a thing we’re trying

a thing we’re trying

Two friends who met in an online community while experiencing burnout; figuring out how to live in a way that feels safe, sustainable, and fun. It may not always look the way we’ve been told it’s ‘supposed to’ but we’re not the type to go through the motions or always do what we’re told. We know following our own path and going at our own pace is not always aesthetic, but we think it’s worth it. This is a space for exploring the edges of our comfort zones through trial & error. Follow along as we try things and share our experiences in hopes that we can all find our way together.

  1. 25/10/2023

    Authentically Sharing

    Authentically Sharing Hosted by Jessica Sage and Michelle Zaylar If you look around today’s world, you’ll notice there are people sharing everywhere! Whether it’s someone sharing all their juicy relationship drama on the J train, someone sharing a family recipe in a TikTok, or someone oversharing in the office, people are sharing more than ever! As listeners and bystanders, we may have judgments that people share too much or don’t speak up enough, but the ‘what, where, and when’ of sharing is a very personal choice!! Like all things, there are pros and cons to sharing. On one hand, the benefits are a sense of connection, being seen, heard, understood, spreading awareness, etc. On the other hand, sharing can be uncomfortable, risky and hold consequences we’re not always ready for.  Join us in this episode as we explore what it means to Authentically Share. We’ll uncover clues into how we share and with who, and we’ll also start to question our intentions and motives behind our sharing, both online and in real life! One teaser we’ll give in favor of safety reasons, please stop ‘checking in’ or sharing your location on social media apps. No one on the internet needs to be able to track your whereabouts in real time, just saying 🤷🏻 Episode Highlights: > finding the balance between sharing and oversharing > acknowledging the real risks of sharing, being vulnerable, speaking up and out for ourselves and others > learning to be more intentional of who we’re sharing what with > importance of asking if someone has space to hear our shares > practicing the pause, grounding down and checking in with our intentions and impact before sharing with others Reflection Questions/Prompts: > What’s the intention behind this share and what impact I’m intending to have? > Take inventory of who you’re sharing with! Who are they? Which topics do you feel comfortable sharing with them? What topics do you feel uncomfortable sharing with them? Notice how they respond to your shares; this can help you discern who’s best to share with! Resources Mentioned: > Lisa Nichols – Interview> Dani Driusso – Social Media Consent

    49 min
  2. 11/10/2023

    Cultivating Consistency

    Cultivating Consistency  Hosted by Jessica Sage and Michelle Zaylar Do you find it easy to be consistent when it’s something you enjoy doing? Do you want to be consistent with something but after a few days you’re over it? Do you feel like you’re a failure or falling short if you’re not consistent? Maybe your relationship to consistency is a mix of all of the above. Ours sure is! In this episode, we take you on a journey with us to discover what consistency could be like if we removed the ideas of pressure or 'enoughness', being a robot, or doing it all alone. Join us for a fun chat that covers everything from pudding, to cement, to habit stacking. And who knows, throughout this process, maybe you’ll even find a new word for consistency altogether - while still honoring the essence of why everyone seems to talk about it so much in the first place. Episode Highlights: > the importance of defining (and redefining) the term consistency and what it really means and looks like for us > learning to be consistent in a way that is sustainable for our lifestyles, energy, capacities, and current season of life > applesauce and pudding, mud and water, cement and sand > why cultivating consistency is important to the embodiment of our goals, values, and new ways of being and feeling > how it can be easier to cultivate consistency when we have support from our friends, loved ones and/or mentors Reflection Questions/Prompts: 1. What does consistency look like in this season of my life? What do I have energy for? What do I have capacity for? 2. Why do you want to be consistent with XYZ? What will it do for you? How will you feel?  3. Who can I trust to share my consistency journey with? Resources Mentioned: - Atomic Habits by James Clear

