247 - How to Talk About Needs Without Triggering Defensiveness

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In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, licensed therapists and hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin explore the delicate balance between being attuned to your partner and staying true to yourself. Drawing from their own relationship journey—as both a couple and co-therapists—they share real stories, practical tools, and insights that help couples move from reactivity to connection.

You’ll learn how to:

• Communicate your needs without triggering defensiveness
• Recognize and respond to your partner’s emotional cues
• Use timing and tone to create emotional safety during conflict
• Prevent resentment and strengthen trust through consistent repair

If you’ve ever wished you could communicate better during moments of stress, this episode will give you hope, clarity, and actionable skills to build a more emotionally safe and connected relationship.

Join EJ and Tarah as they model vulnerability, share their own “fail moments,” and guide you toward becoming more connected, understanding, and confident in your communication—one intentional conversation at a time.

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