Enough, the Podcast

Mandy Lehto
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Enough, the Podcast, is a mash-up of deeply human conversations and expert advice on swapping perfectionism, people-pleasing and overachieving for a juicier, more easeful life. It's moving. It's light-hearted. It's practical. And it's for YOU, if you're fed up with feeling burned out by hustling for your worth. Monthly episodes on Thursdays.

  1. Why Some High Achievers Don't Burn Out, with Nick Petrie #102

    18 jun

    Why Some High Achievers Don't Burn Out, with Nick Petrie #102

    What if the thing that's exhausting you isn't the pressure? What if it's the formula you've been using to handle it all these years? It's probably the same formula that built your career, which is now quietly running you into the ground. In this conversation, leadership researcher Nick Petrie shares what he learned from studying more than 1,000 high performers and the handful who seem to have cracked a code the rest of us missed. Not because they're tougher. Not because they're better at self-care. And not because they've figured out how to squeeze even more productivity out of an already overstuffed life. Most of them hit the wall too. This group of "thrivers", as Nick calls them, did something different, and I'm pretty sure you want to know about it. We go places in this conversation: From Roger Federer to quilting and Argentine tango. Come join us. LINKS Nick Petrie's book, Burn Bright: 10 Habits to Sustain High Performance in an Always-on World. Nick Petrie on LinkedIn Mandy Lehto on LinkedIn and Instagram

    56 min.
  2. Why Relentless Achievement Still Doesn't Feel Like Enough, with Cory Allen #101

    14 mei

    Why Relentless Achievement Still Doesn't Feel Like Enough, with Cory Allen #101

    What happens when you finally achieve the thing you wanted… and still feel weirdly unchanged? In this episode, I'm joined by author, musician and meditation teacher Cory Allen for a conversation about ambition, creativity, overachievement and the strange emotional flatness that can follow success. We explore why so many high achievers quietly expect achievement to do something it was never designed to do: finally make them feel enough. In this episode we explore: Why achievement often fails to deliver the feeling we expected The exhausting cycle of striving, arriving, and immediately moving the goalposts Mimetic desire and how we learn what to want by watching other people The hidden fear beneath obsessive, brittle overachievement Cory's idea of "rotating the prism" — and how changing the way we look at disappointment can completely change our experience of it LINKS Cory Allen's website & books Cory on Instagram Mandy on Instagram Meg Josephson episode

    1 uur
  3. Why You Can't Stop Working (even when you know you should), with Dr Claire Plumbly. #100

    29 apr

    Why You Can't Stop Working (even when you know you should), with Dr Claire Plumbly. #100

    You say "yes", and almost immediately your body knows…argh, I've done it again. This episode is about that moment where you override your exhaustion and capacity in favour of taking something on. There are plenty of reasons why we do this, and my guest today helps to explain what might be going on there. Author and clinical psychologist, Dr Claire Plumbly, helps me to unpack a particular pattern of burnout – not the dramatic, can't-get-out-of-bed version, but the high-functioning one. The kind where you push, recover just enough to be convincing, and then go again… until that starts to feel like your personality rather than a pattern. This conversation is less about frenetic burnout, and more about what beliefs might be burning beneath it. We get into why knowing something isn't sustainable rarely translates into doing anything differently. You'll learn how frenetic burnout quietly reinforces itself through reward and identity, and why the very traits that make someone exceptional at work can make it difficult to step back from it. Claire Plumbly's website and book Claire on Instagram Mandy on Instagram Jo Rodriguez episode

    43 min.
  4. Why You Still Go Quiet (Even When You Know Better), with Meg Josephson #99

    19 mrt

    Why You Still Go Quiet (Even When You Know Better), with Meg Josephson #99

    You know about people pleasing. You've heard about the fawn response. You might even recognise it in yourself: the self-silencing, the conflict avoidance, the version of you that keeps the peace while something quietly fumes underneath. And yet, you still said nothing in that meeting last week. This episode is about the gap between understanding yourself and actually changing — and it's one of my favourite conversations to date. My guest is Meg Josephson, psychotherapist and NYT bestselling author of Are You Mad at Me? Rather than explaining the fawn response from a theoretical distance, we do something harder. We take real scenarios apart together, a coach and a therapist, both with skin in this game. We get inside the moments that cost high achievers the most — the freeze that happens in a meeting, the conflict you've been circling for months, the 2am replay — and we pull them apart from two very different angles. We get into why people pleasing isn't a personality flaw, but a nervous system response learned long before you had the corner office. Why the higher you've climbed, the more sophisticated your self-silencing becomes. And why — this is the bit that stopped me — conflict doesn't have to mean rupture.  If you've ever walked out of a conversation frustrated with yourself for going quiet, this one is for you. In this episode: The fawn response and why it shows up in high achievers. The link between conflict avoidance and childhood. What's actually happening in your body when you freeze. Practical, somatic tools for staying in the room when everything in you wants to bolt. The difference between reassurance-seeking and validation. And why knowing isn't the same as changing. Join us. *You might need a note pad – she's that good. Links:  Meg Josephson's website & book Meg on Instagram Mandy on Instagram

