Relatively Unqualified

with Nic and Darra
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We overshare about real life so you don’t feel crazy. Relatively Unqualified is your comedic virtual support group where hosts Nic and Darra, who are absolutely not qualified to give advice, share honest stories about life, marriage, and family. Sometimes life gets messy. Sometimes life gets spacey - disorienting, isolating, and completely off course. Through guests and personal experience, we talk about what actually happened to us, what we learned the hard way, and how to keep going when the fire alarm goes off and you’re not sure how to land the ship. Expect laughs, family fails, small wins, and conversations that remind you you’re not alone, and help get things back down to earth.

Episodes

  1. Relatively Unqualified #0004 - Navigating the Chaos: How to Align Your Life with Your Values

    4 FEB

    Relatively Unqualified #0004 - Navigating the Chaos: How to Align Your Life with Your Values

    Podcast Episode Description In this episode of Relatively Unqualified, Darra and Nic are joined by Darra’s sisters Nicole and Priscilla for an honest, layered conversation about motherhood, career ambition, and the quiet grief of missed expectations. What starts as a casual family discussion quickly turns into a raw exploration of burnout, values, and how life rarely follows the plan you imagined in your twenties. Each sister brings a different perspective shaped by divorce, remarriage, single parenting, corporate leadership, and raising kids at wildly different stages. They talk openly about survival mode years, the cost of hustle culture, and the realization that loyalty to work is often one-sided. From corporate America frustrations to the guilt of missing school events, the episode doesn’t sugarcoat the tradeoffs women make to keep families afloat. The conversation also highlights growth and courage. One sister shares the decision to step back professionally to realign with her values, while another opens up about launching a coaching business after years of never betting on herself. Through humor, swearing, and sibling banter, the group wrestles with what success actually means, how priorities shift with age, and why protecting your peace sometimes means disappointing expectations. If you’ve ever felt torn between ambition and presence, questioned your worth outside a paycheck, or wondered whether it’s too late to pivot, this episode offers a deeply relatable look at choosing alignment over approval.   Show Notes Guests Nicole (oldest sister, corporate leader, mom of three girls)Priscilla (youngest sister, working mom of young boys, navigating career transitions)Darra (host, mom, grandmother, and professional question-asker)What You’ll Hear in This Episode How childhood expectations shape adult identityThe pressure to be career-driven while raising kidsBecoming a parent and realizing your priorities have changed foreverCorporate America, burnout, and feeling replaceableMissing moments with your kids while chasing stabilityThe guilt and exhaustion of doing “all the things” at onceWhy stepping back professionally can feel like failure — and freedomLeadership as a discovered skill, not a planned pathTaking a financial hit to protect your mental healthLaunching a coaching business and learning to bet on yourselfProtecting your peace by limiting outside opinionsValues-based decision making vs. fear-based decisionsWhy time becomes the most valuable currency as you ageSisters as built-in support systems (and reality checks)Memorable Moments and Running Themes The tension between ambition and presenceBurnout as a byproduct of survival modeRedefining success beyond money and titlesFear, confidence, and taking leaps before you feel readyAlignment as the real measure of growthCalling your sisters when you don’t know what to do Check out all our Relatively Unqualified episodes and content on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@RelativelyUnqualifiedWhat are your thoughts? Did anything in this episode happen to you? Please share your story, leave us a review and subscribe. Thank you!!!Production credits and music licensing are exclusively retained by Relatively Unqualified Podcast.Notice and copyright disclaimer: Nic and Darra are unqualified to give you any credible advice and thus, all information in this podcast and related materials is for entertainment purposes only.

    1h 18m

  2. 15 JAN

    Relatively Unqualified #0003 - The Comedy Grind in a Small Town with Wesley Funderburg

