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Dam Parenting Podcast
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Nobody hands you a map when you have a baby in a country that isn't your own. DAM Parenting is a weekly English-language podcast for international parents in the Netherlands: pregnancy and birth in the Dutch system, kraamzorg, postpartum, matrescence, relationships after kids, bilingual families, ADHD assessments, Dutch schools, and finding your people far from home. Hosted by Eva, an Irish parent in Amsterdam. Honest, warm, non-judgemental. 200+ episodes with midwives, psychologists and parents telling the truth about how it actually went. Browse every episode by topic at damparenting.nl

  1. 1 dag geleden

    Why Your Child Fell Apart in Week Three of School — Transition Fatigue in Expat Kids, with Kate Berger

    📬 Get the monthly email: damparenting.nl — everything from the podcast, in four minutes. Your child went back to school and seemed fine. Then week two happened. For internationally mobile children, September isn't just a new school year. It's a re-entry. They've come back from a summer in a country that might feel more like home than this one, said goodbye to grandparents again, and walked into a classroom where they have to switch languages at the door. The tiredness doesn't show up on day one. It shows up when the adrenaline runs out. Kate Berger is a child psychologist and the founder of the Expat Kids Club in Amstelveen and Wassenaar, where she works with internationally mobile children and their families. In this episode we talk about what September actually does to expat and third culture kids — cumulative transition fatigue, the difference between a child who's struggling with school and a child who's struggling with coming back, and why so much of what parents read as behaviour is really exhaustion. We also get into the thing nobody says out loud: how much of a parent's own anxiety lands on a child at the school gate, and what to do about it when you're anxious for good reasons. If your child has been more tearful, more clingy or more furious than usual since term started, this one is for you. In this episode: re-entry after a summer abroad · why week two is harder than week one · transition fatigue and how it accumulates over years · what internationally mobile children lose that nobody names · how parent anxiety transfers at the school gate · what actually helps, and what makes it worse. Kate Berger runs the Expat Kids Club ( www.expatkidsclub.com — Insttagram @expatkidsclub.) Part of DAM Parenting's ongoing series on what it actually takes to raise children in a country you didn't grow up in. New episodes every Wednesday. www.damparenting.nl

    Why Your Child Fell Apart in Week Three of School — Transition Fatigue in Expat Kids, with Kate Berger

  2. 2 sep

    Mismatched Libido: One Wants Sex To Feel Close, One Needs To Feel Close First | DAMSex

    One of you reaches for sex to feel close. The other needs to feel close before sex is even on the table. Nobody is wrong, nobody is broken, and most couples never say a word of it out loud. In Episode 5 of the DAM Sex series, sex and intimacy counsellor Debby Poort joins DAM to unpack what happens when two people in the same relationship have completely different starting points for desire — and why so much of the disconnection around sex turns out not to be about sex at all. What we get into: What responsive desire and spontaneous desire actually mean, and why one of them is so consistently misread as "you don't want me anymore" Why mismatched libido in a long-term relationship is far more common, and far less personal, than it feels at 11pm Why a man wanting sex is so often not about what his partner assumes it's about What happens in new parent couples when one partner is exhausted and touched out for months and the other turns to pornography — and the line Debby draws between when that's neutral and when it's a problem How to open that conversation at home without it landing as an accusation Why couples from different countries, families and faiths are working from completely different sexual scripts, and what to do when those scripts contradict each other What Debby wishes partners understood about arousal, the orgasm gap, and how long things actually take The one conversation she has in her practice more than any other — and why couples visibly relax the moment they hear it If you have ever thought "they're never in the mood," or been on the receiving end of "is that all you ever think about," this is the episode. About Debby Debby Poort is a sex and intimacy counsellor based in the Netherlands, working in English with couples and individuals — including a lot of international and intercultural couples. Find her at yellowwood.nl and sexandintimacycounselling.nl. She also runs a free introductory course you can work through at home, on your own, with no commitment and no big conversation with your partner first. It's a genuinely low-stakes place to start. Ep1: Touched Out, Low Desire & Feeling Like a Feeding Machine: Let’s Talk About Sex After Baby Ep2: ‘We’re Housemates Who Share a Bed’ — How Can Emotionally Focused Therapy Help You? Ep3: Obligation Sex Is More Common Than You Think — Here's What It's Really Costing Your Relationship

    Mismatched Libido: One Wants Sex To Feel Close, One Needs To Feel Close First | DAMSex

