This Year I Turn 40

TJ Hendrix

This is a podcast about the journey to 40. In lieu of having an epic 40th birthday party, I’m embarking on a journey to learn what it means to be 40 and how to make this next decade the best one so far. Each week I will feature a guest or two to explore a new topic. Like what you heard or have something to add? Click on the message link to send me a voice memo or email me at thisyeariturn40@gmail.com and be sure to follow the show on Social Media for special announcements and bonus content.

  1. Community is...

    11/08/2021

    Community is...

    This week I talk to my friend and MILS-Sister (Military Spouse-Sister) Meg Kelvington. During the pandemic, between her leadership and determination to keep us Christ-centered and sane, and my determination to keep us jubilant and maybe slightly tipsy, she and I worked our magic to keep the heart and soul of our community vibrant. While much of our community-building efforts began before the shutdown in 2020, I feel, as a community, we were our best during the pandemic and this has motivated me to cultivate the same sense of community in every lived-in space I have going forward.  As I get older, I find that community where one LIVES is so important. We don’t always have to go out to find a sense of belonging and although it may seem hard at first, it is possible to cultivate a sense of belonging and togetherness in heterogeneous communities. Listen as she and I share our community stories and provide advice from our lived experiences on how to create a community where it is needed most, in our neighborhoods. About this week’s guest: I'm kicking myself for this because during the episode I fail to really capture what a badass Meg is. Please forgive me! Meg flew helicopters, planes and deployed to Afghanistan. Now she uses her Army leadership experience to coach others through her company "Riveting Mission LLC" while being an Army Wife and mother to 4 young children. She grew up in an Army family with both her mother and father being West Point graduates. She joined the family business and graduated from the United States Military Academy in 2006. After graduating from flight school in 2008, qualified in both the Blackhawk helicopter and RC-12 Guardrail airplane, she was stationed at Hunter Army Airfield. She then deployed to Afghanistan and flew over 200 combat hours. After additional schooling, she went on to the 82nd Airborne Division and 1st Corps before leaving the Army to focus on her family and pursue coaching and mentoring. She has done work with Team Red White and Blue, Wear Blue: Run to Remember, and led groups in her local church. She and her husband, Mike, have four children, McKinley (9), Madison (8), “Mac” Arthur (5), and Moriah (2). Find her at riveting.mission@gmail.com and on Facebook @RivetingMissionLLC and Instagram @riveting.mission.llc She runs a Monday morning virtual group that shares a short Bible-based message and then does a workout together called "Fit To Serve." You can find details on Facebook or email her for more info. During the show, we mention some resources that are great for women and people in general. Find links to them all below. Breathe By Priscilla Shirer (here's an intro video too)  The Turquoise Table by Kristin Schell - We didn't talk about this during the recording but she shared it with me after. It seems like a great place to start with building community in heterogeneous spaces.  She Reads Truth Podcast  The Green Plate by Jill Connett - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6681123-the-green-plate

    1h 21m
  2. Perfectionism is...

    14/07/2021

    Perfectionism is...

    Perfectionism is... the stuff of victory and defeat. Best case scenario, our perfectionist habits propel us forward in our careers and talents and we make amazing contributions to our fields. Worst case scenario, these habits drive us crazy and lead us down paths that can be harmful for ourselves and others. My guest today is Susan Warren. She is back with us (she was also featured on episode 9, Acceptance is...) to lend her counseling and therapy knowledge to this topic.  To learn more about the data and other research shared during this episode you can view the links below. Susan is thorough for sure!  DiMaggio et al. 2018- https://psychotherapy.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.psychotherapy.2015.69.3.317 - overview and general education on perfectionism. Dimaggio et al. 2018- https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0010440X18300555?via%3Dihub - perfectionism within personality traits Elion et al. 2012- https://www.researchgate.net/publication/221809957_Perfectionism_in_African_American_Students_Relationship_to_Racial_Identity_GPA_Self-Esteem_and_Depression Nilsson et al. 2008- https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Johanna-Nilsson-8/publication/264649661_The_Relationships_Among_Perfectionism_Acculturation_and_Stress_in_Asian_International_Students/links/5e1a11c492851c8364c626bb/The-Relationships-Among-Perfectionism-Acculturation-and-Stress-in-Asian-International-Students.pdf Castro et al. 2003 https://www.researchgate.net/publication/10847633_Perfectionism_and_ethnicity_Implications_for_depressive_symptoms_and_self-reported_academic_achievement Bieling et al. 2004 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886903002356 Maladaptive versus adaptive perfectionism. Periasamy 2002- https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J035v17n02_06 As always, the music for this show is from the very talented Penn Davis. Check out his Instagram Page. The official art for the show is from the very talented Michaela Perkins. Check out the social media pages! I'm on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram all as @thisyeariturn40.

    1h 15m
  3. Love is....Part Two

    30/06/2021

    Love is....Part Two

    Did you have a great PRIDE weekend?!?! I hope so! Wrapping up our month of Love is this episode featuring two couples, a lesbian and a gay couple. I enjoyed learning their union origin stories (they are very similar or else I really am getting to be too old!) and how they maintain health and balance in their relationships. Spoiler alert!! Communication was number one on both couples' lists.  I want to thank my guests Auna and Jennifer and Reginald and Robert for taking time out to indulge me for this episode. I had fun talking to and catching up with them. I also encourage you to check out the resource links at the bottom of the episode notes. Some are mentioned in the episode.  Knowledge is power and ignorance creates fear. Power up y'all!  Resource Links:  Article about the White Horse Inn in Cali: https://www.grubstreet.com/2013/05/white-horse-inn-oakland-berkeley-oldest-gay-bar.html Web Page for Lafittes in Exile in Louisiana: https://www.lafittes.com/about2 Unfortunately, I had to rely on Wikipedia for information about the oldest gay establishments in the country. Here are two articles I found, but I can't swear the info is all true.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_bar#:~:text=Cafe%20Lafitte%20in%20Exile%20in,bar%20in%20the%20United%20States. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Horse_Inn_(Oakland,_California) OutRight International is an LGBTQIA+ Rights Advocacy Organization: https://outrightinternational.org/content/acronyms-explained As always, the music for this show is from the very talented Penn Davis. Check out his Instagram Page. The official art for the show is from the very talented Michaela Perkins. Check out the social media pages! I'm on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram all as @thisyeariturn40.

    1h 32m

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This is a podcast about the journey to 40. In lieu of having an epic 40th birthday party, I’m embarking on a journey to learn what it means to be 40 and how to make this next decade the best one so far. Each week I will feature a guest or two to explore a new topic. Like what you heard or have something to add? Click on the message link to send me a voice memo or email me at thisyeariturn40@gmail.com and be sure to follow the show on Social Media for special announcements and bonus content.