Toni and Tales

Toni and Tales with Toni

Some stories, you only tell in the dark. This is where we tell them out loud. Toni and Tales is a podcast about the things we carry quietly; love that cost too much, healing that took too long, and the complicated beauty of becoming. Hosted by Toni, each episode weaves her experiences with yours, because your story matters here too. New episodes every Tuesday. Pull up a seat. Be gentle with yourself.

  1. hace 9 h ·  Contenido extra

    What the Numbers Don't Lie About: Men, Silence & the Health Check Nobody's Booking

    Men are watching everything and processing nothing — and meanwhile, their blood pressure is unread, their stress is unnamed, and nobody around them thought to ask if they were okay. This week on Toni and Tales, I sit down with a nurse and close friend for a conversation that goes places most men's health content never does. We talk about what silence actually costs both emotionally and physically. About the men she grew up watching carry things they never named. About what she sees on the ward when a man finally can't say "I'm fine" anymore. About blood pressure, the silent killer that disproportionately affects Black and diaspora men — and why we don't catch it until it's already a crisis. This isn't a health lecture. It's an honest conversation about inherited silence, the weight of being the strong one, and what it takes — and what it costs — to finally say something out loud. For the men listening. For the women who love them. For anyone who's ever watched someone they care about disappear quietly into themselves. Got a tale of your own and want to share? Send it to heytoniandtales@gmail.com or slide into my DMs on Instagram @toniandtalespodcast. Toni and Tales with Toni — Be gentle with yourself.

    26 min

  2. 23 jun

    I Stayed Longer Than I Should Have

    Have you ever known something was wrong and stayed anyway? Not because you didn't feel it but because leaving meant losing. Losing the time, the history, the version of yourself that chose this in the first place. In this episode of Toni and Tales, we're getting into the uncomfortable truth about why we stay in relationships, in friendships long past the point we should have left. We talk about sunk cost, attachment, and the specific kind of friendship where someone talks you out of every plan they're quietly making for themselves. This one isn't about toxic people. It's about the very human reasons we keep investing in things that aren't working and what it actually takes to finally walk away. Featuring references to Women Who Love Too Much, Attached, and Set Boundaries, Find Peace. Two stories. Four honest lessons. No tidy endings. Got a tale of your own and want to share? Send it to heytoniandtales@gmail.com or slide into my DMs on Instagram @toniandtalespodcast

    25 min

  3. 16 jun

    Generational Trauma I Didn't Realize I Carried

    Generational trauma doesn't always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like going quiet for three days after an argument, like shutting down instead of speaking up, like realizing mid-conflict that you're doing the exact thing your mother used to do to your father. In this episode of Toni and Tales, we follow Elizabeth, a woman who thought she'd broken the cycle, until one sentence from her partner stopped her cold. We talk about the patterns we inherit without knowing it, the homes where love was real but the words for everything else were missing, and what it actually looks like to start unlearning what you were taught before you were old enough to question it. No dramatic ending. Just an honest conversation about the quiet things we carry. Got a tale of your own and want to share? Send it to heytoniandtales@gmail.com or slide into my DMs on Instagram @toni_and_tales.

    20 min

  4. 9 jun

    The Pressure to Be Strong

    What happens when the strong one finally runs out of strength? In this episode of Toni and Tales, we talk about emotional burnout, the firstborn experience, and the silent struggles of the person everyone depends on but nobody checks on. If you've ever been the reliable friend, the diaspora child who carries the family, or the one who holds everything together while quietly falling apart — this one is for you. We get into forced strength, people-pleasing, the strong Black woman myth, men's emotional health in African and Caribbean communities, and what it actually looks like to put some of it down. Got a tale of your own and want to share? Send it to heytoniandtales@gmail.com or slide into my DMs on Instagram @toni_and_tales.

    21 min

  5. 2 jun

    The Version of Me I Had to Kill to Grow.

