Mindfully With 'Tunmise

Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
  • 4.5 (6)
  • Mental Health
  • Updated weekly

Mindfully with Tunmise, The Podcast is a weekly talk/interview show that seeks to promote mental health awareness by demystifying perceived mysteries surrounding mental health stability. The show features personal stories from Tunmise, who lives with Bipolar II and also collects stories from individuals from all walks of life. The conversations aim to answer questions surrounding mental health myths and promote living mindfully through self-compassion and showing up instead of perfection. The show also features resource experts to provide a balanced explanation to each question raised. The target audience includes young adults, parents, and middle-aged citizens who are struggling with self-esteem, identity conflicts, cultural conflicts, existential questions and resolving relational conflicts. Mindfully with Tunmise. The show's mission is to encourage people to live mindfully, tell their stories, and promote self-compassion. The show's duration is between 30 to 60 minutes per episode, and it can be accessed at all podcast platforms and at  www.blackhemages.com    

  1. You Are Human Before You Are A Man.

    3 days ago

    You Are Human Before You Are A Man.

    Send us Fan Mail The world is loud right now: war, economic stress, nonstop online gender battles, and the quiet feeling that everyone is bracing for impact. So we take a different approach. We pause, breathe, and talk honestly about men’s mental health, not as a trend, but as a survival issue and a relationship issue that touches families, marriages, friendships, and whole communities. My guest, Elishius Olalua, helps me name the thing many men can feel but struggle to explain: a script of strength that gets handed to boys early and enforced later through shame, status, and silence. We unpack what “being strong” is often taught to mean in Nigerian and wider African homes, why vulnerability can feel expensive, and how men end up saying “I’m okay” even when they are overwhelmed. We also explore the hidden cost of tying a man’s worth only to what he provides, and why provision has to include the state of your mind, spirit, and emotional health not just money. We go deeper into emotional literacy: why anger becomes the “allowed” emotion, why many men lack language for what they feel, and what it takes to ask for help without feeling like you’re failing. We end with a grounded takeaway, one reflective question for your journal, and a practical invitation to create safer spaces for boys and men to be fully human. If any part of this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find these healing conversations. What would change in your home if men had real permission to feel? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    56 min
  2. Give Me My Flowers

    26 May

    Give Me My Flowers

    Send us Fan Mail “Give me my flowers while I’m still here” sounds like a clean rule for life, but once you factor in loneliness, shifting relationships, and the masks we wear to survive, it gets complicated fast. We start with a simple mental health frame I keep coming back to: alignment.  When your thoughts, emotions, and actions aren’t at war, you feel more grounded. And because language shapes our inner world, reframing common phrases can be a surprisingly powerful mindfulness practice. We talk about why social media can feel so loud, why so many of us crave a seat at the table, and how the most connected generation can still feel painfully alone.  I pause for a breath with you and ask the question that can change a lot: whose opinion still steadies you or shakes you, and why?  From there, we go into the armor we reach for when we’re afraid, pulling from Brené Brown’s insight that armor, not fear, is what blocks love, connection, and our values. Then we bring it back to “flowers” and relationships.  Some people drift with no fight, no drama, just distance, and when loss arrives we remember the beauty more than the gap.  We also look at friendship through a lens that challenges the usual definition, including Simon Sinek’s idea that real friends aren’t only there for hard times, they’re the people who can celebrate your good news without making you feel like you’re bragging.  We end with reflection questions you can sit with all week and a reminder that sometimes the most mindful move is to give yourself flowers while you learn how to ask for what you need. If it resonates, subscribe, share it with someone you’re walking beside, and leave a review so more people can find these mental health and mindfulness conversations. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    24 min
  3. Taking Responsibility Without Losing Connection

