Modern Love

The New York Times

For more than 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

  1. Lindy West Thought She Couldn’t Handle Polyamory. She Was Wrong.

    2 DAYS AGO

    Lindy West Thought She Couldn’t Handle Polyamory. She Was Wrong.

    When she was growing up, the writer Lindy West was bombarded with negative messages about being fat. The whole world seemed to think she didn’t deserve love unless she lost weight. In her first book, “Shrill,” West wrote about how hard it was to combat fatphobia within herself, in society and on the internet, where she was attacked by some particularly vicious trolls. By the end of the book, West had found confidence in herself. She also got married to the love of her life. Now, West is opening up about a conflict that was built into her marriage from the start: She wanted to be monogamous. Her husband, Aham, did not. To make Aham happy, West agreed that he could see other people, but she was terrified of what would happen to her self-esteem if he ever acted on it.  This week on “Modern Love,” West talks about what happened when Aham started seriously dating someone else. Once this new girlfriend entered the picture, it forced West to rethink her feelings about her marriage, and about herself. On the other side of all that tough emotional work, she was surprised to discover a new kind of joy.  Lindy West’s latest book, “Adult Braces: Driving Myself Sane,” comes out March 10. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    51 min
  2. Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    27 FEB · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    A racy show about a romance between male hockey players was not an obvious candidate for me to bond with my 89-year-old father. Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "How ‘Heated Rivalry’ Thawed the Chill Between My Father and Me" written by David Samuel Levinson.

    11 min
  3. I Didn’t Want to Have Kids. My Husband Did. Could Our Marriage Survive?

    25 FEB

    I Didn’t Want to Have Kids. My Husband Did. Could Our Marriage Survive?

    When Helena de Groot was a child, she pictured an exciting future for herself: living in a big city, getting an apartment with lots of plants, having a creative job and going dancing on the weekends. She never saw becoming a mother as part of that future. When people asked, she told them she didn’t want children. As she grew up, got married and watched her friends become parents, she stood by that decision. But, deep down, she had doubts. The question of whether she was making the right decision for the right reasons consumed Helena’s thinking, and had profound implications for her life and marriage. This week on the “Modern Love” podcast, she discusses how she navigated uncertainty, how it changed her life and how she imagined her future. Helena de Groot’s podcast about her experience, “Creation Myth,” is available from the CBC.  How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    53 min
  4. Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    20 FEB · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    When my husband collapsed in our bedroom, it was the nightmare I had long feared, coming true. Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "You’re My Wife. You’re My Life.’" written by Stefanie Gunning.

    10 min
  5. What Happened When My Dad and I Came Out to Each Other

    18 FEB • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    What Happened When My Dad and I Came Out to Each Other

    Julia Stoller loved her dad. But she never wanted to be him. He was a rule follower, he was so serious, and he was so straight. Then, when Julia was in her 20s, she got a phone call that completely changed her idea of who her father was. And as he opened up to her, sharing secrets he had been holding onto for decades, she was finally able to open up to him, too. This week on “Modern Love,” Anna talks to Julia about what happened when she had to get to know a whole new version of her dad, and what she learned about herself in the process. You can read Julia’s original story in the Modern Love column. We Want to Hear From You Email us at modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay. Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    38 min
  6. Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    13 FEB · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    When you can’t agree on the right city to live in, home can be more hell than haven. Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "I Had Buyer’s Remorse. It Almost Ended My Marriage" written by Jackie Delamatre.

    10 min
  7. The Secret to True Romance

    11 FEB • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    The Secret to True Romance

    Recently, the “Modern Love” team asked you to share stories about the most romantic things that have ever happened to you. What struck us about your stories was how frequently romance was found in quiet, everyday actions: rubbing your loved one’s feet, paying the bill, changing a flat tire, eating dinner together on the porch. This week, in celebration of Valentine’s Day, we hear stories that remind us all how simple love can be.  Then, we speak to the king and queen of Valentine's Day. For 30 years, Lonnie Anderson has made giant, over-the-top valentines for his wife, Anne Bolger Witherspoon, and has become a local legend in Albuquerque for doing so. The two tell us why Lonnie goes to the extraordinary lengths he does, and what it feels like for Anne to receive these extravagant, very public valentines.  Find photos of Lonnie’s valentines here. How to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    39 min
  8. Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    6 FEB · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Exclusive: This Week’s Modern Love Essay

    I had set my bar for relationships so low that any man who didn’t yell easily cleared it. Every Friday, subscribers to the New York Times can access the latest Modern Love column read aloud. The Modern Love Podcast publishes full-length episodes every Wednesday. This week’s essay is "Seeking a Man Who Doesn’t Throw Tantrums" written by Denise Mills.

    10 min
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For more than 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast. Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

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