More than Roommates Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss things we do that may seem weird to the world but allow us to be different in our marriages than the struggling marriages we all see around us. These are decisions we’ve each made that may seem unique but allow us to strengthen our marriages.

Scriptures:
Romans 12:2
1 Peter 2:11
Philippians 3:20-21
2 Timothy 2:4

Resources:
Podcast & Blog Post - 5 Weird Decisions that Make My Marriage Awesome

Questions to Discuss:
1. What are the things you do in your marriage that make you different than the marriages of the world? (Romans 12:2)
2. Where do you see your marriage blending in with the marriages of the world/non-Christian marriages?
3. Would your non-Christian friends look at your marriage and see something unique or different?

Do you and your spouse have inside jokes, traditions, or rituals that make your marriage unique and build a culture of exclusivity in your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of building a strong culture in your marriage that makes it different than any other marriage on the planet.

Scriptures:
Genesis 2:24-25
Revelation 2:4
Proverbs 5:18

Resources:
Blog Post - How Inside Jokes And Rituals Can Strengthen Your Marriage

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some of your inside jokes or rituals in your marriage?
2. How can you build the culture of your marriage? What are the things that are like glue that bond your marriage together?

Everyone of us struggles with temptation—even Jesus faced temptations! What are the temptations we need to avoid that can wreck our marriage? And how is marriage uniquely designed so that we can help each other flee from temptations?

Scriptures:
Proverbs 5
Proverbs 18:8
Proverbs 13:20
1 Peter 1:16

Questions to Discuss:
1. What does it look like for you to flee from temptation?
2. What temptations do you face? How can your spouse help you?
3. How can you move the line, magnify the consequences, and map out your escape?
4. What would be helpful for you to confess to your spouse and to your community to help you with your temptations?

Resources:
Book - Think Ahead: 7 Decisions You Can Make Today for the God-Honoring Life You Want Tomorrow, by Craig Groeschel

On this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek and Scott have an authentic and honest conversation with Aaron Smith from the ministry Marriage After God. We discuss pornography, intimacy issues, and the challenges many couples face. Aaron and his wife Jennifer hope to inspire individuals to draw closer to God and their spouse as they chase boldly after God’s purpose for their life together.

Scriptures:
Hebrews 4:15
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Questions to Discuss:
1. How are you and your spouse doing at consistently praying together?
2. What’s one step you and your spouse can take to pray together on a more consistent basis?

Resources:
Aaron & Jennifer Smith’s Website – Marriage After God
The Smiths new book – The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage
Aaron and Jennifer Smith’s Marriage Podcast – Marriage After God

In our culture, it’s extremely common for married people to have celebrity crushes—studies say 80% of married men and women have celebrity crushes. Does that make it okay for you or your spouse to have a celebrity crush? Should you have crushes on anyone besides your spouse?

Scriptures:
Proverbs 5:18-19
Romans 12:1-2, 13:14
Ephesians 5:3
1 Corinthians 6:18

Questions to Discuss:
Who’s the most famous person you’ve ever met? Why do you think we obsess about celebrities?
Why do you think people believe it’s acceptable to have a celebrity crush but not okay to have a crush on non-celebrities?
Tell your spouse what you love about them and then go crush on them!

We have an enemy who likes to feed us lies about marriage, temptation, and God’s design for relationships. The enemy actively tries to destroy our marriages, but as followers of Christ, the One we serve and follow is greater! We hope you’re encouraged by this new episode of More Than Roommates.
 
Scriptures:
1 Peter 5:8
John 10:10
1 Corinthians 13:5
Romans 5:8
 
Resources:
Book – The Screwtape Letters, by C.S. Lewis
 
Questions to Discuss:
1. Did you and your spouse write letters to each other during dating and engagement?
2. What are some of the lies you believe about yourself and about marriage?
3. What are some things that your spouse does ‘right’—focus on keeping track of what they do right and not wrong/annoying.
4. What are the times when you tend to be the most susceptible to believing lies or engaging in conflict with your spouse?