Carla Turned On

Carla Romo

Dating & relationships get real. Sex gets talked about. The BS gets left on read. Carla Turned On is your weekly permission slip to ditch shame, confusion, and the patterns that keep you stuck. Hosted by certified dating & relationship coach Carla Romo, each episode gives you the tools, mindset shifts, and no-BS truth to step into your power and create f*ck-yes love...without losing yourself along the way. This is where you get real answers. Real tools. Real confidence. Let's get turned on!

  1. HACE 2 DÍAS

    What Is Actually a Healthy Relationship (And What Is Not)

    In this episode of Carla Turned On, Carla Romo breaks down what truly makes a relationship healthy—especially amid Valentine's Day pressure and romanticized chaos. She explains why healthy love feels calm, why communication and conflict matter, and why body count and sexual history should be about safety and honesty, not shame. What You'll Learn Choosing the right partner matters more than romance Valentine's Day can create unrealistic pressure Healthy relationships include conflict and communication Chaos does not equal passion Love should feel calm and secure Body count does not define worth or health Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book:  Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Chaos does not equal passion." "You have to earn the love." "Body count does not matter." Chapters 00:00 — Carla's Honeymoon Fiasco & Why Who You Marry Matters 05:59 — Valentine's Day 10:28 — What Is Actually a Healthy Relationship—and What Is Not 29:09 — Sexual History & Body Count Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    40 min
  2. 3 FEB

    Why Dating Rules Don't Work: Relationship Stages, Conflict & Intimacy

    In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why traditional dating rules don't work and how understanding relationship stages can prevent unnecessary breakups. Starting with a playful debate on being a dog or cat person, Carla explores attachment styles, conflict, and why resentment and poor communication can lead to sexless relationships. This episode emphasizes intentionality, emotional awareness, and honest communication as the foundation for long‑term intimacy. What You'll Learn Pet preferences reflect personality—not relationship success You don't need rigid dating rules to date well Understanding relationship stages prevents unnecessary breakups Conflict is normal; how you handle it matters Resentment can shut down sexual desire Intentional communication sustains intimacy long‑term Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book:  Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "You do not need to follow set rules." "Make your own goddamn rules." "Resentments are expectations waiting to happen." Chapters 00:00 — Dog Person or Cat Person 03:32 — Follow a Set of "Rules" — No Dating Rules 12:58 — Phases of Each Stage of Relationships 29:13 — From Sex to Sexless Relationships — What Causes This? Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    39 min
  3. 27 ENE

    Why Relationships Lose Their Spark: Sex, Boundaries and Emotional Connection

    In this episode, Carla Romo explores modern dating and relationship dynamics, including how men and women often experience sex differently, the role of social media in attraction, and why relationships lose their spark over time. Carla breaks down the importance of boundaries, individuality, and emotional connection, while emphasizing honest communication about intimacy — including conversations around sex toys. This episode offers insight into maintaining curiosity, planning intentional experiences, and reigniting connection in long‑term relationships. What You'll Learn Men and women often experience sex differently Social pressure affects intimacy and attraction Healthy relationships need boundaries and individuality Codependency can kill the spark Communication and curiosity strengthen connection Intentional experiences (dates, play, novelty) reignite intimacy Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book:  Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Men care more about sex than women." "It's not about who cares more." "No woman is gonna be into certain things." Chapters 00:00 — Do Women Care More About Sex Than Men? 03:00 — They Don't Have ANY Social Media 11:34 —The #1 Reason Relationships Lose Their Spark 29:26 — Do Sex Toys Belong in Bed? Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    37 min
  4. 20 ENE

    Why Dating Feels So Hard Now: Intimidation, Emotional Intelligence and Intimacy

    In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the realities of modern dating — from choosing the right first date outfit to being labeled "intimidating," navigating today's dating epidemic, and having honest conversations about sex. Carla explores how emotional intelligence, presence, and clear sexual communication impact attraction, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. This episode offers clarity around shifting dating dynamics and empowers listeners to communicate their needs without shame. What You'll Learn First date outfits can set the emotional tone A go‑to outfit helps reduce dating anxiety Being called "intimidating" often reflects others' insecurities Dating dynamics are rapidly changing Emotional intelligence is essential for healthy relationships Sexual communication improves satisfaction Presence, foreplay, and enthusiastic consent matter Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book:  Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "You're intimidating." "Clear consent is sexy." "You just need to be present." Chapters 00:00 — What to Wear on a First Date 04:52 — "You're Intimidating" 14:14 — The Dating Epidemic and Carla's Viral TikTok 28:57 — No Orgasm? Here's What's Actually Going On Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    36 min
  5. 13 ENE

    Why Your Dating Picker Is Off: Attachment Styles, Emotional Intelligence & Dating Patterns