    41 min
  3. 27/09/2023

    Pausing in the Transitions

    Pausing in the Transitions Hosted by Jessica Sage and Michelle Zaylar How often are you transitioning throughout your day? Do you even notice all the little shifts? Slowing down, practicing awareness and acknowledging the transitions we go through on a daily basis is a pretty new concept for us and if it’s new to you, too welcome to the party!   & if you’re a pro, we’d love to hear about it! During this episode we discuss transitions on a micro and macro level, from moments to seasons, and explore how to build some awareness around them. We believe that by building this awareness, we can truly be present in the different areas of our lives ✨Imagine the difference it might make if you gave yourself a moment to switch tasks in an intentional way, instead of rushing from one thing to the next like the Energizer Bunny 🐰⚡️ What if you could take the space you need, or might not even realize you need, to show up as your best or truest self in all areas? Maybe dream a little, if you could pause time when switching and take as much as you needed, what would you do in that time? What might it feel like? Episode Highlights: > examples of transitions, big and small > creating routines to help with the transitions throughout the day > different ways we each have related to and managed transitions in the past > the opportunities we see in practicing the pause in transitions Reflection Questions/Prompts: > Start to notice all the transitions within your days, weeks, months > Take a few moments throughout the day to look around the room to remind yourself where you’re at & maybe allow yourself to stretch, shimmy, take a deep breath, let out a sigh Resources Mentioned: Creative Differences The Miracle Morning @britchida

    46 min
  4. 13/09/2023

    Making Friends

    Making Friends Hosted by Jessica Sage and Michelle Zaylar Can you remember a time before ‘weird’ behavior? Back when you were so young that you just did what you did and liked what you liked, and the kids who were into that stuff too - well they just sort of joined in and voila! friendship. Some lasted minutes, others years, but at the start… mostly it was simple, easy, and fun - wasn’t it? We know not everyone might have a memory of easy breezy childhood friendship, but these days, in our ‘adulthood’ (see ep. 8 for our thoughts on adulting) it’s likely that many more of us are (understandably) nervous when meeting new people. It’s even more likely, because bullies, trauma, etc. that we might be a bit more hesitant to let our freak flag be seen when trying to fit in or be liked. In this episode we discuss navigating the wonderful world of adult friend-making. We hope you’ll take some comfort in knowing that if this is tough for you, you’re not alone. We also hope that by the end of this convo, you’ll feel a bit more space to share yourself authentically, even if it’s just being 5% weirder, or 5% more you, wherever you can. Cause let’s face it, who wants to go for another round of small talk with any more normies??? And don’t worry, if it’s been YEARS since you even tried to make a new friend, we’ve included some great tips and resources that we’re trying as well, in case you could use a more tangible place to start. Episode highlights: > a brief intro into our own experiences around making friends as adults > answering the question of why bother when this can be awkward and challenging endeavor > considering the type of people and friendships we want to engage with > where do we make friends now that we don’t have the environmental support we did as kids > comparing and contrasting how making friends can feel a lot like dating > why it’s important to have values-based convos with the people you’re making friends with Reflections/Invitations > What challenges have you faced when making friends as an adult? > The Liking Gap states that we believe people like us less than they actually do! With this information, how can you lean into the mindset that you are so much more likable than you think you are and people do actually like you and want to be friends with you! > Muster up the courage to be silly and say weird thing(s). How to Connect with Us: www.instagram.com/athingweretrying/athingweretrying@gmail.com Join our email list for monthly newsletters, updates, exclusive prompts and more! https://subscribepage.io/wiGptx Resources Mentioned: > Esther Perel, Psychotherapist focusing on relational work. Find her work on Instagram > Dr. Marisa G Franco, author of Platonic - How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends. You can also find her work on Instagram!

    50 min

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Two friends who met in an online community while experiencing burnout; figuring out how to live in a way that feels safe, sustainable, and fun. It may not always look the way we’ve been told it’s ‘supposed to’ but we’re not the type to go through the motions or always do what we’re told. We know following our own path and going at our own pace is not always aesthetic, but we think it’s worth it. This is a space for exploring the edges of our comfort zones through trial & error. Follow along as we try things and share our experiences in hopes that we can all find our way together.