Not Your Average Aunties

Not Your Average Aunties

Long time friends Mohini and Farheen offer up candid gupshup with garam chai about all the things - taking up space as Brown, South Asian women, working for social change, healing old wounds, cultivating self-love and extending that into the world to make it a more just place for everyone. Feisty, curious, reflective.

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  1. Ep. 8: Navigating Perimenopause Together

    12/01/2025

    Ep. 8: Navigating Perimenopause Together

    Perimenopause and menopause are having their moment in public conversations. In this first full episode of season 2 of Not Your Average Aunties (NYAA), Farheen and Mohini talk about their multi-year perimenopausal journey thus far and how it’s been a significant reason why NYAA was itself on pause. They begin with reflections on the uncertainty, confusion, secrecy and shame associated with menstruation and their bodies that began in puberty, and they dig into this season of cronehood - what it’s been like for them, what they are learning and what is supporting them through the aches, rage, pain, sweats and more. It ain’t easy and it’s not done, but there is alot of hope they’d like to share with others, their own age and younger. According to Statistics Canada 2021 data, 10 million women, or a quarter of all women, in Canada are perimenopausal or postmenopausal. Women spend up to HALF their lives in the menopausal (peri or post) stage! It is time that women’s health, including the ups, downs and unknowns of the perimenopausal journey, be talked about by all genders and ages, regardless of whether one is going through it. Our individual and collective well being depends on it, and we cannot do it alone. Resources mentioned in the episode: The Midlife Feast Podcast by Dr. Jenn Salib-Huber – Episode 1 & 2 https://www.menopausenutritionist.ca/podcast Aging Powerfully with Melissa Grelo Podcast – Episode 8 with Dr. Stacy Sims https://www.agingpowerfullywithmelissagrelo.com/listen Dr. Mindy Pelz on the Diary of a CEO podcast – watch from 1h:20m. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2mQOGzHtQc Book: Estrogen Matters https://estrogenmatters.com/ To get in touch with us, email notyouraverageaunties@gmail.com.

    49 min
  2. Ep.5: Reimagining Wealth: Healing Our Relationships With Money and Worth

    25/12/2020

    Ep.5: Reimagining Wealth: Healing Our Relationships With Money and Worth

    There can be much shame, secrecy, harmful and toxic thinking concerning money and wealth. Farheen and Mohini speak frankly about their families’ relationships to money and how that has impacted them as well as attempting to de-centre white supremacist, patriarchal, capitalist values around deservingness, wealth and generosity to create a more economically just world. Shoutout to Resource Movement and all the friends/folks there who are working to self-reflect and do the hard work to build relationships in efforts to re-distribute land, wealth, and power. https://www.resourcemovement.org. Read the blog post about how much deeper economic injustices have gotten during the pandemic: https://www.resourcemovement.org/post/as-millions-suffer-from-the-pandemic-who-s-getting-rich Gratitude to Edgar Villenueva, author of Decolonizing Wealth: Indigenous Wisdom to Heal Divides and Restore Balance, and his words in a piece called “Money as Medicine” in the Stanford Social Innovation Review: https://ssir.org/articles/entry/money_as_medicine# In her April 2020 piece entitled “The Pandemic is a Portal” auntie extraordinaire Arundhati Roy offers us this: “Historically, pandemics have forced humans to break with the past and imagine their world anew. This one is no different. It is a portal, a gateway between one world and the next. We can choose to walk through it, dragging the carcasses of our prejudice and hatred, our avarice, our data banks and dead ideas, our dead rivers and smoky skies behind us. Or we can walk through lightly, with little luggage, ready to imagine another world. And ready to fight for it.” To get in touch with us, email notyouraverageaunties@gmail.com.

    54 min
  3. Ep.2: Weaving Our Migration Stories: Loss, Resilience & Reclamation

    04/11/2020

    Ep.2: Weaving Our Migration Stories: Loss, Resilience & Reclamation

    The Wendat, Haudenosaunee, Anishnaabe peoples in Tkaronto (Toronto) have been dispossessed of their rights, and continue to be subjected to colonization and genocide. In this context, Farheen and Mohini discover each other’s stories of migration to England and eventually to Canada, from Pakistan and India. They explore their relationship to language, share experiences of racism and reflect on reconnection to self and community. Stay tuned for a future episode about settler colonialism. Deepest gratitude to: Our parents, who with great courage, strength and persistence did the best that they could in moving across continents and oceans - more than once. And to our extended families, family friends and larger communities who supported us as new arrivals, and into our auntiehood. We are in them, they are in us. For a history of Desh Pardesh: https://savac.net/collection/desh-pardesh/ Just some of the brilliant musicians, writers, filmmakers, thinkers in our formative years who helped us reclaim and be proud of our Browness (as complex as that is) - Gurinder Chadha, Deepa Mehta, Mira Nair, Hanif Kureishi, Kiran Desai, Srinivas Krishna, Arundhati Roy, Jhumpa Lahiri, Rohinton Mistry, Asian Dub Foundation, Talvin Singh, State of Bengal, Karsh Kale, DJ Zahra’s Funkasia and DJ Amita’s Besharam club nights, DJ Rekha’s Basement Bhangra jams, Goodness Gracious Me tv show. The 1990s & early 2000s were all that and a bag of Kurkure! A passage from Harsha Walia, South Asian activist, author of Undoing Border Imperialism. https://www.akpress.org/undoing-border-imperialism.html “Racialized communities face interlocking and connected conditions of marginalization within the settler-colonial state. Victims of global political economy built on our dispossession, communities of colour are further disciplined into normative whiteness and hegemonic neoliberalism. The power of state controls and the insidious nature of racism force us to metabolize our own oppression, and many of us become “the good Indian” or “good immigrant” who is silent, complicit, and grateful to the colonial master. Some even become the system’s greatest cheerleaders. The reality, though, is that people of colour face legislated racism from immigration laws to policies governing Indigenous reserves; are discriminated against and excluded from equitable access to health care, housing, child care and education; are disproportionately victims of police killings and child apprehensions; fill the floors of sweatshops and factories; and are overrepresented in head counts on poverty, incarceration, unemployment and high school dropout rates.” pg 124-125, Undoing Border Imperialism To get in touch with us, email notyouraverageaunties@gmail.com.

    58 min

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Long time friends Mohini and Farheen offer up candid gupshup with garam chai about all the things - taking up space as Brown, South Asian women, working for social change, healing old wounds, cultivating self-love and extending that into the world to make it a more just place for everyone. Feisty, curious, reflective.