Unwineding

Like you're on FaceTime with your best friend. Every Tuesday, hosted by Lisa Gilmore.

  1. 3 days ago

    smart women have really smart inner critics (& that's the problem)

    Note to self: your brain can make an incredible argument... and still be completely wrong. If you're analytical, ambitious, self-aware, and constantly trying to grow, your inner critic probably doesn't sound irrational. It sounds thoughtful. It cites evidence. It notices patterns. It builds compelling arguments for why you're behind, not good enough, or should play it safe. And that's EXACTLY what makes it so dangerous. It's just us this week & we're talking about why smart women often have really smart inner critics, how our intelligence gets weaponized against us, and the life-changing realization that intelligence and truth are not the same thing. We also get into:• why your inner critic sounds so convincing• the difference between facts and interpretations• how fear recruits your intelligence to keep you safe• why anxiety loves finding "evidence"• the questions I ask myself when my inner critic takes over• how to stop mistaking eloquence for truth As always, I hope there was something in here you needed. Take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on Substack follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. 28 Jul

    how ambitious women build businesses, friendships, & self-trust ft. Bailey Stanworth

    Some episodes leave you wanting to call your best friend. This is one of them. This week, I'm Unwineding with my beautiful friend Bailey Stanworth, founder of Quickies—the award-winning press-on nail brand recently named Cosmopolitan's #1 Press-On Nail Brand AND winner of a 2026 Cosmopolitan Holy Grail Beauty Award (no big deal!!!!). We talk about what it really takes to build a business from the ground up, knowing when to pivot, trusting yourself before you have all the answers, and the hidden cost of ambition. Then we take a sharp left into one of my favorite topics: female friendship. From making meaningful friends as an adult to navigating friendship shifts, jealousy, conflict, and becoming the kind of woman who attracts incredible people into her life. We also get into: • the story behind Quickies• knowing when to make a career pivot• self-trust & confidence• the hidden cost of ambition• female friendship & community• navigating friendship breakups• long-distance friendships• eating disorder recovery• healing your relationship with yourself• learning to forgive yourself• why your 30s really are better than your 20s And so much more. As always, I hope there was something in here you needed. Take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Bailey on Instagram follow Quickies on Instagram shop Quickies follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. 14 Jul

    the relationship advice that will change how you love ft. Dr. Tara

    We spend so much time thinking about how to find the right person—but not nearly enough time learning how to build a relationship that actually lasts. This week, I'm joined by relationship psychologist and sex expert Dr. Tara, PhD to unpack what happy couples do differently, the biggest mistakes that slowly erode relationships, and why lasting love has far less to do with chemistry than most people think. We also talk about why dating feels so hard right now, how to keep the spark alive in long-term relationships, emotional safety, shame around sex, and the habits that create deeper intimacy over time. In this episode, we cover: why modern dating feels so difficult the biggest mistakes couples make (& how to fix it) what happy, healthy couples do differently how to build a relationship that lasts why couples lose the spark (& tangible ways to get it back) emotional safety (what even is it?) and lasting intimacy how shame affects our relationships and sex lives the difference between chemistry and compatibility practical ways to create healthier, stronger relationships As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Thank you so much to Quince for sponsoring today's episode! I'm obsessed, we know. Elevate your summer wardrobe at quince.com/unwineding. (Also peep the cardigan I keep telling you about on my IG, right here). SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. 30 Jun

    the psychology of building your dream life ft. Olivia Rose Thomas

    You cannot build an extraordinary life with ordinary beliefs. And your future is shaped by the beliefs you repeat, not the dreams you keep. So let's make sure our beliefs are ON POINT, shall we? This week, I'm joined by Olivia Rose Thomas to unpack the psychology behind self-concept, limiting beliefs, fear of being seen, and why so many of us keep playing smaller than we're capable of. We talk about how your subconscious beliefs shape your decisions, why your nervous system resists change (even when it's good for you), and the practical tools that can help you stop waiting, start trusting yourself, and finally go after the life you've been imagining. We get into: why your brain is wired to keep you safe, not fulfilled the fear of being seen and why visibility feels so uncomfortable self-concept and how it shapes every area of your life breaking free from limiting beliefs why perfectionism is keeping you stuck how to regulate your nervous system when you're chasing bigger goals becoming the version of yourself your future is asking for & so much more. I hope you love this episode as much as I did and as always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x Thank you so much to Quince for sponsoring this episode! Elevate your summer wardrobe at: quince.com/unwineding (I just got this beautiful Ribbed Midi Dress in brown and OMG, stalk it here). SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Olivia on Instagram work with Olivia follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. 28 Jun

    the relationship advice every high-achieving woman needs ft. Kaela Ason

    Hi ladiesss! This week, I'm joined by therapist Kaela Ason for a conversation that felt like therapy for every high-achieving woman who's ever overthought a text, treated dating like a checklist, or wondered why relationships can feel so much harder than everything else she's accomplished. We talk about why so many successful women struggle in relationships, why we get attached to people we barely know, and how anxiety can make us focus on being chosen instead of doing the choosing ourselves. Kaela breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, discernment and self-sabotage, and why so many of us intellectualize our feelings instead of actually letting ourselves feel them. We also get into people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-trust, and why having your life together doesn't necessarily make relationships feel easier. We talk:• why high-achieving women tend to overthink relationships• getting attached to people we barely know• treating dating like a checklist instead of asking how we actually feel• anxiety vs. intuition (& how to tell the difference)• discernment vs. self-sabotage• why people-pleasing shows up so often in dating• learning to trust yourself, even when relationships don't work out• trying to be chosen instead of doing the choosing• why successful women can struggle with relationships and vulnerability• perfectionism, self-worth, and the pressure to always have it all together• confusing peace with boredom and chemistry with chaos• building self-trust and learning to feel safe in healthy relationships & so much more. As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Thank you so much to Quince for sponsoring this week's episode! Elevate your summer wardrobe at: quince.com/unwineding (the 100% Linen Pants are everything). SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Kaela on Instagram follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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