Unblock Your BS

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Are you sick of the BS holding you back? "Unblock Your BS" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the b******t) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!

  1. "Why Now?" Why Did It Take Losing Me for You to Change?

    1 DAY AGO

    "Why Now?" Why Did It Take Losing Me for You to Change?

    Some women spend years trying to explain the same pain. Different wording. Different tone. Different timing. Eventually the tears stop. The conversations get shorter. The resentment gets quieter. And then one day she says she's done. That's usually when panic finally kicks in. In this episode, Tara breaks down one of the hardest questions men face once they start healing after separation or divorce: "Why did it take losing me for you to finally change?" And honestly? Most men answer that question from shame instead of truth. Because underneath the defensiveness… underneath the shutdown… underneath the "I never meant to hurt you" response… there's usually a nervous system that has spent decades learning how to survive, protect, avoid failure, avoid rejection, avoid feeling "not enough." So when a partner brings pain to the relationship, many men don't actually hear: "Please understand me." They hear: "You're failing." "You're broken." "You're not enough." "You're losing her." That's the moment survival mode takes over. This episode gets into the real mechanics underneath relationship breakdown: how shame blocks empathy, why emotional safety matters more than winning the argument, why validation is NOT the same thing as agreeing, …. and how unresolved childhood conditioning quietly shapes adult relationships. This episode also explains why so many couples stay stuck cycling the exact same conflict for years even while both people genuinely love each other. Because love isn't the issue most of the time. Dysregulation is. Inside this episode: Why defensiveness is usually a protection strategy The nervous system reason couples repeat the same fights Why women emotionally detach long before they physically leave What men misunderstand about validation How shame and low self-worth distort communication Why "fixing it" often pushes your partner further away The difference between emotional understanding vs emotional management What repair actually sounds like in real conversations Why change often doesn't happen until rock bottom There's also a really important conversation around grief in relationships. Not just grief after divorce. Grief inside the relationship. The grief of feeling unseen. The grief of carrying the emotional load alone. The grief of becoming a version of yourself you never wanted to be just to survive the relationship dynamic. And if you're the partner finally waking up to your patterns after things have already fallen apart… this episode will probably help you understand why your partner's resentment feels so intense right now. Not so you can defend yourself better. So you can stop defending long enough to actually hear her. If this episode hit for you and you're ready to stop repeating the same patterns, you can learn more about the Healthy Men-tality program in the links below. It's for men who are tired of white-knuckling relationships, shutting down emotionally, reacting from survival mode, or losing themselves trying to hold everything together. You don't need more surface-level communication tips. You need the skills, tools, and nervous system work to actually become emotionally safe for yourself and the people you love. If you wanna know more about the Healthy Men-tality Program, you can join my FREE TRAINING HERE Listen to more episodes of the Unblock Your BS podcast: http://unblockyourbs.com/podcast Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    39 min
  2. The Moment He Stopped Chasing Love He Couldn't Get

    13 MAY

    The Moment He Stopped Chasing Love He Couldn't Get

    Joey didn't walk into this expecting anything emotional. He thought he'd get a tactic. Maybe a business insight. Something useful he could apply. Instead, he ended up face to face with something he hadn't fully processed in years. His mom. She passed away when he was 23. He's 48 now. And somewhere along the way, without really realizing it, he'd been trying to recreate that connection. In relationships. In life. In the way he showed up. That's the part that stuck. Not the grief itself. The pattern underneath it. We talk about how that shows up in men more than they realize. The instinct to chase, to fix, to stay in motion instead of sitting still long enough to feel anything. And then what happens when you actually slow down. There's a moment in the session where he almost doesn't share what came up for him. You can hear it—the hesitation, the internal back and forth. He shares it anyway. Afterwards, people come up to him. Similar stories. Same kind of loss. Same thing they've been carrying quietly. That's kind of the thread through this whole episode. You don't think it matters to say it out loud. It does. We also get into: why most guys were trained early on that emotions = weakness how that conditioning sticks around way longer than you think what it actually feels like to let something out instead of suppress it and why the ability to receive—love, support, connection—is harder than it sounds Nothing about this is complicated. It's just unfamiliar. And if you've been staying busy, staying distracted, staying in control… this might be one of those conversations that makes you pause for a second. If this episode hits, you already know there's something you've been avoiding. Apply to come on the podcast and we'll talk it through: http://unblockyourbs.com/podcast Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    52 min
  3. What Men Get Wrong About Being a "Good Husband"

    6 MAY

    What Men Get Wrong About Being a "Good Husband"