    Podcast Episode DescriptionIn this episode of Relatively Unqualified, the hosts welcome their first guest: Darra’s son and Nic’s nephew, comedian Wesley Funderburg. The conversation is equal parts funny, raw, and honest as Wesley breaks down what it really takes to do standup, especially in a smaller local scene where stage time is limited and the audience can be unpredictable. Wesley talks openly about why creative pursuits trigger nervousness, how confidence can be partly performance, and why bombing is a necessary part of getting better. He shares an early worst case scenario from a show that went off the rails, including a joke that landed wrong, getting kicked out of the venue, and dealing with the aftermath outside the club. The episode also goes deeper than comedy. Wesley discusses the pressure of pursuing a dream while being a working parent, the reality of leaving your partner solo with the kids on show nights, and what it feels like to have someone support you while still expecting you to go all in. The hosts explore what “making it” actually means, why comedy can be both art and therapy, and how laughter opens people up in a way few other forms of communication can. If you have ever chased a creative goal while trying to hold down real life responsibilities, this episode is a blunt and relatable look at fear, growth, and why you keep showing up even when you do not feel ready. Show NotesGuestWesley Funderburg (comedian, Darra’s son and Nic’s nephew) What You’ll Hear in This EpisodeWhy the hosts feel nervous recording, even in a low stakes setting How fear and nervousness can be a sign you care about the work The difference between “being a comedian” and “doing comedy” Limited open mic opportunities and the challenge of staying sharp The grind of standup: writing is not enough, stage time matters Crowd work vs written jokes and why crowd work dominates clips now The pressure to create social media clips as “currency” A painful early bomb: offending an audience, getting kicked out, and the fallout afterward How comedy can feel both empowering and humiliating Balancing standup with family responsibilities and a demanding work schedule Support as encouragement and pressure at the same time Why Wesley prefers performing for strangers rather than “bring your friends” crowds Fail safe jokes that reliably get laughs Recording sets, watching them back, and the harsh self critique cycle Why instant gratification can make creative growth harder The “big dream” and what success looks like without needing a flashy lifestyle Why laughter makes people receptive and how comedy can carry heavy truths Memorable Moments and Running ThemesFear, confidence, and “fake it till you make it” Bombing as a required part of improvement The tug of war between practical responsibility and creative drive The idea that comedy is magic when it can make people laugh at uncomfortable truths Check out all our Relatively Unqualified episodes and content on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@RelativelyUnqualifiedWhat are your thoughts? Did anything in this episode happen to you? Please share your story, leave us a review and subscribe. Thank you!!!Production credits and music licensing are exclusively retained by Relatively Unqualified Podcast.Notice and copyright disclaimer: Nic and Darra are unqualified to give you any credible advice and thus, all information in this podcast and related materials is for entertainment purposes only.

    1h 18m

  3. 15 JAN

    Relatively Unqualified #0002 - Subtle Ways Spouses Disrespect

    Podcast Episode Description Disrespect in marriage is not always loud or obvious. In this episode,e Nic & Darra explore how disrespect often shows up in subtle ways like dismissive behavior, invalidated feelings, crossed boundaries, and lack of emotional reciprocity. Through honest conversation and personal experiences, they unpack how these moments slowly erode trust and connection within a relationship. The discussion dives into how personal backgrounds shape what feels disrespectful, why emotional validation matters, and how unintentional actions can still cause lasting harm. Nic & Darra also examine one of the most challenging areas couples face: navigating disrespect involving extended family and deciding where loyalty, protection, and boundaries should be drawn. From choosing your spouse over outside relationships, to setting boundaries that protect mental and emotional health, this episode highlights the importance of mutual respect, accountability, and communication in long term partnerships. It also addresses difficult topics like going no contact with family, self protection, healing, and what it truly means to show up for your spouse. This episode offers thoughtful reflection for anyone seeking to strengthen their marriage, understand emotional boundaries, or navigate complex family dynamics while maintaining a healthy relationship. Show Notes Episode Theme Disrespect in marriage and how boundaries, validation, and accountability shape healthy relationships. Key Topics Discussed What disrespect looks like in marriage, both big and small How dismissive behavior and invalidated feelings damage relationships Why intent does not negate impact in emotional conflict How personal history influences sensitivity to disrespect Emotional shutdown, avoidance, and anger responses The importance of reciprocity in relationships Drawing boundaries with extended family Protecting your spouse when family conflict arises Choosing your spouse as your primary unit The challenge of going no contact versus creating distance Accountability, apologizing, and repairing after boundaries are crossed Why respect is foundational to long term marriage success Supporting your spouse even when you see faults on both sides How couples navigate conflict, growth, and healing together Why spouses must come first to maintain a healthy family unit Core Takeaways Disrespect often shows up subtly and accumulates over time Emotional validation is essential, even when you disagree Boundaries are acts of self respect, not punishment Family dynamics require balance, protection, and honest communication A strong marriage requires accountability, compromise, and mutual effort Check out all our Relatively Unqualified episodes and content on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@RelativelyUnqualifiedWhat are your thoughts? Did anything in this episode happen to you? Please share your story, leave us a review and subscribe. Thank you!!!Production credits and music licensing are exclusively retained by Relatively Unqualified Podcast.Notice and copyright disclaimer: Nic and Darra are unqualified to give you any credible advice and thus, all information in this podcast and related materials is for entertainment purposes only.

