tools harder to access.Why slowing down and resting can actually make you more focused and efficient, rather than putting you further behind.How guilt, anxiety, nervous energy, and the belief that “I should be doing something” can make rest feel anything but restful.The difference between rest and distraction, plus how to discover what genuinely refuels your nervous system.How to create simple five-minute “water stations” throughout your day—and model for your kid that taking care of yourself is a normal part of being human.

    293: Running on Empty? The Parenting Cost of Not Resting

  4. 12 Aug

    292: Open the Box: How Play Creates Connection with Hootenanny Games' Whitney Kimerling

    What if one of the most powerful parenting tools wasn't another script, consequence, or strategy... but a simple board game? In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa sits down with Whitney Kimerling, founder of Hootenanny Games, to explore how something as simple as putting a game on the table can strengthen family relationships, build emotional resilience, and create the kind of connection every parent wants with their kid. Together, they discuss why games naturally help kids open up, how they teach emotional regulation, confidence, communication, and resilience, and why connection often happens when we stop trying so hard to make it happen. Whether you have 15 minutes after dinner or you're looking for a new family tradition, this episode will inspire you to unplug, laugh together, and discover that sometimes the simplest moments become the most meaningful memories. Find Hootenanny Games on Instagram! What You'll Learn: Why family games create deeper connection than many traditional "heart-to-heart" conversations.How games help kids build emotional regulation, resilience, confidence, and problem-solving skills in a fun, low-pressure way.The surprising benefits of cooperative games for reducing sibling conflict and encouraging teamwork.Simple ways to start a family game night—even if you're busy, overwhelmed, or don't consider yourself a "game family."How games help kids naturally practice winning, losing, frustration, patience, and communication in a safe environment.Why sometimes all you have to do is open the box to create laughter, connection, and lifelong family memories.How to Get Your Strong-Willed Kid (Toddler to Teen) to Listen Without Yelling, Punishing, or Losing Your Mind. You’re not failing — you’re stuck in a cycle that doesn’t work. Join this free class to learn how to break the yelling loop and lead with calm confidence. 👉 SAVE YOUR FREE SPOT!

    292: Open the Box: How Play Creates Connection with Hootenanny Games' Whitney Kimerling

  5. 5 Aug

    291: Why Some of Your Kid’s Friendships Stick—and Others Fall Apart

    Not all connection is created equal. Gossiping about someone who isn't in the room can create an instant “we’re in this together” feeling—but that kind of connection is fragile. And whether we realize it or not, our kids are watching how we connect with the people in our own lives. In this episode, I introduce The Connection Ladder, a framework for understanding the different ways we bond—from gossip and proximity all the way up to shared experiences, shared goals, and being truly known. I’ll show you why the higher rungs create deeper, longer-lasting relationships and how you can help your kid find opportunities to build those connections without lecturing them about their friendships. What You'll Learn: Why gossip can feel like instant connection—and why the bond it creates is so fragile.The 7 rungs of The Connection Ladder and how each creates a different level of closeness.Why shared experiences and shared goals can turn teammates, campers, castmates, and classmates into lifelong friends.How your own friendships and conversations quietly teach your kid what connection is supposed to look like.Why lecturing your kid about gossip or “toxic friends” may be less effective than helping them find opportunities to climb to a higher rung.Two simple ways to look at your own relationships, help your kid build stronger ones, and intentionally create more meaningful connection.

    291: Why Some of Your Kid’s Friendships Stick—and Others Fall Apart

  6. 29 Jul

    290: Can Your Kid Tell You the Truth About You?

    Your kid’s voice matters — but do they feel safe using it with you?  In this episode, Lisa explores what it really means to raise a kid who knows their voice matters. She explains why feedback from our kids can feel like disrespect, how old family patterns can trigger defensiveness, and why shutting down the message teaches kids to stop coming to us altogether. Lisa also shares three practical steps to help you receive feedback with calm and openness: pause before reacting, reflect what you heard, and separate the delivery from the message. This episode will help you build the kind of relationship where your kid feels safe telling you the truth now, as a teenager, and well into adulthood. What You'll Learn: Why feedback from your kid can trigger such a strong emotional reaction in your bodyHow generational patterns teach parents to confuse honesty with disrespectWhy kids stop sharing hard things when they feel dismissed, corrected, or debatedThe difference between honoring your kid’s message and accepting an unkind deliveryLisa’s three-step process for receiving feedback without becoming defensiveOne powerful question you can ask your kid to begin rebuilding trust and openness today

    290: Can Your Kid Tell You the Truth About You?

  7. 22 Jul

    289: The 90 Seconds Between You and the Parent You Want to Be

    Last week, Lisa explored why so many parents rush to fix their kids' emotions—and how that instinct often comes from our own discomfort with difficult feelings. This week, she answers the question so many parents asked: "But how do I actually do that?" In this practical and eye-opening episode, Lisa introduces a simple three-step framework for learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of reacting to them. You'll discover why emotions only last about 90 seconds unless we keep fueling them, how a simple "feelings wheel" can completely change your emotional awareness, and why learning to regulate yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kid. If you've ever wondered how to stay calm when you're activated—or how to stop passing emotional avoidance from one generation to the next—this episode is for you. What You'll Learn: Why most of us were never taught how to identify or sit with our own feelings.The difference between suppressing emotions and actually allowing yourself to experience them.What neuroscience says about the surprising lifespan of an emotion—and why that changes everything.Lisa's simple three-step framework: Notice It, Be With It, and Tend to It.How learning to regulate your own emotions helps your kid develop lifelong emotional resilience.One simple 90-second practice you can begin using today to respond with calm instead of reacting from overwhelm.How to Get Your Strong-Willed Kid (Toddler to Teen) to Listen Without Yelling, Punishing, or Losing Your Mind. You’re not failing — you’re stuck in a cycle that doesn’t work. Join this free class to learn how to break the yelling loop and lead with calm confidence. 👉 SAVE YOUR FREE SPOT!

    289: The 90 Seconds Between You and the Parent You Want to Be

  8. 15 Jul

    288: Stop Trying to Make Your Kid Feel Better

    As parents, it's almost instinctive to jump in and make our kids' pain disappear. Whether they're struggling with disappointment, rejection, anxiety, or heartbreak, we want to fix it as quickly as possible. But what if that loving instinct is actually getting in the way of building resilience? In this powerful episode, Lisa explores why so many parents struggle to sit with their kid's hard emotions—and why that discomfort often has more to do with our own emotional history than our kid's feelings. You'll discover why resilience isn't built by avoiding life's valleys, but by walking through them with a calm, steady parent beside you. If you've ever found yourself rushing to reassure, problem-solve, or "make it all better," this episode will help you shift from being your kid's rescuer to becoming their anchor. What You'll Learn: Why rescuing your kid from difficult emotions can unintentionally undermine resilience.The difference between emotional discomfort and actual danger—and why that distinction matters.How your own childhood experiences influence the way you respond to your kid's big feelings.Why presence and validation are often far more powerful than advice or problem-solving.The simple mindset shift that helps you move from fixing feelings to creating emotional safety.Two practical exercises to help you build your own emotional capacity while strengthening your connection with your kid.

    288: Stop Trying to Make Your Kid Feel Better
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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

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  • Creator
    Lisa Smith
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    297
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Real World Peaceful Parenting
  • Show Website
    Real World Peaceful Parenting

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