    19 May

    Taking Responsibility Without Losing Connection

    Send us Fan Mail “No one is coming to save you” is supposed to be motivating, but what if it’s also making us lonelier?  We start with a simple mindful check-in, soften the body, breathe, and ask the real question beneath the slogan: how are you actually doing right now, and what happens inside you when you hear that line online? I explore the tension between personal responsibility and human connection. Yes, we own our choices, our healing, and our next step.  But we’re also living in a time where constant connectivity can hide deep isolation, and where the myth of being “self-made” quietly erases the friends, partners, mentors, and communities that keep us steady.  I share a personal story from an earlier podcast attempt that stalled, how fear showed up when it was time to begin again, and how support sometimes “saves” us without rescuing us by doing the work. From there, we get practical and honest about trust and vulnerability.  Who is safe? Who do you share your scars with?  And how do you ask for help when you’ve learned to do everything alone?  We also reflect on friendship as a life-changing force, the kind that reminds you of what’s good in you, and we end with questions you can sit with after the audio ends. If this conversation lands for you, subscribe, share it with someone you trust, and leave a review so more people can find the show.  What’s one area of your life where you’re resisting help? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    30 min
  4. Repetition Can Be Real Growth

    12 May

    Repetition Can Be Real Growth

    Send us Fan Mail “Nothing happens in your comfort zone” gets quoted like a law, but I’m not convinced it tells the whole truth.  Sometimes the most meaningful growth happens in the quiet, repetitive middle when you keep showing up, keep practicing, and finally start seeing yourself differently.  That’s the thread I pull on here, starting with a simple mantra I live by: it’s about showing up, not perfection. I talk through the tension honestly, including what it felt like to stay in one organisation for years and slowly notice that comfort can turn into quiet dissatisfaction.  Not dramatic, not rebellious, just that clear internal question: is this still it? From there we explore a more mindful way to think about change, career transitions, and personal growth without turning “leaving” into a badge of honour or “staying” into a shame story. You’ll also hear a quick breathing reset to help you settle, plus two reframes that can change how you treat yourself: “practice makes progress” and the idea of tessitura, a singer’s most comfortable range, not as limitation but as mastery.  We end with five reflection questions you can journal with right away, especially if you’re working on self-awareness, mental wellbeing, and learning how to move at your own pace. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who’s wrestling with a transition, and leave a review so more mindful partners can find the show. What’s one place in your life you might be rushing to leave? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    21 min
  5. Why Slowing Down Builds Real Strength

    5 May

    Why Slowing Down Builds Real Strength

    Send us Fan Mail Mindfulness gets mislabeled as soft, fragile, or unrealistic and that misunderstanding keeps a lot of us stuck in speed mode.  I’m pushing back on that.  Slowing down, choosing stillness, and listening to yourself when everything around you rewards motion can be the truest kind of resilience. We start with a personal turning point: a season of silence that changes how I show up, from constant output to real alignment.  From there, we go straight into the tension many of us feel, that quiet resistance to mindful living, and why presence can look like weakness from the outside.  I also share a language reframe that has helped my mental health for years: replacing the word “problems” with “questions” so the mind stays open to solutions instead of collapsing into helplessness. Then we touch the nerve that sits underneath so many reactions: vulnerability.  Using Brene Brown’s research on uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure, I connect courage to mindfulness in a practical way.  You’ll hear two everyday stories, one about responding to a friend who calls me out and another about catching urgency in my body while baking bread, to show how mindful awareness becomes boundaries, agency, and self-respect. If you want journal prompts for stillness, disagreement, and defining resilience for yourself, you’ll leave with clear questions to write through.  Subscribe, share this with someone who needs a gentler kind of strength, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    27 min
  6. The Question That Saved A Life

    28 Apr

    The Question That Saved A Life

    Send us Fan Mail One late night, I asked a throwaway radio question because I needed something to fill a segment. Months later, a woman called during a Christmas broadcast and told me that question made her pause long enough to choose life. I’ve carried that moment for years, and it changed how I understand the power of words, not as motivation, but as responsibility. We talk about what it means to speak like someone might be listening on their hardest day, because they might be. I share why I never asked her to explain her pain, and how “holding space” can be more healing than investigating. We also get personal about sensitivity, the pull toward cynicism, and what it’s like trying to stay reflective in a hard world while living with bipolar affective disorder. You’ll hear a short guided breathing practice and the mindfulness framework I lean on in my own healing journey: stop, breathe, notice, reflect, respond, and resolve. Then I leave you with the same question that once saved a life and three gentle reflections you can journal with, especially if you’re rebuilding your relationship with yourself, your story, and your mental health. If this helped, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a pause, and leave a review so more listeners can find the series. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    21 min
  7. Permission To Dance Badly And Call It Healing