  3. 26 aug

    Language Loss vs Reduced Activation: Returning to School in the Netherlands After Summer

    The school bag is back out. The new lunch box is ready. And somewhere between the airport and the front door, your child tried to say something in Dutch — and it didn't come as easily as it did before you left. Does that mean something has gone wrong? Did six weeks speaking your home language undo years of work? In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva sits down with multilingualism specialist Mimi - from Growing Up Multilingual— back for another episode of their ongoing multilingualism series — to talk through one of the most common end-of-summer anxieties in international families: the moment the school language feels rusty. They cover: — What is actually happening in your child's brain after weeks in a different linguistic environment — Why reduced activation is completely different from language loss — What parents do that makes the transition harder (and what actually helps) — How to talk to your child about the shift so they understand it — and stop interpreting it as failure — When to genuinely worry, and when to simply stay steady Mimi also addresses younger children, preschoolers, and families whose children are starting school in Dutch for the first time this September — and what they need to know before day one. This episode is for every multilingual family in the Netherlands returning from the homeland, heading into a new school year, and quietly wondering: are we okay? Yes. You are. And here's why. Dam Parenting is the weekly English-language podcast for international families navigating life in the Netherlands. New episodes every Wednesday. This episode is brought to you by MamaSocial , because navigating motherhood far from home is so much better with the right women around you. Events and spaces for mothers of all backgrounds, right here in the Netherlands.

    Language Loss vs Reduced Activation: Returning to School in the Netherlands After Summer

  4. 19 aug

    7 Types of Trauma That Show Up When Living Abroad — With Trauma Therapist Adina Petre

    You moved here. You built a life. And somewhere along the way, you started carrying something you couldn't quite name. In this episode, clinical psychologist and trauma therapist Adina Petre joins us to break down 7 types of trauma that show up specifically in expat and international family life — the ones that don't look like trauma from the outside, but quietly shape everything. We cover: relocation grief, cultural identity loss, generational trauma, birth trauma in a foreign healthcare system, parenting without your support network, the psychological cost of living in a second language, and vicarious trauma in a world that won't stop delivering bad news. This episode won't overwhelm you. It will give you words. And sometimes — that's exactly what's needed. Share it with someone who needs the language. Adina Petre: adinapetre.com Follow us: @damparentingpodcast

    7 Types of Trauma That Show Up When Living Abroad — With Trauma Therapist Adina Petre

  5. 15 aug

    Dutch School Starter Pack: Groep 1, Gym Days, BSO and the Summer Slide

    After Wednesdays school lunch episodes, i have recieved several DM's asking for hints and tips about schools - and without asking everyone to go back listeniing to the numerous episodes we already have in our archive - I decided to magpie this episode, and grab a selection of learnings from previous episodes and also add in a few of my own. In the Netherlands children start basisschool the day after their fourth birthday, so your child may walk into a class that's already formed. This episode covers what to expect in groep 1 and 2, what to send them in, and what to do in those first overwhelming weeks — for parents new to the Dutch system and for anyone heading back after the six-week summer holiday. WHAT'S IN THIS EPISODE - The Dutch school words nobody translates: groep 1, 2 and 3, kleuters, juf and meester, wennen, BSO, TSO, luizenzak, het tien-uurtje, gymles - Why gym day means your kleuter may be asked to strip to their underwear - Clothes, shoes, rain gear and mittens — Isabel Cruz's four practical rules - Leerplicht: your four-year-old is not legally required to be at school until they turn five, and what that means for half days and BSO - The summer slide, and why groep 1 and 2 have nothing to catch up on - What to say at pickup instead of "how was your day" - What to do when your child says someone was mean to them QUICK ANSWERS What is groep 1? The first year of Dutch primary school, for four-year-olds. Groep 1 and 2 run almost entirely on play; formal reading and writing start in groep 3. What is wennen? Settling-in practice mornings before your child officially starts. Ask your school how many they offer. What is BSO? Buitenschoolse opvang — after-school care, booked and waitlisted separately from school. When does school become compulsory? Leerplicht starts at five, from the first school day of the month after your child's fifth birthday. When do Dutch schools go back? Summer holidays are staggered across three regions, so return dates differ by where you live. MENTIONED Isabel Cruz, Kaleidoscope Consulting — school choice and school-readiness workshops in Amsterdam Faye Poole, child psychologist — the emotional support and "someone was mean" frameworks Melody, Petit Gourmet Academy — our school lunch box episode, where she went through eleven real listener lunch boxes Our paediatric dentist episode — why you're still brushing their teeth for them at nine It's a scramble of an episode at 9pm on a Friday night, but I hope it answers an unasked question for you. Tell me what I've missed: @damparentingpodcast on Instagram, or damparentingpodcast@gmail.com

