The Kink Consultant

Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant

Welcome to The Kink Consultant podcast, where we’re turning up the heat on all things kink in dating, relationships, and pop culture! Join Amanda each week as she dishes out the juiciest stories, expert advice, and shares a sneak peek behind the bedroom door—with some amazing guests along for the ride. Whether you're just a little kink-curious, ready to spice things up, or a seasoned pro, there's something here for you! Expect fun, laughter, and a whole lot of eye-opening conversations as we explore the wild world of intimacy, kink, and those oh-so-intriguing D/s dynamics.

  1. HACE 1 DÍA

    How to Prepare for Your First Kinky Cruise with Concations and Carnivale Risque

    Not sure what to expect on a kinky cruise? You're about to find out, and it's way more fun (and safe) than you think!  In this episode, I’m not just going to have one, not two, but four guests! I sit down with Lee from Concasions and the powerhouse team behind Carnivale Risqué (Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidian) to talk about what it's really like on a kinky cruise. These industry veterans have been teaching kink at lifestyle parties for over a decade, and they break down how they turned empty dungeons into packed playspaces by making BDSM approachable, glamorous, and fun. We dig into the upcoming Kinky Cruise in April, what to expect as a first-timer, how consent culture creates the safest party spaces, and why "swingsters" (swingers + kinksters) are now a whole community. They also get real about living as a throuple, teaching workshops on unleashing your authentic self, and why vulnerability is the sexiest thing you can bring to any relationship. This episode is part prep guide, part inspiration, and 100% permission to explore. If you've been thinking about attending a lifestyle event or just want to understand what makes these spaces so magnetic, this conversation will get you ready to dive in. Don’t let the Kinky Cruise sail without you! Go to http://www.kinkycruise.com and use the code TKC50 to get $50 off Download the Bliss Cruise app and Celebrity Cruise app to plan your schedule Connect with Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidian https://carnivalerisque.com/ https://www.instagram.com/carnivalerisque/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063613538670 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ https://www.amandadames.com/thereadinglist

    44 min

  2. 5 FEB

    Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction, Getting Soft? How to have Better Sex: A Conversation with Promescent CEO, Jeff Abraham 

    Better sex isn't a luxury, it's accessible. And if you're not exploring what's out there to improve your intimacy, you're leaving pleasure on the table. In this episode, I get to sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, for an honest conversation about sexual wellness, performance anxiety, and why 70% of people using delay spray don't even have premature ejaculation, they just want better sex. Jeff shares his unexpected journey from semiconductor engineering to running a sexual wellness company, and breaks down the real stats on the "arousal gap" (spoiler: the average man lasts 5 minutes and 42 seconds while the average woman needs 18 minutes). We dig into why delay products have gotten a bad rap, how Promescent's formula is different, and what Vita Flux can do for blood flow, libido, and natural lubrication. Jeff also gets real about communication, foreplay that starts hours before sex, and why vulnerability is the foundation of great intimacy. This episode is practical, sex-positive, and full of solutions. If you want better connection, longer-lasting sex, or just want to level up your intimacy game, this conversation will give you the tools to do it. Want longer-lasting sex without losing sensation? Get 15% off at Promescent.com/tkc15 Episode Highlights: 00:00 Changing the Conversation Around Intimacy 27:34 Exploring Sexual Frequency and Refractory Periods 29:19 The Impact of Good Intimacy on Attraction 31:38 Addressing Anxiety and Intimacy 33:30 Menopause and Women's Sexual Health 35:36 Innovations in Female Arousal Products 40:21 The Rise of Male Masturbatory Products 53:58 The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships Connect with Jeff Abraham  https://www.linkedin.com/in/technicalresources/ https://www.promescent.com/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey:  https://www.amandadames.com/store

    57 min

  3. 30 ENE

    Behind The Scenes of A Non-Monogamouse Relationship (And Why It Actually Works)