    This episode is what transformation actually sounds like in real time. Not polished. Not filtered. Not "I've got it all figured out." Just honest. Glenn came into Healthy Men-tality in the middle of a brutal divorce after a 20+ year marriage that had slowly turned into disconnection, resentment, and survival mode. What he didn't realize at the time? He wasn't just leaving a relationship. He was leaving a version of himself. Inside this conversation, we unpack: How men get conditioned to tolerate unhealthy dynamics without realizing it The "boiling frog" effect in long-term relationships Why being the "provider" can disconnect you from your emotional life The hidden cost of people-pleasing and enabling The shift from chasing women → choosing peace What loneliness actually feels like when chaos is removed How self-awareness changes your standards permanently And maybe the most important piece: 👉 You don't find peace in a relationship. 👉 You bring peace into one. If you're going through a divorce, separation, or just questioning your relationship… This episode is your mirror. __________________________________________________________________________________ If you were nodding along the whole time… you already know where you're avoiding something. Come on the podcast, we'll coach through it together:  http://unblockyourbs.com/podcast __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    1hr 8min

  4. 29 APR

    Why You're Crushing It at Work but Losing Your Relationship

    You're successful… so why is your relationship falling apart? If you feel respected, valued, and confident in your career but disconnected, criticized, or unwanted at home… This episode will explain why. Inside this conversation, we break down the real root of "roommate marriages", and why traditional advice doesn't work What You'll Learn: Why your brain is wired to chase achievement over connection How dopamine addiction keeps you focused on work instead of your relationship The hidden reason presence and emotional intimacy feel uncomfortable Why you feel like you're "doing everything right"… but it's not landing How your identity as a provider is quietly sabotaging connection The 3 patterns men fall into when their partner pulls away: Defensiveness People-pleasing Avoidance Why trying to "fix her mood" is actually making things worse What it actually means to become an emotionally safe partner How to rebuild self-respect internally instead of chasing validation externally The Truth Most Men Miss: You're not failing because you don't care. You're struggling because: Your nervous system was never taught how to value what relationships require. And until that shifts… You'll keep winning in places that reward performance and losing in places that require presence. Ready to Fix This? If this episode hits you and you want to go deeper… Join my free training:  "From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuilding the Man" Inside, I break down: – Emotional safety (what it actually means) – How to regulate your nervous system – How to rebuild connection without losing yourself 👉 Sign up here 👈 Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    15 min
  5. She Said "I'm Done"… 3 Months Later, He Became a Different Man

    22 APR

    She Said "I'm Done"… 3 Months Later, He Became a Different Man

    She said she was done. No real explanation. Just "I'm unhappy." And everything Skippy thought was stable... wasn't. In this episode, Tara sits down with Healthy Men-tality member Skippy to talk through what the early stages of separation actually looked like, and how he went from full panic mode to something he hadn't felt in years: clarity. In this episode: Why trying harder often makes things worse The 30-day no-emotional-pressure reset and what it actually did How nervous system regulation stopped the spiral The childhood patterns that quietly wreck adult relationships What it looks like to stop fixing her and start leading yourself Skippy didn't save the marriage. But his kids started noticing a different man walking through the door. That's the shift. If this episode hit close to home: Tara runs a free 2-hour live training called From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuilding the Man, built specifically for men who are in the middle of this. Not advice. Not blame. Just clarity on why you react the way you do under pressure, why trying harder keeps backfiring, and what actually needs to change. It's the conversation no one had with you before things got to this point. 👉 Save your spot here: REGISTER HERE   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    34 min
  6. From the ER to Breath Work: What Unprocessed Grief Does to a Man's Body

    15 APR

    From the ER to Breath Work: What Unprocessed Grief Does to a Man's Body

    There's a moment when everything you thought was stable… isn't. Not slowly. Not with warning. Just… gone! That's where this conversation starts. Bill was married for 16 years. He thought they had normal problems. Manageable ones. Then one conversation changed everything. His wife asked for a divorce… and he found out she had already moved on. In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with listener Bill as he navigates the raw, real aftermath of being blindsided. This isn't a polished success story. This is what healing actually looks like in real time.   Inside this episode, we unpack: What happens when your nervous system goes into survival mode Why anxiety, panic, and even physical symptoms show up after emotional shock The hidden patterns most people miss in long-term relationships Why trying to "win them back" often pushes them further away The difference between guilt (growth) vs. shame (identity) What forgiveness actually looks like in practice—not theory How to stop replaying painful thoughts on repeat Why emotional regulation is the foundation for everything   Most people aren't reacting to the event… They're reacting to the meaning they've created around it. And until you learn how to regulate your nervous system and shift those internal patterns…  you'll keep reliving the same emotional experience,  just in different situations. If this episode hit for you: You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need a different way through it. Download the FREE 5-minute Breathwork   Learn more about Healthy Men-tality  Or explore breathwork inside Self Aware Army   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    1hr 7min
  7. Why She Sends TikToks Instead of Talking

