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Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Cultivating H.E.R. Space
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In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

  1. 59 MIN AGO

    S27E9: Putting the Cape Down with Dr. Raquel Martin

    Hey lady! As many of you know a healing journey is more than face masks and bubble baths. It’s a deeply personal cultivation of all of your life’s experiences and the tools you’ve picked up along the way. It’s the way you find yourself to wholeness and build a life of meaning and fulfillment and it is hard and cyclical and takes effort. It takes real courage to get into the insides of yourself and choose to grow, but it’s possible and it’s worth it. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri invite Dr. Raquel Martin, a licensed clinical psychologist and host of the Mind Your Mental podcast, to discuss the rigorous path to living a healed life and the enrichment and reward of finding a path that works for you. Mental health and therapy are buzzy right now but those words are more than a passing fad. Dr. Raquel offers a unique perspective via straight talk to illuminate how people can find a path to mental wellness that feels authentic for them. Sometimes that may be boundaries, sometimes that means finding a mental health professional to work with, but all of the time it requires divorcing our thoughts from the patriarchal and colonial constructs that we use to build our realities. Babygirl, that is neither easy nor is it quick work but it is necessary for lasting change. Wise words were once spoken that it all starts with looking ourselves in the mirror. When we begin to do the tough work of having honest conversations with ourselves, being real about our needs and untangling the deep wounding we have as a people we can begin to see more light in our lives so that we can be the light out in this world.  Dr. Raquel may not be accepting clients but if you are ready to amplify your healing with support book a consultation with Dr. Dom or check our resources below for the right option for you! We love you for real, lady. Keep thriving! Quote of the Day: "You deserve rest that actually restores you, not just pauses you."  – Dr. Raquel Martin   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Dr. Raquel Martin: Website: Martin Psychological Services Podcast: Mind Your Mental Instagram: @raquelmartinphd LinkedIn: Dr. Raquel Martin, PhD. Facebook: RaquelMartinPhD YouTube: @RaquelMartinPhD TikTok: @raquelmartinphd   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

    59 min

  2. 22 AUG

    S27E8: The Feedback Loop: Parents, Kids, and Hard Truths

    Hey lady! This week, Terri and Dr. Dom tackle a potentially touchy topic – feedback, and the equally touchy topic of how to give it and how to receive it. After listening to this episode, you will be armed with tools for your personal toolkit so that you walk through life with grace, class and style. As each day turns the necessity of having a strong community to lean on becomes ever more present. Community isn’t a fantasy of make-believe relationships, it’s network of relationships built over time through authenticity, communication, skills, and trust. Without those elements living with other humans and their thoughts and behaviors can become difficult. There are strategies you can use when presented with an opportunity to grow via feedback and with practice you can become a person that maintains your sovereignty while being a strong communicator. So, how do you develop and strengthen the muscle of giving and receiving feedback? How does one cultivate a healthy relationship with offering perspective in a way that is constructive and supportive?  Dr. Dom and Terri offer a selection of common scenarios with actionable steps in how to engage with the other person skillfully. Knowing how to process feedback and how to implement or disagree is a key step in growing yourself in authenticity and in community.  Interested in customizing your toolkit in a way that feels real to you? Head to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop and grab a journal and think through your action plan. We’d love to hear from you about how you’re going to make receiving feedback a strength of yours. Holla at us in our Patreon and let us know how you handle difficult conversations and constructive criticism.  Quote of the Day: "Feedback is a gift — and it’s okay to unwrap it slowly."  – Unknown   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