    56 min.
  5. Be direct. Feel awful. Don't Fold. With Jon Prince #98

    5 mrt

    Be direct. Feel awful. Don't Fold. With Jon Prince #98

    You know the moment: you've chosen to be clearer, less accommodating, a bit braver. And it feels good… for about two seconds. Then the wobble comes. That tightening in your chest. That playback in your head. The urge to explain or undo what you just said. In today's episode, I talk with Jon Prince — former professional poker player, coach, and author of Start Before You're Ready — about exactly that: how to hold your nerve when you raise the stakes, and your nervous system screams for relief. Poker isn't just about cards. It's about emotional control under pressure. If you make a move to calm yourself down, you lose. The skill is staying in the hand while your body wants to fold. We dig into what actually happens after you make a brave choice in life: the growth hangover, the inner critic revving up, the post-boundary shake, and the real work of sitting in tension without fixing, rescuing, or smoothing it over. This episode will resonate if you've ever: said something aligned and then questioned it chosen a new way of being and felt exposed held silence and wanted to fill it wondered if holding your ground meant you were too much Jon's perspective brings both the rawness of real nervous systems and the wisdom of real growth. If you've ever been braver than usual and then wanted to take it back, this conversation is for you.   LINKS Jon Prince on Instagram Jon Prince's Book, Start Before You're Ready Jon Prince's Website Christopher Sexton – Instagram (poet of the quote we opened with)

    52 min.
  6. The Fix-It Trap: Shame, Body Image and the Search for Wholeness with Kate Gies #97

    22 jan

    The Fix-It Trap: Shame, Body Image and the Search for Wholeness with Kate Gies #97

    Have you ever thought, If I just fixed that one thing, I'd finally feel OK? In this episode of Enough, the Podcast, we're talking about body image, shame, and the quiet fix-it logic so many women live inside — especially in midlife. My guest, Kate Gies, was born without an ear and underwent 14 reconstructive surgeries as a child, each one promising to finally make her whole. What she learned — far earlier than most of us — is that fixing the body rarely delivers the relief it promises. This conversation isn't about giving up on your appearance. It's about questioning what you're asking your appearance to do for you. We explore: Why the beauty industry relies on low-grade shame to keep us fixing How body image becomes a stand-in for deeper questions about worth The myth that one more improvement will finally make you feel enough What wholeness looks like when it isn't tied to perfection How to tell the difference between choice and conditioning If you've ever negotiated with your reflection… If you care about how you look and resent how much it matters… If you're curious about what changes when appearance stops being proof of your worth… This episode will land. Press play and consider what might be driving your appearance-related decisions – zero judgment; no fixing (or solutions;) just pure curiosity.    LINKS Kate Gies's website (and her book, It Must Beautiful To Be Finished). Kate Gies on Instagram. Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

    40 min.
  7. What's Driving your Drive? With "The Crappy Childhood Fairy" Anna Runkle & Dr Sarah Madigan #96

    09-10-2025

    What's Driving your Drive? With "The Crappy Childhood Fairy" Anna Runkle & Dr Sarah Madigan #96

    Be honest. You secretly love how much you can endure. Like it's a badge of honour that you can take on more, stay longer, push harder, and still (kinda) look put together? But here's the kicker: What if that "unstoppable drive" isn't grit at all? What if it's your nervous system running on a decades-old operating system — one that learned, way back when, that proving yourself was the only way to stay safe, loved, or valuable? That would explain some things, wouldn't it? Like why you: Secretly check emails on holiday… in the bathroom… while everyone else is having fun. Stay in jobs, relationships, and projects way past their expiry date because nobody's gonna underestimate you. Celebrate big wins by immediately asking, "Cool, what's next?" instead of, you know, celebrating. If you're nodding (and maybe wincing), this episode is your mirror. I'm joined by Anna Runkle (aka The Crappy Childhood Fairy, YouTube queen, and new author of Re-Regulated) and Dr Sarah Madigan, psychologist extraordinaire, to ask one big question: What's really driving your drive? We'll poke at the shiny, high-achiever veneer and ask whether your ambition is actually joy-fuelled — or just a trauma pattern in designer shoes. You'll learn: How over-achievement can be a sneaky trauma response (and why that doesn't make you "broken"). The surprising body tells that your drive has tipped from energising to dysregulating. Why noticing your patterns is the most subversive act of self-preservation you can do. How to make your ambition sustainable instead of soul-scorching. This is not about "fixing" your drive. It's about untangling it, so it stops running you into the ground and starts fuelling the life you actually want. If you've ever asked yourself, "Why am I like this?" — press play.   LINKS Anna Runkle's website, book(s), and free resource she mentions Dr Sarah Madigan's website Dr Sarah Madigan was a guest on episode 63 of Enough, the Podcast Listen HERE The Three Circles Model by Paul Gilbert What's Driving Your Drive QUIZ

    58 min.
  8. Fawning Saved You. Now It's Costing You — with Dr. Ingrid Clayton #95

    04-09-2025

    Fawning Saved You. Now It's Costing You — with Dr. Ingrid Clayton #95

    Ever said, "No worries, all good" while your insides screamed otherwise? That's not weakness. That was your nervous system doing its genius, trauma-sourced thing: fawning. In this episode, author and clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton shows us that fawning isn't a personality flaw—it's a self-abandonment pattern we can gently unlearn, because it's costing you. Big time. We get into why fawning isn't actually "being nice." You'll learn how it shows up day to day, and how you can start building safety from the inside out, so saying "No", or being in conflict doesn't feel so terrifying. If you're regularly "fine with whatever," or feel unable to express preferences, objections and big emotions, you're going to want to listen to this.    LINKS Dr. Ingrid Clayton's Website and book Ingrid on Substack Ingrid on Instagram

    48 min.
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Enough, the Podcast, is a mash-up of deeply human conversations and expert advice on swapping perfectionism, people-pleasing and overachieving for a juicier, more easeful life. It's moving. It's light-hearted. It's practical. And it's for YOU, if you're fed up with feeling burned out by hustling for your worth. Monthly episodes on Thursdays.

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    Mandy Lehto
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    2021 - 2026
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