    In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why we're attracted to the people we choose and how past experiences, attachment styles, and emotional patterns influence our dating "picker." From awkward first dates to partners pulling away after intimacy, Carla explains how to trust your gut, recognize red flags, and stop confusing attraction with alignment. This episode is a reminder that rejection is not a reflection of your worth — and that you can change your dating patterns.  What You'll Learn Trust your gut — it's usually right Attraction is not the same as compatibility Your picker is shaped by past experiences Self-regulation improves relationships Clear communication about sex matters Rejection after intimacy is not about your worth Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session  Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs  Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Always listen to your damn gut." "You are literally limiting yourself." "You can change your picker." Chapters 00:00 — Carla's Awkward First Date Experience 06:57 — "They're Not My Type" 15:26 — 'Your Picker Is Off' 27:26 — Why They Pulled Away After Sex Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    33 min
  6. 6 ENE

    Terrible First Dates, Emotional Unavailability & Sexual Compatibility

    Terrible dates don't define your love life. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why one bad date doesn't mean you're the problem, why someone never being in a relationship isn't automatically a red flag, and how emotional unavailability shows up in dating. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo dives into sexual compatibility: why sex evolves, how communication matters, and why you shouldn't panic if it's not amazing the first time. What You'll Learn Why one bad date doesn't define your dating journey Why being single for a long time isn't a red flag How emotional unavailability shows up in subtle ways Why vulnerability matters more than perfection How communication creates sexual compatibility Why sex evolves over time Why you shouldn't compare yourself to dating expectations How self-worth and resilience boost dating success Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book:  Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "I'm gonna tap out of the dating game." "Sex evolves; the purpose is to enjoy it." "Don't freak out if it wasn't that great." Chapters 00:00 — Terrible First Dates 05:31 — "Never Been in a Relationship" Isn't a Red Flag 10:21 — Emotional Unavailability in Dating 20:24 — TACO: Sexual Compatibility Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    28 min
  7. 30/12/2025

    Dating After a Toxic Relationship: Triggers, Red Flags & Setting the Mood

    Modern dating gets complicated fast, especially after a toxic relationship. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why looking someone up before a date can create unnecessary pressure, why "dating to be friends" keeps you stuck, and how old wounds show up as triggers when you start dating again. Carla Romo also shares how to spot real red and green flags and, in the TACO segment, how small things like your environment and vibe can completely shift the mood in intimacy. What You'll Learn Why Googling someone before a date can backfire Why you're dating for partnership, not friendship How toxic ex triggers show up when dating again The importance of knowing your red flags & green flags Why intentional dating leads to better relationships How emotional healing affects new connections Why ambience, hygiene, and environment matter for intimacy Weird mood killers to avoid (yes… including your sheets) Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "You are dating to find your person." "Look inward after a toxic relationship." "Know your red flags and deal breakers." Chapters 00:00 — The Dangers of Online Dating Research 05:23 — Intentional Dating vs. Friendship 09:33 — Dating After a Toxic Relationship 22:48 — TACO: Setting the Mood & Avoiding Mood Killers Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    31 min
  8. 23/12/2025

    Why You Fall Fast & They Pull Away: Anxious vs. Avoidant Dating Dynamics

    A great date can feel amazing, but attachment style determines what happens next. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why you should never "match their energy," how anxious and avoidant attachment styles create the fall-fast/pull-away cycle, and how to break out of those patterns. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo explores whether you're having sex to feel loved or to feel good, and how that choice shapes intimacy and connection. What You'll Learn Why you shouldn't "match their energy" — they should match yours How anxious attachment creates chasing and overthinking How avoidant attachment creates distance and mixed signals The push-pull cycle and how to break it How attachment styles shape emotional connection Why "falling fast" isn't always chemistry — sometimes it's anxiety How to communicate needs early and clearly The difference between sex for intimacy vs. sex for validation How to build a more secure dating pattern Why you're not stuck in your attachment style Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book:  Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "You want them to match your energy." "Believe that shit straight." "You are not asking for too much." Chapters 00:00 — Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships 06:23 — TURNED OFF: Match Their Energy? No. 12:29 — Why You Fall Fast & They Pull Away 28:58 — TACO: Sex for Love vs. Sex for Pleasure Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

    36 min

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Dating & relationships get real. Sex gets talked about. The BS gets left on read. Carla Turned On is your weekly permission slip to ditch shame, confusion, and the patterns that keep you stuck. Hosted by certified dating & relationship coach Carla Romo, each episode gives you the tools, mindset shifts, and no-BS truth to step into your power and create f*ck-yes love...without losing yourself along the way. This is where you get real answers. Real tools. Real confidence. Let's get turned on!