    55 min

  3. 15 AUG

    S27E7: Consistency Without Burnout: Sticking With It When Progress Feels Slow

    Hey lady! This week, Terri and Dr. Dom give you a peek behind the curtain of how they leverage consistency to bring you this fresh content each week! In a world full of dreamers, it is the ones who act on those dreams that reap the rewards. Consistency is a tool to help you meet your goals. With repeated, consistent actions it is possible to form the habits that design the life of your dreams. Dr. Dom and Terri offer frameworks and reflection questions to help you gain clarity on what you need to tailor a plan for yourself so you are operating from a place of the best possible outcome instead of perfection. Do you need to automate some of your processes? Have you established a system for yourself? Where is your support and who can you call on when you need some upliftment in your journey? Let this week be a guide to different methods that can help you think through an action plan that will keep your cup full (overfloweth even) because you found what works for your life and your nervous system. Ladies, we know with all of our busy lives and this fast-paced world it takes a bit more thought and intention to get the life you’ve been dreaming of, but hold on tight to your vision and let this episode inspire you to build the discipline to make it happen!  Quote of the Day: "Consistency isn't about perfection...it's about making small, regular efforts over time." – Unknown   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

    55 min

  4. 8 AUG

    S27E6: Soft Structure: Building a Routine That Honors Your Current Season in Life

    Hey lady! On the road to building the soft life of your dreams you’ll need to incorporate systems to keep that soft life moving authentically and with ease. Often, we’re taught that lives that feel good and easy come with hard work and while that is one way to do it there are ways to build routines and life processes that make life smooth and add joy. After all life is not about the end goal. The journey matters as much as the destination and to make that journey easier Dr. Dom and Terri have a comprehensive list of actionable strategies you can implement into your life incrementally to create a structure that is manageable and dare we say it, fun?! As with anything, take what you need and discard the rest. You’ll want to tune into Patreon for the Aftershow. Terri and Dr. Dom offer seven journal prompts that can help you customize routines that provide soft structure and help you move intentionally towards your best, most fulfilled life of your dreams.  Quote of the Day: "When you can and as you can, in ways that feel loving, make time and space for yourself”  – Tracee Ellis Ross   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

    50 min

  5. 1 AUG

    S27E5: 10 Affirmations to Make Your Day Feel Like a Hug

    Hey lady! Let’s be real, life lately has felt like it’s on one. Trying to keep up with the pace of life can feel like a never-ending pursuit with no finish line. If life has been landing haymakers and making your cup feel rather empty, Dr. Dom and Terri are here to offer you a warm hug in the form of affirmations. Let these 10 doses of kindness soothe your soul and remind you that tough times don’t last always. Affirmations are a powerful tool that need nothing more than an open mind and an open heart to provide comfort and healing. And, once you put them in steady practice they can amplify peace in your life and even transform negative patterns internally. So, lady take the intensity out of your week by grabbing your favorite beverage of choice and getting cozy. Close your eyes and repeat after us. Allow yourself to be deeply held with these simple truths.  Lady, we love you for real! Should you want to deepen your affirmation practice be sure to check out Dr. Dom’s book of affirmations Daily Affirmations. Quote of the Day: "I am alive and well."  – Jhene Aiko   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

    49 min

  6. 25 JUL

    S27E4: ChatGPT is Not Your Therapist But it Can Be a Support Tool

    Hey lady! You know the saying, “No one cares because everyone is going through a lot”? Well, that’s not true. Over here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space, we care. But we also know that everyone is dealing with something, and not everything needs to be shared. That doesn’t mean you need to bottle it all up, though. What do you do when the journal just isn’t enough and you’re not ready to engage your friends in your business? Terri and Dr. Dom explore the next frontier in this illuminating conversation about the benefits and potential harms of using Artificial Intelligence (AI) as part of your mental and emotional wellness toolbox. There are pros, like when you’re up in the wee hours trying to calm an anxious mind or soothe a broken heart. Instead of doom scrolling, talking to your AI buddy can help you process your thoughts in real time without oversharing with people who don’t need to know all your business. But, there are points of consideration that you may want to review before you share your darkest secrets or (we know this may be common sense but a friendly reminder) your address and identifying information.  The truth is, AI is here to stay. And the sooner you learn to adapt to the technology, the better equipped you'll be to navigate our ever-changing world. So why not find a way to make it work for you? Tune in for practical tips on how to create a healthy, intentional relationship with this emerging technology.  Quote of the Day: "The essence of therapy has always been relational, and that cannot be replicated by an algorithm."  – Chris Hoff   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