    21 Apr

    Permission To Dance Badly And Call It Healing

    Send us Fan Mail Healing can sound big and dramatic, but for me it often starts with something small: a pause, a breath, and the courage to stop rushing past the parts of my story that still sting. After last week’s heavy conversation, I wanted to offer a gentler follow-up that still stays honest about death, grief, and the weight we carry, while pointing toward relief. A bookstore moment brought it all into focus for me: the phrase “Healing Is The New High” from Vex King. I didn’t even know what was inside the book yet, but the title felt like a promise I needed to keep close. Life today can feel like a cassette tape on fast forward, too much noise and too many thoughts at once. Mental health conversations are finally everywhere, and that’s good, but I also ask a harder question: are we creating real understanding, or just joining another trend? I keep it simple. Mental well-being is how we navigate everyday stress, emotions, relationships, and even economic pressure. Being mentally whole doesn’t mean life is always pleasant; it means we learn to face both joy and difficulty without losing ourselves in either. From there, I get practical about inner healing as an investment in yourself and the kind of world you want to build. I share two tools that help me: play and journaling. Drawing from Brené Brown, I define play as joy without obligation or outcome and I talk about singing loudly, dancing off beat, and creating small moments of freedom. Then I move into journaling as a self care practice for emotional wellbeing, a place to tell the truth, pray, and track your growth. I also leave you with prompts you can take into your week, because sometimes the question is where healing begins. If this supports you, subscribe, share it with a friend, leave a review, and join the WhatsApp group linked in the show notes. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    17 min
  8. Facing The Mirror

    14 Apr

    Facing The Mirror

    Send us Fan Mail Sexual abuse stories trend every week, and the internet reacts like it has only two buttons: defend and attack. But when the noise gets louder, the people behind the story can disappear. We slow the pace down and ask what those viral debates are really doing to our bodies, our minds, and our ability to heal. I share why these headlines can feel so personal, how unhealed wounds show up as anger or certainty, and why a mindful breath is sometimes the first act of courage.  We explore an old allegory about deflection and blame as a mirror for modern conversations about exploitation and molestation. If we say we want accountability, we have to be willing to look at the parts of the story we avoid, especially the family silence that keeps harm alive for generations. I also share a pivotal moment from my own journey, including a psychiatrist’s hard question about the cycle of abuse and what it means to refuse that cycle. Then we hold space for an anonymous caller’s story, a reminder that survival often looks like leaving, choosing safety, and carrying secrets for decades.  Healing does not mean forgetting. It can mean the trauma no longer narrates your whole life. We talk about naming the wound, reclaiming authorship, and why the way forward is quieter and more personal than social media arguments: truth spoken in safe homes, faith spaces, and healing spaces where survivors are protected and supported. If you know someone who’s hurting, share this with them, subscribe for more redemptive stories, and leave a review so more people can find a starting point for healing. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    30 min
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Mindfully with Tunmise, The Podcast is a weekly talk/interview show that seeks to promote mental health awareness by demystifying perceived mysteries surrounding mental health stability. The show features personal stories from Tunmise, who lives with Bipolar II and also collects stories from individuals from all walks of life. The conversations aim to answer questions surrounding mental health myths and promote living mindfully through self-compassion and showing up instead of perfection. The show also features resource experts to provide a balanced explanation to each question raised. The target audience includes young adults, parents, and middle-aged citizens who are struggling with self-esteem, identity conflicts, cultural conflicts, existential questions and resolving relational conflicts. Mindfully with Tunmise. The show's mission is to encourage people to live mindfully, tell their stories, and promote self-compassion. The show's duration is between 30 to 60 minutes per episode, and it can be accessed at all podcast platforms and at  www.blackhemages.com    

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  • Creator
    Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    113
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Mindfully With 'Tunmise
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    Mindfully With 'Tunmise