    There was a version of me that would break things. Phones. Relationships. People who got too close. I thought that anger was strength. I thought it was personality. Until someone said something I couldn't unhear — "One day you will end up all alone, because everyone will be scared to show up for you." In this episode of Toni and Tales, we talk about identity shedding: the painful, necessary process of letting go of who you used to be so you can grow into who you're meant to become. We go into outgrowing people, habits, and environments that once felt like home. We talk about the grief of becoming, the loneliness of the in-between, and what it really means to leave an old version of yourself behind. But first, we pause because 81 Nigerian schoolchildren are in captivity right now. In May 2026, gunmen stormed schools in Oyo and Borno States, taking over 80 children and teachers in a single week. One teacher, Michael Oyedokun, a man who gave 21 years of his life to education was beheaded. This is not a distant headline. This is family. And the silence around it is something we all carry responsibility for. This episode holds both: the personal and the collective. The inner work and the world outside. Books mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score (Bessel van der Kolk) · Untamed (Glennon Doyle) · You Are a Badass (Jen Sincero) Share this episode. Say his name. Michael Oyedokun. And be gentle with yourself.

    23 min

  6. 26 may

    I Loved You More Than You Loved Me | Episode 3.

    Have you ever looked back at a relationship and realized: Oh. I was always giving more than I was getting? ​In this episode of Toni and Tales, we’re diving into the quietest kind of heartbreak: the exhaustion of loving someone harder than they love you back. We unpack why we mistake self-abandonment for devotion, how childhood or diaspora family dynamics condition us to accept silent sacrifice, and why your appetite for love was never the problem. ​What we’re sitting in today: ​The Overgiving Loop: Becoming an expert translator for someone's emotional unavailability.​The Cultural Layer: How immigrant, African, and Caribbean upbringing normalizes love as labor.​The Reckoning: Insights from bell hooks (All About Love) and Glennon Doyle (Untamed) on grieving unreturned love.​Reclaiming Reciprocity: Turning that fierce, patient love back inward. ​Wanting equal love isn’t needy instead it’s dignity. Someone not meeting you at your depth doesn't mean you're too deep; it just means they aren't a diver. ​Pull up a seat, be gentle with yourself, and let’s talk about the things we don't say out loud. ​Connect & Share Your Tale: Follow on Instagram @toni_and_tales to share your story, or send a DM/voice note to be featured on a future episode. ​If this touched your heart, please Follow the podcast, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend.

    20 min

  7. 18 may

    The Apology I Never Got

    Some of the heaviest things we carry aren't the hurt itself, they're the apology that never came. The acknowledgement that was withheld. The "I know what I did, and I'm sorry" we kept waiting to hear. In this episode of Toni and Tales, we sit inside that specific, unspoken grief: unresolved pain, closure that never arrived, and what it actually means to move forward when the person who hurt you never showed up to help you heal. We talk about why "I'm sorry you felt that way" is not an apology. Why unacknowledged hurt doesn't have an expiry date. And why healing, real healing doesn't require their participation. Referencing Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb, The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, and All About Love by Bell Hooks. Have a story? DM @toni_and_tales on Instagram or send it to heytoniandtales@gmail.com. Your voice might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

    17 min

  8. 9 may

    The Things We Don't Say Out Loud | Season 2 |Episode 1.

    Season 2 is finally here, and we’re starting with the conversations we usually keep hidden. In this episode of Toni and Tales, we explore the things we don’t say out loud: the fears, insecurities, silent expectations, heartbreak, loneliness, pressure, and thoughts many young adults carry privately. From relationships and self-worth to personal growth and emotional healing, this episode is an honest storytelling experience about the emotions we struggle to express. If you’ve ever smiled through pain, overthought late at night, or felt misunderstood without knowing how to explain it, this conversation is for you. Expect raw reflections, relatable moments, vulnerability, and comforting reminders that you are not alone in what you feel.

    19 min
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Some stories, you only tell in the dark. This is where we tell them out loud. Toni and Tales is a podcast about the things we carry quietly; love that cost too much, healing that took too long, and the complicated beauty of becoming. Hosted by Toni, each episode weaves her experiences with yours, because your story matters here too. New episodes every Tuesday. Pull up a seat. Be gentle with yourself.

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