    29 min

  4. 1 JAN

    Relatively Unqualified #0001 - Bend Oregon

    Podcast Episode DescriptionWelcome to the very first episode of Relatively Unqualified. In this introduction, Darra & Nic explain who they are, why they decided to start a podcast, and what listeners can expect moving forward. Broadcasting from Bend, Oregon during a family staycation, the hosts dive into their dynamic as siblings by marriage, their blended families, and their shared belief that humor and honesty go a long way in navigating relationships, parenting, and life in general. From being a girl dad and a boy mom to reflecting on parenting stages, travel memories, and family quirks, this episode sets the tone for a podcast that does not pretend to have all the answers. The conversation flows through memorable vacations, concert adventures, parenting reflections, and stories that highlight both growth and questionable decision making. Along the way, Darra & Nic share why they want this podcast to be relatable, healing, and entertaining without pretending to be experts. This episode lays the groundwork for future conversations around family dynamics, forgiveness, hard truths, relationships, and the lessons learned along the way, all delivered with sarcasm, heart, and zero qualifications. Show NotesEpisode OverviewAn introduction to Relatively Unqualified, the hosts, and the purpose behind the podcast. Topics CoveredWho Darra & Nic are and how the podcast came together Broadcasting from Bend, Oregon on a family staycation Why humor and honesty are central to the show Being siblings by marriage and navigating blended families Girl dad versus boy mom perspectives Parenting stages from young kids to near empty nest Why experiences matter more than things Travel memories including Hawaii, Cabo, and family trips Concert stories and vacation mishaps Drinking stories, lessons learned, and personal growth Why this podcast is about relatability, not advice Using storytelling as healing and self reflection The balance between humor and serious conversations Setting the stage for future episodes on forgiveness and hard truths What This Podcast Is AboutReal conversations without pretending to be experts Family dynamics and blended family realities Relationships, parenting, and personal growth Laughing at past mistakes while learning from them Sharing stories others may relate to but hesitate to say out loud Listener TakeawayThis episode invites listeners into a podcast built on authenticity, laughter, and lived experience. It is about showing up as you are, telling the truth even when it is messy, and realizing you do not need to be qualified to start something meaningful. Check out all our Relatively Unqualified episodes and content on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@RelativelyUnqualifiedWhat are your thoughts? Did anything in this episode happen to you? Please share your story, leave us a review and subscribe. Thank you!!!Production credits and music licensing are exclusively retained by Relatively Unqualified Podcast.Notice and copyright disclaimer: Nic and Darra are unqualified to give you any credible advice and thus, all information in this podcast and related materials is for entertainment purposes only.

    46 min

  5. 21/12/2025

    Trailer - Relatively Unqualified

    Nic and Darra give a sneak peek into their up and comming podcast... Relatively Unqualified. - Check out all our Relatively Unqualified episodes and content on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@RelativelyUnqualified - What are your thoughts? Did anything in this episode happen to you? Please share your story, leave us a review and subscribe. Thank you!!! - Production credits and music licensing are exclusively retained by Relatively Unqualified Podcast. - Notice and copyright disclaimer: Nic and Darra are unqualified to give you any credible advice and thus, all information in this podcast and related materials is for entertainment purposes only.

    5 min

Trailer

About

We overshare about real life so you don’t feel crazy. Relatively Unqualified is your comedic virtual support group where hosts Nic and Darra, who are absolutely not qualified to give advice, share honest stories about life, marriage, and family. Sometimes life gets messy. Sometimes life gets spacey - disorienting, isolating, and completely off course. Through guests and personal experience, we talk about what actually happened to us, what we learned the hard way, and how to keep going when the fire alarm goes off and you’re not sure how to land the ship. Expect laughs, family fails, small wins, and conversations that remind you you’re not alone, and help get things back down to earth.

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  • Creator
    with Nic and Darra
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    5
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2025 Relatively Unqualified
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    Relatively Unqualified