    45 min

  7. 18 JUL

    S27E3: Loving Someone with Mental Health Challenges

    Hey lady! We’re going to cut straight to the chase because we know that your time is probably scheduled down to the minute. Many of us are out here caring for children, caring for aging parents, killing it at work, showing up for your community, trying to take care of yourself and keep the wheels on the train of your life moving forward. The list is long to say the least. And, on top of all of that you are dealing with the unpredictable nature of humans. This week Terri and Dr. Dom discuss an underdiscussed issue in our community. How to care for yourself when caring for someone struggling with their mental health? What do you do when your cup is empty, and you have nothing left to pour? Dr. Dom and Terri offer real talk and real tools to help you navigate challenging times with loved ones. Whether it’s your mama, your man, or your best friend—mental health challenges don’t just affect the person going through them. They affect everyone close to them. So, go ahead and download and save this episode, lady. Consider it yet another tool in your toolkit to go through life with grace, class, and your own mental health in check. And, if this episode has helped you and you know it will help others why don’t you rate us and let us know how much value you found in our perspective. Your support helps bring our show to more people looking for healing!  Practical Tips: How to Show Up with Boundaries  1. Validate their experience but don’t try to “fix” them 2 Learn the basics of their diagnosis (from trusted sources) 3. Communicate clearly: “What do you need from me right now?” 4. When necessary, create care plans and safety plans 5. Leverage professional help (E.g.; Therapy, support groups, and hotlines) Quote of the Day: "Tough love is you creating and keeping healthy boundaries."  – Nedra Tawwab   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

    46 min

  8. 11 JUL

    S27E2: 10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto

    Lady! We know that not only are we living in interesting, unprecedented times but we’re also just living our regular lives and sometimes life be lifin’. Life is beautiful, abundant, and generous but it can also be raggedy, harsh, and tough. As much as we love being a part of the toolkit that helps keep you uplifted, you know that we always keep it real. That’s why this week Dr. Dom and Terri offer their grounded perspective about how to handle life when life is being a hot, ghetto mess. Adulting is often fun and wonderful. There are days as an adult when ice cream for breakfast is a thing because you’re grown. But, for the days when the laundry is piling up, the bills are due, the internal monologue is putting you through the ringer, the deep pain within is spilling out, you’re sick, or you’re just tired it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and like you’re getting it all wrong.  Fear not, Terri and Dr. Dom offer ten truth bombs to help you keep everything in perspective as you get up and figure it out – like you always do! Adulting is often described as a series of responsibilities and actions that one takes to be a functioning member of society. But, this week Dr. Dom and Terri remind you that often adulting is finding the tools to complete those mundane tasks to satisfaction when life doesn’t feel good.  So, grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space latte mug (find it and more in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop), fill it with your favorite cozy beverage, and allow this episode to be the warm hug, kiss on the cheek, or pat on the back for getting through the patches when life feels hard. Lady, no matter what’s going on keep your chin up and remember that we’re rooting for you!  10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto 1. Crying doesn’t mean you’re losing — It means you’re releasing  2. You’re not weak — you’re carrying a lot right now  3. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re not supported  4. It’s okay to miss people who are no longer in your life  5. Your ancestors would be so proud of you  6. It’s normal to grieve the life you thought you’d have by now  7. You are always worthy of love, even when you think you're a mess  8. You’re allowed to rest, even If nothing’s done  9. Your dream isn’t too big — It’s just being built on divine timing  10. Everything is going to be okay — even if it doesn’t look like it yet Quote of the Day: "Adulting is realizing that you have to take charge of your life, even when it's hard."  – Unknown   Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

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In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.

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