    8 APR

    Why She Sends TikToks Instead of Talking

    If your partner is constantly sending you relationship content… and your first instinct is to feel annoyed, confused, or defensive… This episode is going to challenge that. Because what looks like a "TikTok problem"… is usually a communication and emotional safety problem. Inside this solo episode, we break down what's actually happening when someone avoids direct communication, and how your response might be reinforcing the very cycle you're frustrated with. In this episode, we cover: Why sending TikToks is often a safer form of communication How social media algorithms reinforce emotional patterns The difference between symptoms vs. root problems in relationships Why defensiveness shuts down emotional safety instantly How to shift from reactivity → curiosity What emotional safety actually looks like in practice The role of childhood wounds in adult relationship dynamics Why labeling your partner (or being labeled) keeps you stuck How to take ownership without taking all the blame This episode will help you stop pointing fingers… and start understanding what's really going on beneath the surface. If you're realizing you don't have the tools to navigate this… you're not broken, you were just never taught. If you want to become the kind of man who: Stays calm instead of reactive Knows how to communicate without shutting down or blowing up Creates emotional safety in your relationship That's exactly what we work on inside Healthy Men-tality. 👉 You can apply here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen Or DM me the word HEAL on Instagram or TikTok No pressure, just a conversation to see what support makes sense for you. Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen  Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    22 min
  8. Men Don't Have to Get Screwed in Divorce (Here's the Playbook)

    1 APR

    Men Don't Have to Get Screwed in Divorce (Here's the Playbook)

    Most people don't go into marriage expecting it to end. And when it does… they don't have a roadmap. If you're a man facing divorce, you've probably heard the same story on repeat: You'll lose your money. You'll lose your kids. The system is rigged against you. But what if most of that is just noise? In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, to break down what actually happens in divorce, and how to navigate it without destroying your finances, your relationship with your kids, or yourself. Joe has spent 17+ years helping couples avoid courtroom battles and unnecessary chaos. He also lived through a highly contentious divorce as a child, which shaped the way he approaches this work today. We get into: Why divorce becomes a financial and emotional war zone The biggest myths men believe (and what's actually true) How mediation works—and when it doesn't What you can do right now to protect your time, money, and future And where this conversation really lands… is in how you approach the process. Because most people are making decisions way too early,  based on eмоtion, assumptions, or incomplete information. One of the biggest shifts Joe shares is simple: do the discovery before the deciding. Don't agree to anything until you actually understand what you're working with. We also unpack: Why the "system is rigged" narrative isn't the full story What 50/50 parenting actually looks like in real life (and where most men get it wrong) What child support really is (and why it's often misunderstood) How to build a parenting plan that doesn't fall apart What actually damages kids during divorce… so you don't make it worse.  Key Takeaways Divorce isn't just emotional—it's a negotiation Most conflict is driven by fear, control, and miscommunication Child support is shared responsibility, not punishment Parenting doesn't stop when it's "not your day" Your kids didn't ask for this… protect them from the fallout If this episode hit for you: 👉 Want to stop reacting and start responding? Download my free 5-minute breathwork session 👉 Want support around relationships, emotional regulation, and rebuilding? Join the Self Aware Army 👉 Ready for deeper work? Apply for 1:1 coaching About Our Guest: Joe Dillon is the co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, where he and his wife Cheryl (a divorce coach) help couples divorce without lawyers. Joe has an MBA in Finance and combines that financial expertise with deep personal experience—he is the child of a litigated divorce that left scars. Over the past 17 years, Joe has helped hundreds of couples avoid the courtroom nightmare and walk away with agreements that actually work. His approach is tactical, financial, and refreshingly honest. He practices in six states: Washington, California, Illinois, New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania.   Connect with Joe Dillon: You can find Joe and access free resources, courses, and consultation options at Equitable Mediation Services. He is also active on social media where he shares divorce and co-parenting advice: Instagram:@equitablemediation Facebook:Equitable Mediation YouTube:@Equitablemediation LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephfdillon/ Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    51 min
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Are you sick of the BS holding you back? "Unblock Your BS" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the b******t) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!

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    Coach Tara
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    2025 - 2026
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