    Non-monogamy isn't actually that complicated…our fear of talking about it is. And that fear keeps way too many people stuck pretending they want something they don't. In this episode, I sit down with Samia Mounts, creator and host of the ClosetEd podcast, for a raw conversation about non-monogamy, jealousy, and why emotional maturity matters more than the number of partners you have. Samia shares her journey from believing in "the one" to discovering she's wired for multiple loves. We talk about her marriage that became a friendship, navigating new relationship energy, and the difference between boundaries and control. She gets real about the mistakes she made, the red flags she ignored, and what it takes to build trust when relationships shift. If you have ever felt like you were meant to love more than one person and had no idea what to do with that truth, this conversation is for you. Episode Highlights:  00:00 Why Everyone Is In “The Closet” and Society's Norms 12:17 Polyamory and Personal Experiences 32:42 Defining Relationship Agreements and Boundaries 34:54 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships 42:19 Polyamory vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy Connect with Samia Mounts  https://www.samiamounts.com/ https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkJT8ttJYCyIS8ig6gZ7pA https://www.tiktok.com/@samia.mounts https://www.samiamounts.com/podcast Book a Consult with Amanda Here: https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Connect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

    1 h y 2 min

  4. 23 ENE

    Intimacy Isn't A Feeling, It's A Skill: An Interview With The Somatica Founders

    What if intimacy didn’t have to feel so hard, awkward, or overthought? In this episode, I sit down with Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, the founders of the Somatica Method and the two people who completely changed the way I understand intimacy, sex, and relationships. We talk about what Somatica actually is, why it feels so different from anything most of us have ever learned about intimacy, and why practicing connection in real time can be deeply transformative. This episode is personal for me. Somatica is the training that helped me become The Kink Consultant, and it reshaped how I show up in my body, my relationships, and my work. If you have ever felt stuck in your intimacy, overwhelmed by shame, or curious about a more embodied, human way to connect, this conversation gives you a real look at what is possible when everything is allowed to be talked about, explored, and met with care. Episode Highlights  00:00 What is Somatica? 11:03 Understanding Somatica Sessions 24:49 Understanding Core Wounds in Relationships 27:54 Application Process for Somatica Training 35:23 Virgin Island: A New TV Show 40:53 The Impact of Social Media on Intimacy Learn more about Somatica: https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ https://www.instagram.com/somatica_institute/ https://www.instagram.com/celesteanddanielleofficial/ Become a Certified Somatica Coach: https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ Use TKC250 to get $750 off! Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Order Playground Miracle Melts here! https://helloplayground.com/products/miracle-melts-hydrating-insert Connect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

    49 min

  5. 15 ENE

    Sex Crimes Prosecutor Turned Women’s Intimacy Coach - A Conversation with Rena Martine

    Let's talk about the thing no one wants to touch: DDLG, innocence play, and why "daddy" has become the internet's new favorite word.  In today’s episode, I sit down with Rena Martine, author and former sex crimes prosecutor turned women's intimacy coach, for one of the most honest conversations about taboo fantasies, shame, and reclaiming pleasure without apology. We dig into why powerful women crave submission, what innocence play actually means (spoiler: it's not what you think), how survivors sometimes use kink for healing, and why society will sell you slutty Halloween costumes but shame you for the desires behind them. This episode is permission-giving, unflinching, and absolutely necessary. If you've ever felt shame for wanting something "wrong," this conversation is your permission slip to want what you want. Episode Highlights:  00:00 Rena's Journey from Prosecutor to Intimacy Coach 15:15 Understanding DDLG and Age Play 28:37 Exploring Society's Double Standards 29:38 Privilege and Normalizing Taboo Discussions 31:09 Non-Monogamy and Societal Judgments 32:16 Polyamory and Public Perception 37:25 Kink Acceptance and Media Representation 42:54 Navigating DDLG Dynamics 47:48 Empowerment Through Kink Connect with Rena Martine https://www.renamartine.com/book https://www.instagram.com/_rena.martine_/ Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Order Playground Miracle Melts here! https://helloplayground.com/products/miracle-melts-hydrating-insert Connect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