  6. 12 aug

    What to Put in Your Child's Lunch Box for a Dutch School — With a Children's Nutritionist

    What do you actually put in a Dutch school lunch box? Parents at an Amsterdam school sent in 11 photos of their children's real lunch and snack boxes, and children's nutritionist Mélody goes through three of them with us — what's working, what a child's body genuinely needs to get through a school day, and what she'd change. This one is for you whether your child starts school next week starts next month, or next year. We cover what balance actually means across a week rather than in a single box, why the Dutch fruitpauze does more work than parents realise, why the water-only rule at most Dutch schools is a support rather than a restriction, and whether the classic broodje kaas is nutritionally fine. Spoiler: it is. We also talk about what happens when your food culture doesn't match the Dutch one — warm lunches versus sandwiches — and what to do when your child comes home asking for the same thing everyone else has. Plus three staples for the morning you have five minutes, why children under five shouldn't have nuts, and Melody's three professional permission slips for parents carrying too much already. All 11 lunch boxes are on our Instagram, @damparentingpodcast. Part of DAM Parenting's August back-to-school series for international and expat families in the Netherlands.

    What to Put in Your Child's Lunch Box for a Dutch School — With a Children's Nutritionist

  7. 5 aug

    Why Your Desire Disappeared — And How to Find It Again (With Science)

    DAM Parenting says the stuff out loud that you might be thinking — just in your headphones, on your own time, when you're not quite ready to say it to anyone else yet. In episode 4 of DAM Sex, Eva is back with sex and intimacy counsellor Debby Poort to talk about something that doesn't get said enough — and not in the way it usually gets said. Sex is good for you. Not as a favour to your partner. Not because it's been a while. For you. Your sleep. Your cortisol. Your sense of yourself as a person who exists in a body that belongs to you. They get into the actual science — cardiovascular benefits, dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, and yes, headaches — and then into the harder question: how do you share that with someone who is depleted, running on empty, and already feeling like everything is a should? Debby also unpacks responsive desire and the crucial difference between willingness and wanting — including the very real risk of responsive desire being used as pressure, and why that misses the point entirely. They talk about what it takes to reconnect to desire that has genuinely gone quiet — not just low, but offline — and whether it ever really comes back. Plus: why couples stop touching each other completely, the fear underneath non-sexual touch, the couples who stopped initiating without a single fight about it, and why there is always a reason — even when brain fog means you can't remember what it was. And Debby shares details of her free welcome course at sexandintimacycounseling.nl — no appointment needed, no commitment, just a place to start. Find Debby Poort: yellowwood.nlGot a question for Debby? DM us on Instagram or email damparentingpodcast@gmail.com

    Why Your Desire Disappeared — And How to Find It Again (With Science)

  8. 1 aug

    They Couldn't Find the Right School. So They Built One.

    What do you do when the school you want for your child simply doesn't exist? If you're Tim and Camilla, co-founders of Seeker — you build it. Seeker is a brand new private bilingual Dutch-English Montessori primary school opening in Eindhoven this September. And the children starting now? They are the founding class — the ones who will set the tone, the culture, and the standard for every child who comes after them. In this episode, Eva talks to Tim about what was missing in Eindhoven for international families, what it actually takes to open a private school inside the Dutch education system, why the inspectie only shows up after you open your doors, and what it means to ask families to trust something that has no history yet — because it's about to become history. A short, feel-good summer episode about the audacity of building something from nothing. Find Seeker at seeker.education Eindhoven | Bilingual Dutch-English | Montessori | Ages 4–6 | Opening September 2026 Part of Dam Parenting's ongoing series on schools, systems, and raising children in the Netherlands.

    They Couldn't Find the Right School. So They Built One.
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Nobody hands you a map when you have a baby in a country that isn't your own. DAM Parenting is a weekly English-language podcast for international parents in the Netherlands: pregnancy and birth in the Dutch system, kraamzorg, postpartum, matrescence, relationships after kids, bilingual families, ADHD assessments, Dutch schools, and finding your people far from home. Hosted by Eva, an Irish parent in Amsterdam. Honest, warm, non-judgemental. 200+ episodes with midwives, psychologists and parents telling the truth about how it actually went. Browse every episode by topic at damparenting.nl

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