    55 min

  6. 8 ENE

    Biohacking Your Orgasm with Susan Bratton

    You heard it here first: sex gets better as you age. Don’t believe me? Listen to this episode. I sit down with Susan Bratton, intimacy expert and sex educator, for a refreshing conversation about pleasure, confidence, and why desire does not have an expiration date. We talk about how so many people are taught to expect sex to fade over time, and why that belief is doing way more damage than aging ever could. Susan shares what actually helps couples stay curious, connected, and turned on long term, especially when shame and routine start creeping in. We also get into kink, power dynamics, and sexual longevity. Susan explains how confidence, embodiment, and caring for your body play a huge role in pleasure as you get older, and why performance-focused sex often gets in the way of real intimacy. This episode is permission-filled, honest, and surprisingly hopeful. If you want proof that your best sex might still be ahead of you, this conversation will absolutely change your mind. Episode Highlights:  00:00 Maintaining Sexual Health and Stamina 25:53 Embracing Confidence and Sexuality 27:43 Maintaining Sexual Health with Age 29:43 The Role of Nitric Oxide 30:48 The Benefits of Pumping 32:20 Advanced Treatments for Sexual Health 34:26 Red Light Therapy and Lubricants Connect with Susan Bratton https://betterlover.com https://getflowfree.com https://getglowbelow.com https://pumpingguide.com Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Connect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

    46 min

  7. 1 ENE

    Why Obsession Happens and Why Fighting It Makes It Worse with Kirsten Aut

    Being obsessed with someone can be so embarrassing. Frankly, you barely even know this person but somehow your brain has decided that this person is now the main character of your life. Been there, done that.  In this episode, I sit down with my coach, Kirsten Aut to talk about obsession in a way that feels honest, relatable, and way less shameful. We unpack why obsession happens, why trying to “just stop thinking about it” never works, and how desire, fantasy, and attachment get all tangled together when someone lights up your nervous system just enough to throw you off balance. If you have ever thought, “Why am I like this?” or caught yourself spiraling over someone you barely dated, this episode will make you feel seen, understood, and a lot less alone. Episode Highlights:  00:00 Understanding Obsession and Attachment 12:01 Realizations and Reflections on Obsession 27:20 Growth Mindset in Relationships 29:37 Navigating Modern Dating 35:01 Trusting Your Intuition 38:51 Manifestation and Personal Growth Connect with Kristen Aut https://www.newbadassyou.com/ https://www.instagram.com/thekristenaut/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thekristenaut Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Connect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

    52 min

  8. 25/12/2025

    5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight with Alesandra of Dom Sub Living

    Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals, playful punishment games, and emotional restraint with praise, you’ll find inspiration for any dynamic. Plus, don’t miss the 5-minute scene challenge! Ready to make your night unforgettable? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/ Connect with Alessandra https://domsubliving.com/ https://www.instagram.com/domsubliving/ https://www.tiktok.com/@domsubliving https://www.facebook.com/domsubliving https://www.youtube.com/@DomSubLiving?sub_confirmation=1 Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/ Get your FREE BDSM Checklist HEREhttps://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Connect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

    33 min
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Welcome to The Kink Consultant podcast, where we’re turning up the heat on all things kink in dating, relationships, and pop culture! Join Amanda each week as she dishes out the juiciest stories, expert advice, and shares a sneak peek behind the bedroom door—with some amazing guests along for the ride. Whether you're just a little kink-curious, ready to spice things up, or a seasoned pro, there's something here for you! Expect fun, laughter, and a whole lot of eye-opening conversations as we explore the wild world of intimacy, kink, and those oh-so-intriguing D/s dynamics.

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  • Creador
    Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant
  • Años de actividad
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodios
    72
  • Clasificación
    Explícito
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    © Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant
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